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Son Wants His Ear Pierced

My 12 year old son wants to get his ear pierced. Before I was a Christian I had told him he'd have to wait until he was 12. Now that I am a Christian I don't think he should do it, but I'm wondering what other Christian parents think about this.

Moderator - Is he a Christian? If he is, I would appeal to him thats not something a Christian should do. If he is unsaved, appeal to him that it could hurt his future employment and make him appear immature. If neither of these work, tell him you feel uncomfortable with that and he will have to wait until he is on his own or 18.

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Uh oh! There's another Bryan in here, so I guess I'm gonna have to start adding a G to my name! Lol! I don't want there to be any mix up! God bless!
---BryanG on 2/7/09


I agree with you Bryan & Thomas~ I feel we should not judge others based on appearance. In fact, most I see with a few tattoos, or an earring or whatever tend to exude more true Christian character qualities than those who always look so 'upstanding and proper.' Also listen to Christian rock bands (like on Effect Radio)...these guys don't look 'exceedingly proper' yet they have incredible love and intense passion for God. Also look at many in AA....they don't always look as proper as the people at church, yet my gut tells me Jesus would feel much more 'at home' with them than with most in churches.
---Anne on 11/13/08


I agree with you Bryan & Thomas~ I feel we should not judge others based on appearance. In fact, most I see with a few tattoos, or an earring or whatever tend to exude more true Christian character qualities than those who always look so 'upstanding and proper.' Also listen to Christian rock bands (like on Effect Radio)...these guys don't look 'exceedingly proper' yet they have incredible love and intense passion for God. Also look at many in AA....they don't always look as proper as the people at church, yet my gut tells me Jesus would feel much more 'at home' with them than with most in churches.
---Anne on 11/13/08


I'm an old woman who thinks that males piercing various body parts is crazy. BUT I don't see how it is un-Christian. It's a fad. Every generation has fads.

I do believe it is important to keep promises to children if at all possible. But I would advise that YOU choose the person who will perform the procedure and accompany him to have it done. He may not be happy about it, but you want to be sure to avoid any infection.
Make sure he is instructed in good hygiene of the site. And be thankful an earring is easily removed if he ever changes his mind.
---Donna66 on 11/13/08


Mod, I have to disagree with your point about employment and immature appearances. I know doctors, technicians, lawyers, repairmen, mechanics, carpenters, business men, etc. that have pierced ears. Many of them are strong Christians and certainly haven't had their employment deterred or their maturity questioned.
---Bryan on 11/12/08




I am a 47 y.o. executive in the corporate world, a strong Christian, have my ear pierced, a tattoo on my left bicep, and ride a Harley. I ask, what does having a strong faith in Christ to do with piericng your ear? That said, parental decisions for youth are one thing, but I really don't think Christ judges a man's piercings, or tattoos for that fact, compared to his Love for fellow man and devotion to Christ.
---Thomas on 6/26/08


"(15)Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, the love of the Father is not in Him.(16)..the boastings of what he has and does-comes not from theFather but from the world"1 John 2:15,16. Does your son want to be kool, does he want to boast about his piercings? do u fink piercings is from God or from the world. What would Jesus do?(wwjd)

Can you picture Jesus with piercings?...yerr didnt fink so
---magga4386 on 2/26/08


1 Corinthian 6:19-20 "Do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? you are not your own,(20)your were brought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body."
Your son's body was bought at a price, Christ's death.

Do you think the piercings on your son's body will honor God?
---magga4386 on 2/26/08


what does that have to do with being christian? you people must be really confused on your religion
---Joe on 2/19/08


You promised him he could do it, didn't you? and is there really any strong reason why he shouldn't? Actually, all the boys who played football in my street were about your son's age and they all happened to have earrings in both ears. It's no big deal, is it, for a boy his age. Take care.
---Mark on 1/31/08




Let him have it at least when he's 15. There's nothing wrong with it. What are his motives for the piercing anyway...by the way he's probably 13 now since this blog has been going on for so long, has he changed his mind?
---Nathaniel on 1/1/08


hahaha if God wanted to add extra holes on our bodies for such purpose, He would of provided it .. why ruin what God has already beautifully created? if hes christian, ask him that...good luck
---pam on 1/1/08


hahaha if God wanted to add extra holes on our bodies for such purpose, He would of provided it .. why ruin what God has already beautifully created? if hes christian, ask him that...good luck
---pam on 1/1/08


