Jeremy, I think you are reading too much into 1Cor 7:26-28a. Loosed can also mean that you are not bound to care for the whole family. Not Divorce.
Virgin has not been married.
For you to link these two together isn't want he said.
You skipped the verse 27, Are you bound(married)Do not seek a separation.
Matt 5:31-32...divorces his wife...causes her commit adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery. |
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---Nicole on 4/27/08 |
Part II-I have been divorced now for a year and began am dating a wonderful, loving, honest, and trusting man who is also divorced. His situation was very similar. His wife cheated on him and, in fact, had a child with another man. He too, went back to her trying to live by God's word and not divorce. Her cheating and lying only continued until he finally filed for divorce. |
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---Renee on 4/27/08 |
Part III-We have been dating almost a year and are very happy together. We think about our life together as a married couple. I am torntorn.. I do know that I love him but I want to make sure it is right with God. Can someone point me to a scripture or a verse that says it is ok to remarry? Neither of our exspouses are remarried YET. I just feel like we were both victims in our own marriages and it seems that God would not want to punish both of us by not allowing us to marry and not live in sin. |
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---Renee on 4/27/08 |
I was married to a man who committed adultry several times. I tried to stay and make things work but his decietful ways only worsened. Eventually he struck up an inapropriate relationship with an underage girl and I ultimately filed for divorce. |
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---Renee on 4/27/08 |
Are you bound to a wife? Do not seek to be loosed [for selfish reasons]. Are you loosed [divorced] from a wife? [In my opinion says Paul, the Apostle] do not seek a wife. BUT EVEN IF YOU DO MARRY,YOU HAVE NOT SINNED, and if a virgin marries, she has not sinned (1Corinthians 7:26-28a)Notice the virgin AND the person loosed [divorced] are both put in the same category they have not sinned by getting married. BOTH THE PERSON WHO WAS NEVER MARRIED AND THE PERSON WHO WAS DIVORCED ARE WITHOUT SIN IF THEY MARRY. |
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---Jeremy on 4/7/08 |
The erroneous doctrine of forbidding one to marry after a divorce has been preached and taught in many churches. It has violated the conscience and hearts of those who have been divorced, driving them into a constant state of confusion and negatively impacting their lives. Not only do they leave the church to remarry, they also need to be able to make the right decision to divorce when its necessary in order to save themselves and their families before all is destroyed. |
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---Jeremy on 4/7/08 |
Now the Spirit [of God] expressly says that in latter times [the days we live in now] some will DEPART FROM THE FAITH, giving heed to deceiving spirits and doctrines of demons, speaking lies ...FORBIDDING TO MARRY (1Timothy 4:1,3). |
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---Jeremy on 4/7/08 |
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What God is saying is Eve sinned and because she did she fell under the power of her husband and then became subjected to being in his care he should look after his wife and should never divorce her, but she does not have the rights to divorce him and remarry. He is to behave properly towards his wife. However if he does behave improper you can separate but you should do so looking to reconcile. |
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---Carla5754 on 3/5/08 |
If you are not clear on divorce and remariage don't you think you should be reading the relevant scriptures to make sure you know what is permissible from what is not not. It's easy to be mislead because of the Law of the Land, which states you can divorce and marry period. Yet all reccomendations according to marriage Vows states until death you part. |
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---Carla5754 on 3/5/08 |
Of course it makes sense to run for your life, does that mean you divorce? well you may need to do that too if it means your hubby will leave you alone, but the bottom line is he did not commit Fornication, he is obviously sick in his head, but it doesn't say divorce for any reasons even abandonment you are still his wife and another man cannot cannot marry another mans wife it's Adultery! |
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---Carla5754 on 3/5/08 |
It talks about divorce in the Bible. I understand it to a point. My issue is I divorced my husband because he would have killed me if I didn't. I was beat verbaly abused and my children saw all of this they wanted me to divorce there father as much as I did. I truly do not believe God wanted me to stay in a marriage like that with no hope of repair. I still asked for forgivness of divorce so why if I was to marry again I would be in sin |
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---dee on 2/27/08 |
emarriage always has been an automatic right after divorce. God doesn't lock people into their moral failures forever. There is a just divorce or an unjust one...an unjust divorce is not the unforgiveable sin.. check out christian divorce 1hwy dot com |
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---john on 1/21/08 |
My brother is isn't that bad, our God is a God of second chance and most importantly God knows your heart. What you need to do is to understand the purpose and the will of God for Marriage. Ask God for forgiveness, fast and pray for God to show you your wife and he will. I was married and i messed up and I am married again because God is a good God. He will do it for you as well.
