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Anyone Rush Into A Marriage

Has anyone rushed into a Christian marriage and it didn't work out because you didn't stop to see the warning signs or seek God's wisdom and were too eager to get married. I need to know I am not alone.

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 ---Kirralee on 8/1/05
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It happens all of the time. The reason for so many divorces among christians and non christians. I have said this repeatedly at other blogsites. Women are especially guilty of this. I think. They have nothing but stars in their eyes when they think about the ring,wedding dress and the whole crap about marrying her prince charming. And when she found out she married a frog...she wants to hop away. Real fast! In search of another frog....usually.Too bad. You got what you wanted. Now deal with it!
---Robyn on 10/19/11

Whether a person rushes in or waits the question is who is perfect, we live in a time that will bring boasters liars, evil doers, men women who love themselves more than God.

It it is better to remain single, or marry if you feel that you cannot stay single due to current climate but marriage come's with its problems and no one can be prepared for that one can only condition ones self to stay within the heart of the almighty and stay there.
---Carla on 8/12/11

yes! They need never throw this blogg away! ...yes I got marry fast,he was a minister & very cruelto me and my family. He become a pastor things got worse! Now,do notbash pastors becuz this is the past.. My advice take time to pray,fast,seekGod and do not Rush to marry nobody.We both made mistakes.God is ReallyGood! Thanks, bro.Paul working on my "thing & quot,with the capital letters. Do not want to offend no one. Love of Jesus. ELENA
---ELENA on 8/11/11

Well, my husband and I initially met while I was 19 and he was 21. Anyway, to make a long story short, he introduced me to the Lord and somehow he and I grew close as friends and later married after 1yr. We've been married now for 5yrs. but lately I've been feeling like I rushed into marrying him. He will not get a job, save, and paying bills are absolutely out of the question!!! I don't know what to do. I pray consistently but nothing changes. I need help!
---What_should_I_do? on 12/29/07

Oh boy do I ever have a story for you...I was 23, met a woman who said she was saved and had gotten her life right with God. We married 4 mos later. She was anything but saved and even sought to have an affair with another woman. We did divorce and I met the mother of my children. She is a true saint and loves me unconditionally. There is life after divorce.
---Tony on 12/12/07

that's me! At 21 I married a "born-again, spirit-filled" man after knowing him only a year and dating him just a few months. I wanted to be married so badly that I overlooked all of the warning signs. 3 years later, here I am, divorced and regretful I didn't heed God's warnings... My husband got into drugs and some other things.
I thank God for his MERCY everyday, and there's still hope...there are things that MUST be healed first, and I must allow God to be in complete control now.
---danna9955 on 12/8/07

yes i did! that was nearly 15 years ago. I was trying to please God and do the right thing by getting married to avoid fornication, and copying what i saw other chistians doing years previously. The man was not the christian i thought and abandoned me and three lovely children in adultary
---susanna on 5/17/07

Kirlee--just to let you know your not alone--i made very similar mistake of marrying without fully listening to God( (bleiver/non beleiver marriage)--i am now divorced and have our 3 kids--I left because i was an becoming a peron i never wanted to be--bitter angry hateful to him(ex) for not having the oneness of marriage he promised--he failed to kep most of his promises--still to this day.
---Renee on 12/6/06

I rushed into married almost 2 years ago. We were both getting closer to God and I stepped out on faith---that's what I thought at the time. I am an emotional wreck. I am trying to stick in here to because that is the Christian thing to do but I don't know if I will make it.
---Niecey on 9/2/05

Yes, I rushed into marriage right out of high school. I only knew him for a month. I was physically abused & he also abused our 2 kids. I stayed in that marriage for 8 years until a friend helped me leave him.
---Melissa on 8/12/05

Sis.K..I left about 1 1/2yrs after the marriage..but the timeline isn't what counts. Just as the advice to wait and be sure it's God's will to marry....go to God and make sure YOU KNOW that HE wants you to leave and WHEN.Make sure you're not just "weary with well doing"and wanting to stop your situation.Remember God Is able to do miracles.Let Him order your steps and while you as Christlike as possible.I'm praying for you.
---lovable_linda on 8/10/05

