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Should I Give To Ex-Husband

Known my ex-husband for 10 years. Divorced him because he was unable to support us financially. Since then, he still does not support the children, however, he is always at my door with his hand out etc. My question is this. Since he is the father of my toddlers, should I support him forever?

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 ---kim9745 on 6/24/05
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If you will think, when he sticks his hand out,he is taking money you could use for his children,you will see how selfish he is.No,don't give that deadbeat dad a penny.He doesn't care enough about his children to support them, everytime you give him money you enable him, and condone his not giving you money for the children.He is a father to your children only by blood.Real fathers care and provide for their babies!Don't let him play on your pity to get money.You owe him nothing.
---Darlene_1 on 3/26/07


If you will think, when he sticks his hand out,he is taking money you could use for his children,you will see how selfish he is.No,don't give that deadbeat dad a penny.He doesn't care enough about his children to support them, everytime you give him money you enable him, and condone his not giving you money for the children.He is a father to your children only by blood.Real fathers care and provide for their babies!Don't let him play on your pity to get money.You owe him nothing.
---Darlene_1 on 3/26/07


There are always two sides of every story. From the sound of it, unless he has a medical reason not to get a job and support his kids, and being allergic to work is no excuse! Show him the door, and tell him not to darken it unless he has child support money in hand. Good luck
---geraa7578 on 6/27/05


Why wasn't he able to support you financially? Why did you get a divorce because of it? That don't make since, not unless he is lazy and wouldn't work then that is a different story. As long as you keep on givin', he's going to keep on takin'.
---Rebecca_D on 6/26/05


Yeah she should do what her heart tells her but looks like she is being used from her ex. She can only do what she can do but when she gives that is taking away from the children that her ex isn't giving her. Only God can lead her to where she should go with this situation. I hope the best for them all. I truly believe there is a reason for everything that goes on in our lives. She will be lead to do the right thing for sure.
---Debbie23453 on 6/26/05




He is legally responsible to support his children, you are not responsible to support him at all. Take him to court and get him to support his offspring. Get the courts to send this deadbeat dad to jail till he can support his kids.

Sometimes the loving thing to do is make someone take responsibility for their children. Your kids deserve support. He deserves a kick in the pants.
---Madison on 6/25/05


Kim, you are a real christian, the one Jesus told to turn another cheeck. It all ends on you and the children if you left him on the street. Imagine the father of your children being on the street. You are now related whether you like it or not. Help him as your relative not as your ex-husband. I know God will repay you. This does not take away his responsibilty as a father of the children. Sit down with him and talk over the issue.

Jimmy
---Jimmy on 6/25/05


Everyone is telling you No, don't give to your ex, but I say do what your heart tells you. If there are times when you really can't help him, then tell him that.
---a_friend on 6/25/05


2Th 3:10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.
---Jerry6593 on 6/25/05


no
the bible says the man is the provider and the woman is the caregiver
---chara858 on 6/24/05




NO! Send him packing and tell him to get a job so he can pay YOU child support! You may as well have stayed married, doesn't seem much has changed!
---NVBarbara on 6/24/05


No, way! Tell him NO MORE handouts. You have children to support they are your only responsibilty. He is an adult not a child (even if acts like one) He needs to grow up and take responsibility for himself.
Been there before and learned hard way. Take care of yourself and children. You are divorced, move on and let him get his own life and support himself.
Sorry so harsh but been there and feel for you.
---Marla on 6/24/05


I wouldn't support him, he should be giving to you for your children. I just don't understand some men that think that they don't have to take care of their kids. I wish you the best of luck there. I wouldn't give him anything more. He is taking away from you and the kids not fair to you guys one bit. See you owe him nothing he is your ex-husband. I would tell him to hit the road for sure.
---Debbie on 6/24/05


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