Steveng ... Hebrews is about how to behave in mnarriage ... it is not a deinition of marriage.
I repeat, even if you choose not to beleive it " Marriage is a beautiful gift from God".
AS to children rising up, that too is a question of definition. For centuries ... even in OT times ... younger generations have challenged the ideals and rules of their seniors. The 50s & 60s brought nothing hew |
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---alan8566_of_uk on 11/22/09 |
alan8566_of_uk: "Steveng .... since you have not experienced it, you are not in a position to downgrade marriage from being "beautiful and a gift from God" to being merely "honorable""
You are such a fool, alan. Does a doctor need to experience cancer to be able to treat it? Does a christian need to experience the Kingdom of God before he or she can preach it? The word for marriage being "honorable" can be found at Hebrews 13:4. All wisdom comes from God.
alan8566_of_uk: "We have been in the end times since 2000 years ago."
The beginning of the end started in the late fifties/early sixties when children started rising up against their parents/establishment. |
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---Steveng on 11/21/09 |
On 1/16/09, Corlynn shared the most excellent opinion. Your job is NOT to find a husband. According to scripture, it is a MAN who (looks for and) finds a wife. Until you are "found", you may want to spend time in preparation. As any married person will tell you, marriage is more than love and companionship, but it is work...HARD work. Study everything that the bible teaches about love and about marriage such as practicing selflessness, submission, sacrifice and servitude. Also, cherish this time to work on becoming the best that you can be and in deepening your relationship with the Father. |
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---AlwaysOn on 11/21/09 |
Steveng .... since you have not experienced it, you are not in a position to downgrade marriage from being "beautiful and a gift from God" to being merely "honorable"
We have been in the end times since 2000 years ago. |
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---alan8566_of_uk on 11/21/09 |
JackB: Thank you. I only shared with you from the experience that the Lord had given me. I have been waiting on Him since about 9yrs now, this month HE has solved my problem. I passed thro' lots of ridicule & mockery from fellow human-beings(naturally) but the Lord was/is by me & gives me peace always. Every one that asks from God, depending & trusting on Him for a godly thing SHALL RECEIVE IT Matthew 7: 7-11, John 14: 13-14, John 16: 23-24. I am by God's grace more than 45yrs old. |
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---Adetunji on 11/21/09 |
alan8566_of_uk: "Steveng .... Marriage is a beautiful gift from God."
I agree, marriage is honourable, but what I wrote is directly from scripture. We are living in the time of the end and getting married will only get our mind off of God and unto the world for he that is married cares only for the things that are of the world that he may please his wife. God truly needs people that will go out into the world and preach the gospel of the Kingdom of God and how to get there for the harvest is plenty, but the workers are few. |
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---Steveng on 11/20/09 |
Steveng .... Marriage is a beautiful gift from God.
I never regretted a moment of it.
Sadly now, my wife has died ... some 7 long years ago. I still hope that maybe her dying wish will come true ... that I find someone else. |
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---alan8566_of_uk on 11/20/09 |
Stay single...
and devote yourself to God. Life is short and the time is at hand when Jesus returns. The children of this world marry, and are given in marriage: but they which shall be accounted worthy to obtain that world, and the resurrection from the dead, neither marry, nor are given in marriage: neither can they die any more: for they are equal unto the angels, and are the children of God, being the children of the resurrection.
I'm fifty seven years young and never regreted not being married. Well, maybe not never. Many parents would tell me that I would make a great husband and a father. Later that night, I would sit at home and think about it - secretly regreting not having any children of my own. Then I pray to God. |
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---Steveng on 11/19/09 |
Thank you for your words of encouragement, Adetuji :) |
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---JackB on 11/19/09 |
Angea, JackB: I can say God is using what seems to be the long wait to prepare/train you for your mate(that HE wills for you to share your life with). HE is equally preparing & training your spouses so that there will not be any occasion for regret(s) when HE brings you together, rather there will be thanksgiving from you & your spouse individually & collectively to HIM everyday. Please do not flinch in faith that God shall provide for you, Heb.10:35-36. |
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---Adetunji on 11/17/09 |
I humour myself with this. "The one God has planned for me is so special thats its gonna be worth the wait"
My only concern is Im almost at the big 4-0 and wonder how many years Ill even have with the one that is to be my wife.
