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How To Move On From Relationship

When you have been devoted for 5 years to a relationship(not married) how do you go on, when he states that you have meant nothing and that I belong in a hole so that no one else can get hurt. Been single a long time and it is not easy to find someone. HELP!!!!

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 ---susan on 10/26/05
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The best relationships are those where both people realize that they are not alone when they do not have a mate. Those who can say they are content alone or with mate. Those who know that they always have God even if no mate and are satisfied to wait obn God's timing and path.
---M. on 6/2/08


Delight yourself in the Lord and he will give you the desires of your heart. Seek the Lord while the Lord is near, draw close to God and he will draw close to you. Take the time to meet God in the secret place where he will reveal himself to you and help you out of this pit of destruction. Only God can fulfill your life's purpose and truly make you complete in this world. Lean not upon your own understanding but acknowledge him in all your ways and he will direct your footsteps. jeffe5543
---jeff on 4/17/07


Thank God you are out of that relationship. Such characters as the one you describe can only get worse and hurt you more as time goes on - I've been there and I know. You are better off alone than with him
---Berna on 11/18/05


First of all put your hands in the air and thank God all mighty that you are out of that relationship. Surely you don't want to be with someone who thinks no more of you than that. You deserve better. Go on with your life and trust God,He will give you direction.

Proverbs 3:5-6 says: Trust in the Lord with all your heart,and lean not unto your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him,and He shall direct your paths.
---Ray on 11/16/05


4. Sin sometimes gets us in trouble and the concequences are hard but when we repent God is faithful to forgive and give us a new start. He is your strength so just hand on to Him and you will get through it. One day you will look back and see that this person was not everything in your life. God is. I know, I have been there myself. My children and wife were important but never more then God. He belongs at the top of your life. And you will began to see things in a different perspective. Praying for you
---Lupe2618 on 11/16/05




4. Sin sometimes gets us in trouble and the concequences are hard but when we repent God is faithful to forgive and give us a new start. He is your strength so just hand on to Him and you will get through it. One day you will look back and see that this person was not everything in your life. God is. I know, I have been there myself. My children and wife were important but never more then God. He belongs at the top of your life. And you will began to see things in a different perspective.
---Lupe2618 on 11/16/05


3. We can control many things but never another person. It could be that God saw that he was not good for your life since God knows all and allowed this to happen to help not only you but maybe him too. We don't know but God does know our needs and He supplies us with what it will take to make it through. Sometimes another brother or sister to help you, many things go into God's work. He prepares others hearts to listen to you and and pray for you. So many things go into God's work.
---Lupe2618 on 11/16/05


2. I had made my wife Lord of my life. When we put someone, a child, a husband or wife, a friend or even relative, higher then God, we find out that they all fail. Humans are known for that. God never fails you and when I put God as my God, I could see things in a different perspective. That even if she never came back I was going to be fine because my God was going to take care of me no matter what and He was going to see to it that what He wanted in my life was going to be for my good.
---Lupe2618 on 11/16/05


Sister Susan, the same happened to me. When my wife walked out I was devastated. I went around like I didn't know what I was going to do. I was married for 25 years and my wife was my life. God saved me at that time and I began my walk with Him. I was asked one question, "Who do you love more, God or your wife" I didn't know what to answer. I loved her so much. The sister told me, when you put God first in your life, everything else will fall into place. Humans fail but God never fails.
---Lupe2618 on 11/16/05


My profile is colle9488, if you would like to reach me. Just let me know. Thanks and I appreciate the help.
---susan on 11/3/05




Susan, I will be more than glad to help you out. Now, I changed my email address, so you can write to me to the one I posted today. Moderator: How can I get Susan's email address? I just want to help her and show her some good sites that will, indeed, provide her very good advices.

Moderator - Must sign up and use the Penpal system.
---Alex on 11/2/05


Yes, Alex, I would love to correspond with you. Sometimes just someone to talk to is a huge answer to many prayers that I have prayed. Thank you.
---susan on 11/1/05


Susan,
I Truly understand what you are feeling right now.. I have been there a couple of times and it's the most painful experience! If you want you can write me.
---alex on 11/1/05


In answer to Alex: I would love to know more, as it seems that the praying and trusting in God, just breeds more emptiness. I am not sure at this point what to do. I am a NICE person, I am GOOD for something, but have been cut way down by my ex, calling names, making me shrink back so that I feel that I am less than dirt. At this point am feeling like I cannot get past it, and that the ex will always be there to make me miserable, just because he is. A very horrible feeling.
---susan on 11/1/05


Susan,

I am going through the same situation and it is Extremely hard! Now, I found a non-christian site that is really helping me a lot. I am not a christian, so I don't know if I'm allowed to recommend this kind of websites, but it is a very serious site made by very serious people that are just trying to get through the same kind of problems.
---Alex on 11/1/05


Girl, hang in there. I know how bad this feels now but I promise you things get better. Some men are just not worth having.
---Annie on 10/27/05


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Susan!No relashionship can make one happy!Happiness comes from inside of you!understanding that you have God's Love!Am a young girl but have had a relashionship that almost brought me down.We decided to take time and be alone.understand,love ourselves, love God, and then maybe come back together!we noticed that we depended too much on each other. that's not good!So my advice:be still and know that HE is God, and God is Love, the best friend, the best relashionship that will never hurt nor disappoint you.
---ines on 10/27/05


I gave up my entire life in Zimbabwe to come down and start a "New Life" in South Africa with a woman I think is the most beautiful woman on Earth. I lost absolutely everything I had and had to start my enire life all over again. It's not funny at the age of 48. But you know what? God is guiding me through this maze - and I KNOW I WILL EMERGE VICTORIOUS ON THE OTHER SIDE. So take heart girl, God will see you through anything and everything that you are going through. I know.
---Graham on 10/27/05


Hey, I've been in the same situation. I can tell you it does get better. For me it was a matter of handing my brokenness over to the Lord. He knows all things, and he knows when you will be united with someone else. The key is not to go out looking for someone, but trust God. Let him lead you, and may his will be done. Enjoy being single, cos God wants to show you something. Remember, "There is a time for everything, and a season for every activity under heaven!"
---nataa6997 on 10/27/05


susan, I know how you feel. I love my kids but miss adult conversation. I am the only divorsed person in my family and can't talk to them, and don't have a singles group in my church. I work nights so miss the church activitys they do have. I love God. but people have been known to die/go insane from lack of human contact. God made you and loves you more then you know, and will give you what you need.
---Laureen on 10/26/05


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Susan::What does happiness mean to you?what are you looking for? relationship?Are those children His?answer those questions in your heart.Happiness is within you. Any dipstick can server as a companion.You have 4 beautiful children entrusted to your care they will be your pride & joy if you give them a chance & help them NOW.Your best friends are Jesus & His Holy Mother teach them about those values. You will never regret.They are your investment & ticket to happines the other kind is temporary .
---Emcee on 10/26/05


How does one find happiness? I have been attending church and am active in the singles group, also a single mom of 4 kids and I also work full time. It is not that I am NOT happy, I just know there has to be more to life.
---susan on 10/26/05


I have been as you put it "alone" for over 7 yrs". One thing I learned is that I can NOT be truly happy in ANY relationship if I am expecting that relationship to make me happy or somehow change my life for the better.
I have to come to my own happiness and not expect others to bring me happiness. I am content to be "alone" because I have God and Hope. God gives me a peace and contentment whether I am alone or with a mate. This is where true joy and security lie.
---Marla on 10/26/05


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