Finding Faults In Other Christians
Why do people like to find fault in others? My heart is right with God but yet, I have people telling me what they think is a sin, and I need to get saved or repent. Why won't they just be quite about things?
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---Rebecca_D on 4/28/05
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Robin, I was glad when I ran across your comments about Christian arguments.Before I ran across Christianet,I was accused of trying to cram my beliefs down others throats.It was so hurtful,that I almost stopped witnessing altogether.I have found that people have ears to hear,but only what they themselves believe to be right.This condition is called having "religious" spirits,and in most cases,they must be dealth with before a persons mind can truly be receptive to a new truth,instead of one of thier own making.Thank you for writing.
---Danelle on 9/8/08|
Rebecca:There are many who will set a false trail for you to follow. God has placed a truth finder in you Your Conscience.Piere is closer to that truth IMHO.YOU will answer For Yourself, not any one else. Live by HIS RULES, Pray, use the Gift of His conscience and please avoid empty drums.Since you posted this over 3 years ago you have advanced in His love.He has given you the tools use them.I live in Him/her who lives in Me.
---MIC on 9/8/08|
Finding fault with others make us feel better and superior to others, which we are not. This is a facade humans use. But it is a thin and transparent facade that can easily be seen through.
I would listen to someone who approached me with my so-called list of sins and faults. Then I would give them my list which is probably much longer then theirs.
But if there is some truth to what they are saying I would take heed.Even if they are not appraoching you correctly, they are helping you,indirectly.
We should be careful we do not become easily offended by others,especially other Christians.We should be helpers one to another.
---Robyn on 9/8/08|
Rebecca, I disagree with Pierre. No one is losing salvation by their works or earning it by their works. You might believe as you have quoted that a person can lose salvation, but Christ assurance is that you have been forgiven, the case is close. The debt has been paid by Christ. And the Holy Spirit will guide you and "God will make sure you are not lacking in any spiritual gift as you wait for the revealing of our Lord Jesus Christ, who will sustain you to the end, guiltless in the day of our Lord Jesus Christ. God is faithful, (praise God) by whom you were called into the fellowship of His Son, Jesus Christ our Lord" That's the word of the Lord, (1 Cor. 1:7-9). You have to believe it by faith.
---Mark_V. on 9/6/08|
I agree with you that we should not aproach others in a "fault-finding way" but do it in loving way, to help them, especially if they ask for your opinion. It has been brought up however,that if we remain "quiet" about the wrong around us, we may well be found guilty by God and even be responsible for the loss of eternal life of the people involved. Think about that!
---Pierre on 9/5/08|
RebeccaD., it didn't take long for you to become a preacher.
---Bill on 5/28/07|
Matthew 7:3-7 It's just easier. What is most important is that you have made yourself right with God by repenting of any sins that you did and resolving to do better.
---lorra8574 on 5/12/07|
Catherine: When I got a divorce, I was a sinner. To be honest, I didn't care what the bible said, because I was a sinner. After in my second marriage. My husband and I came to God. That was when his uncle judged us for having a divorce (with other people) and him and I getting married. So that verse you quoted from the bible wouldn't apply to me, because my past is under the blood.
---Rebecca_D on 5/11/07|
Incase offence done to you, Christ saids, "Go and tell him his fault between thee and him alone, in a mild and grave admonition. If not work, take one or two witnesses. If that does not work take it before the church. If a man cheat and abuse me once, it is his fault, if twice it is my own."
---catherine on 5/11/07|
For instance: I've been divorced and I remarried. I had a child before I got married, (I was a sinner then). I like to go to the movies, bowling, going to the lake/beach. I just find it so wrong to harp on someone about something, when they have done the same or are doing the same. It is like it is okay for them but not me?
---Rebecca_D on 5/10/07|
Rebecca, the key would be *is* it really sin according to Scripture, or not? Yes, some people are too critical, however, it's actually easier for us not to confront anyone about sin at all. But that's what God asks us to do in order to help other Believers grow in Christ, or to cleanse a church of non-repentant sinners. I'd want to know what their motives are though... do they really care about you, or just like being 'self-righteous' as the Pharisees? Is there something specific you'd like to share with us?
---danie9374 on 5/10/07|
Satan uses other people to try to 'guilt-trip' us. I like the saying, "The next time satan reminds you of your past, remind him of his future". Sometimes, it is best to ignore the remarks. If the comments are coming from important people in your life that you intend to be involved with for a long period, like, say, your mother, use a gentle answer and let it go at that. Pray about what to say and let God do the rest of the heart work in the other person.. Bless you overcomer!!!
---Julie3763 on 5/13/05|
Rebecca, Whenever someone confronts you, just search inside yourself to be sure there is not some sin there. Sometimes there is a prick in our conscience meaning they may be right. If what these people say is not truth for you, just smile and move on. We are answerable to God for our sin. Don't let anger and bitterness develop inside of you. Jesus said, "Father, forgive them for they know not what they do." If you allow them into your thoughts, you are hurting yourself by feeling upset and eventually separating yourself from God. Ask Jesus to help you love them anyhow.
---Elsie on 5/6/05|
Rebecca, OK. Saw your reply. I'd say that just like a child who lied to parents, it will take time (and fruit) for people to trust that you're really living for God now. If some are being offensive in words to you or as I said before 'self-righteous' like Pharisees over every little thing, they should be looking at themselves in the mirror and not you! Are there any specifics, perhaps about your child/clothes you wear, etc. or just their attitude towards you in general? (All sin should be the same, but some actions/words still have consequences here even though both God and people forgive us.)
---danie9374 on 4/30/05|
yes, i understand. i think people that are living wrong will try to point out defects in others (including christians) in order to make themselves feel better and also to try to justify their wrong living. Just continue to live for God, and worship him daily, God will take care of the others. We each will be held accountable for our own lives, and when we do our best to stay true to God, then he promises to be on our side to help us. i know God, and he really does want the best for his kids, always.
---Eloy on 4/29/05|
I admit they are people who watches me and some are just waiting for me to make a mistake. But what really gets me is when someone brings up my past. To me the past is the past, and as long as it is covered by the blood, what difference does it make? Yes I may had my son before I got married, I was a sinner then, I knew better, I just didn't care then. Now I am a child of God. and people know that I am but yet they still try to find fault in me. Yes I will fail God from time to time, I don't mean to, but I do. How do you get people off of your back? Does anyone understand?
---Rebecca_D on 4/29/05|
its natural for people to look for faults that is the flesh part of us if you look for fault you will find it if we see someone steal, things the bible says is sin we are to steer that person right so they will know they need to change we need not judge if you are convicted over it change it if not you probably are not doing wrong some people say wearing jeans for a woman is wrong cutting your hair jewelry you get the picture what may be sin to them may not be for us if it clearly speaks against it in the bible then change it if it is just a religious belief listen to God he will lead you
---andre9789 on 4/28/05|
Rebbeca, we should not judge others in what they do, judging is Gods job not ouers, listen to what God tells you. God will tell you clearly what he wants to get rid of in your life and dont worry so much about what other people say they probably have stuff to sort out with God themselfs. Keep living the good life and keep serving God, God bless, love from the Godchaser
---godchaser on 4/28/05|
Personally i do not find or look for faults in anyone, but if a harmful fault is presented in front of me then i must address it. For example, if something as little as like myself was walking around in public and my pants zipper was down, i would surely hope and pray that someone would be so kind enough to tell me so that i could close it, and not just let it go to more public shame. Or again, if someone was careless and about to step off of a street curb and be hit by a passing car, i should be inclined enough to grab them and pull them back up onto the safety of the curb.
---Eloy on 4/28/05|