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How Do I Move On

My husband and I split up 6 years ago and I still can't get over it, he left me for another woman whom he has since married. I have become a born again Christian and I pray constantly, but I just can't seem to get him off my mind it is destroying me. Can anyone give me advise on how can I move on.

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 ---mary4968 on 7/16/05
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Remember Judas the traitor brought the enemies of Christ to him in the garden and kissed him on the cheek, the death kiss signally to the enemies that this is the one. You must CUT OFF the memory of your aduterous EX-husband. "If your right hand shame you, Cut it off and put from you, for it avails to you that one of your members perish, than all your body go into hell. Marriage honorable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge." Pray
---Eloy on 6/2/08

The two of you became one flesh and one body, but he broke wedlock and is in sin, now you must sever that diseased part in order to preserve and save your holiness.
---Eloy on 6/2/08

Just continue to pray detailing to Jesus and ask him for his almighty help to forsake that man. He will help you to live your life "With Jesus More" rather than "without your ex". You Need Jesus, and you Do Not Need any adulterer sending you to hell. Pray, and you will be saved, and if the thoughts come back at any time, just pray to Jesus again and again throughout your life. God wants the very best for you, let him help you in your life, in every part, give. always in Jesus. Amen.
---Eloy on 6/2/08

Oh how I wish I could give you an answer that would instantly make your heartache go away. I have been thru this myself. My husband left me over 20 years ago and I went from wanting him back for years to now wanting to get back at him somehow. Please dont waste your life anymore. Find something to take your mind off of him. Keep praying and asking God to heal your heart.I pray you find peace in your heart soon.I wasted too many of mine. GOD BLESS YOU!
---Sandy on 6/1/08

Perhaps you could start dating again. Reaching out to others will take your mind off of yourself and you want be able to think so much. Remove all of his pictures and any reminders of him from the home. Don't listen to music or anything that reminds you of him. Pray a lot, especially when your mind begins to think about him. Begin to praise and worship Jesus. Tell Jesus how much you love him. And this ex will soon be history. I hope this helps some. This is not an easy place to be in. Love you.
---Robyn on 8/4/07

Mary::There is no one who can really help you because as long as you have it in your mind & system it will come up as a sour reflux action.Puy on a steel front find new activities & learn to laugh again there are many men who are sympathetic kind & not seeking favours.Pray to our Blessed Lord to remove your pain.sweep the board clear Make ready for a new goes on its water under the bridge, get involved in something which will hold your interest.
---Emcee on 8/4/07

The same thing happened to me. I loved my husband and could not believe he could leave me or our three children. I prayed so hard for God's will. It was the worst crisis of my life, but out of ashes comes something beautiful. God will heal you and let you see that life is still good and that He will protect and provide for you. In a sense your husband is dead to you. That is not the man you married. You have to close this door. God does have a better life for you. I will pray for you.
---debbie on 8/4/07

Mary, you will be 'victorious'.
It will take time, though, I know first hand. Please don't replay it
over & over in your mind. Dwell on
Phillipians4:8; 2Cor.10:3-6; and Isaiah54:4-17 those are only a few 'Gems'. And of course the whole Word of God. God is your Husband. I willkeep you in my prayers Mary! Mary8387 (write me if you are led)
---Mary on 8/11/05

I would ask first "have you forgiven him?". If not then you won't move forward. Secondly, have you blamed yourself for this event? Marriage is a challenge even in the happiest of marriages, but you tried and he gave up. It sounds like you need to go easier on yourself. Lay it at the feet of God and he will deliver. It's time.
---Mark on 7/18/05

perform the act of moving on. talk about it with some one (or him) find a boyfriend or better a husband. noone intends for you to be alone. it is not a sin to be married. the man you find will help you but you cannot remain brokenhearted forever
---matthew on 7/17/05

My goodness, this same thing happens to so many of us. I stayed focused on living my life the way I knew God wanted me to live it, and not focus on his adultery. 3 years later, I'm married to a fine Christian man...that I ment on this web site. I recently called the ex and thanked him for leaving me, he did me a huge favor. Today, I know how to love and be loved by a man that God led me to. My prayers are that you too will know such happiness.
---Tammy on 7/17/05

Hello..I have been there..20 years ago. in a few words, I can tell you, I moved on by asking God for the grace to forgive them both; by allowing my Christian friends to be there for me, by getting lost in using the gifts of the hOly Spirit for the goodof others, and being the best mom I could be..I depended solely on Jesus who understands betrayal and rejection, and still do, and I am filled with joy. I am praying for you..Jean
---Jean on 7/16/05

I know this kind of suffering. This happened to me. The pain stayed for years. I wondered what was so wrong with me. But, I continued to seek God and grew in my zeal for Him. I was able to forgive my ex and pray for his and her salvation along with praying for them to have a happy marriage. Then,God did bring someone else into my life...a Christian man. I am happly married. We can not change the past. Forgive him. except yourself, seek God.
---Linda3939 on 7/16/05

Pray well that God will bless you another loving male to take care of you. Concentrating in loving him will free you from your past
---Kishore on 7/16/05

Same situation happened to me. The only way to move forward is to start focusing on someone new. Maybe God will bring someone special into your life from this website.
---miche7878 on 7/16/05

Here are some things that helped me get through the same emotional crisis you are going through: getting involved with a divorce care group; reading any Christian book regarding the subject; reading some from the Psalms everyday; getting in a good Bible Study group; doing some kind of exercise; working helped; confiding in a good friend and trusting the Lord will never leave you or forsake you.
---debbie on 7/16/05

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I know from experience that no amount of prayer or bible reading seems to ease the pain for very long. Try to realize that God probably did you a big favor in the long run. Your ex-husband was not worthy of you and the problem is in his heart. He may seem happy but undoubtedly he is not and is probably still looking for fulfillment that he never will have. Just remember that God has a better future in store for you.
---ralph7477 on 7/16/05

You have to forgive him. I bet you are still saying he is the love of my life. He is not. Jesus is. Let Him be the love of you life. You have a broken heart. Keep praying, but pray for healing in your heart. Jesus is waiting for you to give Him all your burdens. Stop holding on and fall in to arms of the true love of you life. Jesus Christ. He is waiting.
---Nita on 7/16/05

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