ChristiaNet MallWorld's Largest Christian MallChristian BlogsFree Bible QuizzesFree Ecards and Free Greeting CardsLoans, Debt, Business and Insurance Articles

Force Our Son To Tithe From Job

Should we force our son to pay tithe out of his summer job? He wants to keep the money for himself? Or should this be something that he wants to do, for God loves a cheeful giver.

Join Our Christian Singles and Take The Financial Bible Quiz
 ---Linda3939 on 5/14/05
     Helpful Blog Vote (8)

Reply to this BlogPost a New Blog

You should stop at teaching him what to do. God does not force or expect you to force anybody to pay tithes. If your teaching does not convincee him, God can send others to him as well to confirm or corroborate what you teach him. If he utterly refuses, God will teach him by HIS own methods that will convince him.
---Adetunji on 3/7/11

Once, when I was a child, my parents pretty very strongly encouraged me to give away a Christmas present to a donation to needy children. Because I felt I had little choice in the matter, the whole thing left a bad taste in my mouth.

On the other hand, if I had freely had the choice, I would have had the good feeling of helping out someone less fortunate.

Think about which makes you feel better: donating to a needy cause, or paying your taxes.
---StrongAxe on 3/4/11

I agree with Gillian 100%. Once he experiences for himself what it means to work for his own money, you may talk to him about why YOU tithe or what you feel about giving to the Lord. But give him the respect due a "working man", and let him decide on his own. He's more likely to follow your lead if you do not pressure him.
---Donna66 on 3/3/11

You are contradicting yourselves here. God loves a cheerful giver but you want to force your son. That wouldn't make him a cheerful giver would it! There is plenty of time for your son or any of us for that matter to deal with this issue. Give your son a break or else he will resent you and worse still God himself. A summer job is a taste of knowing what it feels like to have earned a wage. Let him enjoy that feeling and being able to spend it. Your poor boy is in danger of rejecting your faith by the way you are foolishly trying to burden him with this expectation. Let the lad breath and enjoy his youth do not burden him with guilt or you may be sorry.
---Gillian_McKellar on 3/2/11

This question describes "LEGALISM" open and for all to understand.
---Mima on 11/9/07


Force in anything is almost always a bad idea. It turns people from grateful free men into resentful slaves.

Look at how God works - he could very well have set up his throne on earth and forced everyone to worship him - there would be no war, no disease, no crime. That would be a better world perhaps? Yet it would be a world of slaves. He apparently did not think that is a good idea.
---StrongAxe on 11/9/07

We should mever force anyone to do anything. Sit your son down and explain tithing to him and then leave it up to him to decide what to do. You just might be surprised. I am assuming he is a teen and perhaps born again. That is wonderful in itself. Tithing is not mandatory for today it is a voluntary act. Do you understand this yourself? Don't bring division in your own home over this. But do let him know you expect him to do the right thing.
---Robyn on 11/8/07

You can suggest. Explain to him that God will give it back to him in so many different ways. But to force is not a good idea. He may grow to hate religion and not like you too much. I am assuming he is a born-again Christian. Try and get him to pray about it.
---catherine on 11/8/07

. to "force" someone to give is no different than stealing from them and putting that money in the offering plate. also, forcing them to tithe creates a resentful feeling toward giving and hurts their willingness to serve the Lord in the future.
---curt on 11/8/07

Linda, why do you think its your job to "force" him to do anything like that?

You answered your own question...
---NurseRobert on 10/3/06

Tithing is not a part of the New Testament. God loves a cheerful giver. Can't imagine anyone being cheerful all the time over something they have to do.
---Helen_5378 on 10/3/06

Encourage him to give instead of forcing him to tithe.
---john on 10/2/06

I don't think that a tithe is required at all. Read the YouthRefuge ideals on this subject.
---James_Tippins on 9/30/06

I would not "force" him to tithe. I would show him the "importance" to tithe and why he should.
It would teach him to be generous. It is understandable at a certain age we want to keep all to ourselves and as parents we are there to teach them that it is right to give to others as God will give us back even more.
To tithe is to give back to God what we are receiving.
---Marie_Jacquelyne on 7/12/05

Free will makes a cheerful giver.
---anon on 7/12/05

No, you should not force your son to tithe. You cannot _force_ a tithe. You can withhold 10% of your son's salary and give it to the church, but it would be given grudgingly, and without love.On the other hand, if your son really loves the Lord, and is not just following rules because he is living under your roof, then he will give a tithe to the Lord cheerfuly, and with love.
---Fr._Brendan on 5/31/05

Read These Insightful Articles About Debt Relief

The whole world circles around money. Lots of people believe that the word tithes means money only. I don't believe it is money only, I believe that it could be your time. Your son might agree to help some older person and give up some of his time. There are many ways to give up something. Helping an older person makes me feel real good. And I do that cheerfully.
---Dave on 5/19/05

someone here has said that this is his money and he can do what he wants...well, then I guess it all boils down to what you believe. If you are a bible believer you will believe that God gives you the power to make wealth, so really, any wealth (or money) we make is God's as its his blessing that gives us that ability to make the money. By saying the money is mine, you are disbelieving the concept that God really is Lord over all that we have. God doesn't need our money, but we need to give it to God.
---lisa on 5/16/05

