Move On After Broken Heart
I have rather complicated question. How do you let go of someone you love, you know its over, but in your heart it's as if nothing ever changed. I know you never get over someone you love but how do you move on?
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---Karen on 5/24/05
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i dont have the answer to that one but I need the answer... so when you find out let me know because im struggling with that one too... |
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---Roze on 8/27/09 |
You should find hope in my response. I was right there with you about 6 years ago when the father of my son would not reconcile with me but chose to marry someone else. It hurt so much that I walked around with a pain in my heart so heavy that I found it hard to concentrate.
But nothing happens quickly - even the seasons take months to change completely. The only way to get over it is to go through it and that means praising God every day and asking Him to take the burden from you. I promise you....if you are willing to practice letting go and giving it to God...you will be healed. |
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---cathy on 7/10/09 |
I don't know but that is exactly what I am trying to figure out. Every day I think, I'm over it now, and then something hits me and I fall apart. I just don't know. |
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---Annie on 7/7/09 |
Dated 2 yrs. He got saved last year. i've been saved for 15yrs. I'm 25 he is 29. one afternoon we were in his car and saw a gentleman struck by a bus. we stopped to help, the injured was leaning on a parked car. the owner of the parked car came out started cursing and pushed the injured off his car, i started cursing him back, flipped out and kicked his car. My boyfriend said that we were over, i was a poor reflection of him and the two years together were negated by this one time event. God keeps me going but it is hard. The only thing my ex wants to do is bible study which is a blessing but he wont address our issue or take me back and says he doesnt care if i dont want to wait till he is ready to take me back. Help. |
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---Lysa on 6/23/09 |
i knw its really hard to move on when the love is still their.. but your not helping yourself if you continue loving that person, think of yourself, its not him who will get hurt but its you.. just think that there's a reason why you have to let go be hurt.think positive and im sure this experience will make you a stonger and better person. its not the end of world.. who knows you will encounter much more loving person...cheer up |
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---jewel on 6/23/09 |
Well I had this relation..I belived she was the one..spend days night every second of my life for her.Every day she told me she would never live without me....The being born in India means we had families who are supposed to let us marry finally she came to me and told her parents wont let her marry me and she cant marry me..Today am empty..wishing everyday she was back..Feeling will i ever be able to love ever again..Lost without words |
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---Sun_and_it_rays on 6/19/09 |
Hey, I recently went through a break up myself I was convinced he was the one but guess what he had other plans.. and than he would want me back I went back and then he wouldnt need me.. I felt like a yo-yo and that shouldnt be.. I believe God has more than one person out there for you but we just have to be patient also when other people ask about you guys just say whats ment to be will be you dont have to go into the whole story because thats like reopening the wound.. Trust in God he will supply your needs.. I know its tough but at least you can figure out what you want you dont have to arrange your day around someone elses plans.. |
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---Vanessa on 6/15/09 |
My boyfriend recently split up with me, due to the fact we keep putting one another before God and I understand how we need space to grow in the Lord apart. He says wants to be with me in the future, and wants to see if it's God's will for us to be and so he has to treat me as a friend for now, and as a result, all emotion towards me from him has gone. I love him, but isn't the way he's going about things slightly unfair to me? |
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---R on 5/25/09 |
I know what you are going through. My girlfriend just broke up with me.I thought we were great together,got along awesome,never fought and always had fun together.She even told me we were great together.The problem with us was she was recently divorced in an unhealthy,corrupt marriage.We hooked up too fast for her,but we got along soo good,I thought she could be the one I would marry down the road.She still talks to her ex which makes it hard on her with what she has been through.I too am really heartbroken and have been praying for God to heal her emotionally and mentally and bless her and to have his will in my life even though I don't understand when two people love each other that much.Please pray for me also. |
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---troy on 3/23/09 |
The reality of it is hard to let go. The only thing you can do is start loving you. And erase all the pain. Think of this as a life experience. And it is not your fault. And it is not meant to be. Obviously, that person does not want it as you do. So moved on. You are suffering from heartache then face it. It will get easier each day. Speaking from my experience....Chelle:) |
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---Chelle on 9/15/08 |
The saying "time heals all wounds" sounds trite I know. However, experience has taught me that it is very true. Your "wounds" never completely heal, they scab up, may leave scars and eventually the pain begins to lessen.You go on, but are reminded of what not to do or what to do next time when you look at the scar. |
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---TT on 12/15/07 |
Yes, you can get over another human being.
