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Who Is A Real Christian

I've been hurt so much by my past relationship. I found him in a Christian site, I thought he's a real Christian. I was wrong. He was just playing, hurting someones feeling. How can I know who is a real Christian and those who pretend?

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 ---lisa on 6/9/05
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The Bible tells us we can tell a tree by the fruit it bears.I don't think it is wise to jump into any relationship.I think it takes time to get to know someone.Also to remember that none of us are perfect.I think we need to pray about our relationships and trust God to send good people into our lifes.
---lillie on 2/1/08


There are many words, like 'judge' that have multiple meanings. You would need to know Catherine's thoughts as to whether she meant discern, or condemn. We are supposed to evaluate and test spirits. That is a form of judging, and it might be right to condemn certain behaviours, like murder, so let's not get hung up on precise words. Only God's Word is perfect. We cannot use language perfectly. So don't condemn Catherine.
---frances on 2/1/08


Jack. That is one of the most misquoted parts of the Bible. After it, Jesus went on to condemn the Pharisees. It is all about hypocrisy. It means don't judge someone for something trivial, when you yourself are guilty of something vile. The person who says it is probably (not in Jesus's case) a hypocrite. They are condemning the genuine Christian who is trying to put forward a Christian world view. Stop helping the devil.
---frances on 2/1/08


Based on first Corinthians 12:3," Wherefore I give you to understand, that no man speaking by the Spirit of God calleth Jesus accursed: and that no man can say that Jesus is the Lord, but by the Holy Ghost" I would ask you did you ever hear him call Jesus Lord? If I am not personally acquainted with someone, I often use this guideline to determine if a person is saved or not!
---Mima on 2/1/08


You'll know a real Christian bc he/she will be expecting 'you' to act like one
---Andrea on 2/1/08




He will expect you to act like one
---Andrea on 2/1/08


**Even Judging someone on whether the living God is in them can be tricky.**

Which, according to Matthew 7:1 is PRECISELY what we're not supposed to do.
---Jack on 1/31/08


We are known by the fruit we bear. If a person constantly make reference to Christ,wants to engage in prayer with you. Go to church and be involved with spiritual and church things, it is a good start they may be a serious Christian. If you are around them for any length of time the truth will come out. If you know the signs to look for you will know. Did he ever invite you to his church and vice versa? Did he go? Did you?
---Robyn on 1/31/08


The same way we know those who are living through a world of fantasy, by the Holy Spirit.
---Lynda on 1/31/08


It is not easy. Even the elect can be fooled. Even Judging someone on whether the living God is in them can be tricky. If you are walking close to God He will help you with this. Otherwise you stand a good chance of getting into real trouble when it comes to relationships or anything else pertaining to this world, my friend.++
---catherine on 1/31/08




Takes a lot of prayer and seeking God for His will. He can show us if we will liseten to Him! It is not only online either, Hypocrites are in churches and in the pulpit also! He probably went to church too and did women wrong there too! People go nuts when you say you met someone online, but it is no worse than meeting someone at church or anywhere else!
---Pat on 1/30/08


This is imperative. You must wait on God. True Christians are so busy trying to please God and serving Him we don't really have the mind or the time to go around trying to prove to people that we are Saints. Besides, all of that; True Christians are secure in knowing who they are. No pretenders. Just love God, love people, and keep going.
---catherine on 6/12/07


First of all, you make reference to your "past relationship", meaning that is it now over. You met this man through a christian site and started a relationship with him before realizing that he was not a christian. How long was your relationship? Friendship first is a good policy because then you will be able to get a feel for the true identity of a person. If they love Jesus my dear friend you will know because God is love and his love will shine through that person in their words and actions.
---andra5789 on 6/12/07


Christian means Christ-like, and follower of Christ. If you are for real, you will be like Christ in thoughts, words, and deeds. If you are for real, you will follow Christ's leading in your life on a daily basis.
---Leslie on 1/7/07


