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I am 60 and just lost my husband and I need someone to talk to. I feel so helpless and alone. Is there anyone there who can help me cope?

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My heart goes out to you and I hurt for you. I know what you are feeling. When I lost my husband,(07)I was totally alone. My friends didn't even call me. It is the hardest thing I ever went thru. God's grace has been sufficient for me. God has never left me alone. If I can help you, contact me shira3877
---shira3877 on 1/12/11


I to just lost my husband of stage 4 lung cancer. November 21, 2010. Its the hardest thing I've ever gone through. I miss him more than words can say. We was married 33 years he was my life & now I don't feel I have a life. I did everything for him and withhim.I have my church family but thats not the same. I have my grand kids I'm raising but its still harder than anyone can ever know unless your here. So I can say I know what your going through. I.m right where your at. Everybody says it will get easier, but when?
---sdoss on 1/11/11


Jeannie, please go to a VA office and carry your husbands214 showing he was exposed to agent orange. The VA will compensate you. Americans are dying everyday from agent orange. My husband died from agent orange when he was exposed in Ben Hoa vietnam. Please get your papers together and go to VA immediately.
---shira3877 on 1/6/11


I, too, just lost my husband, on Dec.31, 2010, I believe to cancer. Doctors were not sure what all was wrong. I am surrouded by family now, but what happens afterwards when you are alone. I am dreading it. I am 61. My husband was 65. I felt too young to die. Hard to come to terms with it. Know that I am praying for you and thanking God for helping us. D
---Dale on 1/6/11


I lost my husband on july14,2010 from prostate cancer. I am so devastated. My Bobby was the love of my life. My heart is breaking. It is so hard to go on without him. I don't know which end is up most of the time. I feel like I just don't fit into this world anymore. I want to be with him so bad.
Joy
---joy_ann_miller on 1/6/11




Jessica: This blogsite is very much needed and very helpful to others. There are people here who are willing to help others. Genuine christians who show real love and understanding and follow the teachings of Jesus Christ. Not judgemental or harsh toward others. Satan has not taken over completely. Jesus still reigns Supreme! I would not tell someone what you said in your post. Only speak for yourself. I have offered friendship, email comfort, penpal exchange,prayer partnering & intercession and even meeting face to face with others. So help is available to others here at this blogsite. I am one who reaches out constantly to those who need and desire some type christian interaction.
---Robyn on 1/6/11


Take hope all widows. GOD had special feelings/instructions concerning widows and orphans. Appeal to GOD confident knowing this.
We will pray for your situations also. Help those helping you to fulfill GODs instruction to their blessing.

1 Timothy 5:16
If any man or woman that believeth have widows, let them relieve them, and let not the church be charged, that it may relieve them that are widows indeed.
James 1:27
Pure religion and undefiled before God and the Father is this, To visit the fatherless and widows in their affliction, and to keep himself unspotted from the world.
---Trav on 1/5/11


I am 60 and just lost my husband a week ago, and it is very hard. It seems like I am alone in all of this. I guess I was just in denial about his imminent death. He was diagnosed with stage 4 cancer about 10 mos ago, and I tried so hard to find a treatment that would help him. I have given up my life to help him, and am left with next to nothing...He was an agent orange veteran, and I am left with many bills, and only a small pension. It has been very disturbing. I love him very much, and feel his love surrounding me, but it has been a real eye opener. Please continue to contact me..I will give you the support you may need.
---Jeannie_Lillegaard on 1/5/11


You are not alone, God is with you. It is at this kind of times that you get closer to God. Lean on Him. Remember that He is making sure that you would receive much more better by clearing things away from you. Look beyond that loss and the joys that await you.
God Bless.
---callalily on 8/13/10


Much peace, Joy and Love to you. God knows your crys, and is going through your pain with you. I love you sister..and you will be in my prayers, and my thoughts. Have you thought about going to a support group by where you live? or drown yourself in Gods word, he has the anwsers you are looking for. I will be looking for your comments if you have something more to say. Much love to you. I hope you know even just a piece of how much you are Loved by Jesus ,our friend, God, saviour, all powerfull, majestic creator.
---Jennifer on 8/12/10




