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It's All About My Husband

I've been marriade 16 years. I have a son 15. My husband is hateful, greedy, mean mouthed and he won't change. I've prayed for him and myself. He cheated once and I forgave him. There is no gratifacation unless it is for him. I want out.

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 ---Marilynn on 8/4/05
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If you do this: 1Corinthians 11:3-10, 13, 15-16, 14:(33), 34-35, (36-38), Ephesians 5:22-24, 33, Colossians 3:18, 1Timothy 2:11-14, (8-15), Titus 2:5, 1Peter 3:1-2, 5-6, and he does this: 1Corinthians 7:33, Ephesians 5:25-29, 31, 33, Colossians 3:19, 1Timothy 5:8, 1Peter 3:7, this resolves the situation.
Consider Genesis 2:23-25, 3:16 (Genesis 4:7), Proverbs 14:1, Galatians 5:14, 1Timothy 5:13-14, 2Timothy 3:6-7, 1Peter 1:14.
p.s. 1) Don't uncover your husbands nakedness, 2) submit to your husband, 3) pray for God's help and wisdom. 4) Titus 2:3-5.
---Glenn on 5/19/09


what is your recommendation for an emotional abusing husband that has a love affair with the television instead of his wife????
---michele on 5/19/09


I'm going through much of the same,But I moved to my mothers for the time being.If you are having a hard time, you need space to sort out your thoughts and do some soul searching.My husband and I are trying marriage counciling to see what we can do, it has been helpful to have someone else that understands.Trust in God, and your heart.If things are meant to be than they will and God will always lead us into the right directions.I'm hoping things will get better for you, I will pray for you to.
---Kim on 12/1/08


I'm in the same situation except it's my boyfriend who said he was a christian and mistreated me still, now he just said he is given up on god. I am very broken but I pray god will help us.
---Arwen on 11/22/07


Marilyn,
God has not finished His work here on earth yet...He is still here molding and shapping us into the person that He wants us to be. Maybe if you can trust God to change you frist, He will shine His love through you and change your husband second. I found that God is always working something out good for those who love Him. And, I know that God loves you two.
---Linda3939 on 3/13/07




You can do three things: 1. You are already praying, but you need to ask yourself, "I'm I praying correctly?" 2. You can't change your husband, but, it's a know fact that your mate will change in relation to your change - so ask yourself, "What can I do to do make the situation better?" 3. Seek marriage counseling. If your husband is not interested, do it for yourself. Try to find a certified marriage counselor, unknown to either of you.
---WIVV on 8/6/05


2. I believe that your husband was never born again. I realize you went through a lot and many do. When there is no true conversion families suffer. As far as the question is concern, when there is something real wrong in a marriage, someone has to do something or else there will be no change. Marilynn, talk to God and be sincere, make a move, and let God take care of matters. If you are sincere with Him, He will be to you too.
---lupe2618 on 8/6/05


Mary, please forgive me for saying this. but you used the word Christian for your husband that was abusive to you and your family. I want you to know that a true Christian does not abuse his family. I hear this all the time and many good Christian husbands are branded because of those words. A born again Christian is a person that loves God with all his heart and his family too. Many say that all the time and make God a lier. He is not a lier for He does change the the heart of man.
---lupe2618 on 8/6/05


My Dearest Marilynn, Been here done that. I was married to a man for 5 years who was a Christian, but he was mean and abuse not just me but my other daughters. I prayed and asked God to help us, change me, everything, we went to couslers, but still nothing help. In the 7th chapter of Corth. It tells us the Lord wants us to live in Peace. Are you? God will make a way where there seems to be away. Ask Him what to do, I personaly got out before I could not live anymore. Mary8877
---Mary on 8/5/05


Mariylnn, I believe you have made up your mind already and don't need any help as I can see it. You are the only one that knows what you are going through, everyone else can just guess. Do you need for people to tell you its Ok? Only you know the answer. your husband sounds like a person that has to go down the gutter before he does change. I don't know, but that happens many time before someone can see right.
---lupe2618 on 8/5/05




wow, you could be describing me a few years ago. My husband got saved and now he is the sweetest person alive. God changes people. When you are born again, you are a new person. Pray, pray, pray, pray, pray, I can't say it enough.
---shira_5965 on 8/5/05


have you taken your marriage to God with scripture that will declare God's word on a victorious outcome rather than on the problem? One of the last avenues to take before a divorce can be for you both to separate and see if you can both reconcile down the track.My wife and I are married for 12 years in that time we would have separated at least 6 times where I thought our marriage was over but God reconciled us.Halleujah Do you have a support group in your church?
---micha3368 on 8/5/05


dear sister,
i understand it svery painful to go through unjust situations in life,out of experince with life i have learnt that people cannnto change people onluy god can change, your husband needs deliverance,
leena
---leena on 8/5/05


I am in the same situation that you are in, and I have 3 children. Somedays I think I can't take anymore, but God manages to give me the strangth to carry on. I don't have any advice for you because I don't know what to do myself. All I can say is PRAY & TRUST that God will change our husbands. My prayers are with you my friend.
---Donna on 8/5/05


He doesn't have God in his heart, or otherwise he wouldn't treat you this way. What if Jesus wanted to turn his back on us when we were sinners, and full of hatred? We wouldn't have a chance. You need to pray for him to get saved, Seek the Holy Ghost on him. Then when he has God in his heart, he will be a brand new man.
---Rebecca_D on 8/4/05


Dearest tired wife. There is no easy solution. If your husband is not assaulting you, nor cheating, the scriptures state you should stay. You are how God might be able to touch him.
---John on 8/4/05


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Where would we be if Christ had left us the first time we strayed? Or weren't lovable? Christ died for us while we were yet sinners but it's through his love for us that we come to love him. How will your husband ever know God's love unless through your witness and love. Love him even though he may not be lovable and God will reward you greatly. If not in this life, surely in heaven. God will give you the grace to make it through if you give it over to Him daily. There is always hope in Jesus. Andrea
---Andrea on 8/4/05


You want out! What is keeping you from packing your bags. Seems like you have put up with enough. If the situation is as bad as you say I could not blame you for carrying out your wishes.
---Pierr7958 on 8/4/05


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