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My husband comes from a strict apostolic background, he has only recently stopped going to church he is 27. I on the other hand am a catholic but not a church goer. Is it true that my husband would want me to be born again as well? Can a mixed marriage work from the eyes of the apostolic church?

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I would not marry this man. You said he is only 27 and he has stopped going to church. That's trouble right there.Not good. Your husband can't ask you to be anything until he gets himself back in order. You understand me? He needs to get back in church. Both of you need to be on he same page. Apostolic and Catholic are totally different churches,doctrine etc...I see trouble ahead for you and him. The marriage could be plagued with trouble and dissention. Without God, some marriages do work. But I have also seen many christian marriages--fail. Your choice
---Robyn on 8/16/10


I was in the very same situation. I'm in The One God Jesus name Apostolic Pentecost Church. ( The Same as The Early Church. The devil, the roman emperor with nero & the crusades didn't kill us all )
My spouse at that time, & still is in an Man - made offspring daughter church from the Man - made trin rcc & there was prob's.
Her being unfaithful & didn't to deter me to quit Church because of this scripture, 2nd.Peter 2 v 21. She was Not worth being lost for.
---Lawrence on 7/19/10


A Catholic is a Christian. "Born again" had been and still is misused and misinterpreted.
---Paul_Adam on 12/17/07


There are no guarantees on marriage in any church. My concern for you is your relationship with God, not a church. Have you ever been presented with the Gospel and God's plan for salvation?

God loves you and has a plan for your life.
---Madison on 5/12/07


I see what you mean Etenia, Yes God chooses, the Holy Spirit brings you to life, gives you the faith and we respond, by repentance through His conviction in our hearts. Without God bringing us to life, we would not even see Him or feel a conviction. We would still be dead to God, slaves to sin and unable to respond but free. Since our desires were enmity against God, all we did was evil all the time, that is what I wanted to say, but didn't sorry. Thanks for putting me straight. See you later.
---lupe2618 on 8/10/05




Lupe,
One more thing before I go. You said:"I believe God's forgiveness, life itself, and salvation are all free gifts from God. In order to get forgiveness you have to repent."

Read your statement over again, very slowly, and think about what the words mean.
---etenia on 8/10/05


Etenia, I have heard that quote myself. Very true. When you have time, please write me, I am looking forward to what you have to write. Have a safe trip
---lupe2618 on 8/10/05


Lupe,

I don't have time right now, as I am leaving for a long week end. Perhaps when I return. I'll leave you with a quote to contemplate. Sorry, I don't remember who said it, but I suspect it was Luther.

"If one is saved, it is entirely the work of God; if one is lost, it is entirely the fault of man, who, while not free to accept the gospel, is by nature able to reject it."

BTW, I am a Christian by Divine intervention and a Lutheran by choice.
---etenia on 8/10/05


When you answered about Commitment I believed that you were saying we didn't have to have one or have repentance. If I miss understood that then I am sorry. Only reason I put it down is that Catholics believe salvation comes through baptism. Something Ruben has been preaching to us. You don't have to explain anything if you don't want. Its up to you.
---lupe2618 on 8/10/05


Etenia, what are you anyway? Just explain? You answer something and don't explain why. I don't assume anyone is save or not. Only God knows that. You asked for commitment, and where it says you are born again, Well, commitment comes when we have a conviction, we have a conviction when the Holy Spirit awakens us. You can be one of the elect but not saved yet until you make the commitment. You can write something explaining what your point is. I will answer as best as I can.
---lupe2618 on 8/10/05




Lupe,

You only assume that I am a Roman Catholic. I am not, if that makes you feel any better.
---etenia on 8/10/05


2. The crucial issue that many don't want to face is, Whether God is the author, not merely of justification, but also of faith; whether, in the last analysis, Christianity is a religion of utter reliance on God for salvation and all things necessary to it, or of self-reliance and self-effort."
---lupe2618 on 8/10/05


Etenia, I believe God's forgiveness, life itself, and salvation are all free gifts from God. In order to get forgiveness you have to repent. If there is no repentance their is no forgiveness. You see, the question is, whether God is to be thought of as saving them by free, unconditional, invincible grace, not only justifying them for Christ's sake when they come to faith, but also raising them from the death of sin by His quickening Spirit in order to bring them to faith.
---lupe2618 on 8/10/05


Lupe,

Do you believe that forgiveness, life, and salvation is a free gift?
---etenia on 8/9/05


I see that you mentioned that repentance is on going, I thought Catholics confessed on going? confession and repentance is different. When a person comes to Christ he repents. There is no salvation without repentance. When a person sins he confesses. Now what points do you want to touch on? let me know and I will do my best to answer you.
---lupe2618 on 8/8/05


Etenia, You wrote certain things but I don't see your point. Is it possible to say your point and then explain so that I understand what it is that you want to explain to me? Is it that you don't agree with the process of salvation because you are a Catholic? If its that, I understand that already. Catholics have a different process they believe in. Something totally different then the Modern Church. Something they changed through the times. I was once a Catholic so I do know.
---lupe2618 on 8/8/05


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Romans 10:17 So faith comes from hearing, and hearing through the word of Christ.