I am looking for the same thing. I am only 20, but my husband passed 2 days before our little girl was to turn 2 months old. He was my everything. I thought I was doing okay, but now, 4 months later, I realize I'm losing my mind. I've prayed about it and I feel like I need to find more people that have been through the same thing to help me with my loss.
---Kristy on 8/11/10


Loneliness: Darkness: Isolation: The only way out for you is God. It will pass. Allow God to strengthen you in this most terrifying time of ones life. He can help, my friend.++
---catherine on 8/9/10


Patty: This is such a delicate subject. Please forgive me if I say some things that seem insensitive. This is what I have found out. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I do understand how you feel. I lost a young son two yrs ago. My heart is yet healing. My family was some help. When all is said and done, Jesus will be the only one who can pull you through this. Get in the Word and let it be a comfort to you. Pray a lot and ask God to help you. Stop looking to people. They mean well but are too selfish,insensitive or just plain don't know how to show love to others in need. I don't mean this disrespectfully, this is just the truth. Jesus is the only one who can help us.
---Robyn on 8/9/10


I need to talk to someone. I just lost my husband May 13, 2010 we were only married for 18 months. He lost his fight with brain cancer and he was only 29. I feel so alone. All my family lives several thousand miles away and I don't know how to talk to his family about how I'm feeling. Sometimes I find myself crying for no apparent reason and I can't keep everything inside any more. Any advice or help would be greatly appreciated!
---Misti on 8/6/10


My husband died a month ago age 49 of liver cancer. We were married 18 years. I just had my 49th birthday this month. I am missing him sooo much and I do feel lonely at times. He is the only man for me. We were everything to each other. I know how you feel cause I am going through too. What helps for me is that God is carrying me through this and I have my bible study classmates praying for me and the class helps me to express how I feel. I encourage you to get involved in a small bible study class like the one I am in. Much peace and blessings to you.
---gretchen on 5/25/10


I feel for you that your husband has past on. It sounds like you really loved him alot and Im pretty sure he must have loved someone like you alot also. The good news is if he was a Christian, you did not loose him, he went home. The other good news is you had someone to love and be loved by for all those wonderful years. As Christian you will see him again and there will be no more death there,no more sorrow tears or pain every tear will be wiped away. Some people say that when we leave here we are a sleep. Some say we are immediately in the presence or God, I don't know. But I do believe that the next thing you are aware of as a christian is the presence of God. If you are and He be in Christ you are still together in the body of Christ.
---Tiffany on 5/20/10


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I feel for you that your husband has past on. It sounds like you really loved him alot and Im pretty sure he must have loved someone like you alot also. The good news is if he was a Christian, you did not loose him, he went home. The other good news is you had someone to love and be loved by for all those wonderful years. As Christian you will see him again and there will be no more death there,no more sorrow tears or pain every tear will be wiped away. Some people say that when we leave here we are a sleep. Some say we are immediately in the presence or God, I don't know. But I do believe that the next thing you are aware of as a christian is the presence of God. If you are and He be in Christ you are still together in the body of Christ.
---Tiffany on 5/20/10


Hi my name is Ann, I just lost my husband 17 days ago to pancreatic cancer he was only 44. I cry every day he was my best friend and I miss him so much. I am trying to understand why God took him from me so soon. I know I will see him again but it seems so long away. He was a good person which I am sure your husband was. It just seems so hard to move on. You can e-mail me anytime.
---Ann on 5/17/10


Hi. My name is Lindsey. I am very sorry for your loss and feel very sad along with you. On the other hand, we can be assured that through every difficult trial God sends our way He will make us stronger. Maybe when you are ready you will be able to help others in similar situations by speaking to them about how God carried you through this time. I will pray for you that He might give you comfort and strength to realize His very different plan for your life. Maybe God will open different doors for you which will give you back the joy in your heart.
---Lindsey on 4/24/10


