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Can I Marry My Step Cousin

Is it wrong to marry a step-cousin?

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The only problem you will have is more then likely your family not understanding. .
I am in lover with my step cousin. From my Aunts 3rd Marriage.
The bible states that it is a sin if it is kin of blood. ..
I know it's not bad.
I fell in love with him in my teen years way before my aunt and his father were married they were actually just living together.
I just recently found out from him that he has been in love with me as well.
It's tough because my aunt told me she won't ever forgive me if we end up together.
Fallow your heart if it's legal gods way and our laws way.
---Ashlie on 2/21/16


Step cousin or not it isnt biblically wrong either way
---glen on 9/1/15


You'll have to check what the law says where you are. Here in the U.K. we can marry an actual cousin (doesn't have to be a step cousin) but I'd say that is not wise. I'm 'almost' certain we can marry a step-sibling. There is no blood relationship whatsoever and some step-siblings have never even met each other until years after their separate parents decided to marry each other.

If brought up together from being very small it would seem very strange but, as far as genetics are concerned there still would be no problem.
---Rita_H on 8/29/15


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I am old fashioned and strictly believe family is family, blood related or not. You may not have been related before the marriage, but now you are. An example is I have a step-grandpa I am very close to, and if he had a grandson or nephew that I thought was attractive but he was not related to me by blood, I still could not act on it. Just wrong...there are so many other fish in the sea.
---MJ on 8/26/15




I would go beyond what I think and understand that the only relationship that is acceptable is two persons that are unrelated either by marriage or blood.

That is in line with Levitican guidelines.

The fact that it is step means a second marriage... was that a Lawful marriage???.

If so then the odds are in favor to some because we live in such a perverse world that even the "saved" have their minds snared with an [Hot] iron.
---Carla on 6/23/12


I would like to say... after reading all of the other comments. That I think because a step cousin is not blood related... and there is not any laws or passages in the Bible that say anything about step cousins... therefore, I believe it is not wrong.
---novelist4him on 6/22/12


Wow i read your comments about theres other fish in the sea go fishing else wear. thats just crazy! Im married to my step cousin.(his aunt married my father when i was 14) i truely believe god puts you w/ your husband/wife. My father is a pastor and he married us. its really sad how some christian judge people! There's only man who i will allow to judge me.
---Kim on 2/22/12


I dont think any thing wrong with marring a step cousin
biblically or legally.
---Diane_Gilland on 11/4/11


I don't think it is wrong to marry a step cousin. You are not blood kin and that is really what matters. I know first cousins who married each other and they had 5 children who were deformed in many ways. 2 were blind and the other 3 had deformed legs. Just because of what they did, it affected many. I don't understand how anyone can do that.
---shira4368 on 11/1/11




There are other fish in the ocean, go fishing elsewhere. For if you marry mear of kin you will have a high occurrence of producing down syndrom or mongoloidial children, and souls which are biologically and organically defective abnomalies. And since life is proven to be very difficult enough for normal healthy individuals, as the sparks fly upward, it is very unwise to bring statistically inept and physically and mentally cursed or impaired souls into this hard world for them to struggle and survive.
---Eloy on 10/30/11


There are other fish in the ocean, go fishing elsewhere. For if you marry near of kin you will have a high occurrence of producing down syndrome or monoloidial children, and souls which are biologically and organically defective abnomalies. And since life is proven to be very difficult enough for normal healthy individuals, as the sparks fly upward, it is very unwise to bring statistically inept and physically and mentally cursed or impaired souls into this hard world for them to struggle and survive.
---Eloy on 10/30/11


Carla: 'It is wrong to marry anyone that you are related to by marriage or by blood according to the Old Testament'

Yes, that is listed, but even that is iffy if you think about it. we are ALL related by blood, since we are all children of Adam and Eve, yes we still marry. I assume the OT one actually meant if you know and can trace that the person is related.
---Peter on 10/29/11


No, you are not blood related.
---SHAY on 10/28/11


Judging is different to telling someone whether their name is written in the Lambs book of life. However you can write yourself out of eternal life by doing the things the bible states you should not do, put simply.

The judging thing sociologist do it daily, school teachers a jury and a judge to be quite frank.

