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Do Long Distance Relations Work

Do long distance relationships ever work out?

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 ---Sof on 6/21/05
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one thing for sure. If you don't like the long distance part, just change your phone number and it is all over. That sounds so easy doesn't it?
---shira3877 on 9/19/11


Maybe someone hung the phone up....
---Elder on 9/19/11


This blog has been so quiet for over a week, one could almost hear a pin drop...
---StrongAxe on 9/19/11


Some problems of marriages come from what Television & Films has planted in the mind of some people as love(mostly fiction). When they do not get the abc's of what their subconscious has stored from the media as love, they yell & seek for divorce. Marriage and love are God made/designed.
---Adetunji on 9/10/11


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---Elder on 9/6/11
Nice
---Francis on 9/6/11




\\amusing how some USE their analogies and todays world and how others run to their defense as if the world today and the lyrics from a jilted lover in a song are one in the same living in ancient times\\

You still don't get it, Rhonda.

I'm not familiar with the lyrics of Turner's song at all, only the title, which I quoted to illustrate that love was NOT the reason for marriage until fairly modern times.

In cultures where arranged marriages are the norm, love is considered the FRUIT of marriage, not its root.

The touching duet from FIDDLER ON THE ROOF, "Do You Love Me?" illustrates this.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 9/6/11


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---Elder on 9/6/11


Rhonda:

Unfortunately, if 125 words address the first part of your message, there is no room to address the rest of it at the same time. Cluny's point (and mine) were not to comment on songs old or new, but to point out that the idea of marriages based primarily on love is a fairly modern one.

Also, see how successful that is - in the U.S. more than 50% of marriages end in divorce, and that includes Christian ones! Easy divorce contributes to this, but same-sex marriage doesn't, since these statistics were true long before that was allowed in any state. Besides, how can what other people do in their own marriages possibly affect what you do in your own? "My neighbors got divorced, so I had to too" is not an excuse.
---StrongAxe on 9/6/11


Cluny's comment was not an invitation to use Tina Turner's music as a guide for life
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amusing how some USE their analogies and todays world and how others run to their defense as if the world today and the lyrics from a jilted lover in a song are one in the same living in ancient times

interesting and sad seeing you clearly MISSED the sad commentary of TODAYS marriages that I pointed out which is due to religious ideas that want to destroy marriage - and purpose of Solomons MANY wives was to demonstrate it didn't work seems you missed the point of that lesson

although how sad if todays starry eyed teenagers "in love" are compared to adult relationships ...one SHOULD understand the DIFFERENCE
---Rhonda on 9/5/11


They work if BOTH parties truely want them to work
---Francis on 9/5/11




\\another reason divorce and adultery rule this world and same-sex marriages pollute GODS WAY of life and LOVE\\

How does teaching that marriage is only for procreation--which NOBODY teaches, including the Roman Catholic Church (though you might think it does)--lead by logic to same-sex marriage?

In Biblical times the couple frequently did not meet until the actual ceremony.

I mentioned that Isaac and Rebecca's marriage was arranged. It says that he loved her--but never said that his love was returned. In fact, she clearly had a different agenda, as we read.

The Apostolic command, "Husbands, love your wives," obvious today, was revolutionary in Bible times.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 9/5/11


Rhonda:

Cluny's comment was not an invitation to use Tina Turner's music as a guide for life - just saying the title of her song echoed common practice in in biblical times (and, indeed, until fairly recently).

In the past, most marriages were not based on young starry-eyed people in love, but by parents forging political alliances (like Solomon and his many wives and concubines), or business arrangements (there were dowries, bride-prices, proofs of virginity, Jewish Ketubahs (i.e. prenuptual agreements), etc.) Love had litle to nothing to do with most of them, and was expected to develop later after a couple was married, rather than before, as we tend to practice nowadays.
---StrongAxe on 9/5/11


As Tina Turner sang, "What's love got to do with it?"
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hmmm comparing a celebrity who sings of heartbreak and worldly things to living Gods way ...small wonder so many are so MIXED UP when it comes to love when they worship the words of a song-writer rather than GODS WORD

why would ANYBODY who follows Christ want to live for the world and ITS celebrity idols/gods?

although many would believe love has nothing to do with marriage seeing many counterfeit christians sects TEACH marriage is simply for procreation ...another reason divorce and adultery rule this world and same-sex marriages pollute GODS WAY of life and LOVE
---Rhonda on 9/4/11


\\courtship prior to marriage absolutely\\

In Bible times, marriages were arranged by the families involved.

Consider Isaac and Rebecca. This was an arranged marriage.

