Don't worry about that except the bad words part of it. Sometimes, I am learning, God does not always lead us into a spirit of love. Sometimes He wants us to stand up and tell people a thing or two. Just make sure that it is God and stay in the spirit while you are yelling. Believe me it is possible. And the whole time you will feel God's power keeping you from sin or sins. Have a good day.
---catherine on 1/30/08|
You lack wisdom and undertanding when it comes to spiritual things. You need to pray and seek God on how to handle your anger toward your spouse. You are angry with him about something more than just house duties.Is he going to church with you? Is the marriage ok? You are not being a good witness for Christ when you lose control of your mouth. You are also doing untold damage to your marriage as well.
---Robyn on 1/29/08|
My husband helps out when needed.I feel foolish for the times in the past where I got irritated with him for helping out(because I was getting around to it and it made me feel belittled). I stopped being so....nuts. I now appreciate him more. I am going to work shortly and will really appreciate his help.
---Kella3336 on 1/28/08|
I understand how you feel Niva, my wife is equally lazy. I spent all day Sunday cleaning the living room, and my wife laid around reading a book, then took the kids to the movies. I also ended up cooking dinner than night as well. I would be nice to have advise how to make my wife more of a helpmeet the bible talks about. I will pray for you, please pray for me.
---geraa7578 on 1/25/08|
maybe he had rather be on the housetop instead of the same house with a brawling woman. Yelling and cursing will not get what you think you deserve.
---shira_5965 on 5/15/07|
, Jesus said that all of us will have to give an account for every careless word. this makes me tremble, and makes me want to clean up my act.
---steve on 7/29/05|
As the president and founder and former member of the Lazy men's association of America I can assure you that guilt works alot better than tension.
There's a road many don't travel.
It's Narrow and there's many places to slip and get injured, but it leads to a reward you CAN'T see or imagine.
Ask but don't press.
Do it when he won't.
When he's older and wiser (and you need help the most) you'll not have to ask at all.
Train him by what you do.
---Pharisee on 7/29/05|
you need to apprechiate your husband! what would you do if one day he was no longer there? you did not mention your age, but just think if you loose him either through death or dessertion and you are over 30 with children; the older you are as a christian your chances of finding another husband will be scarce! some women would give their 'eye teath' to just be married!
---susanna on 7/28/05|
I am so with you. My husband is lazy also. I used to get stressed over it, but nothing is changing him, including fussing at him. I now just take care of whatever needs to be done no matter what he does or does not do. I look at it like this: if he were not in the picture, I would still need to clean the house, cook dinner, etc. Log on to www.flylady.net for some good advice on getting organized so the chores aren't so bad. As for my husband, I am not holding out a lot of hope, but life goes on.
---Annie on 7/28/05|
I know how you feel, and it makes me feel terrible. Thankfully I have a loving, patient and forgiving husband. Pray and take your situation to God, and ask for healing. Remember Christ loved us while we were still sinners, so aviod self condemnation, ask forgivness!
---Jessica on 7/28/05|
Sure they do but that doesn't mean it's right.Screaming can cause stress so it would be best if you and your husband could sit down and discuss the situation. i am a husband, believe it or not i love cleaning. it helps when two people help with the chores because you cut the chore in half. This way you have other things to do and makes time for other things too.let him know you can get tired too.
---Harold on 7/28/05|
The Bible calls a woman to honour and respect her husband. You probably feel his laziness is unloving toward you, as your bad words are disrespectful to him. You cannot change him, only yourself. If you changed your tone to Honour and respect him you would feel better about yourself and you would see a positive change in him. You must be sincere and patient, has much as that sounds like it would kill you to do, ask the Lord for the strength and you will be given the means. God Bless, a Brother in Christ.
---Bob on 7/28/05|
You need marriage counseling to help you agree in some form on what each of you will do and not do unless the other party is ill or away from home. Make a chart and both sign it!
Paul 1. will take out the trash
Mary 1. will do the laundry
From time to time celebrate your success with a special date.
No more bad language, just point to the chart and SMILE!
---Pierr7958 on 7/28/05|
It's me again. I use to be married to a man, for 13 years who never helped around the house. I did not know how to trust the Lord. And I am still learning. So, I understand. I screamed too! But, that is not the answer. I am praying for you that Jesus inside of you will walk with you and show you the way. How to treat him and yet get his attention that you need help. God bless you. Jesus said that He will not abandon us.
May God bless you.
---Linda3939 on 7/28/05|
You may be convicked by the Lord, not for the bad words only but for your actions. Anger does not bring about the righteousness of God. If you know what you are doing is wrong, confess it and Jesus will forgive you. Yes, I have used bad words, but, I repent when I do. You need help around the house. I can understand that. We can pray together that God will touch your husband to be more understanding of your needs. Is he a christian?
I will pray for you, and probably others will too.
---Linda3939 on 7/28/05|