Should Women Lower Their Standards
I hear a lot of women asking questions about relationships and marriage and dating. Most seem to think they must lower their standards and settle, you do not have to do that. You are God's gift to man and should be treated with absolute reverence and respect.
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---rex3859 on 5/11/05
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Well...just what are the standards? Some think of themselves more highly than they should and have impossible standards. I'd have liked a knock-'em-dead handsome man, brilliant, great sense of humor, who worships me, Plus very rich..just to name a few of my original qualification standards for a husband.. but...I had to lower my standards and settle for everything but the rich part....LOL. Glad my husband lowered his standards too...so I was acceptable.
---Eloia on 7/2/08|
Randy_G: What makes you think all drop dead georgeous women has high standards? Looks does not determine a person's self-esteem or standards. Neither does it mean they have any morals or value anything worthwhile. Dry your nose and pull your tongue in. Get wisdom and understanding.You need it. That comes from the Lord.
---Robyn on 8/31/07|
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---Rural_Cafe on 8/30/07|
a lot of women are afraid of the word submission. but if the man submit to christ the way he is suppose to then it would be easy for his wife to summit to him.read ephesians chapter 5 verses18-33 and pass it on we as women are not just submitting to our husbands but to christ the real lover of our souls. m.love
---mae on 4/6/07|
If a drop dead gorgeous lady wants to lower her standard and date me, hey, let me know!!!!
All kidding aside. I think if a person settles and not totally happy,it will cause problems later. They would be involved in a relationship for the wrong reason.
If a person goes so far to get married always thinking they settled it could lead to an affair even divorce when "the right" person comes along.
---Randy_G on 4/6/07|
It's one thing to have Godly standards. But as Mrs. Paroo told Marian in MUSIC MAN, "If you don't mind my saying so, there's not a man alive who can hope to measure up to that blend of Paul Bunyan, St. Patrick, Noah Webster you've concocted for yourself out of your Irish imagination, Iowa stubborness, and your library full of books!"
Also--make sure that YOU are a desirable wife yourself!
---Jack on 6/3/05|
Are your standards God based, or man based? do not lower God based standards! if you have unhealthy habits, don't look for some one with healthy ones & expect any one to be happy. Example if you don't look buff don't expect buff, they work hard to look that way. You will have to start jogging at dawn with them at the very least.
---laure5469 on 5/30/05|
Most of those woman are seeking love and allow themselves to be less than they are. I was the same way, i have learned through Gods Grace that no one should ever belittle themselves, to wait on God and he will give you all the happiness you need.When you reach out let God take hold dont accept that hand that pulls you down.....God Bless
---lorie4334 on 5/29/05|
Sorry Curt, but your comments on all forums have a very strong sense that you have some very deep issues regarding women and relationships that you need to give over to Jesus. Not until then will you be a gift to a woman in marriage. IMHO. (Speaking as a christian counsellor).
---lisa on 5/13/05|
I have to wonder at what some consider "standards". I see them as a list of 10 things you must have and 10 things you can't stand in a relationship. That is not so many things to look for and it makes you really think about what is most important. They also help you avoid making serious mistakes in relationships. I got the idea from a christian author. Toilet tissue and toothpaste issues are minor things. Salvation, Faith and a little dab of chemistry matter more to me.
---Julie3763 on 5/13/05|
, God has already given me the greatest gift of all, and it is for anyone who believes in him. if God wants to give a woman the gift of having me as her husband, i am ready for that.
---curt on 5/12/05|
i have to wonder, why are so many men lowering their own standards. wait for the right one, guys. you are worth it.
---curt on 5/11/05|
a lot of blame lays with expectations women have based on the media that influences them in their beliefs,from their childhood when they are read storytales like cinderella and sleeping beauty which moulds women's minds from an early age that they will be one day rescued by a prince who will save them from their troubles. The aging process somewhat adjusts these fantasies but they are so entrenched all women subliminally hope for it, so a normal man is considered to be "lowering standards".
---lisa on 5/11/05|
In times of Jesus, the women were treated like objects of duty and not as people. Jesus raised the standard to one of respect and honour which should be our attitude and action to women today. Only the desperate settle with lower standards but even after the honeymoon, they wish they had not compromised their standards. The important goal of any women should be to live as Christ would want them to live and to grow in him. Doing this, the right perspectives and standards will be kept.
---Bruce on 5/11/05|
Right on brother. That's the shortest post you'll probably see me make.
---rex3859 on 5/11/05|
"Standards" is a pretty big and ambiguious word. Most relationships have negotiated "standards". They relate to every phase of your life and relationship. Tissue paper up or down..,tooth paste from end or center..,sheets on your side or mine or middle. Go out or stay home, Sports or soap operas. There are lot of choices. Be ready to compromise.
---chuck on 5/11/05|
Nobody should lower his/her standarts in order to find a friend or future partner, ON THE CONTRARY RAISE THEM HIGH!
On the other hand don' expect to be treated with ABSOLUTE REVERENCE. That should be saved for God.
---Pierr7958 on 5/11/05|