Anyone With Unsaved Family
How many of you are the only Christian in your family? The family you were born into, not spouse and children. I am, and with elderly mother (father died un-saved) and not-so-young siblings, cousins, aunts etc. all un-saved it is heart-breaking. How do you cope with this when they won't listen?
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Each person is reponsible for sharing the gospel with their families, however each individual soul is ultimately responsible for their free choice to either surrender to Jesus and ask for salvation, or else poorly choose to reject Jesus and remain condemned. |
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---Eloy on 11/16/09 |
Wow, I was raised in a Christian home and I know Christ as my personal savior. My dad went home to be with the Lord several years ago..Why am I writting to this blog? I have sons, and they are not walking with the Lord and it hurts deeply. All I can do is pray for them. Maybe we could all look at some of these blogs and start saying prayers for other families as well as for our own family... I will pray for you and maybe you can pray for me. Let's keep a prayer journal going.
Jim |
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---Jim on 11/15/09 |
Everyone has free will and chooses to serve Christ or not. I know where u are coming from with this. It is heartbreaking. I live with two family members. A lot of prayer helps. They both have received Christ as their Saviour but they have not continued to grow. They don't attend church either. Only a few times a year.
I continue to invite them to church,offer to pray with them and share the gospel with them. If you do this,you have done your part. Their blood will not be on your hands.God bless you and your family. Things can change suddenly. Keep looking to Jesus |
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---Robyn on 9/4/09 |
It is their own free will to either accept or else reject Christ. If they truly understood the horrors of hell they would run with all their will to Christ the only Salvation for all, I mean they would literally run. I recall when Jerusalem was being bombed with scud missles that every church across the land was filled because many truly thought it was D-Day, the end of the world. But then as soon as the bombing stopped, the churches emptied out again. |
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---Eloy on 4/7/09 |
Don't even try to cope. Compassion, which you may feel come over you now and then is from God. And it can be like an ocean-wave sweeping over you. You feel so helpless. Then you remember, only Jesus can save lost souls. Just be so very thankful, that God has chosen you to live forever with Him in heaven, and that God is going to provide for us, His people, magnificently. At the moment, I believe I am the only one saved in my family. God has promise to save my son, because of me. So, therefore, I do not have to pray for his salvation. I do pray for his safety. |
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---catherine on 4/7/09 |
They eventually do you have to be a witness pray and believe, is it easy definitely not....
my mum got saved, then her husband my sister is under conviction, and my other family members are under prayer, the hardest battle is family. |
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---Carla3939 on 4/6/09 |
The words of Jesus...If the world hate you, ye know that it hated me before it hated you. John 15:18
Whosoever therefore shall confess me before men, him will I confess also before my Father which is in heaven....Think not that I am come to send peace on earth: I came not to send peace, but a sword. For I am come to set a man at variance against his father, and the daughter against her mother, and the daughter in law against her mother in law. And a man's foes shall be they of his own household...And he that taketh not his cross, and followeth after me, is not worthy of me. He that findeth his life shall lose it: and he that loseth his life for my sake shall find it. Matt 10:32-39 |
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---Jamie_A. on 3/10/09 |
You go on. If people want to be stupid let them go to hell. I just quoted a six year old preacher, I heard on television a couple of years ago. Right now, I do believe that I am the only saved, bought by the Blood of Jesus Christ, person, in my family. God has warned me that my family will become estrange from me. I do see the signals, Strong signals. Remember, Jesus saves whom He chooses, and it is out of our hands. Will be times when the Spirit of God will come down upon you about someone's eternal destination and their plight, And that will cause you to feel so helpless. You obey God in the words He gives you at that particular time, and that is all you and I can do. The good news is, you will get over it. And keep doing. |
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---catherine on 7/16/08 |
I have been saved since 11/4/2002 and I live with my mother who is not saved, my siblings are not saved and I have to say family members can be the hardest on you! I will pray that they will turn thier life over to Jesus and until then I will continue to grow stronger in my Faith.
I feel very close to my church family and this helps me alot to have thier support!
God Bless- |
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---Denise on 7/15/08 |
I pray for my family every night, and i know that one day they will be saved, as it says in the Bible, "If your child asks you, his father, for a fish, would you give him a snake instead?" Luke 11:11 I know God can hear my prayer, and whether they are saved today, tomorrow, before they die or when the time of rapture comes, I'm not sure, but as long as they are saved I am happy. So you must always have hope and believe, try to set an example of the wonderful life Christ can bring. |
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---daisy on 2/22/08 |
I understand the person who wrote this question. The world has become the home for many, if not most, ''Christians''. I read a long piece on spiritual blindness from a Christian website. I think like this: if we pray in line with God's will (that they will see the light) then if God wants that person, people, he will send messangers to them. In the meantime I am a messenger to non-family members. |
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---frances on 1/31/08 |
Wendy_ Stay Strong!
