Husband And Son Fighting
There is a lot of tension between my husband and my youngest son( previous marriage) My husband started out paying attention to him a lot and then one day just stopped saying he felt guilty not being with his children all the time too. Now they fight all the time. How can I fix this relationship?
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---miche3348 on 6/29/05
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How did your situation turn out? What did you do to fix it? Was your husband a willing participant? I have a similar situation except my son is now 25 and they just had a physical fight.
---Marie on 12/27/12|
I agree with the prayer part. Lots of good can be done with God's part in the relationship. I totally disagree with staying neutral. To remain stoic to your child is showing them to not trust. To do that with your husband is suggesting a Stepford way of being. Kids need to respect elders, but the Stepdad needs to know that your child is just as important even though he's not of His lineage. He married you knowing that he'd have another child to influence. There's no excuse in remaining neutral.
---Nicola on 4/4/08|
You cannot fix anything but God can. Lots of prayer for both husband,son and yourself to remain neutral and not get caught up in the fray. Let both husband and son know you love and care for them. But let the son know he needs to respect dad if he is living under his roof or not.But more so if he lives under dad's roof. Whatever you do, do not go against your spouse in front of the son. If dad is wrong about something, speak to spouse in private.
---Robyn on 4/3/08|
You can by praying. they can fix their relationship with God's help. Talk with each of them alone, and go from there with God.
---Rebecca_D on 4/3/08|
isaiah 40:29--He gives strength to the weary and increases the power of the weak..amen..
resist the devil in the name of Jesus and anoint your home with olive oil..may the LOrd bless and keep you safe fromt eh plans from teh enemy--amen
---teresa on 3/17/07|
You can't fix their relationship, only God can. Pray for them.
---Madison on 3/17/07|
Miche, you can email me at christianet - find me at marca7684. Talk to you soon.
---Marcia on 8/2/05|
Marcia, I would really like to talk to you about your situation. Maybe you could e-mail me sometime. I really hope your husband recognizes his problem before it's too late and can work things out with your son. You are right about your son's self-esteem being at stake. It's really hard when you are pulled between loving your husband and loving your son and accused by both of siding with the other one. Keep in touch..
---miche3348 on 7/30/05|
Miche, I hope the Lord is sustaining you at this time, I am undergoing a brief seperation from my husband after a particularly ugly attack on my young son, somthing in me just snapped. He has issues and if he can't get help and be healed (promises but never acts) then I will not be going back. My sons self esteem is in my hands and this man could ruin it. I pray your situation turns for the better.
---Marcia on 7/30/05|
Thank you, Marcia, for those words of encouragement. It's nice to know that I am not the only mother facing this situation. My son just got baptized this past Sunday and I am hopeful that this will help the situation..
---miche on 7/20/05|
I soooo relate, I have the exact situation, my husband feels guilty loving my stepson as he doesn't see his own three kids and is hard on him and they butt heads all the time. It has pushed me at times to consider leaving for my boy's sake, I beg my husband to be a "dad" to him as my son gets wounded too. I suggest counselling with your pastor or a counsellor, it is helping us.
---Marcia on 7/19/05|
that is so great that your son has given his life to the lord . Amen. My oldest gave her life to the lord 4 years ago. That was one of the best day of my life to see her give her life to the lord. (well one of the best days the best day for me first was giving my life to the lord 16 years ago both my husband and I did at the sametime.) I still have one that has to give her life to the lord but that will come can't push it on them. That gives you something to celebrate.
---debbie23453 on 7/1/05|
update- Just wanted to thank you all for your advice and let you know that I picked my son up from Bible camp today and he told me he gave his life to the Lord Monday (6/27). Praise the Lord. I am so thankful
---miche3348 on 7/1/05|
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