If you meet a man that is not willing to let your past be in the past than he is not a "good Christian man" and is still a babe himself, not examining his own sins. Pray for him and move on because that attitude would give you problems in the future anyway.
God restores and cleanses you to be white as snow, Virgin Snow!
I think most people struggle more with forgiving themselves for their past than they do with God restoring them.
When you come to Christ, you are a new creature, that old person no longer exists. They are dead and buried along with their sinful deeds.
Go forth and enjoy your new life! |
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---Bob on 11/14/09 |
Oh good grief! What's to "forgive" of something someone has done before they ever met you? My fiancee did one of the worst things I've ever heard of (while drunk) years before we met--it is NOT my place to "forgive" him for it--it was before I came around. See my point anyone? |
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---Mary on 11/14/09 |
The answers many bloggers here have given are how God feels about her situation. And they imply that her husband should be able to respond like God. Easily said but not so easily done. Many men ( and they can be good Christian men) cannot easily forgive or forget. It can cause years of silent and not silent suffering. The resentment can grow and it can wane. It seems to me that according to scripture sexual sin is differentiated from other sins. Is the word "non virgin" used in the new testament? If not what words are used for a non virgin? Best of God's blessing to you young lady. |
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---Wichita on 11/13/09 |
God forgives sin, but there are consequences for ones actions. Practically speaking, the preparation for a Godly relationship is made more difficult for those people. It is proper though to consider the past relationships, repent, apologize as needed, break the 'soul ties' (or longing for other people), and renew ones' mind - learning Gods' ways. Deliverance is sometimes needed. I've heard of several cases where God has healed, or rebuilt, the structure, and of one case where God has restored the hymen.
2Corinthians 5:1-21, Ephesians 4:17-32, Colossians 3:1-17. |
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---Glenn on 10/31/09 |
Heather, your words are untrue and you deny the power of God. The natural person receives not the things of the Spirit of God, for they are foolishness to that one: neither can know that one, because they are spiritually discerned. |
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---Eloy on 10/31/09 |
Yes, God restores one's virginity. As Christians we are Christ's bride, and being holy, perfect, and just, God cannot marry a sinner (or a prostitute, the term God occasionally uses in the OT for those who sell their lives for the possessions of this world), which is what we are because of our sinful nature and actions. Therefore the blood of Christ cleanses us from all sin, making us holy and perfect. He restores to his Bride the virginity that was lost so that she is perfectly radiant and worthy to be his Bride. Therefore if a man can't love whom God loves, then find another man! |
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---Jason on 10/28/09 |
many times I wish God would restore MINDS.soooo many seem brain dead. |
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---tom2 on 8/24/09 |
I have heard testimonies of restored virginity - I think it depends on the situation whether God will choose to do it or not - but to question whether God can or whether he ever does is, I think, to question your faith and knowledge of Him and relationship with him at all. He is without limits. Eloy, your faith and wisdom are beautiful to behold - and Heather, does he not perform miracles in the physical realm? Did he not come to live and suffer among us in the physical realm? He's not removed from the physical - that strikes me as heresy to think so. |
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---kirsten on 8/23/09 |
Tami:-Dear lady you are comparing 2 separate things.Virginity and sin.Virginity is a tear in the fabric of ones body like a flesh wound which leaves a life long SCAR Sin is a transgression against God.He forgives and forgets and your soul is made clean.Virginity once lost is never restored All young women and men should Know and treasure this thought. |
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---Mic on 1/15/09 |
You will always have the consequences of your actions because they cannot be totally physically removed so easily to speak.
You sinned you repented and so those sins you repented of are removed, but the memory of it will only affect you when you come to marry trusting you never married or that your husband is dead as you give no indication where you are coming from.
However we serve God not in the flesh, but in the Spirit and he seeks such to worship. So what happened in the flesh is put under grace and you now have a new life Spiritually in Christ. |
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---Carla3939 on 1/15/09 |
Once you have given that away you can not get it back. God forgives us and he forgets that sin, but thats one thing that we will never get back |
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---Tyler on 1/14/09 |
God will restore virginity. He is a God of restoration of all sins. He is all POWER, MERCY, GRACE because he LOVES, as we bring glory to him by the testimony of our mouth through JESUS. We are all sinners saved by God's grace. He ponders our heart and moves upon our faith. Whatever our sin is, shall be wiped away as far from the east is to the west. Many are dominated by evil spirits that bind us and it is only through PRAYER & POWER that our ONE TRUE FATHER shall deliver us...but only through the blood of the lamb - JESUS CHRIST! Jesus is the TRUTH, the WAY, and the LIFE and NO man shall reach GOD but only through JESUS. In all that you do (no matter your transgressions) do all in prayer, supplication and thanksgiving - in Jesus' name. |
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---Tami on 1/13/09 |
I have to agree with Alan "what is lost is lost in the respect of virginity".However mistakes are Forgiven by God and He does forget once forgiven.So the soul is clean and acceptable to any grace which he wishes to bestow.He is a God of Compassion and Mercy. |
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---Emcee on 4/25/08 |
Absolutely. If you have lived a good moral life, after you were saved [celibacy] your virginity has been restored. I am not sure if I can answer your question completely. If you fall into sexual sin after you are saved is something else. I am not going to lie, it is serious. |
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---catherine on 4/25/08 |
I think God is more interested in the Spirit than the body. Give your spirit to Him, and then your body will be pure in His eyes. Refrain from further offending God. Don't fall for the lies of the devil that tell you eg once you have sinned you are forever guilty and may as well continue in your sin. If you repent God has forgiven and forgotten. Don't let the devil keep reminding you. Put your sin under the blood of Jesus Christ. |
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---frances008 on 4/24/08 |
Chi Chi ... We ALL sin.