You've done the right thing, You have Planted the Seed, Now Let God Do the Watering. I will Pray for you & your family. Soon there will be an out pouring of the HolySpirit of God & many will be saved & when the Wrath of God Comes MANY more WILL be Saved...YLBD_Your Loving Brother Duane(M) |
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---Duane_M on 1/24/08 |
I continue to pray for my family as they too are non-believers. I have several members of my family who treat me as an outcast but it's not me they're hurting it's God. I ask God for comfort knowing I have done the right thing in having Him in my life. |
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---Wendy on 1/23/08 |
It says' in the Holy Bible that your faith in the Lord will help them become believers, so stay strong. Everything that happens' is planed by God, and he knows' what he is doing. Ask God to help you understand and cope, and he will help. Tell we meet in Heaven may God Bless and help you understand. love terry |
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---terry5638 on 1/23/08 |
Mina did you not say those who are not fundamentalist should me persecuted, forced to be born again fundamentalist? Its my hope you can be saved from such an intolerant temperament. I saw loads of this intolerant myopia as a child. I am helping other family members, with education and emotional support to escape from fundamentalism,- Yes they can be saved. |
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---MikeM on 1/22/08 |
.mikem, I attended an LDS, because I was misled by their title: "Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints". After I found they were nonChristian, I rebuked them and asked a refund of my admission. LDS (aka: mormons) may keep composure when answering direct questions, nevertheless they answer falsehood, because they are not Christian, and they use other books like "Pearl of Great Price" and "Doctrines and Covenants" which are nonBiblical and contradict the Holy Scripture. |
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---Eloy on 1/22/08 |
There are no mormons of my family nor of my body nor of the body of Christ. They preach a maligospel, falsehood, and not the gospel of Jesus Christ. Joseph Smith was not sent by my God, to propagate any false gospel as he has chosen to do. An noone whom makes a lie will enter into my Papa's kingdom. |
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---Eloy on 1/22/08 |
If and when we get to heaven we'll all be surprised at the people we see that made it there, but just remember that they will be just as surprised to see you. :) |
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---janet on 1/22/08 |
Very difficult and heartwrenching to see this. You try to remain prayerful and hopeful but sometimes it does get next to you.Christians are human,too. But we are to never give up praying for them. God knows the pain and sorrow we go through for our loved ones. I am not the only Christian in my family but I have many relatives who are unsaved.You just learn to accept the fact and keep on praying for change in their lives. Continue to show love to them and be an example to them. |
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---Robyn on 1/22/08 |
And is concerns Joseph Smith and where he got his teachings in Galatians 1:8 the Bible says,"But though we, or an angel from heaven, preach any other gospel unto you than that which we have preached unto you, let him be accursed." A quick question. Did Joseph Smith receive his teachings by way of a "angel"? Hummmm |
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---Mima on 1/22/08 |
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I do not try to cope with it. I am too busy. Like you, only my Grandmother is in heaven. I was saved about the age that she was. Neet isn't it. Yes, it breaks my heart when God touches my heart with it. We can not work up this stuff, you know. |
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---catherine on 1/22/08 |
Why would God need to add to the Gospel of Jesus? So it's kinda hard for me to Believe Joe Smith, The Smiths were my Grandparents Neighbors when he found those tablets,WE stayed Evanglist preachers, I've read the Book of Mormons from begining to end & it does coinside with the word of God, And they do Claim that Jesus is the Son of God too. So, Just as the Lord said, Let them alone that are for us, because their not against us...
IF you hate a Brother, YOU will NOT enter the Kingdom of God! |
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---Duane_M on 1/22/08 |
I was raised fundamentalist/Pentecostal. I couldnt accept the pagan Greek trinity deity, where Jesus was a piece of God that broke off, nor the myriad of other doctrines, a merge of Bible and Greek philosophy. In addition the hypocrisy was overwhelming. I am LDS where I believe the fullness of the Gospel is found. When introduced to the Church I found they did not run, name call, bail, get emotional, or jump up and down when asked hard-hitting questions, they answered them. That was extraordinarily unique |
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---MikeM on 1/22/08 |
you can lead a horse to water, but you cannot make him drink. Others must truly want Christ, for only then will they really surrender up to him and really ask him into their heart and lives..Some humor: you can try tying them down. Then get the biggest bible you can, and begin to mercilessly beat them about the head with it, and after their continual rejections, you can finally stuff the bible down their throat. However this procedure still might not convert them: at which you may try fasting and prayer. |
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---Eloy on 1/20/08 |
Helen,
Your family wont go to hell just because they are practicing Catholics. What gave you that idea? |
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---janet on 1/18/08 |
I went to the Cross & was Baptised on Easter when i was 12(1974). the earliest Evangelist preachers in my family can be traced back to 1748, My family had land next to the Smiths(Joseph Smith of the LDS).
