It will have to start with you. You cannot change, or control your husband and nagging will just make it worse. I would recommend that when an argument arises..shut your mouth..and if you cannot..go shut yourself in a room and pray. You are going to have to walk in love..it is your choice. |
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---melanie on 5/29/08 |
What you did while dating will not change when you get married. Have you ever thought that you liked it before?? I'm not coming down on you but there are a lot of women who play the victim role, when in essence that man has no idea what is going on b/c that's they the way you 2 are. |
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---Senya on 5/28/08 |
Several questions: 1) What does fighting do for you? 2) Do you get what you want when you fight? 3) Are you aware how this is programming your baby to be a fighter? 4) Who usually starts the fight? 5) Were you/your husband raised in a family that fights instead of communicates calmly? 6) Do you and your hubby enjoy fighting? 7) Do you really want to stop, does he? Get professional Christian counseling and STOP! Remember it takes two to fight, so if you stop, he won't. |
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---Elsie on 5/28/08 |
Again, are you a Christian? I know God wants peace for His people. And God wants peace in His house which is the inside of you. "Quite peace." You can still have joy, just don't expect from other people, to give it to you . In other words, other people are not responsible for your joy. |
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---catherine on 4/30/07 |
Now you need help????? Sounds like you needed help before you got married...I strongly suggest that you both seek counseling as soon as possible as your son will hear the fighting and believe me, it will affect him as he will grow up thinking this is a normal environment when it isn't...I also suggest you seek the counsel of your Pastor and spiritual leaders and friends as well... |
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---fran6775 on 4/30/07 |
do you both know Jesus personally? do you both love Him? then let Jesus love come through you so you can love others, Proverbs says a soft word turns away wrath, two wrongs dont make right pray and ask God to give you an even greater love for your husband and show it, love can overcome anything,look at what Jesus love did for us' |
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---michele on 9/21/05 |
Well, why don't you be a bigger person and stop the fight? Verbal fights usually leads to physical fights, so when they start verbally keep your mouth SHUT. I assure you, he'll get tired of talking and just shut up! A person cant fight themselves, it takes two or more. |
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---Lily9364 on 9/21/05 |
3. I really thought is was a simple answer. Just stop fighting and start acting like great Christians and be examples for others. Stop making excuses and get to it. Every minute they waste is less time spend for God. Their focus is only in themselves. to much pride to give in, someone has to humble. |
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---lupe2618 on 8/18/05 |
2. Melissa, I am not been mean. I am been truthful. Many people already know the answer to their own question. I don't think it is a mystery that couples fight. I use to go to my room and lock the door. Sometimes it takes work Melissa, but no number of words will change them but themselves. They have to want to make the marriage work. Look at all the questions that are coming out now. It is all the same thing. They have to work their relationship. I cannot make them and you cannot either. |
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---lupe2618 on 8/18/05 |
If you tell them to pray, do you think they both will? Prayer is great when talking to God for something you want Him to do for your life. He expects you to do what He commands you to do as a Christian. But you have to act. God will not put your shoes on but He can surely take them away, and you won't have any. This couple is fighting. Do they need to fight? No. Can you make them stop? No. Can God make them? Yes, it might not be what they expect and might be worse. So my suggestion is to stop. |
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---lupe2618 on 8/18/05 |
Lupe, people cannot just "stop fighting". It takes prayer and time. Speaking of which, since no one has mentioned it yet, I will.
Jancy, it is very hard to just stop. What you need to do is pray. Pray every day for the Lord to speak to the both of you and help you understand the reasons for your fighting. Pray that the Lord will bring peace to your home and that your son will not be affected from the fighting done already. I will be praying for you!
Melissa |
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---Melissa on 8/18/05 |
Well, here is my help, "stop fighting." You don't have to ask us for help. We cannot stop for you. you have to do it yourself. |
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---lupe2618 on 8/17/05 |
Jancy, what kind of help do you want? Scripture? Counselling? Encouragement? Someone to push the right button and just fix it for you? :) (You do realize that it will take determination on your part to change, don't you?)
Does your husband want to stop fighting? Are you and he both born again or saved? Do you pray together?
- jeffr5976 |
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---Jeffrey on 8/17/05 |
, all fighting is wrong because it involves two opinions that are too stubborn to be right. insist that both of you stop this habit immediately. you don't want your kid growing up to think it's okay. |
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---steve on 8/17/05 |
In a marriage team building I use to give, there was a statement, "I have to change myself, I can't change my mate, but he will will change in relation to my change". So write down what causes the fights. Write what you can do to change yourself. For example: if you have to say something unpleasent to say, just say it and leave the room. Don't argue the point or try to convience him. He'll get the picure you aren't going to argue. If he has no one to argue with, he'll stop. |
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---WIVV on 8/17/05 |
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