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What Is The Gift Of Singleness

I have been single for a while and been wondering about it. How would someone know they have the gift of singleness? Is someone born with this gift? Really curious to know.

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 ---Kaitlin on 6/23/05
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Hope: First of all. Singles spend a lifetime looking for the"right person". Which is such a shame. Being the right person is very important,too
Second: no one is too fat or ugly to be desirable to someone. God does not make junk or anything ugly. There is somebody for everybody. No matter what you look like. One woman's frog may be another woman's prince. So you need to look at life more realistically and you just might find a mate. With your way of thinking, you will remain a single woman for many more years to come.GBU
---Robyn on 2/18/11

I have learned (finally) that I attract, and am attracted to, manipulative men... even Sociopaths. I'm past a marriagable age now, but I consider it God's gift that He showed me this about myself in time for me to avoid some bad decisions in the past. I'm perfectly happy being single.
---Donna66 on 2/14/11

Hope -- Love your frankness! Gotta live in reality.
---Donna66 on 2/11/11

The disciples said because of the adversity in marriage, it is easier not to be married. "At that Jesus said to them, Not all take this word, but to whom it is given. For there solitaries, which thus born from the mother's womb, and there singles, that made by mankind, and there singles, that have abstained themself for the realm of heaven: he that may take, take he." Mt.19:10-12.
---Eloy on 2/11/11

If a Christian single is content then I would say they have the gift.

I mean, there are a lot of advantages to the lifestyle if you think about it.

With the divorce rate as high as it is I consider it a gift myself to have been spared that misery.
---obewan on 2/11/11

Sometimes being single is a not a choice. Some people are longing for someone to love, but have not found the right person. I am single by choice because I will not be controlled by a professing christian using the submit verse. Also, some of us are so fat, ugly, or unusual that no one would have us, anyway.
---Hope on 2/10/11

Everything is a choice. A person choses to become a christian. A person choses not to become a christian. It is a person's shoice to marry or not to marry.

The gifts of the Spirit are those when a person become a christian. These are the gifts from God for your obediance.

But during these end times, when times are perilous, a person needs all his or her spiritual strength to stay pure.
---Steveng on 2/9/11

I agree Rae, it is a gift! I don't know if people are born with it or not. If you are contented, you are truly blessed. Paul thought highly of unmarried women: 1Cr 7:34 There is difference [also] between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband.

Sounds like you have a good support group, which everybody needs. Marriage is difficult. Many married woman are terribly lonely. Your gift may not be permanent, but enjoy it!
---Donna66 on 2/8/11

I am 24 and I would say I have this gift, though it is not listed in the Bible. God has blessed me with what I would call a desire NOT to marry. I have no wish to be married or to have children. This does not mean I am alone I have my parents and siblings and those who walk beside me. I need no relationship like marrage. all that energy goes into my relationship with God and I fill so blessed that he has not torn my attention between him and another. Marrage is a blessed thing but not for me. I feel it is a gift God gave me to be this way. It is why I call it a gift of singleness. I am sorry I have trouble explaining this to others because God did not design them this way. please tell me if you have questions.
---Rae on 2/8/11

Where are the words "gift of singleness" used in the Bible? I don't believe that Paul ever explained his unmarried state that way, so? Therefore, it is just a way of explaining to mostly Catholic seminary students why they are never going to be married.
---harold on 6/28/07

I believe if God has given you the gift of singleness, then you are perfectly content without a're not searching, you don't feel empty without that other person beside you, you just want it to be you and God. But if you feel unhappy in your singleness, then maybe it's not what God has planned for you.
---Ann5758 on 6/26/07

The Bible is clear that for some people it is a gift to be single for other's it is not.Some people don't feel as if it's a gift because the majority of people feel that they need someone in their life to share it and those are the people that don't feel it's a gift.Others however don't feel the need to have someone in their life and are fully content on being single.The point is we are not all made the same and we were all blessed with different gifts.
---Brian on 5/1/06