Preachers & Patriots, My family knew & fought with G. Washington, before & during the Rev. War. Their has'nt been to many people that hav'nt listened to me when i'm face to face with them.
THIS CAN BE A DIFFICULT FORUM to get your true feelings across...YLBD |
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---Duane_M on 1/18/08 |
I was 17 when I accepted the Lord. My mother told me it was okay, as long as I didn't become a Bible thumping Baptist. Went to Baptist churches for 25 years.
Siblings have since accepted Lord, but only one is actually living for Him.
You pray, and pray and pray. I didn't preach half as much as I prayed. Also, love them.
My dad died without accepting Christ. Broke my heart. God comforted me. |
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---Madison on 1/18/08 |
If you cannot witness to your own family how are you going to witness to others. I though this would be an impossible mission but God knows the intent of the heart and a wise man will win a soul. It never stopped me witnessing even to the point of rejection but in a life example way through out the years, my youngest son first, then the other , mother husband sister on her way and other sister confessing Christ as lord To God be the glory, It can be done! Two brothers and dad left. |
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---Carla5754 on 4/24/07 |
I am the only born-again Christian in my whole family. My Dad died a RC, so did my sister. All of my family, except one cousin who is a Freemason, are strict Roman Catholics. It is very hard knowing that they are all standing at Hell's door. I just keep praying that the Lord will save them all. It is hard though. I try not to think about it too much because the thought of them going to Hell is overwhelming. |
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---Helen_5378 on 4/24/07 |
I was saved when I was 12 and my husband has never proclaimed that he belives in his heart but, he belives in Christ but, is scared to go to church. He does not want to pray and does not feel comfortable about doing things please pray for me |
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---robin_lake on 4/24/07 |
my husband is an atheist, I have 2sons who are believers of God, and 2 other sons whom are non believers. Witnessing to your own family is one of the hardest task of all..I find it easier to witness to others.. |
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---jana on 4/24/07 |
The first port of call is when this is internalised worry that Your name is written in the Lambs Book Of life then you can look at your immediate family and then you can work on others or all at the same time individually which ever, pray changes thing everything. God knows the desire of your heart although it cannot exceed the desire of Gods purpose for every soul. So give the work to God and he will give you Rest. |
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---Carla5754 on 4/24/07 |
Wondering how unbeliever is doing today. I hope that you are having a great day. Yes, I came from a big family and, I do believe noone is saved. I do believe they all believe that they are saved. Although I do not know where they get such a notion. I am afraid from unsaved preachers. |
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---catherine on 4/24/07 |
My Grandparents both ed died unsaved and it tears me apart to think of them damned for eternity. Sometimes I cry to sleep at night thinking about people in hell. I wish no one went there. |
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---Matthew on 4/23/07 |
i know it's heart-rending, but you can't violate their freewill. You can lead a horse to water, but you can't make them drink. i just pray for them, and every opportunity i witness and share with them. But each one of us must and will give an account of ourselves to the Lord. |
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---Eloy on 4/20/07 |
Years ago, my mom was the only one who was saved in her family. Then, my little sister made a profession of faith & was baptized at the age of 6. She's since "fallen by the wayside" but, I decided a life of obedience to Christ was what I wanted when I was 29 and my dad became a Christian a few years later. We are still praying for my brother & sister. Keep praying for them. You never know who else is planting seeds in their hearts. |
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---Kim on 9/29/06 |
I think it's more by example than words. If we don't walk the talk, it makes it harder. Just ask the Lord to let His Love pour through you. Love does amazing things. God's Love is very powerful. I've seen it melt hearts! No matter what, just keep loving. Don't be judgemental in the decisions they make. There still of this world. |
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---kathr4453 on 9/29/06 |
I am the only one in my whole family who is saved. I used to get worried and uptight about the fact that none of them are saved. Just recently I have been comforted in the fact that God already knows just where they are all going to spend their eternity, and that there is nothing I can do about it. Well, just last night, I was able to witness to my mother about Jesus. She used to hang up on me, but not this time. I feel in my spirit now that she will get saved. Don't give up praying for them. |
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---Helen_5378 on 9/27/06 |
My husband and 2 sons are not saved, my sisters and brothers are not saved either. They see the change in me as I smile everyday
and they even asked why I am always happy. You see, knowing God as your personal friend helps a great lot. Pretty soon, am sure they will listen.. |
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---jana on 9/27/06 |
"Continued"
My dad is dying with cancer , can lose him at any moment , he still will not listen or talk about christ.