Please keep in touch.
Regards
Toye |
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---Toye on 1/14/08 |
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Not every church practices what the bible teaches some churches go by the law of their land and if that means one can divorce for any reason remarriage is permitted. Wisdom go's with Gods perfect will which is in his word and that is the will of the church not a church that go's along with it's own opinions and perspectives. |
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---Carla5754 on 10/23/07 |
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Churches have their own interpretation of the bible so this matter is not down to what Churches allow. Who is the church, what is the church and how can you define what a church should be saying? Through the Holy Bible thats what decides Gods word, Of which (ONE) scripture defines an exception Matt 19:9 of which most choose to ignore. |
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---Carla5754 on 10/23/07 |
TS - *There you go again providing the wisdom of a man over the Word of God. ...*.
In other words, you believe the church has no authority to decide issues between individuals?
1 Cor.6:3-4 Or do you not know that the saints will judge the world? And if the world is to be judged by you, are you incompetent to try trivial cases? ... How much more, then, matters pertaining to this life!
Of course, EGW was kicked out of her church bec she refused God given authority. |
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---lee on 10/23/07 |
Adultery/Fornication are the only reasons permitted to divorce and remarry for the innocent spouse. However if a unbelieving spouse wanted out of the marriage it would not be a reason to remarry unless Fornications involved. If that person remained unmarried you would have to remain single faithful to God in view to reconcile if possible back to spouse. This is what I understand from the scriptures. If you were unfaithful you would not be permitted to remarry you are an Adulterer if you do . |
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---Carla5754 on 10/23/07 |
Lee, I agree with you up to a point. The Church does make special provisions for the case of invalid marriages, and she has all the authority the Moses had with respect to divorce and remarriage. But we are supposed to be more mature in our faith than the Jews before us. A valid marriage is joined by God and no man (or woman) can break this vow without damaging a relationship with God. |
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---lorra8574 on 10/22/07 |
First and foremost divorce isn't something that the Father is in favor of. Due to the hardness of mans heart it was given to Moses to present to men of the earlier testaments see Mark 9:2-12. We are to live our lives by Gods word the bible. Today we are under the contract of the New Testament when Jesus became the sacrificial lamb and died for our sins. Jesus was against divorce, but in cases where adultery and abandonment was concerned these were reasons. |
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---Sherry on 10/22/07 |
Lee: There you go again providing the wisdom of a man over the Word of God.
"The Carnal Heart is at emnity with God"..and will justify all sorts of things contrary to His Word. |
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---TS on 10/22/07 |
I do not believe we can look at the Bible as a rule book when it comes to matters of divorce & re-marriage. The Lord has given to His church the authority to judge in these matters.
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1Co 6:5 I speak to your shame. Is it so, that there is not a wise man among you? no, not one that shall be able to judge between his brethren?
We should look to the authority of the church in these matters as they can far more complex than the rural society of yesteryear. |
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---lee on 10/21/07 |
In answer to your questions yes and yes. But Cynthia here is the thing. If your husband left and remarried, then he is envolved in adultery which frees you from the bond of that marriage according to Biblical New Testament ways. If this isn't the case, than you are still bound and you are not supposed to remarry as it would be adultery. My interpretation of the situation:not God's:) |
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---jody on 10/19/07 |
Jesus spoke propheticly when He said that one may not marry a woman who has been divorced. NT says only for Adultery is divorce allowed.
Jesus was showing that His divorce from the Jewish Church would take place because of her repeated spiritual adultery.
Then Jesus chose a new spiritual bride: All those who are one in Christ Jesus. |
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---TS on 10/18/07 |
Cynthia, should a Christian follow the Bible or their personal desires?
