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Should You Marry Your Age

There seems to be a consensus that people should marry at the same age. Wouldn't it be better if the man were somewhat older than his wife?

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 ---steve on 8/3/05
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I know a couple where the wife is much younger than the husband. She prefers this but has issues with other aspects about her husband.
The husband likwise has issues with her (she's getting fat).

Either way you look at it there will be issues and changes in our lives as we get older. That's part of being married.

Who someone marries is their choice, regardless if they are older/younger, fatter/slimmer, different culture/race, different heights, etc.
---Haz27 on 3/8/12

\\ i did not mention the first, but the holy communion, also known as confirmation, and no the jew is not an adult at 12-13 he "begins his path at that age".\\

Wrong, again.

\\ i did not mention the first,\\

Yes, you did, and you misspelled it: ". Bar mitsvah"

First Communion and Confirmation in the Roman Catholic Church are NOT the same events.

Furthermore, on your original post you said that at a boy's bar mitzvah (13 years and one day, NOT 12) "finally old enough to start their religious training in the synagogue".

Jewish boys actually begin their religious training much earlier--among the traditional Jews at age 3.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/8/12

Cluny whilst you point my error, you err yourself, i did not mention the first, but the holy communion, also known as confirmation, and no the jew is not an adult at 12-13 he "begins his path at that age".
---andy3996 on 3/7/12

Wrong, andy. Where did you get your information?

Bar mitzvah--literally "son of the commandment"--is when a boy becomes responsible in Judaism for fulfilling ritual obligations and privileges. It is at age of 13 years and one day.

Most rabbis will tell you that's when too many Jewish youths STOP their religious education. It's no when they start it.

And Firsr Communion in the Roman Catholic Church is around 7-8, NOT 12. It has NO connection with the Jewish custom.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/7/12

Eloy Eloy Eloy, actually i was joking and not. Bar mitsvah was only put in place to celebrate for the Jewish boys, finally old enough to start their religious training in the synagogue, that doesn't imply that a jew conciders his boy mature from the age of ten. the RCC has a equivalent that is the sacred communion wher a child (12 year) now can participate fully in the sacraments.
---andy3996 on 3/7/12

andy3996, Andy! Andy! Andy! What am I going to do with you?! ..."man doesn't grow up until he's 37"?! I know you must be jokin'.
Actually, souls mature and distinguish good from evil at relatively a young age. There is a Jewish coming of age ceremony, called, "Bar Mizwah", where boys at 13 years old become young men, and girls at age 12 become young women, and from that time these souls become responsible for their own lives in the community rather than having their parents being responsible.
---Eloy on 3/5/12

women should marry a man that is about 15 years older or wait until they themself are at least 32. (a man doesn't grow up until he's 37)
---andy3996 on 3/5/12

If you check statistics, the husband usually dies a few years before the wife dies: so if any planning is involved, the woman should be a few years older than the man so that both can live the same amount of years together on the earth.
---Eloy on 3/4/12

Emphasis on same or different age is Man's doctrine. Either of the 2 does not guarantee happiness or joy in marriage. It is God that gives the best spouse, joy & happiness in marriage, focus on Him.
---Adetunji on 3/3/12

I don know the time and age you came up in but the girls in my generation were told about five yr difference in the ages. Of course I did not listen. I married an old coot and now I am stuck like Chuck. Mad as hell. He has lost all his drive,stamina and no fun to be around at all. Very sad indeed.
---Genie on 3/2/12

My husband & I have been married just on 20 years. He is almost 7 years younger than I am. A friend recently told me that she heard it was better to marry a man younger as we females live longer. And besides all that its better fun. As long as you put the Lord 1st in your life & marriage, & you both love the Lord; what does age really have to do with it. Misha
---Mishon on 3/22/07

At one time this was true.. This is not true today. Much of a man's problems could be related to stress, but woman now have the same problems, and more - and this can cause health problems, and cause them to die before the husband. As a rule this did not happen in the ol' days. Another trend is for men to marry older women. While I'm not sure why, except what has been told me, it could be because older women have more stability, are more situated in their life goals, etc.
---Ray on 3/20/07

from my personal experience as a lady of 69 married a few times, looking back. Marriage is difficult at best. It is much better to be the same age (when you are over 40 anyway) because you have so much in common. If you marry someone 10 yrs older, when you are older you will most likely be a widow/er
Its better to be the same age to age together,backgrounds should really be similar and religion definately the same.
---bobbie on 9/16/05