The Bible also says if we don't have his Spirit we are none 0f his
---betty on 3/28/06


Many people born christian but does not mean they are. You have to Study the person and ask God to open your mind and show you if the person is good for you or not. Read the Bible and you'll know if the person you meet lives by the ways God demands. Do not trust everyone you meet online. Words they write on your screen is just that...words. Actions is what says it all. Take time to know someone by thier fruits not just words.
---vilmavivi_ on 6/14/05


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Hello, Lisa. I want to say that men and women using CN (a Christian site) may/may not be at all Christians. It is easy to use CN penpal Section. Outsiders can access CN as long as the website is known. Being known as a Christian site, men abound to prey on innocent Christian women.Wolves can cloak themselves with sheep's clothing. Know them by their actions. If he desires something from you that is not expected from a Christian, then he is not a Christian.
---linda6546 on 6/13/05


Fools rush in where angels fear to tread! Don't be in a hurry to meet a guy. Wait and see the fruit he's producing. Yes, this takes time, but now you know, its better to wait than to get hurt like this. Let him reveal who he is by the fruit he produces and don't be blinded by lonliness or desperation to find someone. It hurts more than being lonely.
---lisa on 6/11/05


, a true christian is one who is humble, and desires to serve the Lord with all of their heart, one who is willing to be spit upon, laughed at, and persecuted, all for the holy name of Christ.
---steve on 6/11/05


Dear Lisa,
Do you think christians never hurt each other?Please don't judge all christians as
players because a relationship did not work out,perhaps God was protecting you and allowed the relationship to fail,perhaps he has someone more suitable for you,and maybe the guy was a jerk who hurt you and if that is the case be thankful he's gone.May God direct you to the one you need.Bless you.
---RUSSELL on 6/11/05


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Philippians 3:3, "For we are the circumcision, which worship God in the spirit, and rejoice in Christ Jesus, and have no confidence in the flesh."
---Bruce5656 on 6/10/05


There is a test that I have done and the bible says that if God's chosen can't say Jesus is Lord then they are none of his. I have done this, and some has said it back to me, and some just looked at me, with a blank look on their face. If they are one of God's you will know them by the fruit they put out.
---Rebecca_D on 6/10/05


Being on Christian sites does not make a Christian. People come to Christain sites in hopes of finding honest,loving people, even non-christians. Find someone who will pray with you. Perhaps have devotions online. One can never know the extent one truly believes. That is between God and each of us. Pray and seek God's leading and guidance and then LISTEN to God. If you feel something is wrong it may be God telling you something. Always pray and listen. Do not be selfish and rely on your own instincts.
---Marla on 6/10/05


There's a strong possiblity that if this person were asked to tell his side of the story, it might sound rather different. Yours at this point sounds more like an accusation, though I'm NOT belittling your hurt.

As far as who's a real Christian, Acts answers it: "The disciples were first called Christians at Antioch"--and "Christian" was NOT intended to be a compliment, either! Doesn't say which of the "disciples" there were good, bad, "real," or ersatz.
---Jack on 6/10/05


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You will know them by their fruits, whether what they do and say are christlike or not, and you can outright ask them to share their salvation testimony with you. Never be hasty to trust someone, always go slow, for an ounce of prevention is worth more than a pound of cure. "Here, I send you forward as sheep among wolves. Be you all therefore shrewd as serpents, and faultless as doves." Matthew 10:16.
---Eloy on 6/10/05


Chirstian or not, guys r human being. D fallable one. As much as Christ teach us to be truthful but people bound 2 fail or turn away from HIS word.Sister,be careful&pray. Life on this earth ain't easy be it spiritually,emotionally or physically,some suffer more than others. But d test will bring good,U will realise how good GOD is and how much d world needs U to be an good example of HIS teaching and love. In fact many Chirstian suffered because of being d salt & d light 2 those that is around him/her.
---loa on 6/10/05


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