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Acceptable To Date Divorced Person

Can a man be in love with a woman that has divorced?

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 ---Romy on 4/25/05
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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer, and anyone marrying one, is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Matthew 19:9, 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage. It takes much preparation in order to have a good Christian marriage.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, 24:1-4, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/17/09

Through marriage you become one flesh until either spouse dies. Once you die, you live with God and are not bound bymarriage. If you chooce divorce, you commit adultery. If you divorce because your spouse is unfaithful, you cannot remarry because, in Gods eyes, you are still one flesh until the death of one spouse. Biblical and societal law allow you to divorce so as to avoid a physical threat to your own life,but spiritually, you remain one flesh with your divorced spouse.
---Joel on 5/15/08

In this day and age, things have changed completely from the early biblical times ,when Christ was here on earth with us. Although divorce is frowned at in the Bible and by christians all over the world,what baffles my imagination is the rate at which the American family is been divorced as if its a christian virtue.Christ said LOVE one another.,whether divorced or not.i think your judgement is to live by the word.
---don on 3/9/08

Matth 19:9:10:11 Corin 7 pay attention to verse:39
UNLESS You Understand who is [eligible] to re-marry Via fornication you will become a victim of her circumstance.Proceed with caution/scriptures!
---Carla5754 on 6/2/07

Yes...yes....yes...Why not?Are you that holy, that you ar afraid to even be in love with a divorcee? Wow! Does she have a dreaded disease? It is nothing wrong with dating. The lady has not committed a cardinal sin by divorcing. What was the reason for the divorce? The bible tells us if the unbeliever wants to leave, let him/her go.Separate. But if we catch our spouse committing adultery, we can divorce and marry again. But it should be to someone who is born again. Case solved.....blessings.
---Robyn on 6/1/07

Yes. I am a divorced woman. When I married I was not saved but found the Lord during my marriage. My husband never came to accept Jesus and asked me for a divorce and admitted to his current affair. The Lord allowed me out of that marriage and I believe that He will bless me one day with a GODLY man to be my husband.
---Kathy on 6/1/07

It is not the unpardonable sin each divorce is so different. Did she have Biblical grounds? Then she is free. My ex left God big time went into bi-sexuality, the occult, beat me for staying a Christian. My father said to me one day U have done all U can, sought help, fasted, prayed- now U must leave him before you are dead. If my earthly father valued and loved me so much how much more my Heavenly Father?
---Jeanne on 11/6/06

you may not have married mr right, but when you said ' i do' he became mr right. Contract with God, right?
---r.w. on 10/14/06

im finding myself agreeing w/curt and tami, tho im not completely sure.the modern gospel and modern Christians say it's ok to remarry.BUT,the Bible says fromthe beginning it was not so.matt19:9 may be referring to deut 22 and 23.if wife notpure as advertised you can put her away. and i cant find where it's ok to get remarried after divorce for adultery-humanlogic not God's logic. as far as being alone, there are consequenses for sin, and being alone till ex partner dies may be one of those consequenses.
---r.w. on 10/14/06

Dear Romy,if a man cannot be in love with a woman who has been divorced his chances of finding a mate is getting slimmer every day.O K ,can a man be in love with a woman who has never been married but has children?can a man be in love with a woman who is older?younger? crippled?blind?you love who you love.Curt lighten up,people have a basic need to love and be loved.Divorce is wrong,yes,people make mistakes,mess up,so no one gets a second chance in your opinion? I worship a loving God who forgives and gives us another chance,Praise his holy name.
---RUSSELL on 5/3/05

Why should you not be able to love a divorced woman? We are like every other women. We feel, we hurt, we desire love and caring. We are no different than any other women except that we have perhaps had different heartaches in our lives. We still want to love and be loved and we still pray for fathers to teach our children. We are not dead or diseased. We are children of God as well.
---Marla on 5/2/05

Women (and men) who are divorced are still human. Why do people want to exclude divorced people from ever loving again like we have a disease or something. Some people are divorced from no fault of thier own. Are they now to never look for love again and livein lonliness because of what someone else chose to do? Divorced peorsons have needs and desires as well and God being a loving Gpd does not expect us to just sit and get old alone. He created us to be loved and to love.
---M. on 5/2/05

If her spouse divorced first and was a believer, she is supposed to wait for him to remarry to avoid her marriage to you becoming adultery. If her spouse was a non-believer, it doesn't matter if he remarries or not. If she divorced, she still needs to wait until her former spouse remarries first in order for her marriage to you to not be adultery.
---rebec8436 on 4/28/05

