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Youth Pastor Advancing On Minor

Would you tell the church if you knew there was something going on between the youth minister and your 15 year old cousin? Youth Minister is 27.

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 ---Kim on 5/16/05
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I would tell the pastor about this. This is WRONG, and he (Youth Pastor) should step down from any leadership. First - it is rape under laws of the land. Second - teen should be thought of as a STUDENT, and NOT a love interest. This pastor needs help.
---Leslie on 1/7/07


Sex with a minor is a serious crime and is punishable by many years in prison. It does not matter if it is consensual. Therefore, make sure that what you have heard or know is a fact. If it is talk with your pastor and let him take the Biblical discipline that is necessary. He also has the decision to report the matter to the police.
---louis on 5/18/05


If I knew, then Matt. 18:15-17 gives guidance in this area. He must reveal his sin and deal with the consequences not only in the church, but criminally as well. If not, then go to the pastor yourself. Make sure that you have ALL of the facts so as not to bear false witness against a brother in Christ.
---Ron715 on 5/18/05


Feel I was too hastey in my earlier reply. I am not qualified to give advice. There are more blogs about pastors.
---Ulrika on 5/17/05


Part 2: If he does not come clean, and your cousin refuses to tell her parents, then I would bring one of the church leaders along with you to confront the youth pastor. If your cousin was an adult and they were carrying on a Christian relationship, then there would be no problem, but he needs to respect her by staying away until she is of age.
---Katie on 5/17/05




I would not tell the church as a whole. However, I would tell the youth pastor of my knowledge, and give him a chance to come clean with the leaders of the church, and remove himself from his position. And in the mean time I would challenge your cousin to tell her parents what is going on.
---Katie on 5/17/05


This is a serious offense and is punishable by law. The pastor must be told immediately if you are ABSOLUTELY SURE. Telling the parents is essential even if you have the slightest suspicion. This minister could cause harm to your cousin, the church, even yourself for withholding information. Many churches have strict requirements for ANYONE working with children including finger printing, references, etc. Also there is a rule that NO young person should be left alone with one church worker at ANYTIME.
---Elsie on 5/17/05


You must be absolutely positive that what you reported is right before you act. There will be reprocussions and all the mud will not be on the cousin or youth pastor. Rumor goes faster than the truth so talk in a non-accusing manner to your aunt and uncle and the pastor. Do not start a fire that will ruin lives.
---chuck on 5/17/05


You should go to the Sr. Pastor and tell him what you know, and you should also tell your cousin's parents before its to late.
---a_friend on 5/16/05


I'd talk to your cousin first, then the youth pastor if your suspicions continue but are not answered. If your suspicions continue after talking to both and the issue is not resolved, you have every biblical right to bring it to the attention of your cousin's parents who should also do the biblical thing and contact the Sr. Pastor for help.
---Ryan on 5/16/05




Yes, I would investigate first and make sure the allegation was absolutely true. This could ruin lives if the allegation was not true. I would then tell both the parents and the pastor. This is a very serious matter. However, to do nothing is a sin. Wendy
---wendy on 5/16/05


Kim, You have to confront this situation. It is best to go right to the Pastor on this. You have to be sure that he is doing this though. If you see an evil and you don't confront it, than you partake in that evil. Pray for wisdom in this, and believe.
---John on 5/16/05


, why would a MAN want a fifteen year old CHILD? or is he trying to go to prison?
---curt on 5/16/05


Yes. Take the minor out of the youth activities and tell the older pator and the deacons. The youth pastor should be taken off that job. If they do not do anything tell the police. Also find a different church.
---Ulrika on 5/16/05


First, I would make sure it is totally, totally true..you would not want to be a gossip-monger. Then, after verifying it is true, I would speak with your aunt & uncle and tell them what you know. It should be left in the hands of the parents to take care of. On the other hand, the youth pastor, at 27, should have nothing to do with a 15-years old girl except in connection with his duties as pastor. Best thing to do is pray about it.
---Ann5758 on 5/16/05


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