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Can I Marry A Non-Believer

Would marrying a non-believer be against the Bible and would there be judgement?

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well... this is like my opinion... I think u can marry or be with her, as long as you two believe in God... I'm just a 14 year old seeking for an answer...
---Ernest on 6/9/09


Daniel,

apart from giving me well uneducated laugh....you also achieved to misinterpret the times in which God said those things to, when, what and why?

We are NOW UNDER grace! not under the Law and although we no longer live and sacrifice by those Laws never the less they are there not to commit any of those acts but also to understand that we are Gentiles and those rules and ordinances if keep one you should do so entirely and also be judged by each and everyone you fail to keep !
---Carla3939 on 4/5/09


Deuteronomy 7:3-4

You shall not intermarry with them, giving your daughters to their sons or taking their daughters for your sons, for they would turn away your sons from following me, to serve other gods. Then the anger of the Lord would be kindled against you, and he would destroy you quickly.
---kbeach on 3/29/09


Am I or my gr. gr. grandpa condemned for him being married to a cherokee woman that knew nothing about Jesus?

I think not, Salvation was brought to her that day when she heard of the Lord,
in which, that may have never happened if they didn't come together as husband & wife.

Now, if a person SAY'S that they don't believe & never will believe what God say's about his Son Yahshua/Jesus, "RUN!!!!"

The Deut. ref:, was for the Hebrew's, NOT for the rest of mankind.
---Duane_Dudley_Martin_Jr. on 3/27/09


Right now The Jews are still looking for another saviour not Jesus Christ until that person who practices Judaism recognises Christ with all due respect for not accepting the word you would know that only believers in The Father The Son and The Holy Spirit, accepting the word of God rightly divided can the union of marriage be seen equal to God.

Otherwise you can marry a grizzly bear if you believe that you must, but the union is not Godly.
---Carla3939 on 3/27/09




The Bible clearly tells us in Deuteronomy 13...If thy brother, son of thy mother, or thy son, or thy daughter,or thy wife of thy bosom, or thy friend, which secretly, saying ,let us go and serve other gods, which thou hast not known, thou, nor thy fathers, thou salt surely kill him, thine hand shall be first upon him to put him to death, and afterwards the hand of all the people. So there is your answer, take him to church and hit him upside the head with a good sized stone as hard as you can, then pass it on so everyone else can have a turn.
Or you could realize that religion and God come from the imagination of mankind and should not be considered real. Then go marry the person you love and be happy. Live your life freely.
---Daniel on 3/25/09


Yes, if you are a Blood bought saved person at the time you marry an unbeliever, God's judgment will come down upon you, the believer.
---catherine on 2/15/09

IS THIS A PERSONAL OPINION ? CAN YOU SHOW WORD FOR WORD IN THE BIBLE WHAT YOU ARE SAYING ? I DISAGREE WITH YOU AND BESIDES THE BELIEVERS WHO DID MARRY A NON-BELIEVER MISLEAD THEMSELVES .ASSUMING THEIR PARTNER WILL EVENTUALLY COME AROUND THAT IS THIER BIG MISTAKE.

SO YOU ARE SAYING I CANT MARRY SOMEONE WHO PRATICES JUDAISM ?
---DEE on 2/19/09


deb, those are the wolf in sheep's clothing that frances is talking about. We must watch them for a while. SEE what kind of tree they are. Are they a tree rooted in Christ? or are they a weed or a thistle? You will know a Christian by the fruit that their tree bears too. If it is producing strife, anger, envy, heresies and things like this(fruit of the flesh), they are unbelievers whether they their mouth says they are Christians or not.

It is advised we don't marry unbelievers because they can cause us to fall, and maybe even walk away from God all together. If you want to marry an unbeliever, go ahead, but the Bible advises against this for these reasons. If you are a good Christian woman, you will marry a true good Christian man.
---miche3754 on 2/17/09


Carla, would it be better to marry a wolf in sheep's clothing?

