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Pastor's Wife Is Unsaved

Would it be right for a church to take on a new pastor whose wife is not a born again Christian?

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 ---F.F. on 8/14/05
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Just want to say wow! that's a good point you bring up! It's probably not that common you have some not all Pastors who really do know deep down.inside their spouse is NOT saved he the only one I heard who will be honest this Pastor you mention.... most will not tell the congregatin the wife not saved..
Good point...God bless you.
---Elena_95555 on 6/22/16

1) 2 Corinthians 6:14 Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion has light with darkness? In context, this was not specifically referring to marriage. If God wanted it to refer to marriage he could have said "Do not marry unbelievers".
---BAC on 5/26/16

2) con't ...God said, "the husband of one wife". He knew some Christians had unsaved wives, so he COULD have said, "the husband of one believing wife". But He didn't. Why is everyone adding to the word of God? Do you not think God knows what He is saying? Husband of one wife ...who controls his house etc. That's it, Don't ADD to the Word of God
---BAC on 5/26/16

Who knows what a person is like behind closed doors, how distressing for the husband not to have seen the fruit's of his labour, okay he could have been a ogre behind closed doors and she could have been an angel, Who's to know? not because she looked good or behaved good in front of you only the most high has that information all you have is a front, a secret could always be left unknown ! The bible is a good and reliable source to be able to steer clear of those who are not saved by the grace of God, wisdom means you trust not even your closest friend we see the outward appearance God sees the heart.
---Carla on 3/11/15

I attended a church 30 years ago, for 8 years, soon after the long-standing pastor had died and had not been replaced. His widow attended the church and was one of the nicest and most genuine people I'd met. During my 8 years there that lady was saved. This was the biggest shock any of the older members could have had as they'd always assumed that she was already a Christian.

It just shows that we should assume nothing and judge no-one.
---Rita_H on 3/11/15

Who decides that someone is not saved?
---learner2 on 3/9/15

F.F., did God tell you that his wife was not born again?

I really doubt it.

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 3/9/15

If a man is to hear from god first he is to listen to the advice concerning an unsaved wife. Yea if she became unsaved whilst married to him, he should not be permitted to pastor, he will have enough on his plate controlling his faithless wife. His children because of her unbelief means they are unclean Biblically therefore much work is need before families should sit under a minister who does not have his house in order.
Corinthian 7 is in clear demonstration of unbelief within marriage.
---Carla on 3/9/15

The first thing we have to look at is were both married couples know the Lord first before getting married or they both were unbelievers and the Lord has save the men and he has call him into the ministry if the men became save while they were in the marriage and the Lord has call him then the church should receive him into the church as a pastor and with prayers and love and affection the Lord will bring the wife into the place where God is taking the husband remember there is nothing that our Lord is not able to do let God be God and let us be men please we cannot hold someone calling down because of their wife are we serving God or his wife thank you all
---kofi on 3/8/15

\\It is the fruits of the spirit. If a person does not have any of the fruits of the Spirit, there's a good chance he is not born again.
---shira4368 on 10/13/14

And what are these fruits of the Spirit, shira?

Can you determine if a given person's patience and long-suffering are truly fruits of the Spirit, or just the way s/he is naturally?

If so, how?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/14/14

Cluny, there is a formula to determine if one is saved. It is the fruits of the spirit. If a person does not have any of the fruits of the Spirit, there's a good chance he is not born again.
---shira4368 on 10/13/14

And what earthly person determines who is and who is not a "born-again Christian"--a formula the Bible itself never uses?

Glory to Jesus Christ!
---Cluny on 10/13/14

Tiffany is correct. Being unequally yoked to an unbeliever does not necessarily mean that they were unequally yoked at the time of marriage.

As Ann G says below (in 2005) it might not be right for the man to be entering the ministry with an unsaved wife. I'm not 100% sure about that though - God works in mysterious ways sometimes and not all ministers wives (saved ones) take an active role in their husband's ministry. Many men perform their ministerial work themselves whilst the wife has a career or is a full-time homemaker.

