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Why Doesn't God Give Me A Mate

I ask God for my soulmate and prayed a lot for it but why is it that it seems He doesn't hear me?

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 ---Regin3873 on 7/1/05
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Everytime someone asks this, I always wonder what they prayed.

They couldn't of read and based their prayer on these.
Gen.24:7, (and other scriptures about the marriage relationship)
1 John 5:14-15, Mark 11:24, Phil 4:6-8, Heb. 10:36,35. Patience is perseverance in trusting God -Psalm 26:1, to be watching over his word to perform it -Jeremiah 1:12.

I had a song that I attached to my prayer. Whenever it played I thanked God that he was working.

It took two years to meet. Two years later we married.
---jan4378 on 12/6/12


Good advice, MarkV, unless your mind goes blank!
---pat on 11/20/12


This blog is seven years old. The person who posted could have died already. let the old blods die, create a new one, this way people can answer the one who posted.
---Mark_V. on 11/19/12


i feel as if GOD is punishing me, and i want so much to meet a real good woman for me. it seems that all the good women have been taken today, and all the rotten ones are left out there now. i was married at one time myself, but she was the one that cheated. i was a very caring and loving husband at the time, and never mistreated her in anyway at all. now going out is like a game, trying to find a good woman that can accept me for who i am. PEACE
---frank_says on 11/19/12


Hello,bro.Josh
great response and Me too I be talking to JESUS my neighbors use to be concern then I told them.do not worry unless ELENA gets in a bad argument with( myself )ELENA if you speak English call 911 if you speak Spanish.. llame 911.. other than that..ok smile...just kidding.god bless you.
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---ELENA on 11/10/12




The best answer I can come up with is that there is a reason parents don't let their children play in the road. It might not be what you think. At 47 I have never married. I almost did when I was 30, and when I got out of it, there was a great deal of relief. It would have been bad for both of us. For one thing, I spend way too much time talking to imaginary friends. (a little humor) Good luck.
---Josh on 11/10/12


Catherine, that was uncalled for.

Regin, if anyone says you don't deserve or shouldn't have someone to love, ignore them. Surround yourself with people that uplift and encourage you. Keep searching, don't settle, and good luck!
---im_serious on 8/18/08


How to get a mate.

1. Ask God. If you don't think he heard you go into the desert and cry out to him in your deperation.

2. Do you place yourself into a position to get noticed? In other words, do some godly work (actually feeding the poor, helping in a disaster area, etc) where a man (or a woman) sees what you are doing for the Lord and looks upon you approvingly. Just being seen in a man-made church will not do.

Take the examples in the Bible. Moses walked across a desert to find his mate (althought that wan't the primary reason) and she was a worker ,)
---Steveng on 8/18/08


catherine: "He doesn't want you to have one!"

Gosh, a very cold-hearted and not a very compassionate post. Just the way you said it would bring tears to a person's eyes and anguished to the heart. I suggest brushing up on your empathy and compassion with other human beings - or just read the Bible.
---Steveng on 8/18/08


He doesn't want you to have one!
---catherine on 8/18/08




Have you asked him this? Perhaps something is standing in the way, such as disobedience in some area? Or perhaps it is just not yet time? Or perhaps it is not his will for you to have a mate? He is the only one that can answer this for you. Fasting is designed to help us get closer to God, and get the flesh out of the way, maybe devote some time to that, along with prayer and the word. Things may become a little clearer.
---Gayla on 8/17/08


Kenny,
Once I started to use Nanah because another "Nana" started posting alongside me and our beliefs were not akin either. On finding out that a name change is not a guarantee against such happening again, I went back to using Nana. In regards to Nicole you say, "It sometimes feels as though I'm wasting my time with Nicole." Indeed you are doing that with comments like, "Catholicism has turned you into a scatterbrain.", "you show your ignorance", "You seem to be oblivious of His blessings, and have little faith, or just another lost soul under false teachings of the Roman Catholic Church.", if you wish to befriend and share of your faith.
---Nana on 8/15/08


Thank you Nicole for your confidence.Christ loves His Church which is known as His bride.I believe,I had similar asperations but took the plunge,with the firm determination that it would weather all storms.I had a mate who was steadfast with this same asperation.The separation has evolved in death.But the years were fruitful and everlastingly memorable.Yours in Christ Blessings.It's fair to share.
---MIC on 8/14/08

I am sorry for your lost.
Your statement is very true.
My sister lost her husband 2 months ago after for 15 yrs of marriage.
They were fruitful as well.

Many couples are married for 35 yrs with only 2 to 3 yrs of happiest.