How can anyone know someone's heart? You can know their nature from their actions and words and upbringing. Not that it is foolproof. The Holy Spirit should be in you and guide you in all truth. The devil is not going around as an unbeliever with fanged teeth and horns, no, he will be posing as a believer. Just be sure that the person you marry has a good heart. It should not be too difficult to suss this out. You may be able to make a convert of him and his family. You may be able to witness to many unbelievers. How else can God's family grow in size? Okay, you might be able to have multiple children, but we are told to go out and make believers of nonbelievers.
---frances008 on 2/16/09


My ex-boss, born-again, pillar of the church, got angry when I wouldn't forge a notarized document.

My brother, born-again, is abusive to his wife.

Friends, born-again, were unkind to a fellow church woman who is a little different from them.

And you, who see yourself as 'better', call others names.



---Deb on 2/16/09




NO. The Bible teaches that we must marry believers. We have no fellowship with darkness and must not be "unequally yoked together" with nonbelievers. We are in the world but not of the world so that while we live and work in this world, we keep ourselves separate (sanctified). This means that our our choices of close friends and partners should reflect our relationship with God. We become LIKE those who we spend time with and it is critical to desire and chose Godly(believing) friends and certainly marriage partners. Some think that their proposed mate will CHANGE after the marriage but this is erroneous denial. There is no reason to believe that anyone will change for the better after marriage.
---jody on 2/16/09


Why marry the devils son and have satan as your fatherinlaw?

Somehow that JUST don't make a drop of sense!
---Carla3939 on 2/16/09


---miche3754
THANKS BUT YOU STILL HAVE NOT ANSWERED ARE NON-BELIEVERS GROUPED TOGETHER ? ARE PAGAN IDOL WORSHIPPING BELIEVERS THE SAME AS TO SOMEONE WHO PRATICES JUDAISM,ISLAM ?
---dee on 2/14/09
Yes ma'am, I did. If Christ IS not their lord and savior, they are unbelievers. It's that simple sis. And you will know them by their fruits, Galatians 5.

Yes, if you are a Blood bought saved person at the time you marry an unbeliever, God's judgment will come down upon you, the believer.
---catherine on 2/15/09

Not true sis. God won't punish her. She is advised NOT to be with unbelievers because she will make her walk with God more difficult. She will worry about pleasing her unbelieving mate over pleasing God.
---miche3754 on 2/16/09


Yes, if you are a Blood bought saved person at the time you marry an unbeliever, God's judgment will come down upon you, the believer.
---catherine on 2/15/09


I think when it comes down to it, the best thing you can do is to marry someone who is a good person. We all have our faults, sure. But some people are signed up with the devil and others are just ordinary folk trying to do the best they can. It is very important that you have discernment and marry someone who is good (godly) and not someone who merely goes by the label of 'Christian'. That is my opinion. If they are antagonistic to Christianity, then there is little hope of a successful marriage. Some people pretend to be Christian but work for the opposite team. We are all going to be astonished when the Antichrist is revealed because he will have been a 'Christian' to us.
---frances008 on 2/15/09


God forbids the "unequal yoking" of a believer with an unbeliever, and I believe that there is judgement both on this earth and in heaven for the believer who commits this sin. I am proof of it, for I married a man who I thought was a Christian, who knew God, but he wants nothing to do with God, the Bible, or Christianity in principal. I live with deceit, rebellion, adulterous attitude, laziness and abuse every day I am married to this man, he does not care what happens to me, so long as I keep working to support him. End of subject, just don't do it.
---Cameron on 2/14/09


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---miche3754
THANKS BUT YOU STILL HAVE NOT ANSWERED ARE NON-BELIEVERS GROUPED TOGETHER ? ARE PAGAN IDOL WORSHIPPING BELIEVERS THE SAME AS TO SOMEONE WHO PRATICES JUDAISM,ISLAM ?
---dee on 2/14/09