At one time, it was true the man should be older than the woman. Reason? Men usually died before women, so this was to help "give a level playing field." But, it has be shown in our day, this is no longer true. Besides an improvement in health conditions, plus woman now have the same stresses as men, (smoking, working outside the home, etc.) also makes the age factor less important. If the couple in question are content with the age factor, than it's of little importance.

Moderator - "level playing field"? So the woman could remarry or?
---WIVV on 9/16/05

thank you for showing me positive age different matches. the only ones I had seen were not good. they were parent/child like matches. lots of one partner ordered around by the other and not happy
---Laure5469 on 9/9/05

Christ made us free, and not to judge our fellow man. If a man and woman is in love with each other, it should not be anyone's business. Now if the age in question is under 18, then legally we have a responsiblity to protect our kids. This question could also cover interrace relationships. Again it is no one else's business but the party involved.
---geraa7578 on 9/8/05

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I married a lady 17 years older than I and spent 37 years of love and compionship.
How many said it would not work?
Of course it works as long as there is a true feeling of respct and understanding and a realisation, that there will always be those who will voice an opinion against, but the strength of that love is within just two people regardless
---Ray on 9/8/05

The Bible says "do not be unequally yoked". I think that means if two people have the same goals and are both saved that that is the most important thing. Personally, I think that if the parties are close in age it makes for a more compatible marriage.
---Nancy on 9/5/05

I think we may have solved the problem, I am from USA and here my daughter said "gross!"-"she must be after money cause that is the same age of you mom and my sister" when asked what do you think of a 40 man getting together with 20 female"
---Laure5469 on 8/12/05

You would be too old then for me steve if i was 20.
---susanna on 8/11/05

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, marriages are most likely to succeed if the man is over forty, and the woman is in her twenties.
---steve on 8/11/05

Sorry I had only ment to leave one blog I had thought I hadn't gotten through.
---Laure5469 on 8/6/05

I will try to rewrite this so it gets in. What I said is: if it was MY child. that is what I would do. It is My opinion. I feel that 20 are still kids in alot of ways. to me as a mom with kids in 20s I see them as still growing up. I said in all examples a 20 year span. I feel 20 is unhealthy in MOST cases.
---Laure5469 on 8/6/05

I'm sorry that you couldn't see my point or choice to ignore it. I love my daughters and would protect them from each instance. and I think that some one with the same age differents that I told of in each instance may have the same problem, I didn't say you. I said what I would do if my children were involved.
---Laure5469 on 8/5/05

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I never said any names.
---Laure5469 on 8/5/05

Steve, How were you victimized by feminisim? What do you mean by "you tried balancing it out on the blogs"?
Just curious,
---sue on 8/5/05

, laure, if you can't tell the difference between a twenty-something, and a child, then i'm not the one with a problem.
---steve on 8/5/05

, i was victimized by feminism in the sixties and seventies. now i have tried to balance that out with blogs, but that seems to be not working.
---steve on 8/5/05

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If this is the same Steve. my opinion stands also. if a 20 year old guy came after my baby, I would call the police. if a 35 year old came after my 15 year old I would call the police. if a 40 year old guy came after my daughter I would still think there was some thing wrong with him.
---Laure5469 on 8/4/05

Maybe in the Olden days when women had a hard time supporting themselves, they probably figured it was easier to marry them off early. But now it is much differant (THANK GOD) and age doesn't matter.
---sue on 8/4/05

Steve, (same Steve??)it makes little difference how you rephrase your question I'm sure you are going to get the same answers you have on the previous occasions you have raised this subject. To save you looking back on old answers here's my opinion again. When young it is better for the man to be a few years older than the women, because women mature quicker at that stage of life. When older mature people wish to marry the age is less important unless you are wanting a wife who can still have children.
---Xanthi on 8/4/05

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