Are Men Afraid of Big Women
Are there real, fair men out there? I would like to hear from some real men interested in getting married. Seriously. Are there any out there? Let me know. It seems as though men are afraid of big women. We are all looking for love, and a man of God. Life if short. Step out.
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---Brenda on 4/5/05
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Hello, Sin,appreciate you so, much, & I am sorry, hurts men incurred in the system, only one part I tell you, Sin, as yrs.being in trouble, being inside yes, and eventually, coming to a new level, voluteer in Domestic Violence.In my situation, I was the one taken & yes, men do get also,taken into custody.I tell you NOW both male & female can/ will be arrested for any battery, asault, etc.It even now! No.patriatism.to females..P.S Sin also, guess what Christ changes things! He touch my life, I spent yrs.yes as avolunteer help counsel to.Men, not one ever disrespect me and I never disrespect them.Time to know things are changing, not all men Nor all women are bad.thankyou Cnt.for this priviledge
.love of Jesus!
---Elena_9555 on 10/31/14|
Men should be afraid of marriage. 1) Matthew 19:10 says "If this is the situation between a husband and a wife, it is BETTER NOT TO MARRY." 2) 1 Corinthians 7:1 says that it is GOOD for a man NOT TO TOUCH A WOMAN. 3) 1 Corinthians 7:40 suggests that a widow will be HAPPIER IF SHE REMAINS AS SHE IS. Particularily in this day and age, it is good for a man not to marry. The courts favor women. Men are guilty until proven innocent. Domestic Violence Advocates favor women always. A man pays child support and alimony, has protection orders against him and doesn't even get to see his own kids. YES, ideally a men will look for the beauty within, but there is none to find. The only worth is children. One doesn't need to marry for them.
---sin on 10/31/14|
Well, all I can say it just the opposite Shira4368,men are always after me, and I have to stay inside! Yes, I am a very big woman & love it!! So, yes I know the down side, but, I am very.happy, that what matter to me.
Women don't like unless,they are people who know me dwn thru the years.I believe God is with me. I starved in the womb, my twin ate all the food & I can tell you, yes i am still hungry...I been hungry, since 1962.
So, I figure it makes me happy, I am.ok. love of Jesus!
---Elena_9555 on 10/30/14|
Are Men Afraid of Big Women?
Only if they sit on me.
Actually, I have an obese daughter whom I love to pieces, but I worry about her health.
Men are visually stimulated creatures, so in general, fat girls are a turn off to most men. But it is not fear.
---jerry6593 on 10/30/14|
Elena, I was not starved as a child. We ate lots of dried beans and cornbread.. Eggs, grits. Biscuits. Not a lot of meat but dried beans are better for us than meat. I rarely eat meat anyway. I lost weight because of a bacteria I got from a hospital that did back surgery. Got to have it again. I got 3 kinds of bacteria at that hospital. I did loose down to 99 lbs before dr found my problem. If I gained just 10 lbs I would not feel as good as I do now.
---shira4368 on 10/29/14|
control, health, and hidden issues...these are concerns and not fears for some. this applies to "fat" men also.
---aka on 10/29/14|
Sis.Rita,thankyou,so much, you are a refreshing drink of water in this wilderness, always learn something fr you, possitive.love of Jesus!
---Elena_9555 on 10/29/14|
To Shira4368,you know we always friends, yes, probably so, but, it alot of things,.bout starved as a small child...Oops!
my neighbor tell me "look like you coming, dwn some!"
She very tiny, like a teenager.We the same age.
Love of Jesus!
---Elena_9555 on 10/28/14|
Elena, thank you for your greeting here again. I will pray for your abused friend and I truly hope that she can get out of that situation and make a life on her own. No woman deserves to be treated that way.
In fairness, there are abused men also but their plight does not usually hit the headlines.
I live, peaceably, alone these days and God definitely brought me to where I am now.
