Don't Be Unequally Yoked
I'm a christian and my fiancee isn't any religion but he believes in my faith. So is it a bad thing if we still get married or does he have to be baptized? I would like if we're both on the same page but there's alot he doesn't understand yet.
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---canda3797 on 6/14/05
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If he 'believes in your faith' then he is the same religion as you are. Do you mean that he has not attached himself to a particular church yet or is it that he just agrees with whatever you say? Some men do this to keep a girl but if he's not truly saved he will almost certainly change once you are married. Men who only profess some form of belief to keep a girl usually do all they can to keep her away from church later. Be absolutely sure before you marry him.
---Xanthi on 2/25/08|
yes, God's way is that both should be of the same faith.
---Eloy on 6/9/07|
You need to be equally yoked. God simply cannot bless sin, and though you love him, if he isn't saved you are not on the same page. Wait to be married, tell him the importance of it. He may turn around and find that God has been tugging at his heart the whole time.
---Carol on 6/21/05|
My wife came to Christ after we were married 3 yrs. It was not easy for her. She had a really difficult time with me. In time with prayer and petition the Lord reached into my thick skull and hard heart. It is not an easy thing to suffer through as a wife. Maybe you should wait until he is clear in his words and his beliefs. A man will say almost anything to get his Fiance into the marriage bed. Afterwards it is not so easy to get him out.
---Gregg on 6/19/05|
He may just be saying he believes your faith, so he can marry you. Later, the spiritual stuff may be canned. However, I dont know him. Still, I'd be VERY careful and watchful... go VERY slow. having said that, I personally would marry someone with a good heart who authentically loves me and God and would treat me well, with respect, rather than someone who SAYS they are christian (nomatter how much he reads the bible or goes to church etc.) and abuses me or bring hurt or danger etc. to me or my family.
---Laura on 6/17/05|
I second Xanthi's answer.
---Pierr7958 on 6/16/05|
Believing "in your faith" does not make him a Christian. The devil believes in the Christian faith. He knows full well that Jesus is the Son of God and Saviour of man.
How did you become a Christian? Was it by baptism? Baptism has nothing to getting saved. If you think it does than you need to re-examine what it is to be a Christian.
Ephesians 2:8-9, "For by grace are ye saved through faith; ... it is the gift of God: Not of works, lest any man should boast."
---Bruce5656 on 6/14/05|
Dear sister just want to encourage you today.Keep believing for your fiancee to come to know the Lord.At least he is open minded about your faith.Your heart longs for him to be on the same page but this will take time, prayer and encouragement. Be an example for him as a christian and his heart will follow. Encourage him to go to church and pray with you and read the bible together. All of these things will help him establish his heart in the Lord so you will be able to embark on this journey together.
---andra5789 on 6/14/05|
He needs to believe in HIS faith not in your's. Pray for him and keep being a witness to him not only in word but in your actions.
Bible says you must not be unequally yoked. Show him that you believe and honor the bible and what it says otherwise he will see you do not live by the word.
---Shaz on 6/14/05|
According to the Bible, yes, it would be wrong for you and your fiancee to marry until he has been saved and baptized. When the Bible says "the nations should not mix" it is referring to believers and nonbelievers marrying.
---Heather on 6/14/05|
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