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Is it alright to ask God for a certain type of mate? Meaning what type of figure they should have, the type of look, no children or a certain number, maybe even cute. Is this right to do? I know many who seem to judge people who are great but don't meet a certain "TYPE"..

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Well,I'm sure God won't make us marry someone we don't like the looks or personality of but remember it is the inner person who matters most.No matter how good looking looks will fade with age.The charactor and personality will stay the same.
---shirley on 2/6/08


You can ask,sure.Why not? But it seems to be very vain and pretentious to me. I think the better choice would be to ask the Lord for a mate and then you set out to do your part,also. The figure,no kids,certain look criteria. Choose from among that group.If you find her, give God the glory.But what we want is not always what we need.God will send what we need,most times.His ways and thoughts are not like ours. Remember that as well.
---Robyn on 2/6/08


You can ask God. Does not mean that He will honor your request. Knowing God He may just give you the very opposite.>>> I am serious.
---catherine on 2/6/08


Well, God knows what your external preferences are, so you might as well admit them. However, the end of Proverbs 31 applies, as well. To apply, "Looks are deceitful and charm is useless, but a man who fears the Lord shall be praised." The real question is, "Will this person make a spouse who will bring me closer tothe Lord, and I him (or her)--or will be become millstones around each other's necks and pull each other away from Him?"
---Jack on 2/6/08


My suggestion to you would be to ask God to lead you to the person he has chosen for you. Regardless of this persons looks, financial status, number of children, etc, if God has chosen this person for you that should be all that matters.
---Sam on 6/4/07




Be careful with how you pray. Whatever God gives you is what you have to contend with ..no questions asked. He knows your future and your future wive's future also. He knows all.If you choose the above, may God bless you if its His will.At times, women with a child or 2 can be beneficial to you too . ..who knows, you may never have the ability to produce offsprings.
---jana on 9/27/06


Judith, it is fine to ask for what kind of spouse you want. Abraham asked for a certain kind of wife for Isaac. I think it is foolish not to. Just be careful, pray, and make sure the guy is, in fact, the Lord's choice for you.
---D.R. on 8/10/05


"Be careful what you pray for - you might get it." You seem to just be concerned about outwards apperances. There is nothing wrong with this, and you can certainly pray for it. But, let me tell you outward apperances are not the best judge of character. I've been married 41 years - and it's been great and while she is pretty, she would not win a Mrs. American contest, but her character is unblimished. (Matthew 21:22) You might be better off just praying God will give you the right mate.
---WIVV on 8/10/05


From experience I learned a relationship baced on looks, does not last. You need to love eachother.
---Ulrika on 5/30/05


God knows your interest and type. I don't know that it is wrong. It is the people who judge the "out side"
---laureen on 5/28/05




I heard that if you want to make God laugh tell him what you are going to do tomorrow.
---gregg on 5/28/05


You know what? You can ask God for anything you want but, in the end it is HIS decision so why bore him with details. Stop judging by what people look like, what career they have, how rich they are or what you can get out of it. Meet people because they are human and looking for same things and stop the picky judging. We are all the same in God's eyes. If he wants you to marry a large man/woman who is unemployed has 9 kids and lives in a trailer than LOOK OUT cause he can make it happen!! :-)
---Marla on 5/28/05


I believe in letting God pick the one for me, He did it twice, and I had two wonderful marriages. I am thankful for those Christ centered husband, that the Lord lent me for those years that they lived. Praise the Lord.
---betty7694 on 5/28/05


Isn't it "Mormon "theology that all marriages are arranged from heaven?
---1st_cliff on 5/28/05


They are only hurting themselves when they must stick with a certain "type". They could be missing the one God has for them. If I had to stick with a certain "type" I would not be with the wonderful man I have now and he is the most wonderful man I have ever met. NO WAY was I going to meet someone on line and certainly in another country. LOL. God had different plans and I am glad He did.
---Pat on 5/28/05


well why not, if you want to be successfull in your life you pray for it. Why not ask God for a certain type of mate. God may laugh at me i would ask for a tall, big built , dark man that would cherish me love me , take care of me be very sexy and loved lots of holding. God will bless you with a good man that lives in Christ maybe he will through in everything you want to..........
---lorie4334 on 5/28/05


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You should be praying for God's will, not your own; God always has your best interest at heart; just trust Him and He will find the right mate for you
---antha6445 on 5/28/05


A lady speaking at a Christian women's group said as a teen she wrote a list of everything she wanted in a husband. She prayed God would find him for her.When she went to college a teacher met the qualifications and she had been married many years to him,they had been very happy.James 4:3 The Bible says you have not because you ask not,when you do its to consume it upon your lust.Loving each other-being well matched,isn't lust.It's wisdom to know what you want and not just take anyone you can get.
---Darlene_1 on 5/28/05


Hi Judith - tried that and it doesn't work...I suggest you ask God for a partner but leave your partner 'type' to Him and know that he has the perfect match for you - you may be surprised, but just know He has your best interests at His heart and yours. Love to you, Tricia.
---Tricia on 5/28/05


Judith, I think that your feelings are very normal and in order.
---Albert on 5/28/05


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If you HONESTLY want God's choice then you can't be picky...I get tired of men telling me that I am a great gal but because I do not have a Barbie figure that they're not interested...I know what I am like on the inside and that to me is more important than looks or anything else....when I get someone it will be His choice and I won't have to worry about sitting in divorce court like the men who were selfish in what they wanted instead of what God had for them....He always has His BEST for us!
---Fran8674 on 5/28/05


Dear Judith: Asking God for anything is acceptable as long as it is in keeping with His will. He judges by belief and attitude of the heart. (See Philippians 4:6, Ephesians 6:18, and Matthew 7:7-8.) Be sure both "TYPE" persons are born-again, Bible believing Christians who see things similarly, who really communicate and who are not "unevenly yoked". (See 2 Corinthians 6:14-7:1) Blessings!
---Elsie on 5/28/05


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