In God's eyes, sins are not graded or scaled.
Losing your virginity is no "worse" than the time you stood back from helpng a needy person.
Physically you will not recover your virginity, but in God's eyes you will again be a virgin once you have asked for.
And if your future husband truly loves you he will forgive you. |
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---alan_of_UK on 4/24/08 |
how do u deal with virginity lost whilest you are christian. is there anything you can do to restore before marriege? help
CC |
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---Chichi on 4/24/08 |
our God is not a God who fails to do the impossible.. He will restore virginity.. and He will give to us the best spouse.. because He loves us. |
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---AsD= on 2/20/08 |
Yes, I believe God can restore ones virginity. Stay faithful to God let Him control every aspect of your life and you are a virgin in every sinse of the word. You feel pure if you belong to Jesus then you are pure in the sight of God. I hope that this answers your question. |
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---catherine on 10/9/07 |
No. Once virginity is gone, it's gone. A Good Christian man, a real Christian man, one who loves the Lord, will not judge the past. Knowing that he has a past as well, we all do. And if he does judge the past, and holds the sin of unforgiveness, then I would question his stand. |
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---anon on 10/9/07 |
If someone bites your ear off in a boxing match, (or your nose), will sewing it back on bring restoration? The scar will still be there. |
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---R.A. on 10/24/06 |
steve has it right. if a murderer in jail gets saved, well, he's still a murderer in jail. |
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---r.w. on 10/21/06 |
Eloy, I'm sorry, but you're way off base on this one. Virginity is physical; God is metaphysical (or spiritual if you prefer that specific word). Yes, a person can reclaim their spirituality and gain God's forgiveness after giving up their virginity but once you're virginity is gone that's all there is to it. We get ONE SHOT at giving it to the right person and that's it.If God gave back a person's virginity it wouldn't be an issue ever mentioned much less stressed in His Word. |
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---Heather on 8/3/05 |
While I don't want to "box God in" by stating He can't do it, don't recall anyplace in scripture, or in anyone's life that this has been done. Second part of your question: "yes", there are Christian men out there who won't judge you for your past - as long as you have repented and havn't regressed. |
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---Ray on 8/3/05 |
, virginity is, by definition, something you cannot get back once it's gone. God forgives completely, but he doesn't erase your choices. so, if you married while you were unsaved, don't think you can abandon your spouse for a christian now. |
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---steve on 7/9/05 |
yes he can, and there is hope. i have had many personal miracles done in my life. We serve a God who himself was born from a virgin, turned water into wine, healed all manner of disease, reattached a severed ear, healed the leper, made the blind see, the deaf hear, the lame walk, the possesed cleansed, the lost saved, the dead raised, walked on top of the water, calmed the storm, etc. i don't put anything past him. To him who believes, all things are possible with God. |
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---Eloy on 7/8/05 |
God can and will restore us whenever we have fallen to the flesh. Coming to him as our loving Father he will openly receive us again and again with his unfailing love. Allow the Lord to send your husband to you. |
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---Donna6946 on 7/8/05 |
You've asked a good question. There is a famous Eastern saint, Mary of Egypt, who was a notorious harlot. Yet she repented and achieved a high level of mysical prayer, when she was seen to levitate during it. In icons, she is numbered with the "Choir of Virgins."
One can be as filthy as a pig pen, and still physically a virgo intacta. And then there's Mary of Egypt.
In other words, purity is something INTERNAL. God looks at the heart. |
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---Jack on 7/8/05 |
Sadly many Christians put sexuals sins at the top of their list when it comes to deciding purity in another person. Sin is sin is sin. No one is sinless. If someone judges you because of sexual sin you can be sure they have sins in their lives that they are keeping quiet about. |
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---Xanthi on 7/8/05 |
No, once you've given your virginity away it's gone forever, but, yes, you can find a Christian man who will look beyond any mistakes you've made in the past, the question is if that's what God has planned for you. |
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---Heather on 7/8/05 |
Once we are born again ,we have a new birth in Christ and our virginity is spiritually restored for all becomes new in the Lord,and old goes away through the blood of Jesus Christ. |
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---mayende on 7/8/05 |
Yes. the bible says if any man be in Christ old things are passed away and behold all things becomes new. i have sincerely repented of sex and its family outside marriage since over 10yrs ago so i believe im pure and must get d best of xtian man from God as my life partner inaccordance to his perfect will for me in the name of Jesus. |
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---lobea9846 on 7/8/05 |
Anon, being a virgin does not make you pure. It just means you have not had sex. Remember in Christs parable there were ten virgins and five of them were foolish.
Gods commands us in Micah to love mercy, do justice and walk humbly with him. That is what makes us pure. Do you expect you future spouse to be perfect as well? Bless you in your journey. |
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---randy on 7/8/05 |
If you get mad and cut off your finger will God restore it when you repent of your anger?
Remember it is not important "What you DID" but it is important "What you DO."
If you have forsaken your old sin then go and sin no more and let God work out the plans for your life and whatever partner He chooses for you.
Remember, everyone makes mistakes but Fools practice them. |
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---Elder on 7/8/05 |
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