How To Find A Godly Man
Hello, I am 26, single and waiting for a mate, I just want to know why worldy men only ask me out and not Christian men?
Moderator - Do you act in Godly ways or worldly ways? Christian men only want Godly women.
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---diana8758 on 8/26/05
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I am very new at christianity.I'm trying to change my life by our Lord's power and grace.I know that satan has a backpack full of tricks that appeal to my fleshly desires.I am single 30 years old and want to enjoy life with someone i can love trust,and serve our lord with.
My question is where and how do I meet this woman.When do i share the wreakage of my past.What boundries do I draw? What boundries don't I cross.What does a Godly woman want from me . What can I do for her?And how do I get God to smile at us. |
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---stewart_allen on 10/30/09 |
In order to attract a Godly man, you must be a Godly woman. I am not saying you aren't, but at 26 years old, being that young, how old are you in the Lord?
Do you display holiness and proclaim the Glory of the Lord? Do you worship Father God in Spirit and Truth? Do you honor Him by doing what His word says to do, abstain from every form of fleshly lusts.
Why are we seeking after an earthly thing? When Jesus said, For thine maker is your husband, the Lord of Hosts is His name. Take Jesus as your husband FIRST and then He will send you an eartly one who is Christian. |
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---anon on 8/4/09 |
If that is the case with most of society today it just reflects the idea that the great falling away is more imminent today than that of many years ago.
Many of the old brethren say they remember when they were approached by their husbands to be their reasons for approaching them was based on their spiritual growth where they admired their zeal for Christ form a far and wanted a woman of God(proverbs woman).
Obviously there was the physical attraction too but perhaps not exactly like the physical attractions that fool youth into thinking that popularity, physical attraction without the spiritual growth comes first. |
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---Carla3939 on 8/4/09 |
Do not be only hearers of the Word, but doers.
You can pray all you want, but if you stay home no one is going to knock on a stranger's door. Or maybe you are asking God the wrong questions or requests. Or maybe you are not specific in your requests. Don't just say, "I want a mate." That's too general.
Do an online KJV bible search for "one another," "each other," and "encourag" because living a christian life is a 24/7 lifestyle - not a once a week pep talk dished out by denominational "churches." Go out into the world and do. |
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---Steveng on 8/3/09 |
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Carla ... I think what you say goes for males in most sections of society!
And for women too |
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---alan8566_of_uk on 8/3/09 |
Not necessarily so Moderator!
I see where your coming from but you are generalising here. In the church the popular men/youth don't ask their fellow sisters to marry them because they feel they have grown up with them like a sister and they are not attracted to the women especially those who are spiritually serving silently, who do not come up to the worlds standards concerning figure and appearance therefore most males of their peers look else where for their wives obviously looking for women who resemble Pop stars... hence many are divorced today!
In the Black community that is in England(I cannot speak for else where)
My answer was based on group discussions over 20 years and not that of my own opinion. |
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---Carla3939 on 8/3/09 |
Bless you sister...the best advice is to stop looking. You can't find a Godly man, God must do it for you.
You job is not to find but wait.
If your faith is weak and you can't wait you can move ahead yourself (Saul, Jonah, Moses) and take your chances, millions do every year.
Most often the burning urges and hormones of the young find a person and THEN ask God to bless the relationship. Its easier than waiting on God. |
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---larry on 8/2/09 |
Hi Ruth, I see your point but I believe there was a Ruth in the Bible who was definitely the seeker and Boaz was the responder in that case. :) Also, if I had never invited the man who's now the love of my life over for a pizza, I don't know where we'd be now! :D God bless :) |
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---Mary on 8/1/09 |
I agree - be a Godly woman! Be filled with the Holy Spirit and radiant the warm glow that only He can provide. Don't be afraid to talk about the Lord to any man who shows interest in you - that's sure to drive him away fast if he's not a true Christian. God willing, you will be blessed with a man who desires to fellowship with you, who draws strength from a close relationship with the Lord. May the Lord bless you in your journey! |
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---timothy on 8/1/09 |
I as a Godly man look for a woman who is mature not only naturally mature but Spiritually Mature and posess the fruit of the Spirit... Gal 5:22 & Eph 5:9. Some times worldly people are attracted to the God in you, but some are not ready to make those changes themselves or they could be a distraction to get you off course... SEEK YE FIRST the kingdom of God and His RIGHTEOUSNESS..... AND HIS RIGHTEOUSNESS and your gift will be ADDED UNTO YOU....
If your life is the ONLY BIBLE worldly people read what verse's do you interpret. |
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---Pareese on 8/1/09 |
You need to seek a wife with God's guidance and wisdom. God has made man the initiator and woman the responder, so if you see a woman you think would be a godly marriage partner and are attracted to her because you've already spent time around her and have gotten to know her then pray first and next ask her to consider courting(not dating) with the intention of marriage. If it works out, then that's the woman God would have for you, if not then move on until God shows you someone else. |
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---Ruth on 11/12/07 |
I have found the same and I was a pastor's daughter. Non-christian men think that if they have a christian girl she will be loyal and honest more so than non christian girl. This is something they want. This is what they tell me when I ask why they want me as a Christian when they are not. |
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---Marla on 4/14/07 |
Are you active in any church and Sunday School or any Christian organization? The best place to meet Godly men are in Godly places. Another point is, are you projecting a Godly image? ("Acid test": Are you someone a man would want to introduce to his mother?) |
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---WIVV on 10/2/05 |
When you go to church, try to be good friends with the Christian men there whom you are interested in. Good, solid friendships can sometimes lead to love. Some Christian men are shy and are reluctant to ask a Christian woman to go out with them if they're not all that sure that she's interested in him. Pray about this matter and see to whom God leads you to. Good luck ! |
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---Nock on 9/23/05 |
worldly men only want your body, but godly men want a helpermate. |
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---Eloy on 9/20/05 |
how to find a Godly man? BE a Godly woman!