Listen to moderator.
---donald on 12/31/07


Dude...let him get pierced. Im 28 an got loads of tats an piercings an i got a kid that i had at 17...hes 12 now an got both his lobes pierced an stretched an lower lips pierced. nothing wrong with it. i no when older he will get more an start getting inked when old enough its his life an its your kids life...let him live it bro
---mark on 12/29/07


If you told him he could do it then let him do it christians aren't against personality are they? Just wondering does he want both ears pierced or just one?
---XCre on 12/28/07


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If you told him he could do it then let him do it christians aren't against personality are they? Just wondering does he want both ears pierced or just one? I got mine pierced when I was 12 and my daddy was a preacher.
---XCre on 12/28/07


wait a minute....so you're telling me that i have to look a certain way to be a christian? my friend was trying to convince me to become a christian and stuff so i was reading up on it, and i come to this page and find this?? im so confused... and i have my left ear pierced...does this mean i have to take it out forever?????
---confused on 12/10/07


Jesus came into the world as the new "Adam", the "son of man" to re-position humanity once again under a right relation with God and to offer to ALL sawlvation. He also came to begin the new covenant, so we are now under grace and not the covenant of the Law. So, why are some quoting the laws of the Old Testament?
---Michal_Thomas on 7/9/07


Jesus came into the world as the new "Adam", the "son of man" to re-position humanity once again under a right relation with God and to offer to ALL sawlvation. He also came to begin the new covenant, so we are now under grace and not the covenant of the Law. So, why are some quoting the laws of the Old Testament?
---Michal_Thomas on 7/9/07


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As a Christian I believe there is too much emphasis on becoming "religious" -in following man-made rituals making us appear to be good when many Christians are spiritually dead inside. Then, what makes modern Christians diffrent from the Pharisees that Jesus, Himself, called vile? Jesus also said "rather your heart than your garment". Obviously there are limits to piercings but it is hightime for Christians to have a relationship with Jesus and not religious rituals instead..
---Michal on 7/3/07


Elder, Kissy Kissy and huggy Huggy XXXXXXXXXXXXXXxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx Lots of em sent your way>>>>>>>>>>> I now know it was Bruce who made the quote, he can have the same tooo! lol
---Carla5754 on 7/1/07


Contrary to Jack's opinion (again) the Bible does speak of such things as markings and piercing. They are marks of slavery.
Most people who have such things are slaves to some pet sin or activity.
Cause Jack can't find it don't mean it ain't there.......
Some things are marked out as "Thou Shalt Not" some require a study of the complete issue. It may take an entire chapter/book to understand.
Jack always wants a quick fix. If he can't have it he just rejects the Truth.
---Elder on 6/29/07


Carla5754, I am glad you reacted the way you did to the statements about the piercing of Christ. I was just quoting and making statements about what Brenda_MCConnell said. I was also disgusted at such ignorance of what Christ did for us.
I accept that KISS and can't wait for more. Until the next time...
All of this is about Christ and Christian living for Him.
God Bless.
---Elder on 6/29/07


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And just WHY is a pierced ear something a Christian should not do?

Can you give book, chapter, and verse for it? Bet you can't!

Besides, I don't think you have to worry about a 12 year old seeking employment.
---Jack on 6/28/07


Part 2:

And you, Marilee, do you think this is a good example to your son for YOU as a Christian to make promises to him and then break them?

"Oh, I made that promise before I was a Christian, but now that I'm a Christian, promises I made before don't count." That's a paraphrase of what you said.
---Jack on 6/28/07


In my opinion, the Moderator's suggestions give the 12 year old too many options which will ultimately backfire on the parents. I can't imagine one city public school 12 year old who would dare to want piercings, who hasn't already been brainwashed by his peers to the extent that it really doesn't matter if the boy is a Christian. Have you seen the new boys of late night Saturday Christian Broadcasting? Gnarly man, and scary too. And he is too young to grasp the future work consequences. Just say NO.
---harold on 6/28/07


a THOUSAND APPOLOGIES AND A BIG KISS if you were quoting some one who stated that Christ has piercings Elder, I have battled with Bruce or yourself with the same statement in the past. Sorry LOve always ;0) if it war'nt you. Love still if it was ! ;0(

