Go To Hyprocrite Church
I go to a Church with my husband where his nephew preaches & so does my huband, too. I do not feel comfortable there because the newphew is a hypocrite. A Preacher shouldn't be a hypocrite. I want to go to another Church.
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---S. on 7/11/05
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Who do you go to church for? Jesus or man? When we go to church, our mind should be on God and not on our surroundings. We [the Body of Christ] attend church because we want to praise and honor Jesus Christ, the risen Lord.
Pray to God and ask Him to change Him. Talk to him and your husband, and have your Bible to defend your position with.
S. You may wish to go another church, but every church is not perfect. Trust me, I been there! We need to look at Christ and Him only.
---Ramon on 6/30/07|
The question is, are you putting your faith in Jesus or in the man? If your nephew is speaking true but acting falsely, then stick with what he says rather than what he does, just as the Apostles had to do with those who sat in Moses' seat before Jesus established His own Church (Matthew 23:2-3).
You would be hard pressed to find a church with a perfect human pastor, although some are probably better than others, until a new pastor comes along.
---lorra8574 on 6/30/07|
I feel for your low regard for hypocrites! On a practical basis, ask your husband to do something else in the church, like teaching the kids in children's church, or some other activity carried on during the sermon. That's the only way that I have been able to stay at a church were I was supposed to be sometimes, as I didn't really receive anything good from the Leader. God's wisdom and aid sister. Of course, I've known married couples who went to different churches.
---harold on 6/30/07|
First, ask God to change him.
1 Tim 5:19 Against an elder receive not an accusation, but before two or three witnesses.
If God declines, then you will need other witnesses to complete the process described in Mt 18:15-17.
Normally, this process begins one-on-one, but with a church leader it should begin with 2 or 3 witnesses.
You will not need to petition for others, if they agree with you, you will likely already know them.
---a_servant on 6/30/07|
We must remember that preachers are human beings and as much subject to sin as lay people. You might talk with your husband first and express your concerns to him and see if he has a solution. Since it sounds from your message that they work as a team your husband might be able to handle the situation without any hard feeling to anyone.
---Ed on 6/30/07|
Is your nephew a "hypocrite" or just "spritually ignorant?" "Hypocrite" means to "play act." Which is different from a person who does things wrong because of spiritual ignorance. Point out to him that as the spritual leader of his congregation, he could be causing them to sin. First, you might check with other members of the congregation - but do not gossip - just seek their opinion. But remember, there are always "two sides to a coin."
---WIVV on 8/6/05|
I agree with Ann....if you can confront him about issue's you are uncomfortable with (and back those feelings up with scripture!!) than that is the most Christ-like thing to do. It is not our place to judge or point fingers...if he is not right, than God will deal accordingly but if you are not being fed at the church than you should try another sanctuary. Good luck, my prayers are with you!
---Kimberly on 8/5/05|
The bible says that we are to talk to a person in private. then if that doesn't work to take others, that are brothers in Christ, as witnesses. then if this isn't working to go to church. Matt.18:15-17
---Laure5469 on 7/14/05|
You need to define in detail what the real issues are about his preaching that you disagree with. Then someone might be able to give you usable information. Do other members in the congregation feel the same way as you do? People tend to vote with their feet and stewardship dollars when things don't go right in a church and your church boards are ineffective in mamagement of worship planning. We are shooting in the dark because we don't know what the real issues are.
---phia4633 on 7/14/05|
Maybe when he glances at you from the pulpit, he might be thinking, "What is my uncle doing married to that hypocrite?"
How would that make you feel, were this so and you knew it?
---Jack on 7/14/05|
You know, S, that's one thing wonderful about the Church. No matter how full it is of hypcrites, there's ALWAYS room for one more! Even you. Even me.
Question: If what you KNOW to be your own sins don't invalidate your salvation, why should what you know (or even just think) are the nephew's sins invalidate his?
---Jack on 7/14/05|
It is better to be in church with hypoctites than to be in hell with them.
---Rev_Herb on 7/12/05|
You must be very careful before judging someone, lest ye be judged yourself.You don't specify what you think they are doing to qualify them as "hypocrites". <>Maybe for you whatever it is they are doing is being hypocritical in your eyes but it may not be the case at all.
Therefore, you should write again and tell us..why you think they are..otherwise, no one can give you adequate advice. It would be wrong for any of us to give advice on an assumption.
---Marie_Jacquelyne on 7/12/05|
Dear Abby once wrote: "A church is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints." We're all hypocrites in some ways. When my son stopped attending church because of the hypocrites, I asked him "What better place for them? They should be on the front row. Pray for them and let God deal with them in His own way."
---JJ on 7/12/05|
Have you discussed how you feel with your husband? You should tell him how you feel and make sure you have a good source (not just hearsay).
---Maha on 7/12/05|
Dear One in Christ Jesus: Welcome to the hypocrite club! Wherever there are people there are hypocrites. You might find some of those qualities in yourself! COMMUNICATE your concern with your husband. It is up to him to settle this matter within the confines of the clergy! If he does not do so, pray and pray again, then remain with your husband to support him. Concentrate on your walk with God. As my mother said, "Clean the dirt out of your own door; that will keep you busy". Blessings!
---Elsie on 7/12/05|
In what way is he a hypocrite? Do you know this for a fact, or is it just church gossip? Be very careful about criticizing a minister, even if he is a relative. If he is not "practising what he preaches", and you feel comfortable with him as a family member, speak to him about it, kindly & lovingly. If he won't listen and continues on, then find another church where you are comfortable.
---Ann5758 on 7/12/05|
Different options. You can confront the preachers about how their talk and walk mismatch and allow them to work on it. You can discuss your displeasure with your husband and see how he is handling the gap. Third, find a church where you do not know the preacher's life. One thing you need to know may be we are all humans and have black spots to work on. May be you will find the same hypocracy in a different form in the church you think you are comfortable.
---seble on 7/12/05|
I guess I would like to know to what degree your nephew does not practice what he preaches? Next, I would warn you that every church has a few hypocrites. So that won't help you. May be you need to sit down with both men and share your concern with them and if all else fails you could bring the concern to the church board for their consideration.
---Pierr7958 on 7/12/05|
Never let a hypocrite stand between yourself and God for he is closer to God than you are. It is hard to get the message when you do not trust the messenger. Talk in earnest with your husband about your feelings if he is smart enough to listen. To go to another church without clearing up your feelings would break up your marriage and relationship with God and God's people. Pray for them while deciding and for your patience for God's answer.
---chuck on 7/12/05|
You can always attend any church you like. You don't have to give a reason. But my sister, please be very careful before deciding someone is a hypocrite. You can't know his heart, his personal struggles, or anything inside him. Such thoughts could tempt you into the terrible sin of spiritual pride almost before you realize it. Be charitable toward the nephew, pray for him, even talk to him about how his actions seem to you. It might do more good than you think.
---Billy on 7/12/05|