I was married from age 25-30 and she had an affair and divorced me. Now Im 37 and still single so I know what you feel believe me. At times Ive even been frustrated with the Lord because its taking so long. I just keep crying and praying and He always gives me strength. |
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---JackB on 11/16/09 |
Maybe the man God has for you just isn't ready yet. In the mean time, work on yourself. I know that I FEEL like I'm ready to be on my way, romantically. But there's always something in the way. So rather than despair, I take a look at myself, and work on making myself a gift to my future husband. I work on my character, I seek God's purpose in my life. Because that purpose, for all of us, is more than just getting married someday. God's timing is better than mine or yours. He knows what he's doing. Take comfort, and concentrate your efforts somewhere else while you're waiting. Good luck! God bless. |
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---Awkwardstranger on 11/16/09 |
God is so good i was just siting here thinking i should just give up looking. and i came on here and i read what you guys said, and i feel so much better.this is a nice net. |
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---shannon on 9/22/09 |
I read a great book by a christian psychologist (Henry Cloud) called "How to get a date worth keeping". It talks about getting out there meeting guys and building your confidence up. As a result of the networking skills I developed I introduced a couple of my christian friends to christian guys I had met (but weren't the right guys for me) and 2 marriages resulted. |
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---karalyn on 8/4/09 |
Angea:-You want a husband well pray look around and go shopping for one but dont be ready to give up yourself and your scruples.Write down what you desire in looks In Behaviour in integrity steadfastness,see if He can stay the course are his values the same How does he stand up to pressure.and How willing is HE to be patientLook into his eyes to see the desires of His soul Then ask Jesus what do you Think Lord will he stay the courseThen ask Him similar questions If He loves you and is honest and agreeable to your Blueprint of 'OUR' lives Then Fix a date with the understanding. This contract is undisolvable if He agreesw accept Himhis ring and May God Bless you both This is a one way street no uees allowed.Good luck. |
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---Mic on 1/20/09 |
I have often asked myself these questions and more. And to be honest some people are made for marriage, and you sound like one of them. So I think what is happening is that God wants you to learn to lean on Him and trust in Him that He will find Mr. Right for you. One of the things that really helped me was reading a book called Authentic Beauty by Leslie Ludy and her sister in-law was asked if she ever thought she was going to get married and she gave the most unique answer that has stuck in my head ever since I read it. here it is, "Someday I may be called to be married but today I am called to be single."
Meditate on that and ask God to show what it means and it should bring you peace.
God bless |
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---Sammy on 1/17/09 |
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First of all, the Word of God tells us that when a man "FINDS" a wife he finds a good thing and obtaineth favor of the Lord," so your not suppose to be looking for him he is going to find you. Fall in love with Jesus "first" then he will send you your soul-mate because then he won't become you idol in place of GOD. |
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---Corlynn on 1/16/09 |
Biblically speaking, woman could be married to a man that already had a wife. Next will come all of the comments about multiple wives being a sin even though GOD himself never/ever called it a sin. Kind of adding to the rules like the so called religious leaders of the old. |
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---carl on 1/5/09 |
that kind of thinking didnt move God concerning those in the Bible who desperately wanted children but didnt have any.
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your situation in itself does not move God. what moves God is the prayer of faith based on His word. and praising God for the benefits of the single life that you have.
