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Wrong To Not Have Children

Is it wrong to marry and not have children? No medical conditions exist...just do not want children.

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I suggest strongly that Americans do not have any children. Because in America children are kidnapped from their fathers, and the fathers have to pay extortion: "Woe to them that are with child, and to them that nurse in those days! Judgment is turned away backward, and justice stands afar off: for truth is fallen in the street, and uprightness cannot enter."
---Eloy on 9/21/11


The world is an difficult place to reside in. And having children today is a matter of personal choice.
---Eloy on 9/19/11


Having children is selfish. It's not for society (we already have enough kids with no families), it's not for the children (they haven't been conceived yet), so it really is for us. If anything, it is wrong to have children. Don't ever let anyone tell you its wrong to have children. Or they can tell you but you don't have to listen to it ,)
---Andreas on 9/18/11


However i do not see the sin in not reproducing (im not going to use the Genesis verb) and i believe Christ gives us a free choice, yet you do'nt know what you mis out. before i married i said the same. nevertheless my wif got pregnant by accident so we had our first a son called Benayah. since we had a second and that was a daughter. Thats it we said yet for a second time my wife ghot pregnant by accident. and i must say a beautful girl came out so now we have a son and two daughters, the joy gladness and peace they give to us whilst they screem cry fight, laugh dance play and so on noone else can give that so be open and do not exclude a child from your future plans.
---Andy on 8/29/08


Rhonda:I dont foster an arguement on the word of God I just quote it:"Increase and multiply" is imperative or it would not have been Gods law in Genesis.What is cafeteria style christianity.Consider if there were no children there would be no people to attend sabbath, and no world or existence in a short space of Time.Do you have children?
---MIC on 8/28/08




"When they are finally prepared, to reward themselves with (0r make the sacrifice of having)Children"Frances.Words fail me but this quote is beyond the imagination of the writer.A child is a gift from God ,many people are childless and pray daily for this great gift to carry on their name, their Hopes dreams teachings of Love in Thanksgiving for this great Honour, to represent the image of God in another Human being like yourself to call "My Child, My son, My daughter."A 'Sacrifice" to do Gods work in bringing up a child?Increase and multiply.Such thoughts, are they worthy of Parenthood.?
---MIC on 8/28/08


how odd "be fruitful and multiply" is now a commandment?

yet Gods Holy Sabbath Day command is ignored by professing christianity who choose the pagan sun day instead of Gods Sabbath

cafeteria style christianity at it's best

there is nothing wrong with a married couple choosing not to have children ...the blessings of their physical relationship does not have to "bear fruit"

...it is antichrist to suggest marriage must produce children and nowhere in Gods Word are we commanded to have children because we choose to marry or else we would have 11 commandments not 10
---Rhonda on 8/27/08


Not wanting children. It depends on the reasons. If one or both of you is badly disabled and could not cope financially or physically, then it is better that they don't have kids. On the other hand after a few years an eight year old child starts to help around the house and make things easier. The Bible is clear that we are to be fruitful and multiply. There are blessings that go along with children. Those who decide in human wisdom to wait until they are ready may find they have already missed the boat when they are finally prepared to reward themselves with (or make the sacrifice of having) children.
---frances008 on 8/27/08


NO! It is not WRONG not to have children, if you do not want them. What is wrong is this, killing them. Abusing them. starving them. AHHH Jesus!
---catherine on 8/27/08


There is not an obligation to have children. A Christian's obligation is to live for Christ, and if you remember....Christ did not have any children!
---Shawn on 8/26/08




I've seen quite a few people using examples from the Old Testament to justify the obligation to have children in marriage. Examples such as, "be fruitful and multiply" and Onan. Something we must keep in mind with examples such as these is that that is what they indeed are, merely examples. Simply because God told specific people in a specific time and place to something doesn't mean that it applies for us as well. For instance, Paul tells some people in one of his churches to "greet each other with a holy kiss", however, we don't do that today. Plus there were other circumstances in those narratives such as the advancement of the line of the Messiah.
---Josh on 8/26/08


...Curious: ME to!!why did you get married was it for love or an arrangement?Pardon my asking.Does that mean you are Both Celibate?If so it is Ok If not then it is Stealing.IMHO
---Emcee on 2/15/08


If you both agree to not have children, I think that's fine. It's better than having a child and not wanting one, certainly. Maybe down the road, you may decide differently, but so long as you BOTH agree, and that's the key, then enjoy your relationship with eachother without children.
---Kristine on 2/15/08