As Tina Turner sang, "What's love got to do with it?"
---Cluny on 9/3/11


courtship prior to marriage absolutely

marriage NEVER ...marriage was designed to be a union both spiritually in likeness of the marriage of Christ to His church and the physical union and sexual bond ...a marriage spent apart in "long-distance" is a hardship and INVITES adultery ...just because one spouse is not tempted NEVER underestimate what SINS tempt others including your own spouse - in essence if you are not tempted YET allow LONG separations YOU encourage sin for your own spouse
---Rhonda on 9/3/11


"How about Jesus and his bride? Surely that's long-term and long-distance! :)
---StrongAxe on 9/2/11"
Yet so very close. The omnipresence of God, plus the indwelling...Time spent in His presence, He's close!
As for the question, I've seen them work, and if God is first and foremost, it is of course possible.
---chris9398 on 9/3/11


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How about Jesus and his bride? Surely that's long-term and long-distance! :)
---StrongAxe on 9/2/11


It is Jesus made/built relationships that works and stands the test of time not long/short distance relationship.
---Adetunji on 9/2/11


long distance relationship will work depending on the sincerity and determination of the person involved.This may not an easy task,but if the love is so true,love will always finds a way,no matter how difficult it may be
---mj on 8/30/11


Sad,for me my exp.lg distance relationships 2x not good! The first one at least,he was honest & admit feelings not same.Became like a " big sister" instead. Visited Tennesee. 2 x Found out the guy beats his mother & sisterdidn't bother fly to California.Return his ticket & everything! Yes,you really have to be carefull! God is good.
---ELENA on 8/16/11


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Yes as long as BOTH parties are honest, trustworthy and good communicators. Without trust in any relationship it can not last expecially a long distance one.
I had a long distance relationship for 4 yrs which was best relationship I ever had, Unfortunately he passed away and that is why it ended. Long dist. relations take lots and lots of work on both parts but can be great with right person.
---Marla on 9/11/07


The internet is a great way of meeting people, but there is NO substitute for time spent together. We should first observe how people react in adversity and how their family dynamics work. We get caught up in our joy and forget the effect that relocating, blending families, money, etc. impact everyone. I married a wonderful man but when I arrived his kids hated me. I'm now back home, broke and heartbroken. Spend lots of time together and with the families well in advance of taking the plunge.
---Ginger on 7/23/05


My dad married a mail order bride from the Phillipines, best thing that ever happened to him, that was pre computer days. My brother is fixing to marry a girl he met online and went Thailand to meet in person. Yes, they work, but as in ANY relationship, honesty is imperative. Online is a good way to meet because you have to talk! You dont have the flesh getting in the way, well, if you are a christian anyhow! Bad things happen to people who meet in churches just as much as online!
---pat on 7/16/05


There are specific steps that must be taken for a long distance relationships to work, especially if it's a first contact.
1. Do a background check on the person. If you don't, you might find yourself falling in love with a 9 yr. old neighbors child.
2. If you ever met this person, do so in a public area and take a friend with you.
3. Once you have met the person, get some references to check them out. (Sounds cold, but it will save heart ache later.) Made sure you check the references.
---Ray on 7/15/05


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i agree with fran, some long distance relationships do work. if you are very sincere and the other is sincere and honest, you can have a good relationship. there are some idiots out there, but you must look for things, and really no who you are becoming interested in. i met a very nice guy here in the christianet, and we are looking forward to seeing each other, we see each other over the webcam and call each others home, we will get married soon as we get together and plan things.
---joyce on 6/24/05


My husband and I had a long distance relationship because he was gone being in the navy at time. We celebrated our 22nd anniversary last saturday. Our relationship was a nice one. My husband is a very caring man and that is what attracted me to him. We grew in love of god together. I knew my husband 3 years before we got married so we were together for 25 years all together with dating and marriage. So they do work out.
---Debbie on 6/22/05


Sof, it works but you have to give it more seriousness than face to face relationship.

There has to be TOTAL honesty if not, you can expect trouble. I married a woman whom I found here on Christianet. We utilized our chatting time in a very profitable way by getting to know each other without playing head games.

Today she's my wife and she's not only a good wife but also a good cook :))
---Albert on 6/22/05


As one who has done mostly long distance relationships there are a lot of advantages and disadvantages but if the person is really sincere then it can work....a lot of dishonest and head game playing people in the world today (including those from this website) so you need to be ultra careful and check out everything you can about the other person...I am involved in a long distance relationship right now and we're both ready to meet and go on from there.....
---Fran8674 on 6/21/05


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They do when they're from God and even sometimes in the secular world dear...
---Cathy on 6/21/05


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