---Rita_H on 10/29/14|
Elena, you are fine if you are big and happy with your self. I have fat friends whom I love. Me, I am skinny. Have always been. I did gain up to 160 when my thyroid was taken out but I'm back down to 113. I don't hate anyone fat. It is just unhealthy and causes some to be diabetic. I don't care if you are fat or skinny I love you anyway. You would live longer if you lost some weight. Love you
---shira4368 on 10/28/14|
Hello,Sis.Rita,how wondefull, to see you on here!yes, you know I agree with you100% my dear friend, I had met at church,it broke my heart all the abuse,she has put up with, left, went bk.So, I just pray for her.She claim he such a gentleman, pumpb him up, it turns out he has almost killed her too, many times.Sister-in- law let the cat out the bag!! She was right, about it all.he hides fr me,he knows I be the no,1 call the authorities, in emergency.It sad.
---Elena_9555 on 10/28/14|
The women of whom men are afraid are the strong women. I don't mean strong as in being able to lift heavy weights etc. but those women who mean what they say and will not be coerced by anyone, male or female, into changing their minds just because someone wishes them to do so. God has never ordered us to be doormats or wimps but that is the kind of woman many men seem to want.
---Rita_H on 10/28/14|
Goodmorning! Shira4368,Bless the Lord, sure good to see you.May you be blessed, always my friend..God is good! I have gain some more pounds, does not make me feel less inferior to no one, it' just me...and I love myself, just the way I am.If you appreciate being happy then you will accept yourself, if you are skinny or fat, you still should be kind to.others, some people are born this way if they do.not feel good is one thing, but I am happy big size.It not a big deal to me, I was for a long time strangely the only real."skinny minnie" in the family and even after having kids people made fun of me, told me I look more like a little boy...now, I have filled out quite a bit, I love it!...I look like my late grandmother.I love her..
---Elena_9555 on 10/28/14|
Mark, fat don't hide anything concerning sweetness. It just makes one less healthy and just fat. Fat is not attractive but I do know some sweet fat girls.
---shira4368 on 10/27/14|
No not all men are afraid of big women. I feel some things bigger the better and specially women. Soem women are big because their beauty and sweetness would not be content in normal dimensions.
---mark on 10/27/14|
Hey, as long as that woman is the woman I read about in Proverbs 31 I'm good.
---J-Dolo on 10/19/07|
The flipside of that is women that are afraid of bald, short statured men.
Most women like a wooly mammoth that eats pancakes like a lumberjack.
But a man always looks better standing on his wallet.
---Bob on 10/18/07|
How big are we talking?
Men have always been afraid of giants, they shivered in their boots over them, it caused them to miss the promised land.
One man's grasshopper is another man's wooly mammoth.
---Bob on 10/18/07|
Be fare. Women judge men too, and we have all shied away from a physical attribute that we found not to be to our liking.
We all have different tastes, but it is still important to find the one who is right for us, and this has to go more than skin deep. Beauty fades, but our character only gets stronger.
---lorra8574 on 10/17/07|
it is true that men tend to prefer women with perfect figures, but why would you want that kind of man? think of it this way, when you do meet someone, you will know that he is interested in who you are.
---curt on 10/17/07|
Don't want to be crude. But most men like women with some flesh on them, buxom and healthy looking. Not rakes.
---Ed on 3/28/07|
I understand how you feel. I am of a stocky build and most men I have met have wanted the slim or slender with NO baggage. God finally brought me the one he had for me and he loves me just like I am. He will do the same for you. Keep praying about it.
---Barri on 3/28/07|
True some men out there are shallow but there are some good men out there for us. God will bring someone to your life sees. Pray for guidance
---tonya3849 on 7/26/06|
Hi All, It's very true that weight shouldn't factor in when it comes to love, and I, for one, never made that distinction, even when I was thin. I do think men tend to make the distinction more. I pray to God each night to assist me in my wt. loss. He is with me, and I'm once again succeeding, and, too, for my health and to live, not to just exist. Good health should be the main factor in striving for weight normalcy, and that is so for me.
