My husband and I knew each other a total of 8months before getting married. We met once in april 1999, then ran into eachother again july 1999 & started dating.3weeks later he proposed.then Nov 1999 we got married. Now we have 3 boys and over 12yrs of marriage together, so though rare it can happen.
---candice on 5/16/12|
My wife and I (and everyone else around us for that matter) knew that we would get married after only two dates! I know it sounds crazy. We ended up dating for 1 1/2 years before getting married, but we all knew from the very beginning that we had met our mate.
---Jed on 5/16/12|
There are different kinds and degrees of relationships.
We actually have relationships with everyone we meet.
However, as my dad used to say, "Marry in haste, repent at leisure."
Christ is risen!
---Cluny on 5/14/12|
It does not matter how long you know each other. The bible does not give a length of time for courtship, or dating.
Does not matter
Marriage can only work if the two ( and in solomons case the 360) people are commmited to each other and to the covenant of marriage
---francis on 5/13/12|
The answer is based on CULTURE and not bible
In the bible Rebecca and Isaac and before long are married
Then Joseph and mary had a courtship
My favourite is:
Judges 21:20 Therefore they commanded the children of Benjamin, saying, Go and lie in wait in the vineyards,
Judges 21:21 And see, and, behold, if the daughters of Shiloh come out to dance in dances, then come ye out of the vineyards, and catch you every man his wife of the daughters of Shiloh, and go to the land of Benjamin.
Judges 21:23 And the children of Benjamin did so, and took [them] wives, according to their number, of them that danced, whom they caught
---francis on 5/12/12|
Hello,Regardless of your feelings or "vibes"you get fr this 3 day romancebelieve me If he or she (this is universal) they are pushy already! Justimagine,how it's gonna be! My daughter got herself similar situationnow afraid 'n can not leave(she marriedthis guy) and did not heed my advice. It's been 10 years since last saw her.I have no address or phone number. Hedoes not allow any communication. they belong to some kind of weird cult. Do not go "by feelings"...Jer.17:9 the heart is deceitful above all things and beyond cure. Who can understand it?Jer.17:5,also vs.11.
---ELENA on 5/10/12|
I promise you, you have not met the real person yet. Anybody can put on their best face for three days, the real person is locked in a cage at home. I can't say that it's wrong to like a person after three days, but it is not wise.
---Marcia on 8/21/07|
It takes a lifetime to get to really know a person. Slow down, unless you want a "quickie" marriage ending in a "quickie" divorce.
---Helen_5378 on 8/20/07|
it is not wrong, but i think that you have to learn more abou this person before you put your life in his hands or his life into your hands. you see wen you have a relationship with someone you are then responsible of what happens in that relationship. i would believe that you want to take resposibility of that relationship, so you need to know more about him before you commit you self to something that you might regret
---kuda on 8/20/07|
I don't think it's necesarily wrong, but I would encourage extreme caution. It's human to want to rush into things that are new and exciting. I would also encourage you to pray about the situation yourself as well as to pray with the other person about any potential relationship. If it's the "one" there won't be a time limit on building a relationship.
---Sarah on 8/17/07|
It's not wrong, but take it from someone who rushed a christian marriage, TAKE YOUR TIME, we have problems now because we did not see how incompatible we really were and I let emotion overtake me. Be friends, go slow, stay in the counsel of others and do not rush in for your own sake, if I had taken my time to see some things in my husband I would never of married him.
---Kate on 7/30/05|
Build a relationship by all means, No it's not wrong it can be quite normal, but it also may be an infatuation at this point so take it slow and don't do anything you can't take back...If ya know what I mean.
---Pharisee on 7/26/05|
No there is nothing wrong here! It is in fact a real joy when that happens as you have experienced for yourself. It is nice to run into a nice person from time to time BUT still take your time in developing a real long lasting relationship. What you have so far is a good "corner stone'
---Pierr7958 on 7/26/05|
It would be better to build an everlasting friendship first, then if more developes at a later date, the better the chance that it will last. Having a friend that you can trust and talk to is more important than have a relationship. How can one have a relationship with someone and not be able to trust and talk with them? Good luck.
---geraa7578 on 7/26/05|
It's possible, but it may not last long. The mind "sees" what it wants to "see". As a person who had done a lot of marriage counseling over the years, (33), I've seen "likes" turn into "dis-like" many times. Older people can work it out, but young people just say, "Oh well", and try again." This is fine if you are single, but causes problems when you are married. Don't build a lasting relationship until much later.
---Ray on 7/26/05|
Anything is possible.Just make sure that God is the one leading you...not just your human desires.
---chioma on 7/26/05|