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find scriptures concerning marriage and having a good Christian husband and develope your faith. seek God diligently, cultivate a grateful attitude and God promises that you will be rewarded. |
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---opalgal on 1/1/09 |
The word of God says we should delight ourselves in the Lord and He will give us the desires of our heart. Be patient if it is Gods will He will bring you the right person. I had a friend pray for his mate for a year and now they are getting married in Oct 2009. Nothing is impossible with God. |
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---Sonya on 12/31/08 |
I understand your frustration. I have been alone for almost 7 years and I am waiting for the man God has for me. Please consider this, there is freedom in waiting. You are free to live your life in the way God wants you to live it. You are free to do things that married women cannot do without consideration of their spouse. Use the freedom in waiting that God has given you. Trust and believe that in God's perfect timing, he will give you the husband who you desire. All gifts from God is truly worth the wait. |
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---D on 12/30/08 |
Why did the Israelites have to wander in the wilderness for 40 years-because of griping and complaining, if they had thanked God and praised Him for the blessings He gave them, they wouldn't have had to wait so long. Many times this is why it takes so long for our blessings to come about. |
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---PAT on 10/24/08 |
it's difficult to find a good christian man because most of them are only semi christian. i'd be so happy for you to find that everlasting joy of finding a true christian man, but we'd have to wait for christ to come back, for the rest all lack a little to alot.
alra |
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---anita on 9/9/07 |
who told you that you have to remain single?you know that if you desire to be married, God will provide for you. It has never been Gods will for anyone to remain alone and like a wasted desert. Have you asked God for a husband? Realise to that there are not too many men who want commitment these days or who are even Godly, so it will tkae time and patience, dont rush it. |
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---susanna on 5/8/07 |
May God bless you.
Maybe you could examine yourself in the light of the scripture to check if you are the woman of virtue God wants you to be for his servant. Assuming that he is a man of God, you are supposed to be a blessing for him, right?
I'll be praying for you, that you get ready very soon to receive the one from God. |
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---Vanessa on 12/26/06 |
Angea, there is no need for you to feel frustrated and discouraged about not finding a lifepartner. I am single too, and never married. Also, I am 50 years old, but, I firmly believe in Matthew 6:33. Angea, please also read Phil 4:6-7. Believe strongly that God has created someone just for you. When you rise each morning, thank the Lord, for, with each passing day, the day is nearing, when this special person who is to be your lifepartner is going to meet you. |
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---Christabel on 8/28/05 |
waiting is hard. I'm waiting for my next call as wel as a wife. the important thing is to be ready for Christ when He comes again. as paul says the unmarried care about the things of God 100%. the married have to split there time in order to please a mate. see 1 Corinthans 7.
God has given you what you need to praise His name and will give you a mate if you need one in His time. |
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---Robert on 8/15/05 |
hi friend, just to say u are not alone out here. i have been seeking God and standing in faith for a marrage partner for 3yrs now. sometimes it can be very frustrating. |
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---david on 8/15/05 |
I didn't read the other responses, but Paul says, whatever state you find yourself, find contentment. You have to learn how to be happy by yourself, just enjoying your salvation and spending time with God to truly appreciate the man that He has in store for you. When it is time, God will send him your way but until then, keep pressing toward the mark of the high calling which is Christ Jesus. Seek ye first the kingdom of God and all His righteousness, then ALL these things shall be added unto you. |
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---Chosen on 8/5/05 |
God does not want you to remain alone, all you need is to listen to what he says, you know the problem is that people have set standards for God, careless statements like 'unequally yoked' cloud our fair judgement on spouse to be, your hubby to be might be someone out of christian circles but you might be the link to his conversion. Look at the wonderful work God did with Moses, Saul(Paul) who among today's Christians would have loved them given their upbringing. |
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---runya9977 on 8/5/05 |
I'm here waiting to water some camels,also,Angea! Keep the faith,sister...and fall in love all over again with Jesus.He's got your future in His hands,dear. |
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---lovable_linda on 8/2/05 |