BETTY THIS IS WHY I POSTED:
is it more acceptable to marry a "believer" (born into a christian home) who chooses not to pratice or has no interest in their faith ? Why would a praticing believer marry a non-praticing believer, just tobe accepted by the "CHRISTIAN " peers they associate themselves with.
---dee on 2/10/09
I FEEL FOR YOU BETTY, I PRAY THAT YOU HAVE STRENGTH DURING YOUR TIME OF SUFFERING ( <-- YOU KNOW THERE ARE MANY FORMS OF SUFFERING AS A BELIEVER THAT WE GO THROUGH IN OUR WALK ). THIS IS WHY I ASKED THAT QUESTION ABOVE WHAT SHOULD YOU DO. WHEN YOUR SPOUSE IS NOT A PRATICING BELEIVER, ARE YOU BETTER OFF WITH SOMEONE WHO ACTS & TALKS AS A BELIEVER ( YET IS A NON-BELIEVER )?
---dee on 2/14/09


dee:

You have all the answers in your Bible. disobedience is choosing not to follow biblical advice, by the look of your responses your already feeling the pinch of your relationship and so taking it out of the believers,

God bless and peace be unto you,

If all truth were to be known there would not be any PEACE as it is with you.
---Carla3939 on 2/14/09


dee- Sometimes cats pounce and start ripping fur because they simply feel like it. Let God be praised. I did not realize you were the one who asked the question. My oversight, I guess. If you are happy with the person you are with, so be it. It appears it offended you that I wanted God to change my would-be spouse and is still my spouse. My spouse claimed to be a Christian and still does but his life has been filled with unrepentant sin. So I am still suffering for my mistake of not waiting for God to choose my mate.
---Betty on 2/13/09


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dee,
an unbeliever is someone who has not accepted Christ as their savior.
We all must remember that the word "shall" does not mean the same thing as "can't".
"Shall not" means same thing as "should not".
This is just advising against it because marriage to an unbeliever can bring added trials into your life. So you can, but you are advised not to.
Think on it this way, you are a daughter of God. God will not hold anything good from you. God will also bless you with a good Christian man, if you will be patient and live by his word and let him lead in your life. You can't be willful, God is your father, and he is in charge not you or any of us.
---miche3754 on 2/13/09


BEFORE AYONE DECIDES TO REPSOND TO MY POSTS, CANY SOMEONE PLEASE DEFINE WHAT A NON-BELIEVER IS AS I HAVE ASKED IN THE PREVIOUS POSTS ?
---dee on 2/12/09


BETTY - I HAVE NO DESIRE FOR GOD TO CHANGE THE PERSON I AM WITH ( INFACT THEY ACT MORE LIKE A DOER OF THE WORD THAN BELEIVERS THEMSELVES DO ). LET ME ASK YOU ALL SOMETHING YOU EVER CONSIDER THAT MAYBE THE CHRISTIANS OF TODAY ACT AS THE PHARISEE'S DID DURING THE TIME OUR LORD WAS ON EARTH. IF I OFFEND YOU THEN , I AM MORE THAN MORE CONFIDENT THIS APPLIES TO YOU ( I SAY THIS BASED ON MY EXPERIENCES WITH THE CHRISTRIAN PEERS IN MY OWN CIRCLE ).
---dee on 2/12/09


JANINE YOU SAID "It is a sin and that's why God said it " CAN YOU SHOW WORD FOR WORD WHERE THAT IS IN THE BIBLE ? ASK YOURSELF THIS... WHY WOULD YOU RELY ON THE CHURCH TO TEACH YOU HOW TO THINK AND UNDERSTAND THE WORD ? YOU DONT HAVE A BRAIN TO THINK FOR YOURSELF ? WHY WOULD YOU WANT TOBE MOLDED INTO WHAT "YOUR CHURCH" REPRESENTS ? WHY DID THOSE CHRISTIANS MARRY A "NON-BELIEVER" HAVING HIGH HOPES THEIR SPOUSE TO CHANGE ? WHY WOULD I WANT TO CHANGE THE RELEATIONSHIP MY SPOUSE HAS WITH GOD ( EVEN THOUGH IT MAY BE DIFFERENT FROM MINE ) WHO AM I TO TELL THEM THE TRUTH THEY HAVE EXPERIENCED IS NOT REAL ?
---dee on 2/12/09


