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I Left My Church And Then Returned

I left a church for a short while to see what other churches were like. I then returned to my home church after almost a year. I am treated like an outcast, as if I never contributed in any way ever to the church. I'm feeling hurt and confused. Any suggestions?

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 ---Cana on 8/6/05
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Boy can I relate! Instead of taking it as a cool reception and icyness, Take it as God saying: "Finally! About Time you Showed up! Now, come in and listen to what I have to tell you, we have a lot of catching up to do!"
---Nicola on 4/4/08

It is true that you are NOW 'behaving' in an unstable manner (therefore, you are not eligible for the 'stability award', IS that what you seek?).

If what you were seeking is a more meaningful relationship with The Lord, then having the courage for exploration is the first step.

Your present church rejects you because the spirit is definitely not in the people there. Christ was also rejected by the world, so you're in good company on that (darkness resents light).
---greg on 4/3/08

Maybe you're interested in "THE DEPTHS OF GOD" (1 Corinthians 2:10)?, the bible is only the introductory doctrine of Jesus (Hebrews 6:1), the "WORD OF TRUTH" (2 Timothy 2:15, Ephesians 1:13, John 14:6). The real word of God is the "SWORD OF THE SPIRIT" (Ephesians 6:17). It enables us to "WALK BY THE SPIRIT" (John 10:27) and "HEAR" God's word. The "hirelings" haven't taught this and don't care to help us "enter by the door" (John 10:1).
---greg on 4/3/08

Maybe you're interested in "THE DEPTHS OF GOD" (1 Corinthians 2:10)?, the bible is only the introductory doctrine of Jesus (Hebrews 6:1), the "WORD OF TRUTH" (2 Timothy 2:15, Ephesians 1:13, John 14:6). The real word of God is the "SWORD OF THE SPIRIT" (Ephesians 6:17). It enables us to "WALK BY THE SPIRIT" (John 10:27) and "HEAR" God's word. The "hirelings" haven't taught this and don't care to help us "enter by the door" (John 10:1).
---greg on 4/4/08

Don't go to a denominational church.

Nor a non-denominational church. All organized churches have their own interpretation of the Bible, their own traditions, their own rules. If you truly want to grow in Christ, if you truly want to mature in Christ, if you truly want to minister in Christ, then start your own home church. Having a few serious friends to help each other on the road towards the Kingdom of God is a lot better than just being another face in the crowd.
---Steveng on 4/3/08

You are being viewed as a person who is unstable.God says an unstable man can look to receive nothing from the Lord. That is in the book of James. You need to settle down and make up your mind where you want to be. You did not have to leave your church to see what other churches were like. You could have gone once a week to visit other churches during the times your church was not having service. But that is no reason for them to treat you badly.You made a mistake. God forgives. Man is judgmental.
---Robyn on 4/3/08

So many churches, or rther congregtions seem to beleive thier little group is the only true church, a+nd if you worship elsewhere you are no longer worshipping the true God (i.e. their) God.
---alan_of_UK on 4/3/08

Straight to the point here. When a church treats you like an outcast and does not welcome you with open arms. RUN!
---anon on 4/2/08

They may not recognize you or some do take it personally when someone church hops. I'm not judging your decision.
Some people go in and out of churches like there is a swinging door.
Investigating is not a sin, but gives some longstanding members a big pinch.
---Hipper on 4/26/07

If there is someone you were once close to and wish to be close to them again, invite them over for dinner or out for coffee. Then explain to them your confusion, and allow them to explain their side of it. If they are open to it, pray with them, and allow God to rebuild that friendship. Don't be afraid to be the one to initiate change. I apologized to someone I thought was hurt, and they had already forgotten about it! Don't assume you know what the other guy is thinking. God bless!
---Katie on 8/30/05

