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My partner is a Christian but I am not. I love him with all my heart and I want to save this relationship when we started dating he wasn't saved. Do I need to get saved to save this relationship? How can I talk to him about this?

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 ---Monica on 7/30/05
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One can't get saved unless God's spirit is dealing with you. If you are just thinking about it to save your relationship and that is the only reason then your thinking wrong. Because your heart wouldn't be in it for God. I hope and pray that God is dealing with you, and you get saved for the right reasons.
---Rebecca_D on 7/25/08

we dont accept Jesus-we need Him to accept us in our fallen state
---r.w on 10/22/06

Hi Monica,

The choice is yours, but I'm curious as to why you wouldn't want to accept Christ as your savior?
---AlwaysOn on 9/4/06

monica, apparently you are saying that since your partner got saved you don,t like his lifstyle anymore.Or the fact that he got saved is destroying your relationship.right now you want to continue to live in the world and he has begun a relationship with jesus.Choosing to get saved is not something you do to please,s about choosing jesus, who he was,what he did,that your a sinner and you need him,then you go back to your partner and you just might understand him better.
---fhoma6579 on 9/4/06

2. get you saved. You need to feel it from the heart. You need to realize as Elder says, that you are a sinner and want to change your life. That is what is called repentance. If you don't feel that you have broken God's laws, which we all have, then you won't want to change. Speak to someone from a church that you can count on to be a good Christian. Let him teach you the gospel of Jesus. If God touches your heart you will know it.
---lisa on 9/4/06

Monica, you need to get saved to save yourself. That is more important then saving your relationship. I know you love him but your commitment to God is for eternity. You don't need to talk to him about it, you need to talk to God about it. It seems to me that the disire for God has come to you. That only tells me that you are already speaking and talking about what you want to do, the only thing wrong is your intentions. Do you have a love for Christ? if not, don't even try. Just saying words does not
---lisa on 9/4/06

r.w. - "We must beg that Jesus accepts us" -- That is nowhere to be found in Scripture. Jesus saves us, and we are drawn to Him by the Holy Spirit. It is Jesus who does the accepting, and all that the Father wills to be saved will be saved.
---Helen_5378 on 9/4/06

Monica - A person does not get saved to save a relationship. A person gets saved because the Holy Spirit draws them to Christ and convicts them that they are a sinner. You need to be saved from sin.
---Helen_5378 on 9/4/06

Perhaps it would help if you just encouraged him to talk with you about his new found faith. Don't try to stifle it, just listen and be prepared to learn. Your boyfriend might be the very one that God has chosen to help you to hear of the sacrifice that Jesus made for YOU. Speak to God about this, even if you don't really believe He is there right now. Don't try to 'get saved' to save THIS relationship. It is a relationship with God that you need, then the one with your boyfriend will be enriched.
---Mac on 9/4/06

Wow what a tuff situation..when it comes to talking to him about it, let him know how you are feeling about everything. There really is no right way of talking to him about it. I just encourage you to be open to what he has to say. Ask questions if you need to so you can understand what he experiencing in his walk with Christ. I just also wanted to let you know that Jesus loves us all in spite of anything we may have donehe has unconditional love for us all.
Alright well, I am praying for you.
---Mel on 9/3/06

willow is right on . but dont fall for the modern 'accept Jesus" thing. we must beg that Jesus accepts US. not the other way around. people in hell wish they had your opportunity right now.
---r.w. on 9/3/06

How can one be sure that his love for God is genuine or his commitment is "sincere" when it springs not from a desire for God, but a desire to escape God's wrath or hell?

Man of himself, or from his natural powers, cannot contribute anything or help to his conversion, and that conversion is not only in part, but altogether an operation, gift and work of the Holy Spirit alone, who accomplishes and effects it, by his virtue and power, through the Word.
---etenia on 8/8/05

Monica you need to receive Christ (get Saved) because you are lost.
You are a sinner because you were born a sinner. You didn't have to do anything wrong to be a sinner because you were born one.
You sin because you are a sinner.
You do not become a sinner because you sin.
If you never sinned you would still be a sinner and be lost.
---Elder on 8/1/05

First you must admit to yourself that you have broken the commandments of GOD the 10 commandments.
I ask you have you ever stolen,looked at another man with lust ,or ever taken the Lords name in vain do you Love GOD and think of HIM all the time(these are just 4)

if you answered yes to just one then you are guitly of breaking all 10 and by the Law of GOD you will be cast into the pit of Hell. on the day of Judgement
do you want that?
---willow on 8/1/05

Ah poor Monica, what a raw deal you got eh! You thought you were marrying a hell bent sinning heathen, when actually you ended up with a guy who's been given a new heart, a second chance, a loving father relationship that he will imitate to others including his loved ones! What a bum wrap eh? Now I bet he's gonna be more loving, patient, kind and forgiving...bummer! And if he's not, you give him a kick in the behind and remind him that that's what he's signed up for!.. :)
---lisa on 7/31/05

Get saved, but not because you want to save the relationship. Get saved because you yourself need salvation. After you put God first in your life, then God will work on the rest of your life, including your relationship. There's an old saying, "The family that prays together, stays together." What a blessing. i pray that you see your need to be saved, and ask the Savior to save you and make you a born-again child of his.
---Eloy on 7/31/05

