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Decided To Stay A Virgin

I have decided to stay a virgin and never get married for the rest of my life. Is there anything in the bible against my decision.

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 ---Joe on 9/26/05
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francis:

I was not accusing you of legalism. I was merely pointing out the dangers of legalism.

---StrongAxe on 2/24/12

I appoligize for acusing you falsely. Thanks for clearifyiong
---francis on 2/25/12


francis:

I was not accusing you of legalism. I was merely pointing out the dangers of legalism.

The very beginning of my message pointed out that celibacy is a good thing, but it not for everyone. (In fact, Paul said it was better than marriage, YET he recommended marriage because celibacy was something most people could no deal with).

Unfortunately, there have always been people who want to impose strictures that even Jesus and Paul believed were unrealistic (but again, I have seen no evidence of you being one of them).
---StrongAxe on 2/24/12


so while it can be a good thing to choose a life of celibacy, it can be legalistic bondage to attempt to impose it on anyone else.
---StrongAxe on 2/23/12

That is a very bad response strongAxe

Look at my post:

ACTUALLY THE BIBLE SUPPORTS YOUR CHOICE:
1 Corinthians 7:34 The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit:

Matthew 19:12 and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.
---francis on 7/12/11

See, i am just saying that there is biblical grounds for remaining a virgin / unmarried

I am not imposing or demanding.
just affirming the choice
---francis on 2/24/12


francis:

Matthew 19:12 speaks of eunuchs (some by nature, some by choice), but look at the context. The previous verse says not all men can receive this saying, save they to whom it is given.

Paul says celibacy and marriage are both good. If someone feels that celibacy is his calling, good for him! But it is not everyone's calling, so while it can be a good thing to choose a life of celibacy, it can be legalistic bondage to attempt to impose it on anyone else.

Paul also warns of that kind of legalism:

1 Timothy 4:1-3
"Now the Spirit speaketh expressly, that in the latter times some shall depart from the faith, giving heed to seducing spirits, and doctrines of devils ... Forbidding to marry ..."
---StrongAxe on 2/23/12


Rhonda: you are incredibly, absolutely right. As the FoolKiller once said, "So many fools, so little time!"

Much of the problem lies in people being "religious". They think being Christian is being part of a Christian "culture". They try to read all the "right" Christian books, listen to all the "right" Christian music, and so on.

In the early days of Shiloh [a worthy ministry I was part of in the '70s], a number of the brothers thought celibacy was the more spiritual way to go. They called themselves "The Eunuchs Club". Of course, as more and more of them found girlfriends and married, they changed the name to "The You-Next Club".
---Fenrisulfr on 2/22/12




Rhonda, I was being facetious. As usual...
---John.usa on 2/22/12


The Bible says women are saved through childbearing. So if a woman doesn't marry and have children, she can't be saved.
****

Holy Scripture does not make that statement

it is amazing the nonsense taught by false ministers today and those who foolishly parrot it back

very sad to hear how many today take a vow to be celibate with belief they will have a greater reward in the next life
---Rhonda on 2/21/12


Joe, No there is nothing in the Bible that speaks against a person deciding to stay a virgin and never get married. Today there are people happily married, and there are people that shoud not get married, and there are people that should get married.
---Eloy on 2/21/12


"...if a woman doesn't marry and have children, she can't be saved."

That kind of negates I Corinthians 7:34, "There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband."

Obviously, a woman CAN be saved without marriage and childbearing. I am sure also that there are many women whose prayer is to be saved FROM marriage and childbearing.

And let us not forget verse 38, which says, "So then he that giveth her in marriage doeth well, but he that giveth her not in marriage doeth better."
---Fenrisulfr on 2/21/12


I'm seeing rather an unhealthy strain of thought on this blog. Some have asked Joe if the decision to remain a virgin and unmarried was God's plan for him, or was it his "own" plan? The sense is that if it's something he came up with, there might be something wrong with it.

Can not such desires for Freedom and Purity have their source in God? Do you think you have to hear an audible voice from God, coming from somewhere outside yourself, for it to be legitimate?

God is not an Animal Breeder who picks your mate for you.

"Little children, let no man deceive you: he that doeth righteousness is righteous, even as he is righteous." [I John 3:7] And make no mistake: he that desires purity is righteous.
---Fenrisulfr on 2/21/12




Deciding to keep your virginity is not wrong but it is much like the enunch who will not marry.

Matthew 19:10-12 The disciples said to him, If such is the case of a man with his wife, it is better not to marry. But he said to them, Not everyone can receive this saying, but only those to whom it is given. For there are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by men, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let the one who is able to receive this receive it.

And there will be female eunuchs as that is the way with some women that enter into covents.
---lee1538 on 2/20/12


The Bible says women are saved through childbearing. So if a woman doesn't marry and have children, she can't be saved.
---John.usa on 2/18/12


Donna --
WeisseEdelweiss--

There are exceptions to every rule, but keeping in the context to the situation at hand, then it's completely possible.

Then again, I am not going to claim what God wants with out asking Him/Her/It.

It's a basic statement that God would want us to be happy in our decisions, and what good parent wouldn't?
---WeisseEdelweiss on 2/17/12


Yea! :) I'm not the only one! I decided to stay a virgin too!! I told my family, and I was so upset with them because they treated my like I was about to make a horrible decision. But I know the lord will bless me with other things than children, and I know he will bless you too. Stay clean my friend. :)
---Ni_Ni on 7/13/11


WeisseEdelweiss--
//if it's God's will for us to be happy, then our own will to be happy by deciding and making decisions for ourselves would make us happy therefore God would be happy.//

Do you really mean this? Is it's God's will for us to always be happy? Does doing what WE want, always make us happy? Can't a person be "happy" doing dangerous, destructive, hateful things?
Is so, does it make God happy? Just a few things to think about.