One might say all people are born with the gift of singleness because no one is born married. Careful reading of I Cor. 7 reveals Paul was not talking about singleness as being the gift. Paul was so comitted to the Lord that sexual temptation was not a problem for him. The gift Paul was refering to was a lack of distraction. For most people singleness is not a gift but one of the hardships that we all must face as we live this life, so no one actually has the "gift of singleness."
---Timothy on 5/1/06

This gift of singleness is false doctrine.
God wants us to be happy and whole he does not want us to be in pain or lonely.The bible makes it clear God himself said 'it is not good for mankind to be alone.
you can however choose to be single if God allows. God is the giver of good gifts he does not give anything bad or evil.
---susanna on 7/26/05

I would think that the gift of singleness would have to go with not being a parent also. I could get up and go to a differnt place easier if i didn't have a family to think of too.
---Laure5469 on 7/16/05

"God gives us the desires of our heart"also means to me that He PLACES those desires there.I desire to be married,so I believe He already has my mate planned.I am single and celibate now(for years)as a testimony that God is building for the SUSTAINING power of the Holy Spirit.He gives me the power over my flesh..and peace with it.That's the "gift"of singleness to me.
---lovable_linda on 7/15/05

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Albert, singleness isn't a choice (at least not usually), but I've always wondered about the reference to singleness being a gift. The majority of single people disagree with that classification.
---Heather on 6/24/05

I would assume that the gift of singleness could be described in 1 Corinthians Chapter 7. Also in Acts Chapter 21, verses eight & nine. The chapter in 1 Corinthians speaks about how it is better to be single than married because the married person must please his or her mate where the single person is devoted only to pleasing God. Personally, I'm tired of being single. LOL. God bless you all. Getting baptized on Sunday. Praise God.
---rex on 6/24/05

I wouldn't call "singleness" a gift but a choice or a situation.
---Albert on 6/24/05

There is a gift of chastity. I knew a man who was 85 yrs old and completely in love with God. He never married or had a girlfriend. I think that you should pray about it. However it is not the same as being content in your singleness. I am content in my singleness because I know that God with give me a husband in His time not mine. From my own understanding with the gift of chastity you don't have the desire to have a mate and have children. God is the mate for that person.
---Auror3743 on 6/23/05

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I'm not sure what it is, but I'm sure I don't have it. I would think it is some one who is able to go out on their own to do the willof God with out having to worry about the finances of suporting a family though.
---laure5469 on 6/23/05

Singleness is indeed a gift to all who relate to you. It is being alone in the love of God our maker and reaching the souls of others without being fully attached to anyone.
---Valerie on 6/23/05

Dear Kaitlin: I wasn't born with this "gift" because I was married and raised a family for 25 years. Then circumstances were such that I became divorced. I have chosen to remain single during the last 25 years. Each phase of my life had both wonderul times and disappointing times. Perhaps the answer to your question is life is life. What makes living wonderful for me is Jesus---with or without marriage. Both are blessed by His Sonshine.
---Elsie on 6/23/05

1)I believe that the gift of singleness allows one to joyfully serve the Lord without distracting thoughts of 'Is there a significant other for me.' 2)The gift of singleness can also be for a time. Whichever the case, with your obedient response, God also gives you peace. Paul wished others would also remain single since they could be wholely devoted to the Lord's work; he didn't say marriage is bad. (Co-compiler and Co-facilitater of our church course, "Contentedly Single")
---Miche9668 on 6/23/05

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I've never heard of that gift.Singleness isn't one of the Gifts of the Spirit in the Bible.The Bible; in whatsoever state you find yourself therein be content."Contentment" with one's present state is a gift, of faith.It's peace in Christ and your trust in Him to direct your life.No you aren't born with a singleness gift.Someone has been feeding you a lot of foolishness.God made man and woman to marry and have a family.Unless God calls one to be single in a Ministry ,which is rare,we can marry .
---Darlene_1 on 6/23/05

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