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Dear One: You will never have a true relationship with anyone until you have a relationship with Jesus. Ask that precious man and you to go to a Bible loving church and ask the Pastor to explain to you both about the love of God, the Lord's way. I can see you want to know and that is important. Just be sure you want to KNOW Jesus first, then everything else will come - your relationship with you friend comes second!
---Elsie on 7/31/05

cont... you can be saved if you get down on your knees and ask God to forgive your sins and save you. You will feel like a new person. I once heard a preacher say when he got saved was like when he got married, he didn't feel any different but he knew it. Well, when I got saved, I felt different and still do.
---shira_5965 on 7/31/05

Dear sweet lady, you do need to get saved. Not to save a relationship or anything else, but to keep you out of hell. You must feel a drawing of the Holy Spirit before you can be saved. Please, I beg you, call a baptist preacher in your area and go see him and talk with him. If you will find an independent baptist preacher and I say that because we believe in strong Holy conviction. Please do that today.
---shira_5965 on 7/31/05

If you get saved just to save a relatiionship. Then you are getting saved for the wrong reason . One excepts our Abba Father salvation , becaus they need a savior ,and that savior is Jesus Christ . Pastor Danny
---Pastor_Danny on 7/31/05

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Hi Monica,
It would be a good ideal for you to get saved for more than one reason. Let your husband share what he knows about Jesus with you. There is alot of good truth there that you should know. Good news! The bible teaches us not to be unequaly yoked. That means that things work out best, if both are believers in the Lord. Get to know who Jesus is, believe in Him, learn to trust Him. You will never be sorry you did!
---Linda3939 on 7/31/05

In life there are no guarantees. You might become a believer and find that you guys are not compatable, or it may save your relationship. I honestly wish you would become a believer, so you could experience the joy and peace that Jesus gives. But most of all, to save your soul from destruction. GBU
---Mark585 on 7/31/05

Getting saved may or may not save a relationship. However, getting saved will keep you out of the Lake of Fire, Revelation 21:8. Steps to being saved is easy. 1st believe you are a sinner, Romans 3:10, 23. 2nd what happens to sinners, Romans 6:23. 3rd believe that the Lord Jesus Chist died and was raised again for us 1 Corinthians 15:1-4.
---geraa7578 on 7/31/05

You do not get saved to save a relationship. You get saved through faith, You must believe in God's love and sacrifice for you on the cross and accept God into your life and live to be wth him in eternity.
If you say you are saved only to save a relationship you are not really saved you are just going through the motions but not living it in your heart which is a sin.
---Shaz on 7/31/05

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For me, it was like I had never seen except in black and white, never heard except in monotones. Then I was saved, and the whole world was flooded with brilliant color and stereo sound. Don't throw away the greatest gift you will ever be offered, my sister. Ask your partner about these things. You don't have to be shy; just ask him about his relationship with Jesus. He will be happy you asked, I can promise you. God bless your journey!
---Billy on 7/30/05

(4) He loves you that much, and all you have to do to be saved is to turn away from your sins, accept His gift, and take Christ as the Lord of your life. Pray to God, say you're sorry for your sins, ask Christ to come into your heart and be your Savior, and He will do it. Then you will be saved. All your sins will be forgiven, and you will find a greater Love than you ever knew or imagined was possible. The difference between the old life and the new one is like night and day.
---Billy on 7/30/05

(3) Do you understand also that you have done wrong in your life? Have you ever told a lie? Stolen something? Cheated? Hated someone? Those things are called sin, and because of them you are separated from God, because He is perfect and holy, and every person who sins is lost and condemned to death, because the penalty for even one sin, no matter how small, is death. But God loves you, and He sent His son to willingly die for you, to pay for your sins and save you from hell.
---Billy on 7/30/05

Your priority is to decide whether or not you want to become a child of God, developing a life style demonstrating your love for Jesus because He died for your sins on Calvery. This decision is not be motivated by your desire to save your relationship with your friend.
The great probability is that if/when you become a follower of Jesus Christ, your relationship will flourish also. Remember if you seek first the kingdom of God and ALL the others things will He take care of also.
---Pierr7958 on 7/30/05

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(2) You love your partner with all your heart. Do you know why? All things you ever loved on earth, including this man, you have loved because they reminded you of God. God is the deepest love of every heart. Without Him the world is cold and gray, until we see some bright thing that reminds us of Him just a little, and we love that thing without quite knowing why. He fills the world full of these signposts, so that you can find Him, if you look.
---Billy on 7/30/05

Monica, you can only be saved if you sincerely believe, and accept Christ as your Lord and Saviour. Just to say the words and go through the motions, for the sake of some other reason than that, would be a terrible lie. But I will tell you a few things and ask you a few questions for you to think about, and then maybe you will be able to decide what you should do.
---Billy on 7/30/05

I think the thing to do is not talk to him about this but just tell him "I want to go to church with you"...AND GO weekly.

Listen as if hearing it for the first time, and consider one thing. What if all this is true?

Even if you're not saved it would be good for you to understand his viewpoint.
Being saved is the other side of the coin, it's saying WOW this is true!

Start there, seek truth for yourself within the Christian religion and your search will end with Jesus.
---Pharisee on 7/30/05

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