Hi my name is Scarlet. I read your blog. I also would like help with blogging. But I was so sad to hear about your husband. Just keep your faith and know that you are not alone. You will have a lot of people, I am sure praying for you. I hope you the best of luck. Just thank God for what he has done for you. He hears your prayers and will never leave you nor forsake you. He is on your side.
---Scarlet on 4/23/10


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yes i feel your pain and i know what you are going through, i too lost my husband to pancreatic cancer 2 months ago and i am 63. most of my days are so sad, always have these tears in my eyes and i also feel alone and helpless. so i know where you are and i do feel your pain.it is'nt easy but perhaps we can help each other. please email me and we can talk. regards carole.
---carole on 4/22/10


I lost my husband July 11th 2008. I know how you feel if that helps.Sometimes I wonder if I will ever quit crying.I am going to start volunteering my time and maybe that will help.I miss him so much and though I know he's finally home with the Lord I wish I could hold him one more time and hear his voice.Just keep your feet planted firm and stand.One day you will see him again.We were married 48yrs.I am 64.His 70th birthday was in heaven.God bless you.Nancy
---Nancy on 10/16/08


Patty/Patricia:-Death is an inevitability.a journey from Point "A" to point "B"Its unfortunate that the journey does not coincide, but one must stay behind, to pick up the pieces and maintain a semblance of order with the remanants of the Family in the mosaic of Gods Puzzle.You have been chosen for this task.This means you must now direct your energies and steer the ship to keep it on course.So you charter a new course to move on to the destination which is chosen by God for you.These are my findings after many,many years of sharing with my co-captain.May you find the same resourcefullness that I did after understanding the situation.Blessings.
---MIC on 9/12/08


I lost my wife 6 years ago now, and still find it difficult to cope.
I hope you find someoe to talk to
---alan_of_UK on 9/11/08


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Phyllis, I'm sorry for your lose. I loved my wife so much so know what you are going through.
I remember reading a booklet by Charles Stanley. He said there was nothing wrong with saying, "God, why did you allow this to happen? What was Your purpose for it?" After all God is omnipotent, therefore He could have prevented every hardship in our lives. The fact that He chose not to do so is important, and we can grow closer to Him by understanding His reasons. The most evident purpose for our trails is to test our faith. He test us in order for us to learn greater dependence on Him. Peter makes a claim in 1:6-7 that trials offer us opportunities to prove our faith. God's faithfulness during our tense times glorifies Him.
---Mark_V. on 9/10/08


Hi,I know how you feel and what your going through right now,feels like someones ripping out your insides,my wife bailed on me 5 days ago when the our budget got tough,but I prayed and read the bible and the Lords says to not close the door on her,she's not perfect,and neither am I, I love her and witl patiently wait,I got home last thursday and she was gone,and her clothes,no note,no nothing,I know just how you feel,hang in there,be nice,read the bible,chat with people,stay busy,and don't close the door,our Lord says when we marry,we marry for life,we made vows to our Lord,Im in love with my wife,I will not close her door to come back,she did not leave me for another,God bless you and you can talk anytime.
---Glenn on 9/8/08


Beloved,
I am still waiting to hear from you at my email address. I have offered friendship,love and prayer. It is up to you to accept it. The offer still stands. I pray you are much better today.
I have suffered a terrible tragedy since I made the offer to you.
I lost my much loved 24 yr old son but I will still pray for you and your loss,as well.
God loves us so much. He will take care of us. Trust Him,honey.
---Robyn on 9/8/08


I have an aunt that was married for about 30 years who recently lost her husband, and I am told that she is acting strange. You have to allow for adjustment time. Prayer helps, pastoral counseling, and there should be some social organizations and support groups (you could check the phone book: the local government section for social program help, some outpatient groups connected to hospitals, and the yellow pages for support groups where others are dealing with the same life changes that you are) which can help you through the grieving process and restructuring your life and alone time to being single again.
---Eloy on 9/1/08


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I do not wish to make things worse, but you must change your mindsent and be confident that God has taken your loved ones to Heaven and that they are in a BETTER place than this world. If you are a Christian, they were sanctified by you, they did not desert you, so they are members of the family. One day your time will come to join them and until then you have to praise God as Job did. For the Lord giveth and the Lord taketh away, Blessed be the name of the Lord.
---frances008 on 8/31/08


