Should I Leave Exhusband Alone
Since we parted badly with my ex, I tried to tell him I am sorry and that we should talk it out so that we still can become friends or at least we can have a comfortable atmosphere where we work but he acts like he doesn't know me. It is hurting me but will I give up on him and leave him in peace?
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---Geraldyn on 4/16/05
Helpful Blog Vote (7)
Find another job,if possible. Then learn from your mistake. Never date anyone at your workplace. If it ends disastrous, as it did. You will have to deal with the uncomfortable results.That is a big no,no! Leave the men at work, alone! I would not want to be in a position like yours. If he ignores you and you him, there will be some semblance of comfort at your workplace. Just leave the man alone. What is so hard about that?
---Robyn on 10/26/10|
Why? Are a nuisance to him if he's not your husband then you should leave him alone if he wants a relationship with you i'm sure he'll find you..
---Carla5754 on 8/4/08|
I think you may have a problem with pride, is what I think. First thing that flashed at me when I first read your blog. My advice: Leave him be. Now that is going to take a lot of strength.
---catherine on 8/1/08|
yes, you should leave him alone. You've expressed a friendship if he's interested, he's not inclined to be friends.
---frances on 7/30/08|
Yoour question reads as if your "ex" is just an ex-boyfriend.
maybe the moderators who put the title on, have made an incorrect assumption that he was your husband.
Can you clarify so the appropriate advice cn be offered
---Alan_of_U.K. on 7/30/08|
I understand the need to settle things and wanting it right now, time must pass for things to be not so close to the surface. with god's help should be left in gods hand to ease the emotional separation..I went through the same thing and now my ex and i get along better than when i was married..It takes lots of prayer and waiting on the lord and not doing what we want but what He wants of us..He can heal all wounds but we can make them infected if we dont wait..Matters can change for worse when words are exchanged and others who have been hurt can take offense..Trust the lord to work in this.
---linda on 9/26/07|
Is "we" you and your kids? How long ago did you break up?
It sounds like he is very hurt, it may be wise to give him some space for a while. I would still be pleasant with him, smile when you see him, treat him as you would any other co-worker. He may come around, he may not. But, I don't think it would be wise to act as he does. Also, if you do have children, Is he seeing them? They should be your first priority. I wish you the best.
---Becky_S on 3/31/07|
If took several years of prayer before my exhusband finally accepted me as a friend. In God's time, in God's way. Don't push yourself on the ex, just pray for God to soften his heart to you and be your friend. Worked for me!
---Nellah on 3/25/06|
He probably wishes that you were not around, which is why he acts that way. Leave him alone. Guys generally don't want friends who hurt them so there is no point in trying to be his friend. It doesn't mean that he hasn't forgiven you. He may have, nevertheless he is done with you.
---ralph7477 on 3/25/06|
When someone ex's their spouse, that's saying, "I don't want you anymore". This could deeply wound. Put yourself in your married partners shoes to understand how he must feel. So why would you want to be friends with someone that you have rejected or have betrayed?
---Eloy on 3/25/06|
It really depends on all the circumstances. For example: are there children involved? Is there any reason why you must be in his company for any reason? If not, you would be best just to leave him alone. He is aware of your intentions and if he wants to also improve the relationship between you, he can find you. Right now he is either too hurt or maybe he likes you being uncomfortable or maybe it's peer pressure but regardlessI suggest you just leave him alone unless I had to associate with him.
---WIVV on 3/24/06|
I believe that the reason you two parted was because of something. He doesn't want to be a part of you at this time. He might be worried he will do or say something that will bring things back and hurt him. Give the person his space and you go on with your life. Maybe one day he will talk to you and be friends. God's purpose for you might not be what you want. Let God do what He does best on His own, He doesn't need help.
---Lupe on 5/5/05|
I think you should respect that he wants to be left alone. He must be hurting. You can not force someone to be your friend. You told him how you feel so let him decide whether he wants to be your friend. Pray and confess your sins. God will forgive you, even if your ex doesn't. 1Jn1:9
---Ulrika on 5/1/05|
Dear Geraldyn,you can only control your attitude so be kind no matter what he thinks of you.Forgive him,pray for the Lord to work in his heart.Good luck,God bless.
---RUSSELL on 4/26/05|
Pray for him and leave him in God's hands. We can't make someone forgive. Time can heal the situation.
---Linda on 4/17/05|
It is admirable of you to want to bring your relationship to a friendly halt. I see you are working with him to where it is hard not to aviod each other. Your chose is respected and wondering where God fits in this equation? I can only suggest that you seek ye first the kingdom of God so that all things will fall into place according to His will for you. God bless you and my prayers are with you.
---Blue on 4/17/05|