God's 'call' is personal to each individual and/or family and we are not to judge or question that.
---Rita_H on 10/12/14

It seems most here are missing something big...the un equally yoked verse applies to unmarried christians looking for a spouse. The bible goes on to specifically state that if both marry as unbelievers and then one becomes a believer and the other does not if the unbelieving spouse is willing to stay the believing spouse is to remained do you know this man didnt marry then become a believer and then become a pastor?
---tiffany on 10/12/14

How do you know the wife is unsaved? And why would a pastor want to openly disobey God on this matter? He is a man of God and is to take orders from the Lord. Not to openly defy God like that. I would not want Him as a pastor. He is not fit to be a pastor. He may need to be saved himself. We have enough division in the churches as of now. No unsaved pastors,please.
---Robyn on 4/14/08

How can a man Pastor well when he has already disobeyed God's Word to not be unequally yoked to an unbeliever?If he was already married when saved he should wait to Pastor until he and his wife are on the same path.A house divided can't stand,how can a Pastor be annointed when he doesn't have Spiritual agreement in the home? If he hasn't led his wife to God how can he shepard God's flock of believers and win souls?
---Darlene_1 on 4/14/08

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2 Corinthians 6:14 Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for what fellowship has righteousness with unrighteousness? and what communion has light with darkness?
---a_servant on 7/13/07

Careful about rushing to judgement. Yes, the Bible is clear that a believer should not enter into marriage with an unbeliever. But once a marriage is already in place, if the unbeliever wishes to stay, the believer should not separate. Note that the pastor could have converted after marriage.

But it would be hard to pastor a church with an unbelieving wife.
---Ktisophilos on 7/13/07

The bible is very clear..David was not a pastor when he killed Bethsheba's husband. Be very careful not to take the scriptures out of context. This pastor knows that according to scripture, his house must be in order. He is out of order and needs to be admonished with the word of God. How can 2 walk together less they agree and what does light have to do with darkness? God's word is the standard for all of life's issues. Man must follow his word or be lost. This is all simple. In name of Jesus Christ.
---Queen on 7/13/07

How do you know she has not been born again?she does not have to explain this to you. If she has not been saved she needs to be before being placed over other people. It is not right to put unsaved people over God's people. Her husband should know better than this. He is saved and he is qualified to lead the sheep? Makes you wonder.
---Robyn on 7/12/07

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How strong is the pastor, how strong is the church?

Guidelines were given in the New Testament (1 Timothy 3:11) but truly the issue is how his homelife will affect his performance, and the overall perception of potential converts.

Be careful, a minor controversy in an unsettled church could spell trouble.
My general opinion is no, not wise but I'm not making the choice.
---Pharisee on 7/12/07

FF what do you mean by is not a born again Christian?

please clarify.
---willow on 11/20/05

What kind of example is a pastor who is in rebellion to the word of God? If he got saved after marrage and she is yet unsaved it is more understandable but he is not ready for ministry as a pastor.
---ann_G on 10/7/05

What proof do you have that the pastor's wife is not born again? And if she isn't don't you think God is taking care of it?
---missy on 8/27/05

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If this is the one that God has called to you, you would lose your blessing by turning him away because of his wife. Maybe neither knew the Lord when they married, and now the husband is Christian. Or maybe both were Christian when they met and now the wife isn't.Hosea's wife Gomer wasn't a believer but that didn't stop God from using Hosea mightily.And the sin of David (murdered Bathsheba's hubby) didn't stop God from using David.Realize that God still uses broken vessels.
---flor4849 on 8/16/05

The word says very clearly that we should not be unequally yoked.......
---Karen on 8/16/05

It would be good if she was saved also, then she could be allowed to help her husband in intercessory prayers and in the church affairs. Nevertheless, yes, it would be alright, for the Pastor is the only one who will be doing the preaching, and not the wife. Scripture reads that the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the believing husband.
---Eloy on 8/16/05

why would a pastor be married to a non-believer in the first place? We should not judge the conversion of any person.if you are uncomfortable with the pastor's wife, I don't think you will be very happy with the pastor either.
---Robert on 8/15/05

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The bible says to try the spirits to see if they be of God. Try (test) her spirit, it will let you know real quick.
---Rebecca_D on 8/15/05

Are you sure she's unsaved - or just not up to your standards for a pastors wife? Ask her for her testimony. If she really isn't "born again", than, NO you should not have a pastor who's wife is not a Christian.
---WIVV on 8/15/05

Did you decide she is not saved? Who made that judgement?
---NurseRobert on 8/14/05

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