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I'm sorry, but are you reading your bible and what isn't your church not teaching you? As a christian, you should know that the bible says do not be unequally yoked. It is a sin and that's why God said it, because what does darkness have with light or Belial with Jesus? If you go against God's word, then you are just asking for trouble. You will not be able to talk to him about Christ and he may stop you from going to church. God told us that to protect us from pain and lonliness. Don't do it, I know so many christians who did and they are in a very sad relationship, but they only have themselves to blame.
---janine on 2/12/09


God warned against marrying unbelievers. That means non-Christians and semi-Christians. Even Christians who sin. Love is not a game, but a serious thing. Always ask God to get you a mate, instead of shopping yourself. God knows things you don't. There will be misery and disappointment and failure unless God chooses for you. Many times I worried that my husband might kill me or something because he said so after he married me. Had I waited for God, I would have been much happier. I made the mistake of asking God to change the one I chose. He has helped me, but He did not change him, for he is fulfilling his destiny.
---Betty on 2/10/09


---Carla5754
You have yet to answer any of the questions I have asked. The one I am more concerned with is, define what is a non-beleiver and what groups of people can be labelled by that term. By the way I am reading the same bible as you are. Why are you acting as if your "INTERPRETATION" is the only & correct way ? I really dont want to share where there are "MANY" scriptures that support this issue. Tobe honest I am not going to reveal it where they are. If the HOLY SPIRIT has not revealed it to you, what good am I ( you still wont understand ).Just to clarify & you dont assume, I do not go and look for scripture to support me. The lord reveals it over time in his WORD.
---dee on 2/10/09


is it more acceptable to marry a "believer" (born into a christian home) who chooses not to pratice or has no interest in their faith ? Why would a praticing believer marry a non-praticing believer, just tobe accepted by the "CHRISTIAN " peers they associate themselves with.
---dee on 2/10/09


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You'd probably be miserable, because you would be chasing after the things of God, and the unbeliever would be trying to do a jack knife into the lake of fire! Lol! I've tried it and it doesn't work. The relationship may last for a while, but eventually Jesus will seperate you. I know one guy who married his best friend from high school, and she ended up getting saved, but I'm not so sure he was really saved when they got married. The bible doesn't suggest not marrying an unbeliever, it is a commandment from the Lord! It's better to trust Him!
---Bryan on 2/7/09


How about Hosea? Who married the prostitute?

Our ways are not Gods ways and our thoughts are not Gods thoughts, does that mean we size up to everything God did! who are we talking about a God that we question or when it pleases us use scripture to say God did it so so can we.

What happened to the understanding of the circumstances in which this happen and for who's advantage was this allowed.

Where is your wisdom?
---Carla5754 on 2/6/09


What about the scripture II Corinthians 7:12 - 15? Saying how "If you marry a non believer".
How about Hosea? Who married the prostitute?

It boils down to respect, prayer for your spouse... And years of trials.
---Susanna on 2/6/09


Gods way is my way his way is the TRUTH the WAY and the LIFE, no man cometh unto the father but by HIM.

If you don't have a bilbe may I suggest one that you can understand called the Holy Bible, The living bible can be used for understanding what the authors are talking about.