Biblically you can judge whether something is right or wrong based on Biblical standards in the Right context, so boo to that statement, If you are wrong biblically your just wrong!
---Carla on 10/6/11


In my state it is illegal to marry any relation closer than second cousins. Although I know a girl that recently married her step-brother in another state. So I'm not sure if different states have more liberal rules concerning this or if step-siblings are not considered relatives since they are not actually by blood.
---Jed on 10/5/11


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How long is the chain that links you?
---Adetunji on 10/5/11


I can't find any scriptures (unusual) to say if you cannot marry but I'm sure if it is there someone will post it.
---Carla on 10/2/11


I was just in a huge argument with my brother about step cousins. I don't think they are family. Especially when the parent marries in to the family. (Obviously) ur not related at all do what u want
---jay on 9/29/11


Well I'm dating my step-cousin and we're not blood related in anyway shape or form. I love him and he loves me. So do you really think that you have the right to judge? God is the creature and God is really the only person that can judge. God states in the bible those who judge before me shall than be judged.
---whitney on 4/7/11


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It is wrong to marry anyone that you are related to by marriage or by blood according to the Old Testament. It there to observe and judge what is wrong or right, according to the bible these things that the Jews did early in the Old Testament were done away with.

So to marry your step cousin is not really a good choice. Find some one if this is about your choice, from an unrelated family to you. make sure you are both first and foremost Christians. If you are Christian, you should have some guidance in the right direction biblically who to marry.
---Carla on 7/7/10


I am a single mother witnessing this issue with my children's father and his step-cousin. They got married..the only thing I can say on a basic level about this is if you want your cousin make sure neither one of you has children first. It is very confusing to explain to your child that daddy rather be with his cousin.
---Victoria on 7/6/10


It's hard to imagine being related to family. (I'll bet God hates sarcasm... ?)

Wow, imagine being attracted to a person that you were not related to until your Mother married her Uncle... When you were a teenager.

Don't be hypocritical. Don't asume you know Gods will.
---Clark on 9/5/09


Step is a term for 'By Law' not Biological or near Blood relative.one step or two step is ok.But in the muslim Faith 1st cousins are allowed to marry except, if the mother happens to Breast feed her sisters or Brothers baby, due to a mishap, then they are considered Brothers and sisters and not allowed in Marriage by Law.This IMHO is muslim law But I am RC from cradle to breast to adult.
---Mic on 11/14/08


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Hi alan of UK, I read your blog with special interest, you see my ex-husband is also my stepbrother lol! Years after our divorce, my mother married his father! :D But I haven't seen my ex in many years, he and his dad are not close, to put it mildly. Sad but true. I wish they were, for their sakes. But for my sake, I'm glad they're not--because I've always had a grave weakness where my ex is concerned, and am not sure I'm strong enough to avoid letting him break my heart again.
---Mary on 11/14/08


Hi alan of UK, I read your blog with special interest, you see my ex-husband is also my stepbrother lol! Years after our divorce, my mother married his father! :D But I haven't seen my ex in many years, he and his dad are not close, to put it mildly. Sad but true. I wish they were, for their sakes. But for my sake, I'm glad they're not--because I've always had a grave weakness where my ex is concerned, and am not sure I'm strong enough to avoid letting him break my heart again.
---Mary on 11/14/08


To Whosoever has an ear to hear?

QUESTION: "Are step-cousins blood relatives?" and "How far removed are step-cousins?"
---Shawn_M.T. on 11/13/08


"step" indicates family member by parents who were married previously ...children from previous marriage become new spouses "step children" - NON-biological children

step-brother/sister is a non-biological sibling ...only "siblings" due to parents remarriage

"step children" are product of BLENDED families

There are laws against marrying cousins due to biological reasons today however a step-cousin is not a biological cousin

there is nothing wrong from Gods Word, or morally wrong marrying a "step cousin" which is a term used to indicate they are now related due to remarriage of aunts/uncles with children ...a non-biological relative
---Rhonda on 11/13/08


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this is in reply to the person who said you could marry your step brother. in the state of texas it is not a valid marriage. A marriage is void if one party to the marriage is related to the other as:(1)an ancestor or descendant, by blood or adoption,(2)a brother or sister, of the whole or half blood or by adoption,(3)a parent's brother or sister, of the whole or half blood or by adoption,or(4)a son or daughter of a brother or sister, of the whole or half blood or by adoption.
---jenn on 11/13/08


as a Christian it does matter if you are with your step cousin,no matter how far removed.My husband is currently dating his step cousin,she is the step daughter of his Uncle,she is the half(by blood)sister to his 1st cousins.They have referred to each other as cousins.My husband has the same last name as her step dad and her half brother and sister.her step dad is our 3 children's great uncle,the brother to their grandfather,so its okay for that uncle to now become their step grandfather,because my husband and his step daughter are now together.a relationship that destorys one of Gods family is not okay. Please view your opinion and see if they are a true Christian answer or if you finding text in the bible to justify the answer you want
---jenn on 11/13/08