But you are right. Joe must decide for himself. And if his decision is to devote more time and energy to God, it might make him happy. If God has some other purpose for him, he should feel free to change his mind.
---Donna66 on 7/12/11


Decided To Stay A Virgin
I have decided to stay a virgin and never get married for the rest of my life. Is there anything in the bible against my decision.
---Joe on 9/26/05
ACTUALLY THE BIBLE SUPPORTS YOUR CHOICE:
1 Corinthians 7:34 The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit:

Matthew 19:12 and there be eunuchs, which have made themselves eunuchs for the kingdom of heaven's sake.
---francis on 7/12/11


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IF you are doing this to devote your time to serving God, i think it is ok. But if you are doing it for personal reasons and you are a Christian, please make sure your decision does not negate God's plan for you.
---Adetunji on 7/12/11


Literally speaking, there is nothing in the bible against wanting to be a virgin and not marrying. However, I would add, as Jesus did in the Garden of Gethsemane, "Nevertheless, Father, not my will but thine be done."
Also, being a virgin and being pure are not the same thing.
---kingdomchild on 7/12/11


I noticed people replying about God's will, if it's God's will for us to be happy, then our own will to be happy by deciding and making decisions for ourselves would make us happy therefore God would be happy.

Just to clear that up.

Remember, this is your body and your life.

God wants you to be happy.
If staying a virgin makes you happy then stay a virgin. It'll make God happy to know you are happy. : )
---WeisseEdelweiss on 7/11/11


can I ask why ?
---david on 7/21/10


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For those who seek the direction of Chastity which is an individual vow with the crearor.I referand invite Him or Her to read matt.19:11-12. St Paul exhorts us to this advice in,1cor7 :7-16 The pull of the power of the flesh is Great so choose wisely before making empty Boasts.
---MIC on 8/11/08


stay a virgin, you have more time for GOD! And you dont have to worry about STD! Give yourself to GOD. I have also put away s*x. Iam not a virgin but I have put myself away for the kingdom of heavens sake. I have been this way for 7 years. I have a living husband we are seperated and Iam not free to marry anyone or have intercourse because I want to say clean for GOD.
---michelle on 8/10/08


Never is a long time. "Rest of my life" can last pretty long too. The bible encourages purity for the sake of the mate. You can make the decision-God gives you that option.
You can change the decision. God wants His children to be happy.
---chuck on 7/27/08


This is one of the scriptures I found. I will try looking for more.

8 Therefore I say to the unmarried and widows, "It is good for them if they remain just as I am."
9 But if they cannot hold their desires in check, let them marry, for it is better to marry than to burn.

1Cor 7:7-8
---Becky on 11/10/07


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It's not strange. Maybe it is a blessing from God. Not everyone is born to marry.
---Nicky on 11/17/05


whoa, are you sure about that?? mmm, seems very strange to me, are you sure that is God's will for your life??or are you deciding for him? I learned VERY recently that it's wrong to try to walk away from the person or plan God has for our lives, even unconsiensly if you walk away from his plan, its sin, think, pray..can I ask why you have decided this?? how old are u?
---angie on 10/27/05


Nice decision but make sure that is the will of God for you and not just your desire!Am also a virgin,and when i was very young i wanted like you to be like that!then later i discovered that i wanted to get married!My first relationship did not really work out so i punished myself because i ever loved a guy!But now i know!i dont want to stay virgin!Am just afraid to be hurt!So Am praying to God to protect me and i know he will.
---ines on 10/27/05


If that is God's will for you, then God bless you as you strive for this. If God has other plans for you, I pray you will be willing to stay open to those as well.

God bless.
---Madison on 9/27/05


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, i have to admire any man who is willing to remain a virgin to devote himself to God completely. i'm sure you will never regret your decision.
---steve on 9/26/05


Joe, There is nothing wrong with staying a single virgin. 1Corinthians 7:25-38
---Ulrika on 9/26/05


Whatever your reasons are, pray about this decision. You don't want to miss out on who God might have for you.
---Melissa on 9/26/05


If it's your decision, then that's the problem. God may have other plans for you in that area. Pray for His guidance first before you make such a big decision. It's not up to you, hon.
---Ann5758 on 9/26/05


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You say 'I have decided'. That little word 'I' worries me somewhat. If you'd said God wished you to stay single I'd say "O.K." but you just seem to have decided this by yourself. If, however, you have only told us half a story and you really do feel that this is God's will for you, fine. As someone has already said things could change later. God might be leading you to feel this way 'for a season' but has just the right person waiting for you a certain number of years down the line.
---Xanthi on 9/26/05


You say "I have decided" and "my decision"
Did you decide because you felt God was leading you that way, or is there some personal "Joe" reason?
---alan8869_of_UK on 9/26/05


1 Corinthians 7:7-8, "For I would that all men were even as I myself." (single) "But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, It is good for them if they abide even as I."
---Bruce5656 on 9/26/05


No there isn't. However, it's a challenging decision to make and keep to but if God has told you to go that way - He will give you the grace to be steadfast. God bless you.
---Ada on 9/26/05


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If God wants you to marry it will happen if his plans are for you to stay single and a virgin than he will make it so as well. There is nothing wrong with your decision. It is a personal decision for your life which you and God are in charge of.
---Shaz on 9/26/05




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