Don't listen to me read what the word of God is saying, How would anyone take what I am saying, God is the rule of Faith his word is there for Guidance.
---Carla5754 on 2/3/09


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--Carla5754
Can you explain to me and everyone here how you are blessed for every wrong WORD I have supposedly hurled at you ( can you also explain your understanding of all the other denominations perspective on this issue and not just yours <-- I think as a INFORMED christian you are going todo that ) . Understand this I am not questioning your faith, I am questioning your understanding of the issue and how you deal with people from different backgrounds and understanding of the word. Do not assume your perspective on the issue is the only way ( that is why we have so many different denominations ). I believe YOU and like minded individuals put christianity in a box ( do not confuse me with yourself as you stated in the previous post ).
---dee on 2/2/09


What you don't understand is I am blessed for every wrong word you hurl at me through the blood of Jesus Christ. I am a Black woman and understand that there are certain Asian sect's that wouldn't ask me to tie their shoe laces because I'm black, who cares I am a child of not a King but THE KING, Jesus Christ.

It is written in every bible I have read that the practice of marrying someone that is not a christian is forbidden.

If you don't understand that say so but stop putting the christian faith in a box just because it does not fit into YOUR own understanding.

Don't go there sister you don't know where I'm comming from and you also won't have the chance to trample my peals under foot I don't cast them everywhere!
---Carla5754 on 2/2/09


---Carla5754

You have no idea as to what I am referring too. Tell me something about the brothers/sisters from islam/judaism that I dont know already. How about I teach you something..no matter how you try to evangelize with them you will never get them to understand you. Because of the color of YOUR skin, plus you have no idea about their history or culture. I am being honest here on this forum, just to let you know I am gentile(non-white) who is a beleiver in CHRIST. I am sorry to say I dont accept the concepts percieved by most CONSERVATIVE & RESERVED christians.. Why you feel convicted about this marriage issue (what convicts YOU the WORD or the holy spirit which one is it)
---dee on 2/1/09


How many time do people have to refer to the word for the wellbeing of the person who needs advice on marrying out of faith someone who is in darkness.

Someone who is in darkness cannot see,someone who can see should not put on sunglasses rose petal ones or when they take them off they will be in for a shock.

The only thing they see (feel) is the THORNS ever had one in your flesh!

How clear is that!
---Carla5754 on 1/31/09


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dee, I don't know where your going about being brothers and sisters to the Islam faith unless you mean you are family to the Asian or Islam community?

However I grew up with muslims cut their hair and conversred with them before and let me tell you something you DON'T know, they will be friendly with you and live peaceably with you to a point where ever in USA or BRITAN but make no doubt about it Jehovah is NOT their God and they will tell it to you straight those that know their Koran You are classed as an infadel and their views are even worse since the War!
---Carla5754 on 1/31/09


is it more acceptable to marry a believer (born into a christian home) who chooses not to pratice or has no interest in their faith ?
---dee on 1/31/09


maybe those who have been in a releationship with a non-beleiver, had "HOPES" the other half would come around ? Is that why they say not todo it. Did YOU ever consider talking to your other half and letting them know what your intentions are after getting married ?
---dee on 1/31/09


I don't believe there is any judgment involved. There are a few scriptures advising against it. Unequally yoked, righteousness to do with unrighteousness, etc..A pastor in California confided in me that when he counseled couples concerning marriage and one was a non-believer he advised against it. The reason was that he had many women come back and tell him they were really sorry for not listening to him. Apparently promises made by the men never occurred. But some of the nicest people I've ever met were non-believers. Love is a powerful feeling. Pray for guidance and follow your heart.
---Bob on 1/30/09


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does anyone even understand the "2" perspectives on non-believers (or does all CONSERVATIVE & RESERVED christians classify them into one),I was referring too earlier. No one has responded to it, to my christian brothers & sisters who have been doctrinated and who live a "SHELTERED" life. Do you feel this way because of your CHRISTIAN obligation or are you convicted by the holy spirit to inform the believer. Why cant we assume the believer is strong in their faith, maybe we feel threatened. Because we know we are the weak believer, who doesn't know what it means to suffer for the lord ? Are we christians expecting to suffer during the time leading upto the rapture ?
---dee on 1/30/09