Use some common sense here. God says in the bible to be fruitful and multiply. Does this mean to have as many babies as humanly possible, one every nine months as long as the woman's body can sustain it or she dies? Does that make sense? Perhaps God was saying to multiply because if no one did, there would be no one. Does this quote not come in Genesis, at the beginning of mankind? Then mankind had to grow or die out. Does the bible also not teach all things in moderation?
---Greg on 5/21/07


I just wanted to comment that the rhythm method is not the only method that the RC approves. It is actually one of the least reliable methods that the RC approves! There are many types of Natural family planning methods. The basal temperature method is over 99% effective with perfect use. The standard day's method (cycle beads) is 95% effective. Don't take pills just because you want reliable birth control. Birth control pills have the potential of causing early abortions.
---Genevieve on 5/1/07


it depoends what GOD wants you to do doesnt it?if HE wants yoiu to have kids then have the number he wants if hE doesnt want you to then don't i hsd 3 by the way
---doree4573 on 10/25/06


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Kelvin, first, congratulations on 8 children! But it must be rough on your poor wife! And does she want all these children too? Do you help care for them or leave all the work to her? Just asking 'cause I know a man who likes his wife always pregnant but doesn't help much.
---Mary on 10/25/06


If it's a sin to remain childless, then why did Jesus never have any children?
---Quinton on 8/5/06


If my foster parents would have had children of their own, doubt if I'd even be alive. They took me from a public hospital against the advice of the doctor. They also had a hand in raising 56 other children - some of them my blood brothers who had be deserted by my blood parents. Having children is a personal decision of the married couple. In my case if had very positive results for them not to have children.
---WIVV on 12/1/05


In the Old Testament God was very angry because Onan spilled his seed on the ground Genesis 38:8-10. We are only fertile 24-78 hours in a month, natural planning is possible. That said, Paul stated He had no interest in marriage, not having children would be inferred. Paul was concerned with gifting his time to other parts of God's kingdom. Not all of us have that desire to be parents, but are we using our free time towards the kingdom? "Some are born Eunuchs, some are made Eunuchs."
---c. on 5/9/05


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When I married I looked into all the options. All hormonal methods of birth control ( the pill , the patch , the depo- needle , as well as the IUD) CAN cause a spontaneous abortion although this is not their purpose. They block ovulation from happening so that their will be no egg present to fertilize, however if this fails these methods also cause the lining of a womans uterus to thin which makes it unable to support the fertilized egg when it attempts to attach.I personally think there is nothing wrong with barrier methods- condom , sponge e.t.c.
---BeckyH on 4/30/05


Many of you disagree , that birth control is sin when God clearly tells all of creation to be fruitful and multiply. My wife and I have 8 and counting beautiful children. We are raising them to be great servants of God. God supplies all of our needs. Many say that they love God but they justify not obeying his word. Justification didn't work for Adam nor Eve when they sinned agaisnt their God. Repent! If you are using birth control. Trust God that he will not put more on you than you can bare. Warning comes before a fall. You have been warned.
---Kelvin on 4/28/05


Love does not mean all should bear children.It is better to marry and not sin.People need and enjoy coming together.Children should be a blessing if both partners want them not a nessecity for life.......or to serve God
---nina on 4/23/05


I guess I can understand where your coming from as I have been married for 1.5 yrs & don't plan on having children. I don't know where people are getting off talking about birth control being abortion. Your not killing a baby...your preventing pregnancy in the first place! To me, you shouldn't have babies just b/c you can...your making an 18 year commitment! That's something to think about BEFORE it happens. If your not going to use protection in the first place then you should use self control and not do anything in the first place. Why should a baby suffer b/c you want to have some fun?!
---Jennifer on 4/23/05


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You're right Paul James, its just very early abortion. Some don't work as they should and the baby proceeds to form and grow. Babies can be born with this coil imbedded in it's body,VERY dangerous.

I was brought up RC, my parents wanted to name one of us Rhythm-(j/k)there are 8 of us! ('Rhythm' is the only birth control the RCC allows)
---NV_Barbara on 4/22/05


Monique the only form of birth control that causes an early abortion (as far as I know) is the coil. This device causes the baby to be lost very soon indeed so that most women don't even know it's happened. Medical profession would call it an early miscarriage but, because it was deliberate, I would call it an abortion. Don't now what others think on that. Other forms of contraception are just that - they PREVENT conception but do not get rid of something AFTER conception.
---Paul_James on 4/22/05


Rearing children in the Lord is a serious responsibility. Not everyone can or should take on this responsibility. My thought is that it would be a sin to bring a child into this world that you did not want to love and nurture.
---Robin on 4/22/05


Birth control is not a form of abortion. With the Pill, there is no fetus- is stops the development of eggs within the woman, so no fetus is present. There is no abortion, and no sin. It is a responsibility that couples have to take now-a-days. Some people say God will control the birth rate. Of course He can, but to say that, and then just breed like rabbits is, IMHO, just irresponsible.
---Ann5758 on 4/21/05


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actually birth control is a form of abortion and is not good for the body, do the research...i think the point would be what is the Father's plan for you and your spouse not what your plan is, to be content with a Godly love. <><
---monique on 4/21/05


I hope Eloy that you do not in any way think that it is or was your sin to be unwanted.