Mima:-Your statement was "We are CERTAIN Lot was involved in incest, with his daughters." Does this statement of yours,(however illustrated) make LOT the perpetrator of the crime?or was it the Daughters who were guilty.You further add And the bible calls this Righteous and just!!!Is this what the bible says using the word "Incest" or are you adding to the word.Then further suggesting a judgement call on God using gods word inviting comments.We may be naive but God is not.
---MIC on 9/14/08


---MIC the question was not about questioning the validity and/or contesting God's judgment. The question is made up of straightforward facts presented in the Bible. And the meaning of the question, the explanation of the question, the truth to be revealed by the question, has to do with the "eternal security" of the believer a truth that at this moment in time is unknown to you hence we have this statement from you, "at the moment my mind is a blank".
---mima on 9/13/08


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Mima::The questions which you dig up gives the appearance that you test the validity and contest Gods judgement.Consider the reason why you pose such a question? and what is your intent to Prove WHAT?Going back to the episode was it really Lots sin or that of His daughters.Yet you contest that God calls him Righteous.Could you explain if you Could,or so desire what good would this justify to the average Blogger.At this moment my mind is blank.
---MIC on 9/11/08


Consider this, we are certain that Lot was involved in incest with his daughters. Yet Lot is referred to in the Bible as righteous and just!!!!! What have you to say concerning this matter?
---mima on 9/11/08


Catherine ... "To Him it is considered "incest".
Why is it?

If for example I married the widowed mother of my daughter's husband, would that make my daughte's marriage incestuous?

After all she would suddenly become the wife of her step-brother.
---alan_of_UK on 9/11/08


Valentine:-What is wrong,is not the blood relation,it is the forethought in the preparation of this union.Do you both choose on the basis of physical attraction? what about the rest will you both stay the course?are you sure?have you checked your values/compared your weaknesses, strengths, till death do you part.You have 'one chance]' at this uniting of 2 species of Godliness, as 2 in one.One cannot go back. If all this is right, then it is right, anything which will marr this relationship should be examined closely by you two. Marriage is a one way street "What God hath joined together let no one put asunder."
---MIC on 9/10/08


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The Scripture in Leviticus that deals with no marriage inside families is again part of the same law that states you must be circumcized,not shave your beard, and not to light a fire on the Sabbath. These laws are fulfilled, abolished, and done away with in Christ. Nailed to the cross.
---john on 9/10/08


Yes, it is wrong in the sight of God. To Him it is considered "incest".
---catherine on 9/10/08


Yes, go for the one you want. There is no blood between either of you so I see nothing wrong with that. Step relations are pseudo relations anyhow. It's not like you were born blood or had a choice. No blood no problem.
---James on 9/10/08


From a legal view point it is dependent on what state you are in. From a religious stand pont you are members of a common family group but you are not related by blood. If some one is making a big deal out of it use a civil ceremony if it is OK in your state,and have a wonderful life together.

phia4633 Phil
---Phia4633 on 5/9/08


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I don't think there is any thing wrong in marrying your step cousin in so far you are not blood relations. It also depend on your tradition
---grace on 6/13/05


Step-relatives are different from half-relatives. See the laws of your state and country at the marriage registry.
---barbara67 on 6/13/05


Not only could you marry your step-cousin you could marry your step-brother. There is no blood relationship between the two.
---F.F. on 6/13/05


Dear Valentine: The reason this intermarriage thing got started is that science found that by mixing family blood, it often resulted in birth defects in the children. If the laws of your State permit it and this step-cousin is in NO way blood related, you are both equally yoked and it is the will of God that you should marry, there is not a problem with it.
---Elsie on 6/12/05


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stepcousin IS still family.
---Jean on 6/12/05


It is my understanding that in the U.S., there isn't even a such thing as "step-cousin". There are step-parents and step-siblings, but that is it. No step-aunts or step-uncles, so no step-cousins. Yes, it is fine as long as you are not blood relatives and both are equally yoked.
---Anna on 6/12/05


yes please read leviticus chapter 18
---mike5733 on 6/12/05


is your step cousin of the same blood as u? if not then all u need to worry about is are u both evenly yoked in christ
---david3162 on 6/12/05


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I think it is ok, because a step relative is not a blood relative.
---Ulrika on 6/12/05


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