When you wait for God, you are blest indeed.
However He moves.
---Nicole on 8/14/08


Well Mary, if you think your soulmate could be a cynical, cranky and boring 43 year old guy who's favorite hobbies include eating, watching TV and playing golf, then maybe you are onto something. Quite honestly though, I'm not what most gals are looking for.
---ralph7477 on 8/14/08


Oh, I hate to admit this (it hurts lol!) but I can really see your point, Ralph! :D I think we do sometimes put so much effort into finding a "soulmate" that we wear out the opposite sex, I know men that come on too strong with me scare me. Who knows, perhaps you and I are "soulmates"? Hehehehehe!!! :D
---Mary on 8/14/08


Thank you Nicole for your confidence.Christ loves His Church which is known as His bride.I believe,I had similar asperations but took the plunge,with the firm determination that it would weather all storms.I had a mate who was steadfast with this same asperation.The separation has evolved in death.But the years were fruitful and everlastingly memorable.Yours in Christ Blessings.It's fair to share.
---MIC on 8/14/08


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The Phrase "Marriages are made in Heaven"is an incomplete sentence, with the privoso "if only both parties make it so."I believe while one must pray, You (each) alone must walk down that Isle with your convictions and determination to make it work. One cannot later Blame God, if it does not work out.God is a silent partner to the Contract which you both undertake. It is your contract .If both parties realise this then you are in unison with each other.This discussion should take place FIRST.before you pop the question, or any other thing being contemplated.
---MIC on 8/14/08


******I ask God for my soulmate and prayed a lot for it but why is it that it seems He doesn't hear me?*****


Maybe because God wants to be your soul mate first.
---kathr4453 on 8/14/08


The major reason that you gals are having trouble finding men to put up with you...I mean finding a "soulmate" is that you are simply too demanding and guys are realizing that trying to keep you satisfied is too much work.

A good example is Kay's posts where she tells women to make a list of all the things you want in a man. That's what you do when you go car shopping. Any time you read personal ads of women looking for men, it's nothing more than a laundry list of everything a man must do for them. "Must make them laugh, love to have fun, love to travel, must be successful, must be assertive but sensitive" and on and on.

Instead of wishing for a husband for yourself, express a desire to be a wife to a man.
---ralph7477 on 8/14/08


Nana,
I've changed Ken to Kenny. I've had to change the name I use within this blog because an imposter is using it. It sometimes feels as though I'm wasting my time with Nicole. I'm not against Nicole. The faith is there. It's his/her thinking that's twisted because it's the Vatican that speaks the truth.
---Kenny on 8/14/08


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Dear Nicole, pardon my inquisitiveness, Did you ever want a mate? I always thought with your Faith and wisdom You had already chosen your Fate.May you be blest in the decision He has chosen for You.---MIC

No, I was a Nun, but I had to leave before my final vows because of my illness.

Natually, I would love to be marry instead of being single.

But, married to a person picked by God not by myself.

Ken, thinks that I think I am punished because not having a mate is something missing in my life.

God is enough for me.
God's Will will always be first.

I am a lady first and desire all that other ladies desire.

But, I trust God is knowing what is best for me.
I shall not make a step with Him.
---Nicole on 8/13/08


Ken,
I sure do not read all that garbage you read into Nicole's blog on 7/31/08 at all!
---Nana on 8/13/08

Thank you
---Nicole on 8/13/08


do not give up on ur desire to be married and to have a loving companion for life. there are two things i would advise you to do. well, three, including constant praise and worship of Christ Jesus. sit and write down 5 qualities that your soulmate must have. these are the qualities that are essential and that you won't compromise on. next, write down 5 qualities that you would like your soulmate to have, these are not essential, but nice to have. lastly, write down 5 deal-breakers - habits that your potential match may expose, or things done, which you cannot live with.
---Kay on 8/13/08


(CONT'D...) once you've done that ask if you reflect the qualities you hope for, and if you have any of the poor habits which are your deal-breakers. if possible ask someone you trust to give objective feedback, be prepared to listen. begin to fix what you need to, so that you'll attract the right person. lastly, anything that is not in your essential qualities list should be forgotten completely, those are mental obstacles. e.g., if you had previously imagined you'd only be happy with a man who is 5'10" tall, but height wasn't part of your essential qualities, drop that idea. stick to qualities that portray your match:one whom you can love - and who can love you back. mail me - i have a few book recommendations for you.
---Kay on 8/13/08


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Ken,
I sure do not read all that garbage you read into Nicole's blog on 7/31/08 at all!
---Nana on 8/13/08


Dear Nicole, pardon my inquisitiveness, Did you ever want a mate?I always thought with your Faith & wisdom You had already chosen your Fate.May you be blest in the decision He has chosen for You.
---MIC on 8/12/08


Nicole,
Jesus came upon a cripple, he healed the man but his disfigurement remained. Our carnal thinking would be wondering why Jesus did'nt heal his physical need. However, Jesus gave the man what he needed most of all, faith. You constantly blog here as someone of knowledge and faith yet you show your ignorance in assuming He is somehow punishing you because something is missing in your life. You seem to be oblivious of His blessings, and have little faith, or just another lost soul under false teachings of the Roman Catholic Church.
---Ken on 8/11/08


I don't have a mate either.

But, I am pretty sure it is most likely my fault. I think it is because I talk too much.

Who knows?

I am content with my life. God will give me a mate dispike (sp?) myself, if He Wills it.