It may have been the reult of someone else's sin, but never could it be yours.
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/21/05


Blog, God really does take the best of care of his kids. i thank you, you have made my day bright. i am truly blessed here in this family, and i thank each and every single one of you kin from my heart. Bless you all. God is good, and God is always good.
---Eloy on 4/21/05


HE has always been your Papa, you just didn't know Him then.
Now you are a wanted 'child', loved and cherished and precious in God's eyes.
We love you here with the love of the Lord. Be blessed and comforted that you have a Father and a family here.
---Blog on 4/21/05


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i was unwanted, that was sin: now my Papa is the Lord. We are living in a dark age of corruption, and i will say it again, "For here the days are, Blessed the barren and wombs which do not bear and breasts which do not nurse."
---Eloy on 4/21/05


I do not see why a couple cant get married and not have children. They are making a choice, and our lives are full of choices. I know many couples who have not had children, but they are and have been happily married for years. Please, allow them to make their own decision...their own choices.
---Jan on 4/21/05


Kevin, where is it in the bible that birth control is a sin? You're dead wrong! Lower forms of creation multiply with no particular reason. Should we be like them? A black widow perhaps who gets impregnated then kills the male? We are a higher species and have to think about our consequences. Maggots indeed! AGREE with Alan on all points.
---NV_Barbara on 4/20/05


I have to agree with NV Barbara. Do Not have children if you don't want them. I think you are to be commended for recognizing that in yourself. Some women relize this too late and the children have to suffer for it and that is not right. Stand your ground and if you don't want children then by all means do not have them. Children deserve more than a mom that don't want them.
---Cindy on 4/20/05


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The only reason to get married is to have children? If you don't want children, why get married? Birth control is a sin? Where are people coming up with these notions? God told Adam & Eve to be fruitful & multiply, because there were no other people on the earth. To do so now, I believe, is just plain irresponsible. If you & your mate don't want kids, don't have them. Get married because you love that person. God will bless your union just as much.
---Ann5758 on 4/20/05


Where would we be if God was like man with one or two children? What did Jesus do to the fig tree that didn't produce figs? Would you be disappointed if you planted an apple tree and only two apples form? Shouldn't God be disappointed when his people chooses not to give him children for him to love and use to draw more people to Christ?
---Kelvin on 4/20/05


Curious about what????why get married if you dont want kids this is a selfish notion as it defeats the purpose of marriage to procreate & multiply any thing less denys the will of God.Do you consider denying your creator & its consequences!!!!!!better you remain celibate & not get married what about your partner,there are 2 sides to every coin.
---Emcee on 4/20/05


i don't know where some people get their theology, but implying that we have to multiply to be better than maggots??? oh please. and to suggest that we end up in hell if we don't have kids is laughable. too many people already make a mockery of God's name without us christians embarrassing our own faith.
---curt on 4/20/05


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If you don't want children, then PLEASE don't have them. There are already too many unwanted children in the world. Children need strong parents who love them and want to teach them the precepts of the Lord. Its your choice, I did have children, its not easy, but its worth it-I have been blessed.
---NV_Barbara on 4/20/05


I cannot deny God said "Go forth and multiply"

And I know He did not say, "but when you have mass starvation, and you are destroying ecosystems in order to feed the world, and your machinery is poisoning the world, then you must stop" And I know He did not say "Take precautions to prevent deadly viruses destroying generations within nations by sex acts"

But ... I still cannot agree with the statement that all birth control is a sin.
---Alan_of_U.K. on 4/20/05


Are you married yet?
---gregg on 4/20/05


God in his Holy Word the Bible has given the instructions to All of creation to be fruitful and multiply. Every life form has obeyed this commandment with the exception of man who was given dominion in the earth. When worms, maggots and roaches do what they were created to do and man does not, man becomes lesser than these animals. This is why Hell exists. Birth Control is Sin !
---Kelvin on 4/20/05


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I don't think it's wrong. Being single for life is not wrong either. God gives all of us differing gifts. If you and your spouse have chosen not to have children, then I do not believe that is a sin.

God bless.
---Dorothy on 4/20/05


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