HI, I JUST LOST MY HUSBAND OF 37 YEARS LAST MONDAY, I KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH. ALL I DO IS SIT AND CRY, I FEEL LIKE MY HEART HAS BEEN RIPPED FROM MY CHEST, IT IS NICE TO TALK TO SOMEONE, I PRAY TO GOD EVERY DAY TO HELP ME THOUGH THIS BUT I AM STILL LOST.
---PHYLLIS on 8/31/08


Patty I offered friendship and a listening ear to you at my email address a week or so ago. I am still waiting to hear from you. I am praying for you as well.I do care. I also need to check my inbox to see if you have written me. If not-the offer still stands. I love you dear...bye for now.
---Robyn on 8/19/08


My heart goes out to you who have lost a loved one. But finding comfort on these blogs is nothing compared to a real person - a close friend or pastor. You need an understanding heart and a professional will not do because his/her heart isn't into your grief.

As for me, when someone dies I introduce the grieving spouse to children or young adults to see each other on a regular basis for a month or two. I also introduce them to other adults their own age for continued company. Having other people around you at a time of grieving helps considerably. (search for "one another" and "each other" in an online bible for more information)

Remember though Pray always for comfort by the Holy Spirit.
---Steveng on 7/22/08


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Did you lose him through divorce?
Are you separated?
There's many ways to lose someone. Some husbands simply run away from their families.

I don't think bloggers can offer you the comfort you need. How about seeking professional help?
---jessica on 7/22/08


hello dear,

the Lord Himself promises to be the Husband of widows

i pray the Lord comforts you and fills the vacuum for you
i also pray that He gives you carinf friends for support
may the Lord protect and keep you, may He cause His face to shine upon you and give you His peace in Jesus Name
---patience on 7/22/08


My heart is saddened by all of your posts. It's so hard to lose someone and it's also hard to see someone grieve and not be able to make it all better. You are not alone, but I know you miss him. It's ok to miss him, you are entitled to that. But it will get easier, I promise. Something I always find helpful, a bit crazy, but helpful, is to ask Jesus, when I pray to tell my loved one hello and that I miss them and that I can't wait to see them again. I do that and it helps me. Jesus - please cover these people, all who have lost someone. Comfort them until the time comes again when we will all be reunited. Thank you.
---kate on 7/15/08


Dear Penny, Words are not going to console you , but remember there are many who have read what you have written and are secretly praying for you . The Lord will pour forth his grace upon you .. as Job was healed of his loss of his children , so will you be healed. How..I do not know but the Lord Jesus I believe in is also a man who wept when he came to the tomb of Lazarus.
---Joy on 7/13/08


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Yes there is someone who can help you cope. Jesus. There's healing in the name. You can talk to us all you want you can tell many but until you call on him to heal you...you will never be healed. May the Lord bless you with peace during your time of need. He can fill all you needs all your desires.
---dayce on 7/13/08


HELLO,
My name is Penni Helms from NC... I just lost my precious husband on June 28,2008,
my heart feels like it is being ripped out
of my chest, I miss him so much, I read your
post and was wondering HOW you are doing?
If you would like to talk you can post
on here and maybe we could email back
and forth..I am 46..This is so hard,
I feel all alone, all the decisions
now are mine to make, change is hard,
I mis shim so! God will give us HIS
strength, peace and comfort to walk
one foot in front of the other, and get
through each day, GOD BLESS YOU!
in Jesus,
Penni
---Penni on 7/13/08


i know how u feel it is not fun it is verry pain full.on the other hand i am adopted and know verry little of the birthside so it make it harder to know what closeness is untell i had my son need to talk u can e-mail me
---jennifer on 3/13/08


I lost my husband Richard to prosate cancer on Feb 21, 2008. I know exactly how you are feeling. I am still in shock and am feeling your same feelings. It seems like I just need to talk to someone who will just listen.
---Julie on 3/1/08