2 Tim 2:25 correcting his opponents with gentleness. God may perhaps grant them repentance leading to a knowledge of the truth,

Acts 15:7 Brothers, you know that in the early days God made a choice among you, that by my mouth the Gentiles should hear the word of the gospel and believe.
---etenia on 8/8/05


Who said that repentance bothers me? Although my old Adam doesn't always like doing it. Certainly God convicts my heart of sin and I either repent or remain in my stubborn rebellion against God. But my repentance has nothing to do with my being born again. Repentance is ongoing. Being born again is an event. John 3:5 "Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God."
---etenia on 8/8/05


2. Etenia, I believe all the Scriptures you gave just as they are. I have no trouble believing faith comes from God. It is what I stand for. Of course many here don't believe that but I do. Why does it offend you when I say you have to make a commitment? What bothers you having to repent? God convicts your heart and you surrender. It is all God. Something else has to be done to be born again? Please give us the secret.
---lupe2618 on 8/8/05


Etenia, I don't assume anything. You can be whoever you want. You can do what you want and you sure don't have to listen to me. If you are a Christain, Awesome, if you are not, then I am sorry you are not. If you don't like what I write, then just throw it in the garbage. I am not attacking you, I am your brother I would think. You don't have to believe anything I say, no one does. thanks for your answer.
---lupe2618 on 8/8/05


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Romans 9:15,16 For he says to Moses, "I will have mercy on whom I have mercy, and I will have compassion on whom I have compassion." So then it depends not on human will or exertion, but on God, who has mercy.

Faith is a gift, it is not something we have come to or decided upon. It is a gift. Eph 2:8 For by grace you have been saved through faith. And this is not your own doing; it is the gift of God, not a result of works, so that no one may boast.
---etenia on 8/8/05


Lupe,

First, why do you assume that I am not a Christian? Second, you didn't answer my questions. Third, I agree with all of the scriptures you put forth, however they do not show that our repentance or our commitment has anything to do with our born again status. John 1:13 who were born, not of blood nor of the will of the flesh nor of the will of man, but of God.
---etenia on 8/8/05


Thank you Etenia, for answering. I don't know what it is you are going to do for your life. Maybe one day you will ask yourself if this is right or not. when someone gives their lives to Christ, it is glory for God. When someone is ready, they normally don't ask questions. They already have a broken heart. They already know that only Christ can make things right. They don't argue why this and why that. They run to Him not away from Him. May God's word be truth for you.
---lupe2618 on 8/7/05


4. Now you can do two things, since you have been told, "you can bend your knee's to the Lord, and repent of all you have done against Him, confess Him Lord, or you can continue doing whatever you are doing. You have to be sincere, because it has to come from the heart. Many know there is a God so they don't make the commitment. They want to stay as far away as possible. They don't want to follow His rules, they like their rules better, so the refuse Christ. Always wanting to be separated from God.
---lupe2618 on 8/7/05


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3. "If you confess with your mouth Jesus as Lord, and believe in your heart that God raised Him from the dead, you shall be saved; for with the heart man believes resulting in Righteousness, and with the mouth he confesses, resulting in salvation." (Romans 10:9-10) Now Etenia, when we do make this commitment or pledge to God we have to be sincere. If there is no faith, nothing will happen.
---lupe2618 on 8/7/05


2. He will have your sins completely taken away, "Repent therefore and return, that your sins may be wiped away, in order that times of refreshing may come from the presence of the Lord." (Acts 3:19.) By God's grace you receive His free gift (eternal life) through faith which is also from God. "By grace you have been saved through faith, and that not of yourselves, it is the gift of God." (Eph. 2:8.) Confess Jesus and believe that He was raised from the dead by God,
---lupe2618 on 8/7/05


Etenia, All people have rebelled or sinned against God, "All have sinned and fall short of the glory of God" (Romans 3:23.) The price of rebellion or sin is very high. "The wages of sin is death, but the free gift of God is eternal life in Christ, Jesus our Lord" (Romans 6:23.) God loves us in spite of our rebellion, "God demonstrated His own love toward us, in that while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us."Romans 5:8, John 3:16.) If you repent, and turn toward God,
---lupe2618 on 8/7/05


THe bible states that when we marry, we are to become "1" flesh. I think it would be a good idea for you and your husband with the bible, sit down and discuse this together. Pray together, and study together. Would you want to follow the Pope (a man) or the Lord Jesus Christ (GOD). This should be between you, your husband and God. I will be praying for you both.
---geraa7578 on 8/6/05


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Lupe,

Sorry, but those verses do not say that my commitment or belief is the *cause* of born again status. The question remains. How are we to be "made right" with God in the first place? Are you saying that we are saved by a combination of God's mercy and our efforts? Do you not believe that God must act first? Do you not believe that salvation is monergistic?
---etenia on 8/6/05


Etenia, if you go to the posting on "Catholic beer tent at events" down on the bottom, you will see a posting by a Catholic name "Peter" that is doing just that. working in groups to help others understand. He might be able to help you more in this matter.
---lupe2618 on 8/6/05