To not do so is to hold that person up as an idol in your heart. God says not to love anyone over and beyond Him.
Dwelling on another person can become an obsession and that's not healthy.
Love is really not feelings, love is a choice.
You can be in a loveless marriage as far as feelings are concerned and still love that person by honoring the commitment you made to God to love that person through good and bad. |
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---lovable_linda on 12/4/07 |
I still struggle daily to forget and move on. The thing is you can't forget when you love someone. The feelings remain but the person is gone. It's like he's died, but hasn't and my feelings remain the same. It's definitely a process of grieving and its been 15 months. My faith lies in that God knows better than I and has something better for me. I struggle just to get through each day. |
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---TT on 12/4/07 |
I found out you never realize it was love untill its gone, am still not able to get over it, anyone please help? |
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---alex on 12/2/07 |
Dear Karen, I feel your pain! You are grieving over your loss. THIS TAKES TIME. Unfortunately, we don't have funerals for lost loves. Be sure you are a born-again Christian. If not, ask Jesus into your heart; He is our first love always. Find a Bible believing church and make friends there, read the Word of God, ask the Lord to send you a mature Christian to guide you and learn to love Jesus with all your heart. He will heal your wounds and move you on to an even better relationship. Blessings! |
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---Elsie on 4/2/07 |
The only thing you really can do is pray and ask God for guidance. you're right, you'll never forget or completely get over someone you've loved, but God can and will (if you'll allow Him) help you use those feelings to do wonderful things (including building your capacity to love others) in His Name. |
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---Heather on 8/10/05 |
understand you are important. If someone totally shattered you for his own sake. I put all my burdens in God's hands and take it one day at a time. Be good to yourself. pray give everything to God daily. I'am a survivor phil 4-7. you are precious too. |
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---inez on 8/9/05 |
I ask the same question.June20th was 2 yrs since our divorce.I have been with him since I was 15&he was 18.25 years later he says he no longer loves me&moves out to be happy. 21 months after the divorce he remarries. |
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---alesia on 8/2/05 |
I just saw my ex with women he left me for today. he isn't going to change. I work 2 jobs and involved in childrens programs when I can. busy don't remove loneliness. |
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---Laureen on 5/29/05 |
Laureen, I'm living overseas but I have the privlege to listen to Dr Laura on the American Forces Network.I know what she would say. You have to shut the door on your ex to protect them from further disappointments.I'm sure he is your EX for very good reasons, so you must take a stand until he proves his worthiness. This action may cause him to wake up to himself but enabling him to be irresponsible isn't going to change him. Be strong and show your kids a strong female role model when their father wont. |
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---lisa on 5/29/05 |
You are right you have a complicated question,and Jesus knows the answer to that. But I found in my divorce that forgiveness was hard,but once God helped me with that,I quite letting it rule my life, busy yourself helping others,and you want have time to worry about your heart,God has plans spend time with him. |
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---glady5446 on 5/29/05 |
I am in your place right now. I have an ex-husband who knows I love him, and keeps coming back only to abandon me and our children again. He is the only man to show any interest in me. I wonder if he was the one God gave me but Ex turned back on God too. so If he is Gods chosen for me but ex denies this am I not to have some one? |
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---laureen on 5/28/05 |
Pray Lord help me to let go of this person I love and heal me emotionally. Help me to forgive those who hurt me. I ask in Jesus name. Jn15:16 16:23,24,26 Mt6:14,15 21:22 James 5:16 It is important for you enotionally to forgive. |
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---Ulrika on 5/26/05 |
Read Romans 8:28 And we know that all things work together for good to them that love God, to them who are the called according to his purpose. So, the way I let go of someone I loved was to realize that God would work it out for the good of both of us. I just had to have faith in God's Word and realize that no matter what, God would work it out for my good and the good of the person that I loved. (Still do, always will love) |
