Can I Date A Non-Christian
I know it says in the Bible not to be "unequally yoked" but is this also for teens who are dating? I mean I really like this guy he's a great guy, but he's not saved, im 16 and he's 18, he loves church, he just doesn't understand WHY we need to be saved.
Moderator - Yes, you would be unequally yoked dating a non-christian. What is the denomination of the church you are attending? Does the church have a call to salvation each service? You may be in a church that isn't preaching the Gospel or he should feel convicted of his sin.
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---angie on 10/24/05
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Please, date whom ever you like. Whether they are "saved" or not. I made the mistake of passing up a lot of great guys because they did not believe the way I do. What I married was a man in the church, had been there for a while, who now does not go and treated me like I was a second class citizen after marriage. Just because he is not on the same level in understanding does not mean he won't make a good man.
---Tabitha on 8/15/07|
Jesus taught that our love for him must exceed our love for any individual - even our family! (Luke 14:26)
John 14:15, "If ye love me, keep my commandments."
---Bruce5656 on 8/12/07|
Yes, yoking means merging together. Tell him to get saved, then you will date him, and then you will have something intimately in common.
---Eloy on 10/31/05|
Just something to think about. It was something I was told when I was younger, Do not date anyone that you wouldn't consider marrying. You say that you know the bible says not to be unequally yoked, so, don't do it. That would be a sin. If God tells you something, and you don't listen, thats disobedience. Save yourself the trouble and heartbreak, don't get involved with this guy. And always remember, you cannot change anyone, only God can.
---Cyndi on 10/31/05|
i mean dating as in just for fun as in, like going to mcdonalds or churchstuffs or jsut chillin at someones house watching movies! and NO we would never be alone im not stupid and im just trying to get back into dating, i was raped a year ago..so this is hard, it was a christian guy, and I know that not all guys are the same..but still
---angie on 10/31/05|
Angie ... "dating" means so many different things to different people.
To some it is sinful ... perhaps they think it inevitably involves sex (and in many circles it would ... even dare I say it, among claimed Christians)
To some your phrase "just for fun" would imply sex. I would be happier had you said "just as friends"
What do YOU mean by dating & just for fun.
I think it is unwise for you to go out with him alone as a couple.
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/27/05|
Please find a copy of the book Boy Meets Girl by Josh Harris and read it. You may find it at the local library but even if you have to purchase one, it is worth every penny!
---Bruce5656 on 10/27/05|
angie, You can date anybody you want, but you'll be missing out on all that God has for you. In the long run, would that be worth it?
---taylor on 10/27/05|
okaay,mm,no my church definetly preaches the gospel! we are an anninted church, he just well theres more to this, imnot like inlove with him, i mean daitng just for fun,not to start a long life together..
---angie on 10/27/05|
Sis, If he doesn't understand why he needs to be saved do u think he will understand the importance and meaning of marriage since God is the author of marriage?
---Vronique on 10/25/05|
Angie, sure you can date the unsaved and you can also eat dirt.
What good does eating dirt do for you?
If this guy is really that great then I would think you would be more concerned for his soul.
When he gets Saved you can then date him and feast on Righteousness.
---Elder on 10/24/05|
Alan, I'd never heard that expression before but, once you "translated it," I agree. Proverbally beating somebody to death with something accomplishes nothing at all.
---Heather on 10/24/05|
Watch who you date, I know this from experience. I really liked this guy when i was 16, but wouldn't date him because he wasn't a christian. But he got baptized & we started dating six months later. He's in the army. But he stopped all contact, while we were "dating" and he is a huge jerk, telling me and my friends that he is supposedly married with a little girl on the way. Even new christians, you should be wary of. Don't risk it or you'll get your heart ripped out just like I did.
---Audrey on 10/24/05|
Mod ... softlee ... etc means "Softly softly, catchee Monkey"
It's an old English phrase ... meaning something like "take it quietly and you may catch the monkey!
So in evangelism temrs "Don't bash them too hard round the head with Biblical fire and brimstone, but talk gently with love & they might listen to you instead of being frightened away""
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/24/05|
Even though you would be unequally yoked, your demeanor and character in front of him could and would help win him to CHRIST. Let the love of JESUS CHRIST shine through you and show him in the Bible how easy it is to be saved and what it means-----ETERNAL LIFE!
---MARILYN on 10/24/05|
Why would this not apply to teens? Do you not see that dating comes before marraige? Are you dating him just for fun and then will leave him to try to marry a christian? OF COUSE it is for teens. It is for ALL ages. It is a law from God. You need to decide on priorities. Is it God you are striving for or a date?
---Shaz on 10/24/05|
Ask yourself this question, What does Light have in common with Darkness ?
---AC on 10/24/05|
Does it not really depend on what you mean by dating? If they are going out together as freinds, surely that would give an opportunity of witness ... to discuss the meaning of the church services that he likes? It may be a question of softlee softlee catchee monkee. But to give him the impression that she sees a close future with him at present would be wrong, and they are too young anyway.
Moderator - I have to ask, What is softlee softlee catchee monkee?
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/24/05|
Yes, Angie, it does refer to dating, marriage, business... Have you read the passage? 2 Corinthians 6:14, "Be ye not unequally yoked together with unbelievers: for WHAT FELLOWSHIP HAT RIGHTEOUSNESS WITH UNRIGHTEOUSNESS? and what communion hath light with darkness?"
Understand that there is a line drawn (by God) with His own on one side and the world on the other. Where are your loyalites?
---Bruce5656 on 10/24/05|