I think that the Corinthians verse about being sanctified through your marriage has to deal with you both not being saved before marriage, and one becoming a believer while married.
Why would God say not to be with a non believer because of being unevenly yoked.
He is obvioulsy warning us about getting into relationships with non believers. But..it is ones own choice to choose to do so.
I believe if you listen to your heart you will find the answers that you seek.
---josh on 1/29/09


I am going to go up at the top of the page...Can I marry an unbeliever? Answer...you can marry anyone you want to. Will God bless it? NO!
---catherine on 1/29/09


I would forget thinking that unbelievers all come wrapped up in a package sign marked Unbeliever, They don't......... they come in the name of Christianity too, believe that!

Someone in todays standard that equates to a non believer is someone that refuses to follow the guideline of salvation and that is in his daily worship,service, work, home and lifestyle all has to be seen to be working in the right direction of being born again and Christlike.

Otherwise you join the I hate my husband Crew!
---Carla5754 on 1/29/09


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i just want to know what is a non-believer ? someone who is a pagan worshipping and is on a path of self destruction or someone who follows ie. islam/judaism. Is their a difference in non-beleivers ? does this scripture apply to both perspectives ?
2 Cor 6:14-16, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship hath righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion hath light with darkness?
i didnt know my brothers and sisters in ie. islam/ judaism were following unrighteousness (have the same association to those of a non-believer who is pagan praticing).
---dee on 1/28/09


After reading through most replies on this site, I have come to a conclusion. My current situation: I was dating a non-believer (up until last night) and the constant struggle in myself as a believer was apparent, but because I'm a girl who believes in love, I swallowed it all and thought God will make it all OK somehow. God has a plan and no human can tell me God's plan for my life. I don't expect him to become a Christian any time soon, or ever, but I respect his beliefs and I love him. I want to marry him! I read the scripture and applied it to my situation as an attempt to justify it. Sure, it's not a sin to date or marry a non-believer, but the daily consequences you reap internally and spiritually really gnaw at you.
---kallie on 1/27/09


After reading through this site, I see the separation of human versus divine. Human emotions play into relationships SO MUCH! We get lost in that. Happiness is situational where God's joy is everlasting. The need to be loved is so apparent in so many of these blog replies! People want to be loved so much- including me. For all the believers out there- I know it's hard to wait on the Lord for a partner that you fear is going to be a dork and unattractive and not exciting. But really, God is GOOD and he is not trying to punish us! We are punishing ourselves by choosing to settle for less than God's best for us. Emotions are fleeting. We get hurt and cry and feel pain for a period of time, then we heal. God will not let us down.
---Kallie on 1/27/09


(Long statement- reply begins below) Be active in your decisions and understand and feel the consequences instead of ignoring them. Denial is not a state of Godliness. Also, God's strength is sufficient for every one of us. Learn HOW to rely on it. Seek it. It's there for you and it is powerful enough to get you through the most horrible situation that you may be in right now. If you're a believer and mad at God (I've been there, too) it's OK, He understands and yet will not leave your side. Talk to him in your anger, it speeds up the whole process somehow. Most importantly, pray for the non-believer, but don't pretend to be the hero or the martyr and sacrifice your own chance at a whole, fulfilling Godly marriage. You deserve more than that.
---Kallie on 1/27/09


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I am in a marriage to a non-believer. It is very difficult and I wish I would have turned to other Christians, God, or the Bible for answers before I took the plunge 6 years ago. We have had so many problems and my faith has been tested and challenged many times (daily). I am actually searching for advice and there is little once you are actually married... All you find is that you should not have married them,yet divorce is still wrong. People don't change because you want them to, they do it because they want to, and changing a non-believer is not up to you. To be blunt, God's Will is powerful, follow it, or prepare for the bumpiest ride of your life, without much help.
---amy on 1/11/09


The Bible says be not unequally yoked together with unbelievers.
---Jerry on 12/28/08