Sometimes we are so busy in life we only have time for those who are right in front of us. We don't slight one another out of spite, but out of self centeredness. We get caught up in our own surroundings, and forget about people along the way. My suggestion would be to put off those feelings of rejection, and allow God to put love and grace for those people in its place (this doesn't happen over night). to be cont.
---Katie on 8/30/05

I won't take away from your question except to say the same thing happened to me. It may be they are hurt and confused, maybe feel betrayed. However, more than likely it's simply out of sight out of mind syndrome. When someone is involved in a club or program with you it's easy to become friends and socialize. If one leaves the group, or never joins, they could just put that focus on someone else who has taken your place. To be cont.
---Katie on 8/30/05

I left my church to help start another church in another town. God laid it on my heart, but the devil got in and destroyed what God had done and I left that church and went back to my church. I have never felt like I was in a freezer before, but I was there, so I left there and I love where I am now. My pastor supports our ministry there.
---shira_5965 on 8/7/05

My daughter left her church for a while and returned. When she did she was welcomed with open arms, literally, by the pastor and many members. When I saw the pastor in the street a little while after (he is not my pastor) he told me what a thrill it was to see her come back. That's how it should be.
---Xanthi on 8/7/05

Dear Cana: It matters not what others say, even tho' everything inside you wants to feel like you are accepted into the Body of Christ. After a good try at staying at your church and trying to find out what the problem is, I would seriously consider leaving again and this time leave for good. Be sure you ask God what to do first; He may want you there to change some things in a loving way.
---Elsie on 8/7/05

hi im beth,we have the same situation thats why i feel for you.yes its hard,ask God to give you peace as long as you did nothing wrong,all you want is to seek God.i advice to you to pray that God will lead you to the churh whre you will be use and grow more in Christ. just continue love them and pray fromt them.
---beth on 8/7/05

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I love the reply go where you are celebrated not tolerated! I agree. but before you leave pray and make sure that it is not just your own emotions. It is very hard to go to church sometimes when you've been away, you feel like you are not part of the family anymore, give it a little time for people to warm up to you again. Then if things are still negative, God will lead you to the place He wants you.
---km on 8/6/05

Read Psalm 118:8. I think it will help. Do not care what "man" is saying or doing. Care about where your GOD wants you to be!
---zoe5647 on 8/6/05

Go where you're celebrated, not where you're tolerated.
---Rick on 8/6/05

Do not stay where you are not welcomed.
---Eloy on 8/6/05

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I heard a great sermon once which went like know why the early church was so powerful and on fire for God and were all of one accord? they didn't have options, they couldn't leave to check out other churches, they had to work out their differences and forgive and remained united and strenghtend.....
---lisa on 8/6/05

Everyone that says Lord, Lord is not saved. Pray and fast if you have to, to ask God what his plans are for you. Also dont look at people for your encouragement. Who knows this may turn around and be a testimony to help someone else. Keep focused on the Lord....
---Dianne on 8/6/05

Maybe the members feel they have done something wrong and are responsible for your looking for another church. You might ask them why you are being treated as an outcast. It might be wise to start with the preacher. This is not the time to be tackful - just say, "I feel like you are treating me as an outcast, why?" Or you can even give a testimony, (if it's true), that you have looked at other churches and could find none as nice as this one."
---WIVV on 8/6/05

Is it the whole church or certain people? If it is the whole community,they should be ashamed & you should move on, if it is a few selected people maybe you can speak to the Pastor & he in return can speak to tem with you as a group, or confront them with the Pastor being there so no hurt feelings& you get to the bottom of things.
---candice on 8/6/05

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Figure out which of the others fit your beliefs and treated you well and go worship with them.
---Pierr7958 on 8/6/05

Our church had a couple leave for awhile, then they came back, and to see the Lord work in their lives now. It should be a blessing for those to return, however that is hardly the case in some cases (like Catholics). Maybe the Lord is telling to move on. Study hard, Pray even harder, and let the Lord lead you where he wants you. God be with you.
---geraa7578 on 8/6/05

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