I believe that there may be cases where a marriage was never valid in the first place. But all proper and valid marriages are for life and cannot be nullified by divorce. Divorce allows for separation, not remarriage. For this reason, it is important to choose wisely and to have your marriage blessed by your church, family and community. If your family and friends express doubt - do not marry until you have sorted out why. |
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---lorra8574 on 10/18/07 |
At 26 I made an immature choise for a bride.I Married for all the wrong reasons.She was a young woman with a child. I married her with intentions of adopting. We were immature in resolving our differences to the point of hopless frustation/divorce. She later remarried.I never married again (now 25yrs) mostly out of shame for what I caused. My question is After all these years,and shame, Would it be aceptable in Gods eyes to ever remarry, dispite my personal shame of my first marrage? |
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---Terry on 10/18/07 |
I know that there are rules, and I was the first to look down upon people who divorced, until I went through one myself. I know my desires, and so does God. People who have never been through a divorce are the first to jump on those who have. I say it's between that person and God. You know your convictions. |
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---myrose on 6/4/07 |
God provided human-rights within Christian marriage. There is a right to divorce for "just-cause" --- check out an online examination of the text regarding the teaching of Jesus and Paul on divorce rights. |
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---JHamilton on 8/15/06 |
Jesus said, Moses, "...permitted you to divorce [separate from] your wives, but from the beginning it was not so (being separated without a divorce)" Matthew 19:8. Moses commanded a certificate of divorce be given to guarantee that the wife could remarry. Matthew 19:9 "And I say to you whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery." The Christian husband or wife that has divorced because of immorality is at liberty to remarry. |
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---Gabrielle on 3/21/06 |
Judith: WHAT? |
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---Jamey on 9/30/05 |
When two nonbelievers divorce and one becomes a Christian, can Christian remarry? Yes, 2 Corinthians 5:17. A divorced Christian due to their spouse committing adultery can marry another Christian? Yes Matthew 19:8-9 |
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---Judith on 9/10/05 |
in bible times there was no jails so people who did some thing wrong were put to death. many of the reasons people got divorced also = death. leaving remaining spouse, free to marry.if a person needs a organ transplant should they not get it? God allows new hearts and organs, why would he not have mercy else where? I know that some people take better care of a new heart/spouse. |
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---Laure5469 on 9/9/05 |
if you marry no sin if you are married God forgives 1 cor 7:27,28,maybe come another mans wife Deut 24:2,best to marry 1 Cor.7:2,better to marry then burn 1 cor.7:9, can't control Passion 1 cor 7:36, |
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---Laure5469 on 9/9/05 |
God made male and female Gen 1:27, not good to be alone Gen 2:18, two better than one Eccl 4:9, unequally yoke 2 cor.6:14, abandon/denied faith 1 Tim.5:8, let unbelievers leave not under bondage 1cor.7:15, new creature 2 cor 5:17,not servant to men 1 cor7:23,adultery relieves spouse Matt5:32,Matt19:9 mark 10:4,5,11,Knows needs Matt.6:8, gives good things to those who ask Him Matt7:11,God promises every GOOD thing Ps.37:4,85:12,1 Tim.6:17,nothing refused if thankful prayers 1 Tim.4:4,5 |
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---Laure5469 on 9/9/05 |
PT3: Those couples that divorce& remarry commiting a sin ,therefore brings more people into the tangled web that cannot be untangled for the adulteres,fornicators,drunkerd,men laying w/other men do not enter into Gods kingdom. |
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---canda5398 on 9/7/05 |
PT2: Therefore both were in the wrong nomatter whom started, & in Gods eyes adultry is wrong. so no matter whom gets married, their "adultry"life is still there. ,bt w/coulpe #B Victoria being married to Jack w/4children for 14yrs knew of his adultry ,but never acted on her own. God loves us,but doesnot accept our sin.So those whom marries after a divorce wehre it is not their fault,nor did they commit any wrong he is ok with |
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---canda5398 on 9/7/05 |
While he does look down upon divorce, he does understand the true reasonings for one.For ex: lets look at couple A & B.
"Rob"husband A;"Katie"wife A. "Jack"husband B & "Victoria"wife B...
O.k. Rob has been married to Katie for 6yrs. they have 2 children. they divorce over adultry that Rob has commited, Katie decides to get even with her DH & she does the same thing. 2wrongs donot make a right.. |
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---canda5398 on 9/7/05 |
Mr 10:11 And he saith unto them, Whosoever shall put away His wife, and marry another, committeth adultery against Her.Mr 10:12 -
And if a woman shall put away Her husband, and be married to another, She committeth adultery. The marriage covenant is broken by adultery. My X left me 11 years ago, and remarried, he was adulterous. He remarried twice, I never remarried, I did nothing wrong, and am looking forward to remarriage. |
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---anon on 9/7/05 |
There are many ways to look at it. In my case I do not believe that God would sentence me to a life alone because my ex wanted another women. I do not believe God would make me and son suffer for what someone else did.
Bible says that he will give us desires of our heart if we believe and trust in him.
He created man and women to be helpmates and to love one another in a marraige arrangement. Also he forgives the past. |
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---Marla on 9/7/05 |
the only thing God don't forgive is blaspheming the Holy Ghost! I was raised in a church that taught divorce is the unpardonable sin too, and I stayed with a man who cheated on me and lied to me and tried to kill me many times, almost succeeded,for 5 years. When I got divorced I figured if I am going to hell I may as well enjoy getting there, so for 2 years I tried, Till a real christian told me God could forgive even me! God even loves a divorcee!! |
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