When I read the scripture II Cor. 6:14 my Study Bible explained that a yoke was when two different animals were put together unevenly for the purpose of a work (carrying, loading, etc...) and whatever you were trying to haul or carry would not topple over or be properly carried. Unless your marriage is "ministerial" to some degree or the person interferes with your development in Christ and pursuit of his work, it doesn't fall under the category of an unequal yoke. But I will remain prayerful with this topic.
---Patricia on 12/19/08


Luke 11:17 But he, knowing their thoughts, said unto them, Every kingdom divided against itself is brought to desolation, and a house divided against a house falleth.
---Vanessa on 11/19/08


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YES! Deuteronomy, 7:1-6
---Aharon on 11/19/08


Calvin
God does not conform to our will. We conform to His. If God says not to do something(marry a non believer) and we disobey, He will not step in and make things right. He will allow us to reap the consequences of our actions.
---pg1 on 11/19/08


Good Morning OnMyWay,
The Church at Corinth was not being led by non believers. In 1 Cor:1 Paul affirms their identity in Christ. The problem was that they were a carnal and immature church. Next, yoke means to be joined, bound or paired to something or someone. While Paul never uses the word in reference to marriage, the word can still be applied. See Genesis 2:24. Also, there are several Old Testament texts where God clearly commands the Israelites not to marry those of different religious backgrounds. With that said, 2 Cor.6:14 is applicable to marriage. A Christian is not to marry a non Christian because they will be unequally yoked.
---pg1 on 11/19/08


Did not Christ say love thy neighbor as you love yourself? Second Commandment wasn't it? I did see anything were it said love thy neighbor only if he is a believer or not.I think if we join in marriage and one is not a christian God sees that you are willing to take a chance and I believe he will change the mind of the non believer
---Calvin on 11/19/08


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I am thinking 'How can I explain this without being rude?' What part of your body do you think with? Intelligent people use their heads. Choosing a marriage partner for life should not be based on falling in LUST with someone. Having goosepimples or a fire in the belly(or other parts) is a chemical reaction, it is not LOVE. A lasting marriage is based on compatibility, shared ideas, shared hopes. A contract between two people is a practical thing, a legal binding thing. Having sexual relationships with people is spiritually binding, and to be fled from, outside of marriage. Apart from that, a child out of wedlock becomes a permanent connection to the person you sleep with. Abortion is not birth control it is murder.
---frances008 on 11/18/08


Agnostic ... being agnostic, you would not understand

If believed in an afterlife, and there was the choice of having great joy in that life, or not having that joy ... would you not want the person you love to have that joy?
---alan_of_UK on 11/18/08


Isn't it wrong not to marry someone solely based on there religious preference. Let's say you fall in love with someone who is not Christians, but he is a good man, treats you right, is very tolerant and respectful of your beliefs. Is is still wrong then to marry them. I think it's ridiculous to exclude other humans based on their religious preference.
---Agnostic on 11/18/08


you can marry a non-believer, and no it is not sin.
BUT, you open up a huge can of worms, so to speak.
You put added problems to an already uneven union. And, you might fall away from God in the process.
Why put yourself through this and end up lost and back in sin?
I say follow Pauls teachings and don't be unevenly yoked with someone.
---miche3754 on 11/11/08


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Paul was quite explicit when invoking marriage in his writings to Corinth. He never refers to it as a 'yoke', and the context of first Corinthians suggests non-believers were leading religious services attended by misguided Christians of Corinth, which would undoubtedly be a case of 'unequally yoked' or 'blind leading the near-sighted'.
Do not be unequally yoked to non-believers: do not accept the teachings of a non-believer (husband, wife, parent, or whatever) on their credit. Corinthians is clear on this.