Maybe He knows I am happier without a Mate.

God only knows what makes us the happiest.

So, I will trust His' Will.
---Nicole on 7/31/08


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i can relate it seems when i find someone i am interested next thing i know the next person they meet is the one..so it's like God wheres mine. but there was this one day in 2003, i was driving and GOD shared with me i would be married soon this is like 5 years ago..one thing i know from God and having a realationship when he confirms something he will do it ..his timing is everything but in the meantime what i am learning is what i want in a Godly man how to reconize, character, getting myself ready and being available where ever God has me to go in hopes one of these days i will share the itimency with someone who loves God as much as i do..until then i am going to continue to look toward the Prize and continually know what is true God say..
---ally on 7/29/08


I have prayed for a mate as well but I think there is no one to here us I no that we are alone john.
---john on 7/21/07


If u're in His Will, I'm sure He hears u&will send u ur perfect match.Just be patient&wait!
---Chioma on 5/25/07


we're only guaranteed trials temptations and persecutions as Christians
---r.w. on 7/3/06


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Hey this is to Kathy - I like to hear more of your experience with living for Jesus and attracting men - this is an interesting story, 2ndly we have been mistaken for each other on these blogs. My apologies, I will stick to my handle, If you look on your blog history, you are "accused" of saying somethings I was responsible for LOL. You sound very intelligent tho so I hope maybe I was mistaken for you too. God bless
---kathy3339 on 7/6/05


there's nothing impossible with God ,just be patient and he'll provide for all yr needs ,just believe in his name and works !!
---brenda on 7/2/05


Regin3873
God is not deaf. He hears you. Why not rather make peace with Him and accept the fact that His timing is different from our timing. While you are waiting for an answer, listen carefully to His voice, I'm sure there is something that He wants from you first! God bless -elmar3686
---elmarie on 7/2/05


I prayed for over 25 years and now, God has put him in my life. When it happens then you can look back and see why He waited. He has reasons. I talked to mine for over a year and a half before I woke up and realized he is my soul mate. We were just friends. Just keep praying and remember to put God first! Seek Him first and the rest will be added unto you. And beware of counterfeits. There are plenty of them. Not bad men, just not yours! And get rid of preconceived ideas of what he is like!
---Pat on 7/2/05


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Regin, I know that u can have the desire of your heart as long as you delight yourself in the Lord.(Pslamn37;4) Simply stand back & watch God move n His time. You are entitled to ur heart's desire so u can make ur search as narrow as u please.
---Alicia on 7/2/05


First of all why does the man have to be a certain height and from America? the reason God isn't hearing you is because you and a lot of others are putting restrictions on what YOU want instead of letting Him do the choosing...what you're asking for is very selfish...be content with someone from your own country and then He may be able to work....
---Fran8674 on 7/1/05


Sounds like you are wanting God to find you mate in YOUR time not HIS time. God gives his best to those who trust and have faith in him. He may be still preparing you or someone to be your mate. God may just be perfecting his will.
Keep praying but do so in patience and a will to wait on God.
---Marla on 7/1/05


What if God brings to you a good Christian man from your own race or country (Phillipines), will you accept him?

I'm just asking because in your profile (Regin3873)you've specified that you're looking for ''A white man that have a good heart and preferably resides in the United States. He must be 5'7" to 5'11", and age from 50's or above, professionals or retired.''
---shadreck on 7/1/05


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When a christion female,lives a life God is asking us to live,Its so attractive to a male,NO FEMALE needs to go out to look.She is being persued,..DAILY.I speak from experience.kathy
---kathy on 7/1/05


God knows the mate He has for you. His timing is right. He's never too early or too late. Seek Him first and all things shall be added. Make God your Husband and in His timing He'll bring the right person into your life. You won't have to do anything for He'll put Him in your path. God wants to be first. Delight in Him and He'll give you the desires of your heart. Let go and let God, and watch Him work!
---Maria on 7/1/05


Maybe he did and you wasn't listening. Or maybe you need more paitence.
---Rebecca_D on 7/1/05


There is only two reasons why God does not hear the prayers of someone.
1. John 9:31, so are you a Worshiper of God?
2. Psm 66:18, If you are a Christian is there sin in your life?
God only promises to hear one prayer of the lost sinner and that is the prayer of repentance.
The Saved person must walk in the statutes of the Lord and keep fellowship with Him.
When we sin we lose our fellowship we must repent and return to the Lord to restore this fellowship.
---Elder on 7/1/05


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maybe the Lord has other work for you to do first.soulmate is a gift from God and he knows what is best for you . if you are a child of God he wants you to fucos on him first..be content on your relationship with God and i believe he will give you the desire of your heart..
---mirna on 7/1/05


Know this, God knows his children. I, like you, use to wonder why God hasn't given me a mate. Now I know that He has heard me, He's just making sure the mate He gives me is "For Me" My mate is out there, God is still getting him ready for me. In the mean while He's getting me ready to receive.
---Josied3 on 7/1/05




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