So i say, pray be obedient and continue to let your light of christ shine in everything you do. Be an example. Show his love. Above All Trust God |
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---amand8885 on 8/25/05 |
I am like you. the only member of my immediate family that is a christian. My parents have told me for years they beileve in God but still they choose not to live for him. How do i deal with the heartache. i keep minstering, i keep living and letting God's light shine in and through me. I deal by being an example. I am a disabled mom, wife, and daughter. Why God chooses not to heal me physically. Im more humbled and service minded with this disablity. I have a heart to reach out to others."cont" |
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---Amand8885 on 8/25/05 |
Kristine will be relieved to know that Hitler is in Hell. He only used Christianity as a political tool. He was a tare, not wheat. It is a well documented fact that he was heavily into the occult. As were all his henchmen. Not everyone who claims to be a Christian is one. Look for the fruit of their actions. |
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---Susan on 6/21/05 |
Many of my family members are "unsaved", and I don't like the term at all. These people are some of the kindest, most decent people, and have lived their lives according to the ten commandments. I think decent people go to heaven, no matter what. Nobody can tell me Ghandi is in hell! Or Hitler is in heaven. |
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---Kristine on 5/28/05 |
I am like you,the only Christian in my family. Lately,after more than 20+yrs,I am beginning to see God working through the illness of my elderly mother. Continue to pray and trust the Lord to work. |
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---leefern on 5/24/05 |
Madison and those who feel as though your loved ones died with out God's free gift of salvation. God can come at their last breath and give His Salvation message.
Shear3487 |
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---shearon on 5/23/05 |
Just as it was difficult for Jesus to heal the people from His own home town, so is it difficult to lead your own family to salvation. I ask the Lord to put the right people into my loved ones' lives. I pray specifically for people who would be able to minister to them in a way that my loved ones' would be able to receive what they have to say. |
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---DoryLory on 5/23/05 |
I agree with the other replies. God tells us that if we love someone, we will want them to be one of his. Today, the unchurched and unbeliever has an easy out-They refer to a "Christian" who talks the talk but lives worshiping one of the devil's gods..Self, money, job, eating and drinking habits. Our decision is then that we love him enough to continue to help him search and perhaps lose them as a friend or communicating kin or just live our lives so that we are a bible to them in our lives. |
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---chuck on 5/23/05 |
I have read the other replies. You cannot save your family. Your walk speaks loudly to them. Preaching to them does not. Fasting and praying does the job on your part. Having done all, Stand...do not waiver. If God wants you to lead them, He will tell you so. Stay close to Him and listen. He may provide you an opportunity at any time, usually in a way you would not have thought of yourself. Harle9478. |
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---Harley on 5/22/05 |
No one of the family I was born into has made an affirmation of faith in God through Jesus Christ, nor showed any sign of repentance. You are right, it is heartbreaking. What keeps me going is knowing that God loves them and that He hears my prayers (since 1969!). Be assured that He loves your family and hears your prayers too. And He is not willing that one should perish, but that all should come to repentance. |
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---Joy on 5/22/05 |
Hello. My mother is not "saved" as far as going to church,but don't know if she was ever baptized,I know she went to a Disciples of Christ church with my grandmother,but I pray for her too.My inlaws are saved as far as baptisim, but they donot go to church on a countinuing basis. |
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---candice on 5/22/05 |
My own son and daughter are not saved. They don't want my "religion" pushed on them, and I try gently to bring it up here and there, and pray for them, as well. It makes me sad and troubled that they are not believers. They are both good people, and do the right things, but will only partially take "God" into their hearts. I raised them to be believers, but they didn't follow. (Sigh) |
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---Kristine on 5/22/05 |
I was the 1st saved in my family and I used to go and talk about the Lord. They laughed and rediculed me at first(in fun) But Praise God! 30yrs later all have been saved. Well mom is almost, but I call her saved in the name of Jesus. Mostly, my prayer was that God use someone to lead them to him because'there is no prophet without honor except in his own town and in his own family' |
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