Forgive and be forgiven, then you will be close to God and accept his guidance.
---OnMyWay on 11/2/08


It would be wrong because the bible says " what does light and darkness have to do with one another" "one should not be unequally yoked" you must be with someone of like mind faith because their baggage becomes your baggage and you don't want to carry on the burdens of a non-believer and spend your marriage life trying to change him with prayer.
---nikki on 10/28/08


II Cor. 6:14 is pretty explicit. You not only can't marry a non-believer but can't date one either. For that matter you can't work for one or be business partners with one. How much explaining does one need to know we have no right to be yoked in any form with non-believers?
Brooks
---Brooks on 9/2/08


Can someone please talk about Esther within this context? I'd like to hear what folks think about her situation.
---Kate on 9/2/08


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I was dating a non believer a week ago, but I cut it off when I knew it was not pleasing our God. May His will be done, blessed are those who have the will to obey...
---Panela on 9/1/08


Depends. Remember a church goer is not nesessarily a safe person, there a lot of non believers in church and many of them coupy positions of honor in their churches. They are judgemental, lacking self control, love, and a sense of edifying others, but if the person shows fear to God, then she or he is showing the potential to become safe. My brother went to Iran as a tourist, and in the midle of the muslim croud, he saw a person doing the sign of the cross as the catholics do, they that they both fear and love God Jehovah, God Almighty.
Then think about it, is it that our concept of believer stays only within our litle VIP circle of Christians?, then you are wrong.
GOD SEES THE INTENTION OF THE HEART.
STOP PLAYING GOD
---Walter on 8/25/08


Somethings to consider is how will you feel when something difficult happens in your life and your spouse won't pray with you? What about your children, without the both of you leading them toward Christ will they still find their way? Will your spouse go to church with you every Sunday? How will you feel having to go to church alone every Sunday if your spouse won't go? How do you explain to your children why your spouse doesn't go to church? What example will that set for them?
---Noelle on 6/7/08


i married a non-believer and after 4 1/2 years I am getting divorced. I would definitely think twice.
---caryn on 12/12/07


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I think you people are misguided on the meaning of 2 Corinthians 6:14-17. This is not a passage about marriage it is about setting yourself apart from the wicked and not tolerating evil in your life. Dont be burdened by holding on to sinfulness, as thou you are yoked to it. Correct me if I am wrong but I dont think anywhere in the bible is marriage referred to as a yoking.
---trevor on 12/11/07


1 Corinthians 7:14 "For the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband, otherwise your children would be unclean" Genesis 2:24 "Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife" Mathew 19:6 "So then, they are no longer two but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let not man separate." 2 Timothy 2:13 "If we are faithless, He remains faithful, He cannot deny Himself."
---trevor on 12/11/07


So let think about this. If GOD joins you to your wife, and you are now one flesh, and he dwells in you (2 Corinthians 6:16) . He will never remove your salvation nor will He yolk himself to evil. It cannot be sinful to be married to a non believer and any children you have will be holy.
---trevor on 12/11/07


THAT BEING SAID, do not enter into this situation lightly you will encounter many struggles that you would not have if you were married to someone born again. The evil one will use him/her to get to you and you will be the subject of many spiritual attacks. Ask your self Am I willing to fight for this person every single day for the rest of our lives? Am I willing to be the subject of many, many, spiritual attacks? If you answer NO, then you may want to consider your choice.
---trevor on 12/11/07


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Corinthians 1:7:12

Look it up. ,)
---Kyle on 10/16/07


This goes deeper than just marrying a non-believer. When a person is saved, blood bought child of God, and filled with the Holy Spirit, that person is yielding to the leadings and teachings of the HOLY Spirit. The other force upon this earth is satan, and his evil cohorts. If you are not saved, then you are not yielding to the Holy Spirit, you are yielding to evil spirits even though that is very hard to swallow. "The whole world lies in the power of the evil one" 1 John forget the exact verse.
---Donna on 9/20/07


Ok, new question relating to this. What if the person I am considering marrying is catholic and unsaved? is this unbiblical?
---Ian on 9/20/07


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