A. Divorce is not a sin if you are/were the victime because your partner was unfaithful. B.Divorce/remarriage is a sin if you were not the victime. In that case you should remain single. If you remarry under B. you and your husband would be living in adultery. The GOOD NEWS: if you sincerely repented from your mistake the Lord will forgive you two also.
---Pierre on 4/27/05

I believe God can forgive a divorce and a person can start all over. I know that I am forgiven. The only way I could be married is if the other party is forgiven and set free as well and we follow God's guidance. However, we should keep praying that God's will be done in our lives.
---Nancy on 4/27/05

it is morally wrong to marry a divorced person. Jesus told us this, yet many people still insist on sinning. where is the fear of our Lord, that we should all listen to him and obey?
---curt on 4/26/05

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Yes a man can fall in love with a divorcee BUT should he?
ONLY if he is absolutly sure that she is/was the VICTIME, that her husband committed adultery and not the other way around.
The Bible says divorce as a result of adultery:ok but divorce for any other reason and the person must remain single. To marry a person who divorced for a reason other than adultery IS ADULTERY also!
---Pierre on 4/26/05

Read Matthew 5:32 and 19:9 Jesus says that if a man puts away his wife except for the cause of fornication(sexual immoratlity) he causes her to commit adultery, and anyone that marries her commits adultery. If her x marries he commits adultery. She is bound to her husband/ and he to her until they die. In God's eyes they are still married, regardless of what the divorce paper says. She is to remain unmarried or reconcille to her husband. 1 Corithians 7 The only other cause mentioned is If he was an unbeliever and left her. Then it says she is not bound.
---Tami on 4/25/05

ROMY:Marriage is a personal choice by selection,cemented in a contract, before the eyes of almighty God,what god has joined together let no man put asunder.The implications of that is controvertible.However it is not for us to judge,The ways of God are different from the ways of men,it does however, say that divorce is permissible for a broken contract by Adultery.Dispensations are granted under certain grave considerations.But just entering into an affair to get a divorce is not permissible,God knows each of our hearts & he alone will judge our actions WE CANNOT DECIEVE GOD.
---Emcee on 4/25/05

Yes, divorce implies a disolved past relationship. It does not imply a contaminated spiritual condition of the individual. I'm divorced, a seasoned Christian)and I live a clean, holy, celibate life unto the Lord-waiting (with a godly expectation) for God to send me the husband of his choice. My ex was a Christian man and I sought the Lord for my marriage. When it failed, I asked the Lord, "Was my marriage to him a mistake?" God's reply, "Was my creating of Satan a mistake?" We have a free-will and God will never make a person live for Him against his will.
---Annyebelle on 4/25/05

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Hi. I've been a christian for years now, and been divorced. I hated to have to do it but it was necessary for safety reasons for myself and my children. It was the best thing I did as my husband had broken my marriage vows years ago. YET, it was me that had to do the divorcing. Now, I've met a lovely christian gentleman from this site and will be getting married later on in the year. there is an excellent book called "Divorce and re-marriage in the church" by David Instone- Brewer, a baptist minister. It helped me such a lot. God bless you
---marian on 4/25/05

Certainly! if she divorced him for cheating on her the Bible is clear on that. In Churches all over the world men and woman are married even if both have been divorced.."It is better to marry than to burn"
---Jeff on 4/25/05

Yes, the man can fall in love with such a woman but may not be able to do more than that if the premise of her divorce is hinged upon other issues other than adultery.
---yemisi on 4/25/05

Yes, Because that women may be divorced because of several reasons. I truly believe you should get another chance at love.
---Kim on 4/25/05

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In some religions that is not permissable. If you go out and find someone for the sake of a new mate, divorce them and remarry, that's wrong. Marriage is a contract, broken only by death, infedelity and I would dare to even say abuse (beatings). If two people are saved, what is the problem?
---rev on 4/25/05

we dont have divorce law here in the Philippines, but...if you believe IJohn 1:9 then ...why not?..God forgives our sin and remembers no more...
---jovey on 4/25/05

being divorced does not make a man or a woman any less acceptable. only more experienced in life and matters of the heart.
---shela on 4/25/05

It depends, from my own point of view if the wowan in question was not legally married before yes, you can be in love with her but if she was once legally married, I doubt if it is biblical.
---Abiodun on 4/25/05

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