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Having lost many loved ones through the years I can definitely sympathize with both writers. Grieving is a process and you have to let it take its course. I'd pray that Jesus help me carry the cross burden of my grief. And, he would. One thing I learned after my first few losses - never put all your focus on one person. Make sure to have some good friends besides your mate. If all the focus is on your mate then the loneliness will be that much more intense should they die before you.
---Ginette on 2/21/08


Iam 47 and I just lost my husband .One year, Feb 26, 08. I am so lost also. He was my high school sweetheart. My everything. Together 30 years. Now I am running his business, my business and hoping I can keep the house we just purchased 2 years ago. I am so afraid. I miss him and some times I dont want to be here anymore.I cry alot! I mean alot!! I pray and ask God why.. WHY?? I want to be with him. Please respond when you want. Just need someone to talk to that might be in my shoes.
---Debrah_Lee_Smith on 2/18/08


I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine how you feel. But God knows EXACTLY how you feel, and everything about you, and He will lead you back out of the dark. He is really the one who can help you cope. I don't know if I can help, but you can email me on the sight anytime. I am a good listener, anyway. Blessings to you!
---Tanya1566 on 2/9/08


I know how you feel and I just lost my husband too. I am 42 and he was only 35 when he went up to heaven. Maybe we could both help each other. I feel so lonely without him.
---Sonia on 4/19/07


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I recently lost my husband at the age of 45 we did not have insurance we believed that we would pay everything for before we died. well that didnt happen. everyone says join a group. Well agroup dont pay the bill. I have been a housewife and mother for 27 years. Who wants to hire me with just housewife experience? Everyone says if you need something call. Are they there to help you get a job? Well I am about to lose everything I have left. So I dont anystand how people survive after losing a love one.
---cynthia on 2/8/07


First, I'm sorry for your pain and you're in my prayers tonight. Second, I know you've probably heard this before, that 'time heals', and you probably dont beieve it right now, but it's true. Time does heal, it will get better where you'll be able to think of your beloved husband and not cry, but smile. ALso tell people to pray for you, prayer truly helps. God bless you.
---sue on 12/12/06


Patty,
So very sorry for your loss my condolences truly from my heart to yours. U are young still Patty,I know this is a hard time & its alright to grieve remember that & healthy to express yourself. You will be in my prayers. U are not alone even though as U say U feel that way. Take Heart! He must have been a great person & cherished by you for you to feel this way. I think that is really sweet you both must have had this wonderful love & also been great friends, what wonderful memories! God Bless!
---Jeanne on 12/12/06


Hello I am so sorry for your lose. I have lost two husbands to death.There is a process you must..go through in order to heal.You must give yourself time to grieve.Life comes in phases. Now you are expericing another phase. In time the pain will ease but take your time. You will find the nights are the worse times...At night I save my reading and prayer for those hours. Peace will come. you will know the time to let go.. Take care of you...Life is ahead and Joy comes in the morning.
patra8673
---patricia on 12/12/06


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Hi Mary, sis, there is a void there where your husband was. I would suggest that you make some new friends and most importantly...pray to God to ease your loss sis, He can do all things, friends help, more importantly God helps..He works in mysterious ways, God bless and keep you, Deb
ps, try becoming a volunteer at a hospital or hospice, maybe something in the community.
---debra6575 on 12/12/06


Patty - sorry to hear of your loss but life must go on. I would recommend that you seek a support group perhaps one in your church or help create one as there are many out there that have lost their mates. Keep busy and abide in the Lord - the best place to be!
---lee1538 on 12/8/06


Hello Patty, Oh I am sorry to hear that about your husband's death. I am willing to talk to you and keep you company.In Ecclesiastes 3:4 A time to weep and a time to laugh, a time to mourn and a time to dance. Dont worry the Lord will fill your mourning to dancing and weeping to laughter. Be confident the Lord is your strength and your refuge. I will pray for you that you will be filled with happiness.
---ana8864 on 12/8/06