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---Karen on 5/25/05 |
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I think the bottom line is faith in God. Fearing that you will not find another, you settle for second best, because deep down you don't trust God to bring someone else. This is my greatest fear. Sometimes I'm strong and then my mind brings all these negative thoughts. It's a struggle dont you think? |
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---lisa on 5/25/05 |
Hope my experience will help u. After I'd stopped seeing my special friend, I got myself preoccupied with secular work n church work like evangelism. I also made new friends on the net.Memorising n meditating certain Bible verses eg:Psa 37:4-5, 27:14 helps me to focus on God instead of thinking about him. Lastly,1 has pray that someone better will come along in God's
timing. |
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---Karen on 5/25/05 |
As others have said, you need to put yourself into new adventures and spend time with friends or make new ones. Just after I became a Believer, I fell, hard, for a girl at a Bible study; didn't even get a date with her. After coming back for a short visit many years later, she didn't even want to see me, had some weird idea I wanted to 'try again.' I had many new friends out here, only wanted to discuss the LORD; oh well. |
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---danie9374 on 5/24/05 |
I'm in the same situation, but its me who is making the decision to leave, although I still have feelings for him and he is a good person, but something is missing, and sometimes I'm not sure if its just me and that I could be making a huge mistake to leave. I'm confused and torn. HELP! and if I leave, I'm going to the other side of the earth where I live. It's a 24 hour plane ride home. I feel like I have the weight of the world on me. |
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---llisa on 5/24/05 |
From past experience, I have discovered that they get better. When you love someone and loose them, it is because they were not the one for you, if he was, you would not have lost him. The next one will be even better. I thougnt I couldnt do better than the last one but I have one now that is the absolute best, He will be with me forever. |
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---pat on 5/24/05 |
Dear Karen,
You are in my prayers. I can feel with you. Jesus is the Healer and the medical care, He takes control of everything. I find the comment of Elsie very good "unfortunately, we dont have funerals for lost loves". It would be easier to let them go, wouldnt be?. Know you are loved and we pray for you. Lilie |
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---Lilie on 5/24/05 |
In time you will see things clearer and brighter.I would like to help more if i can. I have been in your situation before.God hasd marked someone special for you.Your last love was not the one.Email me if you like. God Bless Karen |
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---Lorraine on 5/24/05 |
Dearest Karen, When you think of your lost love, you probably think of all the wonderful, kind, caring things you did together.But if this was so true why did he walk away.Love is a mystycal condition.You can fall inlove with someone good or bad and later wonder what happened to your judgement.I am sure he was a good person, but not good enough for you or he would have never let you go, right? |
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---Lorraine on 5/24/05 |
Dear Karen! God cares for you! Give all your burdens to Him.This is a great burden,I agree,but only if you choose to carry it!YOu need to give it to the Lord.Imagine puting it in a box and giving it to God,letting Him take it.You'll be amazed how easy you will feel.just give that person to God.And He will reprace it with peace a great joy! Ask God to take it from you and don't take it back when He does take it away.Fill your heart with the Word and encaurage yourself with psalms and spiritual songs |
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---nigar on 5/24/05 |
You ask God to help you. He can "fix" all aches and pains. God bless you...from one who knows. |
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---Karyn on 5/24/05 |
I have wondered this myself.
But everyone says - Take a step.
Some else told me - Thank God for the relationship. Thank God for the good and the bad. And some how taking a step gets easier everyday"
But the hard part is just standing still - why do you need to remember? To sulk to be bitter or to praise the Lord? To feel justified in your position? Each day you begin to forget by filling your life with new steps. Turning back turned Lot's wife into a pillar of salt. |
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---barbara67 on 5/24/05 |
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