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Too Early To Marry Again

I recently got divorced from my husband November 2004. The marriage was over long before that. He left in November 2003. I started dating a man shortly after he left. He has asked me to marry him. Is it too soon? I love him and I know he loves me. I was married to my ex twice.

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 ---Matt on 5/5/05
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Jesus prohibited divorce except for adultery, that included lying about ones virginity. The non adulterer could remarry. The adulterer, and anyone marrying one, is entering a prohibited marriage. A divorce without cause, was no divorce, and so, another marriage was a type of bigamy. The exception is in 1Corinthians 7:15. If the unbeliever departs, the Christian can remarry because the marriage was not 'in the Lord'. Matthew 19:9, 1Corinthians 7:27-28 allow remarriage. He violated Deuteronomy 24:1-4, Malachi 2:14-16, Matthew 5:31-32, by departing, but not divorcing.
Deuteronomy 22:17-19, 28-29, Proverbs 2:17 (forsaketh husband), Isaiah 54:4-8, Jeremiah 3:1, Matthew 19:3-12, Mark 10:2-12, Luke 16:18, 1Corinthians 6:15-16, 7:10-17, 27.
---Glenn on 8/17/09


I would think that after your first experience you would be much more cautious the third time around! It is better to be single wishing you were married than married wishing you were single.

Did you mean that you were dating this new man for a year while you were married to your ex?

If so, you should consider your relationship with God before you consider further relationship with a man. If he is prepared to committ adultery WITH you, (no I am not inferring or assuming you had sex with him) what makes you think that he won't do the same TO you?
---Bruce5656 on 9/7/07


What's your hurry? Make sure it's right the next time!
---Wendell on 5/19/05


Long before I walked in the path of being divorced, I heard some great advice. They had been told after going through a divorce to wait 5 years. seens a long time. But I found that in my own walk it was good for the healing that God needed to do in me before I was ready, to date. It helped me to disconnect from the former, Plus find me, and get the forgiveing and releasing done to go on. After 5 years God brought a new mate and I was ready, to move on. God is so good. Trust Him...
---Betty_Jo on 5/8/05


Well, Elder, Matt may be the ex or the other man who happens to be a member of Christianet. Sad to say, but that is human. Either way, it goes against a belief.
---gregg4933 on 5/8/05




I agree with Bruce. Why were you even looking for another- and dating for that year BEFORE you were even divorced!?... Perhaps all of that energy shouldve been put into counseling, or trying to make your "marriage" work!?...
---Been_there on 5/8/05


Sure Madison I can perfectly agree with your statements but I see no explanation from Matt so I still wonder.

I wrote my response on 5/5 and here it is 5/8 and still no answer. I can accept time delays, problems and a host of other things but you know inquiring minds want to know.
---Elder on 5/8/05


Elder: You are assuming that Matt is a male. My nick name is Maddie, or Matty. The name Matt can be for a female. Let's not jump to conclusions.
---Madison on 5/6/05


A wonderful message by Joel Osteen TAKE TIME to PRAY about all matters and LISTEN to your GUT FEELING,WAIT ON GODS TIMING. I have been married a few times,the Lord showed me signs. I didn't listen and paid the price. They were supposedly Christian marriages.But not in the Lords will.Take time to listen carefully. Good Luck and God Bless.
---Gail on 5/6/05


Humm........Let's all think about this a while before we give this "victim" an answer.

Ya gotta answer what is writ, right?

So this question brings up a question;
Why did MATT leave his HUSBAND in the first place?

Matt/husband = confusion to me. Of course there is some simple answer, like ....................? Your turn Matt.
---Elder on 5/6/05




Please take your time first and ask for God's intervesion, for marriage is a hard decision to make as it is a life time committment.
---Nancy4685 on 5/6/05


Why do u have to marry him?? Have the best of all worlds, God, him, and whoever else for that matter.
Best of luck
---Jean8946 on 5/5/05


I think that you should give yourself more time; speak to God about the relationship before making a decision to get married again. Maybe God is saying something to you, take time out to listen.
---mary on 5/5/05


I would suggest fasting and praying and allowing GOD to give you an answer. Marriage is a big and a serious decision and you want to make sure that you are in GOD'S will about marriage and all things.
---LaShonda on 5/5/05


It depend on your motive for marriage. I think you should ask God if he is ready for you to be married. God bless you.
---aanu on 5/5/05


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