4. The Catholics I know are working in groups to help others understand that there has to be a change in their lives. We cannot live like the world and believe we are saved. What is the use of having a picture of Christ at home and still go to the dances, partying with liquor, commiting all kinds of sin while drunk, and going to church the next Sunday? people don't want to change their way of life. I hope I have helped you. It is still your decision.
---lupe2618 on 8/6/05


3. It does take a broken heart to submit. Many have too much pride and never submit because of their pride. I said once if something stops man from been save it will be his pride. I spoke to Ruben about this and his pride stops him from making that commitment. What else does? It doesn't matter the denomnination, but what is in the heart. If the Holy Spirit is calling you, you are ready. Do you feel that? Then do it for your sake not anyone else's. We all have to answer one day all by ourselves.
---lupe2618 on 8/6/05


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2. You see when we make that commitment to God people know they will have to change their ways. But what they don't understand is that God will do the changing. On their own they would fail. It is not our work of changing, it is His work in the true believer. But this commitment has to be sincere. It takes a broken down heart to be submissive. If we are not repented of our lives then the confession is not true in our hearts.
---lupe2618 on 8/6/05


Etenia, If you go to Romans 10:9-11, You will Read, "That if you confess with thy mouth the Lord Jesus, and shall believe in thine heart that God hath raised Him from the dead, thou shalt be saved. For with the heart man believeth unto righteousness; and with the mouth confession is made unto salvation. For the Scripture saith, Whosoever believeth on Him shall not be ashamed."
---lupe2618 on 8/6/05


Would someone please tell me where scripture tells us that our belief or our commitment is what causes us to be born again? Thanks.
---etenia on 8/5/05


3. I know of many Catholics that have made that commitment. There is many in the Catholic church that have made the commitment to God. They love their church but they made sure of their salvation. It didn't cause them nothing and they gain everything. Are you afraid we will see you? It's between you and Christ. Repent to Him and ask for forgiveness and He will hear you.
---lupe2618 on 8/5/05


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2. just make a commitment. It is your choice, stay the way you are or give your life to Christ. If I was a Catholic and wanted to make sure of my salvation and I loved the Lord I would do anything to make sure of my salvation. What would it cause me? my pride? no way, I would do anything possible to be with Him forever. The question is, do you want to change and make a commitment to God? No ones choice but yours. Make sure not for your husband but for you. What have you got to lose, but your life.
---lupe2618 on 8/5/05


Denomination is almost irrelevant...to be born again is to believe that Jesus was crucified on the cross and raised from the dead. If you have confessed your sins and know that believing in Jesus Christ is the only way to Heaven...then you are born again. The Blood He shed cleanses you..as long as you believe that and the church you go to believes that than it doesn't matter what denomination you are. Good luck to you both.
---Kimberly on 8/5/05


It doesn't matter what denomnination you are in without a commitment you have nothing. A pledge to God or no pledge to follow Him. What does it take to make a commitment? He is not asking for your arm or leg, but your heart. You see, they know that God is real and if they make that commitment they will have to live up to it, they don't want to make a mistake so they stay the why they want and justify it because of their religion. Who cares if you are Catholic,
---lupe2618 on 8/5/05


It doesn't matter if you are baptize, what good would that do if you don't have a repented heart? That's the problem with the Catholic church. How can you be saved if you don't want to change? They want to be baptize but don't want to change the way they live. Do what you want during the week, confess on Sat. go to church on Sunday and back to doing what the world does. What change is that? You have to repent, and commit your life to Christ.
---lupe2618 on 8/5/05


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I want to qualify a statement that I made. If you have been baptized with water and in the name of the Father, Son, and Holy Spirit, as the catholic church does, you are already born again.
---etenia on 8/5/05


Why did your husband stop going to church?
---etenia on 8/5/05


I would say rather, that what is important is God's love for you. When we begin to focus on *our* sincerity and *our* commitment, our eyes are turned away from Christ and onto ourselves. If you have been baptized, you are born again. John 3:5,6 "Jesus answered, Truly, truly, I say to you, unless one is born of water and the Spirit, he cannot enter the kingdom of God."
---etenia on 8/5/05


2. The denomination is not important but what is important is your love for Christ. When people are sincere God is true to His Word. Many speak as if born again is nothing, but that is because they don't want to be born again. Is it so hard to say the words? They are only words but they are a commitment. Submission is hard and many don't like that. They want to live the same way. Are you one of the elect? Find out. If you are not, you won't make a commitment.
---lupe2618 on 8/5/05


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Lauretta, the way you both can understand each other is if you both believe the same things. Without that you will always have trouble. you have to make a commitment to God, that you want to change and that you are sorry for the way you have lived. If you don't have that repented heart, it means nothing if you say any words. Many do but don't mean them. It has to come from your heart. Do you love Christ? Do you want to be a child of God? If you do then do it, but not for your husband but for yourself.
---lupe2618 on 8/5/05


Paul Adam. What did Jesus mean when HE said, "You must be born again"? Does being born into a Catholic family or sprinkled by the priest make a christian? What if a person is born into a Baptist or Methodist family? Are they a christian? How is one "born again" and what does that mean to you?
---Eloia_N_KS on 8/4/05


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