You do not have to remain single. Do you date? Friendship with the opposite gender usually precedes marriage. If you come on to strong, then you may be scaring the guys off. Most guys don't want to hear about marriage until you become good friends first. Pray about it, and God will help you. There are alot of singles available, as i myself am one. |
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---Eloy on 8/2/05 |
i completely agree w/ andrew-enjoy ur singleness while u can. there is a reason for everything that happens, no coincidences w/ God. for now-focus on becoming ms right while waiting for mr right. |
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---lisa on 8/2/05 |
Angea, I believe pierr has a great answer. All you have to do is make friends. Enjoy their company but keep your focus on God. I know after you meet someone you like you will began to get personal, and not speak about God anymore. Don't do that. Keep Him first and work through God all the time. Just be you and you will see that you will meet someone that God has for you. I believe all one has to do is walk by faith that God will come through for us. And God is faithful for He gets the glory in the end. |
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---lupe2618 on 8/1/05 |
Only God knows His plan and all you can do is wait for things to happen in His time. Remember, nothing happens without a reason behind it and God never DOESN'T help one of His children-we're simply not always meant to know why or from what. As unpopular as this always is, not everyone is meant to be married-God needs some people to remain single to successfully complete His plan for them. Just remember Who always has the Perfect answer and trust Him. |
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---Heather on 8/1/05 |
There is hope! Our widowed friend who is in his early 50's often wondered if God had a woman for him. When we moved to the state where we live now he came with us to help start a church. We visited a church and he met this great lady. She is in late 40's and never married and saved herself for marriage. PRAISE THE LORD! They've been married about four months now and they are perfect for each other. |
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---Sally on 8/1/05 |
i am a man who is looking for a loving christian wife as well. however, i haven't found it yet. if you ask me am i feeling stress out because of this? no, enjoy singleness first while you are single, then someday we will find the right one. i mean some day. |
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---Andrew on 8/1/05 |
, seek and ye shall find. |
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---steve on 8/1/05 |
God helps those who help themselves! Have you ever heard to ChristiaNet? Did you know that here you can look up many many profiles of ladies and gents who are looking for life partners and some have been united right here on our site.
So, chin up, and click over the PROFILES on line and happy hunting! |
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---Pierr7958 on 8/1/05 |
Can you believe that God IS helping you, Angea? He may be saving you from some bad decision. Are you willing to allow Him to be God of your life? Indeed, you should cry out to the Lord your heartbreak, but the bottom line is that God knows what's best for us. Not our will but His be done! If He wants you to have a "good Christian husband", nothing in this world can stop it!! Blessings. |
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---Elsie on 8/1/05 |
my husband and I have a precious friend. He is 42 and never married. He prays God will send him a wife. He is special and deserves a special wife-from God. So, you are not alone. |
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---shira_5965 on 8/1/05 |
Angea7453 ...
Maybe the Lord is wants to use you as a single person frist. Or maybe He is working on and in the person, getting them ready to mary you. Or maybe he wants to work in you for them. Be willing to follow God leadings, He may lead you to bump into him. Let Him work it out for you. He loves you and understands what you are going through. |
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---linda3939 on 8/1/05 |
You must get out and do your part in this husband hunting expedition. Where are you hunting? Desireable partners are not out in the street with a sign on them. They are in the workplace, in churches, in singles groups, in schools, in auto repair, home repair and clubs with common interests. God will help but you must do your part too. There are too many unyoked and misyoked partners because they do not get out. Think of the example of the seeds being planted in various soils with various results. |
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---chuck on 8/1/05 |
Matthew 6:33 |
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---Leon on 8/1/05 |
How do you know God is not helping?
He knew who you would be with before you where born. You need to learn to be content in yourself and in being alone before you can be ready for marraige.
God may still be preparing you or someone else to be your partner.
If you want right one you will wait in God's timing not your own because God does what is best for his children who leave the choices to him. You are not only one alone everyone has to wait and best relationships are those which waited on God |
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---Marla on 8/1/05 |
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