---Kristine on 5/11/05|
i am a big person too i got sick, lost alot of weight, i have started gaining it back. just for encouragement there is someone out there for you whether you are big or small no lie after many nights of being lonely God gave me someone who told me no matter what he wont pressure me about my weight no he is not big he is small he loves me as i am i will pray you find your true love someday soon and it isnt all the time what you eat that makes you big seriuosly i eat vegetables and fruit i eat one time a day most of the time, i am still big, weight should not be a factor when you love someone
---andrea on 4/26/05|
Well, all has something to say to this lady but if we truly believe in God he will find the One for us no matter what we look like or act like. A true man of God will not just look for beauty but who God sends us. I'm a big woman I can stand to lose weight but I will only do it for myself and no one else, I thank God for my husband for loving me. Stop trying to please everyone and please the only one who truly loves you no aatter what, GOD
---kela on 4/18/05|
Good replies to this blog. I strongly feel that the key is acceptance. Not so much acceptance from the opposite gender as much as acceptance by one's self. When a person is contented and at peace in their heart and life, it radiates and attracts. Sure, we all want to be accepted and not face rejection. But rejection is good too. Rejection is God's way of redirecting or protecting. He knows what's best. I have found in my own life when I am at peace with myself and who I am in all facets of my personality I am loved for who I am and not what I am.
---Abbie on 4/18/05|
A woman being large doesn't bother me, because I am a large man myself. I try to look at the inner being first, and I know what it is like to feel ostracized. I live in Korea and teach English - believe me, in this country overweight people are stared at and treated as if they are the scum of the earth. But I keep on teaching my kids, loving people and caring for their needs, and through my personality, I have made many friends. Be friendly, loving and natural, not afraid or frustrated. Works every time.
---drew2902 on 4/7/05|
Let's be fair to men here. God made men visual creatures. There is nothing wrong with this. Assuming men are "afraid" of big women is unfair. They may not be attracted to a bigger woman, and they shouldn't be castigated for this. Rather, women and men both, should try to be healthy and strong and pleasant to be around in every respect for their own wellbeing and for the sake of each other. Fair?
---Judi on 4/7/05|
God bless you Kristine. Get healthy girlfriend and then the weight will become managable.
You've taken the first step, rely on God to help you. You are HIS temple, and HE wants it healthy so you can live in that "earthsuit" til HE calls you home. You'll be in my prayers, as will Brenda.
---NV_Barbara on 4/7/05|
As they say one man's sour is an other'sugar.Rarelly man are not conveiced by women's behavior at first.Every man has what he likes on a woman.There are thousands of man in this world who like big women,i've seen many,Man look first at your physical appearence then your behavior,so don't worry about yourself,avoid inner insecurity.God is on your side.
---Abba on 4/6/05|
I am a big woman, too, and I can understand to some degree how it might not be appealing to a man. Though I got this way partly through illness, I got sloppy with my eating habits. I'm not healthy anymore, and I wouldn't expect a man to see me as attractive at this point in time, even if he were a good Christian. I might be seen as a friend, however. I have to be realistic and get my health, via weight loss, back. I look truth in the eye. I think God agrees.
---Kristine on 4/6/05|
I agree with the guys, and Barri. Men who only look on the outside aren't worth your time.
The only difference that I would say is, are you healthy? Is your weight affecting your activities? Not really knowing what you mean by 'big', maybe some men think you are in the sin of gluttony. Please take this is love sister, not meant to criticize.
---NV_Barbara on 4/6/05|
Yes there are real men but only what you are required to do is to pray earnestly and have patient.geting married to a big lady is not an issue the bigest problem is:does she fit in your requrement?is it according to Gods plan?
Finally delight in the lord and He will fulfill the desires of your heart.comit your ways to God and He will perfect them.
Am also looking for a real lady whom i will marry but am still trusting upon God.lets upon our God He will never forsake us.
---joseph on 4/6/05|