27 years ago, my husband and I met on June 15th and were married on June 29th. He had 4 children and I had 5. We now have 28 grandchildren and 5 great grands. As long as you love God and each other, it can be wonderful! We trust God to guide our way and by putting Him first, it seems to be the answer. Prayers lifted for you & your son.
---Ardeth on 8/4/05

A question to those who did rush in, how long did your marriage last before ending? And how long after being married did you realise you had made a big mistake. Will God forgive me if I leave with my son (not his) - I am miserable, don't love him and it has pulled me away from God in so many ways. I am deeply ashamed of my actions.
---Kirralee on 8/3/05

I met the guy, one month later we were engaged, 6 months later married. It was just long enough for him to keep up the lie about who he really was. I got my first berating before we left for the honeymoon and my first beating less than a month later. I finally had to leave because I ws afraid he would kill our daughter. Now I'm sadder but wiser - there is no substitute for taking the time to get to know the other person very well before marriage.
---marya4586 on 8/2/05

Yes, I did rush into marriage. We were just kids. Bad marriage. He left me, but not till we were married for 25 years.

Almost made the same mistake a year ago. God stopped me cold one day and I just ended the relationship.
---Madison on 8/2/05

Yes..I had the ok from Christian friends.I was praying plenty...but,as I prepared to marry him,God gave me plenty of "red flags"...plenty of road blocks and no peace..I pushed ahead..had I known the Lord as I do now...I'd have waited.He may have been the right man,but the wrong timing. It didn't last long.
---lovable_linda on 8/2/05

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I also rushed into a marriage unwisely and not listening to good advice. Believe me you are not alone.
---tom on 8/1/05

It isn't enough just to "marry a Christian" - you need to be sure that the two of you are on the same page and agree on religion, money, sex,and so on You can't do that in a hurry! Why rush? I married a man who said he was a Christian,he was horrible to me-- cold, cruel...I saw no fruits of the spirit. Then when I wouldn't let him spend all my money, he left me. Please take your time. God Bless You. Darcy
---Darcy on 8/1/05

Oh Sweet Sister! I knew a man 1 month and married him because I thought that it was "the right thing to do". Wow! 27 years later I was emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically bankrupt! Today, I'm in a marriage where God picked the man for me. Love, true deep love for God and the person you are about to marry, is the only way to marry.
---Dee on 8/1/05

Good book to read is Stormie O'Martian's "Power of a Praying Wife". It has helped me and I have seen positive changes in my husband.

God bless.
---Dorothy on 8/1/05

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I prayed 2God, told Him I didn't care what He had 4me, I wanted this man (was PG w/his child & in luv). That was a mistake!! Always pray 4God's will. I'm happy 2say that we're still married (19 yrs). It's been hard, w/ups/downs, adultery, etc. I stood firm on God's command of marriage 4life. Though I've gone thru many battles, God won the war. I continually prayed 4my husband.He now attends church w/us & is changing his life around. W/God, ALL things R possible. Trust in Him only. (Read Malachi 2:16)
---Dorothy on 8/1/05

Yes, I did. I was a new Christian and a man I had just met for 2 weeks told me that God said I was his wife. I wanted to please God. I suffered 13 years with it because God said do not divorice. I had 1 child. Divoriced now remarried, I still suffer w/him because of connection with the son 23 years latter. It is better to be in love for marriage.
---linda3939 on 8/1/05

Yes, WE rushed with all the odds against us. Different backgrounds, different faiths, different ideas on number of children we wanted, different ideas on spending /saving, how to get toothpaste, and mainly who is the boss. We have made it for 45 years, and 4 children and 8 grandchildren, and 2+ great-grandchildren.

Now just because we did it does not mean you want to pay the same price of learning thru experience. A smart person learns from experience. A wise person learns from others experiences.
---chuck on 8/1/05

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