Concentrate on being all you can be in the Lord. Of course worldly men will ask you out. They like to desecrate what is holy. They want someone who will be true to them but not judge them when they cheat and will forgive them. ( they will try to use your Christianity against you) Don't waste time with them. Love God enough to be his set apart people and wait for the right one. Never be in a hurry. That will only lead to compromise. |
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---Tsuanne on 9/20/05 |
It is sad that when you ask a sister out for anything , the interpretation is that it is a plan to commit immorality. So, in order to stay clear of what she might think or what people around will say or perceive, guys just do not ask anything from the sister. It is only when it becomes a crash mommet for marriage sake, too bad. There should me more youth meetings for singles as way of bringing these alienating ones together. |
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---ernest on 9/20/05 |
i think in general from experience with alot of christian guy friends.....unfortunately they are not willing to just ask?? whether its fear on their part of rejection or insecurities?some dont want to "ruin" a friendship. I think christian guys need to be more assertive and confident in who they are and just go for it....its not necessarily all YOU....believe me....some over spiritualize everything...and sad to say they miss out on possibly entering into a great relationship... |
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---laura on 9/19/05 |
Its because you are still wordly in Spirit.
We are Spiritual beings, so we attract persons with the same Spirit/similiar spirits. |
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---guyiyae on 9/5/05 |
, Godly men do not ask women out, they wait until she has shown that it is okay for him to do so. this is why worldly men ask you out, they don't care what God wants them to do. |
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---steve on 8/30/05 |
My pastor preached on delighting ourselves in the Lord when it comes to seeking a mate. If we delight in the Lord, then the lack of a mate will not matter. |
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---Madison on 8/28/05 |
My advice to you is to look for strong christian character over TIME, look for the fruit in his life. Is he submitted totally to God. I married too quickly a man I believed to be a christian and I have been struggling ever since because he does not put God first and treats me poorly. Just wait on God's timing and take your time. |
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---Anon on 8/28/05 |
What about the most important issue-God's perfect timing? God doesn't intend for everyone to marry. God has the perfect person and time for that person to enter our lives chosen for those who are meant to marry. First of all, though, we all need to be comfortable in our own Christian "skin" before we can truly be ready for lifetime commitments to anyone besides God. |
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---Heather on 8/27/05 |
dear diana i have had the same thing i'm a christian guy and i have always wanted to hang out with christian girl so what i believe is we need to look for those gems among the worldy trach things because they are there i'm one of them but i'm not the only one by the way if you want to check my profile you can do so my user id is josep7937
god bless |
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---joseph on 8/27/05 |
Billy, thanks for telling me that. Now, I know that I'm not the only one who is going to school, work and church and not finding anybody. |
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---diana8758 on 8/26/05 |
Wila, if you see a woman that you're attracted to at church, you have to pray about it first, then pursue her or ask her out. If you pray about it and God says that she's not for you, then it was just your flesh. |
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---diana8758 on 8/26/05 |
Actually moderator, there are no christian men at my school or job place. But alot of non christian men that I meet off the street or stores ask me out. I guess it's because I'm not involved in anything at church.
Moderator - I think you have now answered your own question as to why it's non-christian men contacting you. Try getting involved in church. That is where most of the Christian men are looking for a wife. |
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---diana8758 on 8/26/05 |
To meet a Godly man means to carry yourself in Godly ways, and only socialy associate in Godly places ;Church,Christian bookstore, Bible study, any Church function. Create a Singles Bible study,etc... God will bless you when the time is right- His will,not YOURS! |
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---Ashley on 8/26/05 |
Men are clueless when they meet a good woman so they fall into Adam's original rut. They stand by and let her get away. Women are supposed to be the pursued, but men are so passive and "waiting on God" that they won't make the first move. Everyone has been so hurt that they are living in their shell of self protection. Just live for Jesus and serve God. If some dummy wises up to the fact that you are a priceless gem, good for both of you, if not, good for you, his loss and God bless. |
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---Julie3763 on 8/26/05 |
Well, there's no shortage of good, young Christian men who just spend time at home, go to work, and go to church, without much of a social life. I know dozens of them, and the town where I live is not a big place. I'm one of them myself. Just look around a little- we're not so hard to find. |
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---Billy on 8/26/05 |
Part2
What part do I have in this process, when I meet a woman that I am attracted to at church do I pursue that person? If I do am I just being lead by my flesh or is it the Lords leading. I know this does not answer your question but just seems to add to it. |
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---willa8633 on 8/26/05 |
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Part1
Jesus said to seek first the kingdom of God and all these things will be added to you. This is what men in the church are being taught, to me this means that the Lord will provide. For me this subject is a little confusing does this mean I have to go and seek a wife or is the Lord going to provide. |
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---willa8633 on 8/26/05 |
Yes, I act in Godly ways. I don't even have a social life. I'm a very quiet person. I just work, go to school and go to church.
Moderator - So there are few Christian single men at work and at school? Or is it just a few non-Christian guys asking you out? |
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---diana8758 on 8/26/05 |
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