DEAEST PATTY, just checking in to make sure you know GOD and all of us love you. Since I lost my HUSBAND, JACK in APRIL, of only 4 years, I had a thought I wanted to share--If our lives with our husbands were the appetizer, how glorious the main feast must be planned for us and our husbands when we join them with Our Lord Jesus Christ. BE peaceful this CHRISTMAS, I know it will be hard and I am just going to concentrate on the chld that was born that promised us eternal life. My prayers are with you.
---MARCY on 12/7/06


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HI, I am so sorry and I know how you feel. I just lost my husband on August 7th, from prostate cancer, he went into the hospital on friday for dehydration, and died on Monday. I still don't know how to feel, I feel very angry although I knew it was coming. I am trying to cope, but it is so difficult. Maybe speaking to one another will help. They say time and God but who knows. I see and smell him whereever I go. My prayers are with you
---janet on 9/29/06


I'm sixty, my husband of 40 years just died. He no longer suffers and is with our Father in his heavenly home. I suffer from the tangible loss of him. He was my soulmate. We made precious
memories that nuture my need for the physical him. I know>God surely has another mission for me. I ask Him daily to show me the Way. I know about your lost, lonely feelings. How could this have happened? This wasn't our plan. I share your feelings and hope I have helped in some way. May God bless us both.
---Marie on 6/20/06


Dearest Sister in Christ, Patty, God did not do this to hurt you, Heaven was just perfect for your husband. I lost my husband 4 weeks ago, we were married 4 years. (58 and 62). I spend time in praise and worship. Please be easy on yourself. Keeping busy just postpones the grief. You need to grieve. Don't lean on anyone who cannot stand up for you.May God comfort you, put his loving arms around you, protect you in the shadow of his wings. Love, Marcy
---MARCY on 5/11/06


hello there,
I read you article about the recent loss of your husband. I am well acquainted with your grief for I lost my husband at the age of 34 in a motor vehicle accident. That was now 15 years ago. this happens and you wonder if you will ever come through it and life will ever be normal again. Time does heal but for now go to grief counselling and share with others your loss.
---sharon on 1/28/06


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I am now 54.My husband was 54 when he died I was 53.We had the kind of marriage that others only dreamed of.He suffered for 8 years before Jesus took him into His loving arms.I still cannot believe he is dead.The only thing that gets met through the day is that Jesus has plans for me plans for good and not for evil plans for happiness and a good life. Since we can only post 85 words, please see my next post.
---Margaret on 8/5/05


I know the pain of going through belongings, trying to make decisions, the rollercoaster ride your emotions are on. But I also know that the only one who really understands how we feel, other than ourselves, is the Lord. He will give you the strength to get through it all. You can write me any time!
---Kay6666 on 7/14/05


I lost my husband 6/17. Married eight years, but truly the best years of my life. He was 52 and quadriplegic, that brought him to the Lord and into ministry. We were together 24/7 and as close as couples married much longer. I know the ache in your heart. I know how empty the house is and your routine simply disappeared and you feel lost.
---Kay6666 on 7/14/05


I am so sorry for your loss, all of the years together have I am sure mad many wonderful memories. In time you will be able to cherish those memories. I hope that you comee to the ChristaNet chat room, many people there will talk to you and you will make many new friends. You will feel less alone. In the mean time, know that God walks with you every where you go and you have a special angel looking down on you now from heaven.
---mary on 7/12/05


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Pat,I am very sorry to hear of your loss. believe me the memories that hurt you now will warm your heart with time. God's love is eternal and his plans are not known to us.When God's work is done we will all be called home the fact that we are still here means that God needs us here. Your faith must remain strong that if we live a rightious life we will all be together again.
When God closes a door he opens a window believe me there is a child, a senior etc. that needs you.You will be in my prayers.
---sandra on 6/8/05


God Bless You my sister in Christ. Know that Jesus is always there for you. He knows what you are feeling and your lose. Pray and get with church friends and try to keep busy. Search this site for online friends and know that we love you and God heals all wounds. Keep your faith in the Lord.
---Mary on 6/8/05