Do not force him to tithe. It should be something he wants to do in his heart. The Lord loves a cheerful giver. If he gives out of obligation or obedience to you, but then resents it and builds up bitterness, this could be very detrimental to his relationship with you and God later on.
---Katie on 5/16/05

No, do not force your son to pay tithes. talk with him and tell him how God blesses those who do pay tithes, and that he will bless him too.
---a_friend on 5/15/05

Read These Insightful Articles About Debt Settlement

The truth is not always "popular".Unless you're one of the 11 tribes supporting the tribe of Levi,the "tithe" does not apply to you. Your Pastor needs to use..goodwill offering, donation,financial support etc.. but not "tithe" gives the impression of being a biblical command! You give from the heart!
---1st_cliff on 5/15/05

, lisa, i have to respectfully disagree. i think God is not pleased when people are forced to serve him. i think we waits with open arms to all who will accept him and love him with their hearts.
---curt on 5/15/05

I agree you should encourage him to tithe. While I don't go along with forcing adults, I think its a parent's role to train a child in the way he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. That's God's position on this issue. If he learns from you now, when he is older and even abandons his faith, he will wrestle with his childhood menories of obedience to God that you encouraged and will save him. Letting him do whatever he feels will lead to greater problems when he's an adult.
---lisa on 5/15/05

Who cheerfully gave your son the summer job?
---gregg4933 on 5/15/05

Shop For Church Pews

IF you make him, and your son doesn't want to, then God won't get the glory. This is his money, let him do as he wishes, if he choses to pay tithes, then fine, if not fine to. this is his decision to make not yours.
---Rebecca_D on 5/15/05

1st cliff
In 1 Corinthians 4:7 the apostle Paul asks, ". . .And what do you have that you did not receive. . .?"

Acts 4:34-37 and 1 Corinthians 15:1-4 doesn't mention the word tithe, but does speak of bringing offerings to a central place to be distributed for the benefit of the Body of Christ. I thought those passages referred to the tithe.
---CarolT on 5/15/05

As you already know the verse God loves a cheerful giver you already know the answer to your question. Anything that you force him to do, because it is your belief not his, he will resent and possibly move even further away from your standards. Set an example but don't force the issue.
---Xanthi on 5/15/05

I had my first job at 15. My mom told me to tithe. I obeyed her like I had been trained to do. Teach your child. Scripture tells us to train up a child in the way that he should go and when he is old he will not depart from it. Our society has done a great disservice to children and our future by giving children free riegn to make crucial decisions in their own upbringing. Do you tithe? Are you in control of your household? Make the decision, your child will appreciate the lesson. I know I do.
---Julie on 5/14/05

Read These Insightful Articles About Distance Learning

My 14 year old son mows lawns and does yard work for people. He makes a good living for a 14 year old but we have never "made" him tithe. But I can tell you, when he does give, it is abundant! I have watched him make $20, give $15, and use $5 for himself. I have also watched him empty his wallet of $12 as an offering to a puppet ministry of excellence. Those times bless me more as a mother and minister more unto the Lord than any obligatory compulsion.
---Linda_Smith on 5/14/05

If he could be 'forced' would God bless him for his giving? Let him see by your example if you choose to tithe. If he feels led to give, then that's his choice. If he's young and perhaps this is his first summer job, its natural to be a bit 'tight fisted' with his earnings.
---NVBarbara on 5/14/05

Linda; Titheing was an OT law for the 11 tribes to support the tribe of Levi,which had no land! Nowhere are Christians commanded to tithe!
---1st_cliff on 5/14/05

Frankly I am surprised at the question! Does God ever force us to do anything? Isen't he beautiful because he respects our freedom of choice? He always has and always will! SO NO FORCE !!
---Pierr7958 on 5/14/05

Read These Insightful Articles About Education

Set a good example for him so that he is so tempted to tithe that he just cannot resist. Count your blessings openly in front of him so he can see first hand the fruits of tithing. Don't just make it a theoretical issue, may him so jealous that he will not want to not tithe.
---lisa on 5/14/05

The tithe does not have to be money. He can give the church clothes, food, a helping hand cheerfully.
---gregg4933 on 5/14/05

Titheing is an O.T. commandment and contains no virtue. It is your sons earnings to do with whatever he chooses to, and it is sin to force your son to pay tithe.
---Eloy on 5/14/05

I agree with Curt.

It is not right to force someone. I would explain to him that God provided him the job.

Use Luke 16:10. Explain that using this job, which God gave him, he can give back. Eventually God will trust him with more resources. Note- resources does not necessary mean more money.

The amount he tithes is up to him.
---Tom145 on 5/14/05

Read These Insightful Articles About Home Equity Loans

No, definitely not. God does not want anything from us if we do not give it cheerfuly and willingly. Allow your son to see you in action. Our deeds speak louder than words.
---Dale on 5/14/05

Encourage him to "try" tithing for a week or two and pray that God would prove Himself to your son according to Malachi 3:10 -- "'Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse ... Test me in this,' says the Lord Almighty, 'and see if I will not throw open the floodgates of heaven and pour out so much blessing that you will not have room enough for it.'"

It worked for my son!
---DoryLory on 5/14/05

Copyright© 1996-2015 ChristiaNet®. All Rights Reserved.