My dear Patty, My heart goes out to you. You know, it appears nothing anyone can say can help but just know that we understand. I DO know that our Jesus is your bridegroom. He promises to fill every empty spot in your heart. See yourself as His child leaning on Him (as John did in the Bible). He will give you His love. Start praising Him even if you do not feel like it. Don't give up. Just keep praising Him for giving you a wonderful hubby and a future! Your sister in Christ Jesus, Elsie
---Elsie on 6/8/05


Comfort to you Patty, in the name of Jesus!
---Saint on 6/8/05


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Hi Pat,

I can relate to losing a loved one. I did not lose a spouse, but I did lose a sister to an unsolved murder in 2003 and my eldest bro. to a routine colonoscopy 3mos later which was on my sister's birthday. The pain seems unbearable. However, with constant prayer and time the pain eases. I understand your pain, but trust God to see you through. He'll put no more on us than we can bare.

God Bless You!
---LaDonna on 6/8/05


You do have someone to talk to and Jesus and His guardian angels are on duty 24/7. First, thank Him for His sacrifice of His son. Then, thank Him for the years he gave you a husband whom you cherished. Ask Him for direction as to what to do today to fill that gap in your life and what does He want you to fulfill before you join that loved one. Pray in His name. He is the only one who knows you and you should know and trust Him. He loves you and does not want you unhappy or lonely
---chuck on 6/8/05


Begin doing those things and you will see there is much to do. I remember when this happen to me no one called. My children and I all became more close. My one daughter was great in taking over with bills. We can only thank God for the spouses He gave us to share our live's with. Just remember that you are not along. Many of us have gone through this. Blessings to you and family
---Lupe2618 on 6/8/05


Sister Patty, I lost my wife eight years ago. I know what you are going through. In my case I come to understand that God has a purpose for all of us and that He is not done with us and wants to use us in many ways. Every moment of your life you touch someone and make a difference.No matter where you go are do. Your husband has done his work and now it is up to you to continue until God calls you. Just think of all the things that you can do now which you couldn't do before.
---Lupe2618 on 6/8/05


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Hi Pat,
I lost my Husband Feb. 2001, I was 37yrs as at when it happened but i just had to encourage myself in the Lord as David did. So take it easy the Good Lord that console me will surely help you. weepiny may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning. Psalm 30:5. Get urself busy for the Lord. Jesus is the ur Husband. Cheer up It's well.

Pat
---Patra8373 on 6/8/05


I know what you are going thru. I am 63 and have lost 3 husbands but we have a loving God who will give us the strength to handle the lonelinessand will comfort us Psalms 23 and Prov 3:5,6. The Lord is our comforter. I will talk with you if you would like to just send thru my penpal . God bless. Elizabeth
---Elizabeth on 6/7/05


Patty, I too recently lost my husband. He died in March. We were married for 28 years.I know it is hard, but you have to stay busy. Pray and stay busy. Take care of yourself. It will get easier. Judy
---Judy on 6/7/05


Dear Patty,
I feel your pain. My husband died 8 years ago in an accident I was 44. It is a difficult time to go through but with God's help and caring others you will make it through. It is a process that never ends. Take the void in your heart and in it's place put the love and give it to others. You can also help those going through the same thing, maybe a little later. If there is a grief support group near you attend, it really helped me. I will keep you in my prayers. God Bless.
---Sandy on 6/7/05


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Hey there! I am 31 and my husband died 6 years ago. You can email me at danie5939 and I will help in anyway that I can. There is life still out there for you!!!!
---Danielle on 6/7/05


Patty, I truly understand how you feel. I lost my husband when he was 44 with leukemia, and I was 43 at the time. The LORD was my comfort, and it also helped me to volunteer at the nursing home..by playing the piano for the residents. It made me feel better, knowing that I was helping others feel better, and it also helped me to get my mind off of my grief. Feel free to write me here on c-net anytime.
---Pat8949 on 6/7/05


Hi Pat,
Sorry for your loss. I dont really know what to say to you, other than I feel bad that you feel alone. Maybe you can join some kind of club? My mom who is 87 joined this knitting club at her church and she loves it. Dont be afraid to be alone. Go out to eat at nice resturants or go to a show. God is with you always.
luv,
sue
---sue on 6/7/05


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