Mark 2/28/06
The same general statement was made by a over rated parent about teens/sex and the pill now Britain Leads the polls in Europe+ with the Highest no of under aged teens with children. Unwise comment!
---Carla5754 on 6/28/07


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Elder,
As a respectable blogger I would expect a better response than that poor excuse for piercings. JESUS was hung on the cross through his wrists/hands, not only did he die because of the ordeal he, he paid a price not many would stand in that Gap without knowledge of the Gospel. I am disgusted that you would compare Vanity to the Ultimate Sufferings of My LORD and SAVIOR JESUS CHRIST. I have heard excuses but your TAKES the BISCUIT! :(
---Carla5754 on 6/27/07


Some are so disinvolved with their children they have no idea what is going on in their lives.
While some let the tattoos and piercing go on little do they know what the youth are being told.
Many are being convinced that these activities will ward off evil spirits. So they want them.
You can't expect parents to explain spiritual things to their children when they don't know themselves.
---Elder on 5/23/07


"I do not find anything wrong with piercing. Jesus was pierced on the Cross. I wouldn't worry about it be yourself."
Brenda_MCConnell
How can anyone in their right mind relate what Christ did to a pagan practice of piercing?
UGH! What disrespect for the Saviour. No wonder you see nothing wrong with the activity.
---Elder on 5/23/07


Moderator is right on. I do agree. Wait until 18yrs by then he will be old enough to make his own decisions. Saved or unsaved. Parent is responsible for decisions concerning an underage child.
---Robyn on 5/23/07


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Steveng the christian world is not in chaos... the christian world in north america well no mexican christians are trying to hard not being lazy...
third world countries christians are not in chaos
---mark_B. on 5/23/07


He is 12 and there is not one good reason why a Christian should not pierce his ear, my son is a Christian born again and he is doing it tonight. As Christians we should sweat the big things not whether there is an earring in a child's ear
---Jemma on 5/23/07


I do not find anything wrong with piercing. Jesus was pierced on the Cross. I wouldn't worry about it be yourself.
---Brenda_MCConnell on 5/8/07


Gourmet: A demon landed on her left shoulder and started whispering in her ear. I tried to swat it away, but missed. Crafty little devils, aren't they? ;)
---Steveng on 3/12/07


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Ex 21:6 Then his master shall bring him unto the judges; he shall also bring him to the door, or unto the door post; and his master shall bore his ear through with an aul; and he shall serve him for ever.

Males with pierced ears were slaves. Since Jesus freed your son from slavery to sin (assuming he is saved), would He now want your son to wear any symbol of slavery?

Those of us in covenant with Christ are now his property, and must do as He wishes.

Acts 20:28,
1Cor 6:20; 7:23
---a_servant on 3/12/07


Steveng, stern admonishment for catherine.
A few garnishments for flavor. A dash, a splash, a fling, and a ring-a-ding-a-ding.
Every know and again, you give us all a swat. What is that?
---Gourmet on 3/12/07


If Jesus was walking here today in the flesh. Would He be going around checking to see who has a hole in their ear? I shall answer my own wonderful question. NO, NO.
---catherine on 3/12/07


catherine: "Son wants His ear pierced. Fine, I don't care. If it's a sin, He will know it. If it isn't, Oh well. We all have to stand before God someday." Having that "I don't care" attitude is definately not Christian. It's no wonder the Christian world is in a state of chaos. That's a shameful attitude for a Christian to take.
---Steveng on 3/11/07


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first,you made a promise,2nd what is so wroing with gettimngesrs pierced? 3rd do you want him tyo think chrisdtianity is a list of prohabitions?or a full abundant life in Christ? ear piercing ids nmot harmful.doesnt havbe to be permanent,so letnhim have his ears pierced.God looks on the inside mnot the outside,sopierced esrs will noit be a problem to him!!! God bless
---doree4573 on 3/11/07


Christopher: "If you don't want your son having a pierced ear, then tell him no. Simple solution.: That is not a simple solution when your child is a rebel. It causes strife among family members. Body piercing and tatoos are a culture thing and children want to be like everyone else. What is the purpose of the pierced ear? Does it glorify God or does it bring worldly attention to yourself? Besides, God says not to defile the body in any way including body piercing and tatoos.
---Steveng on 3/11/07


Personally I think that we make too much out of things.
---catherine on 3/11/07


Now, I am not a Christian, but my girlfriend's family is and her mother has told me that I would look good with a pierced ear. There is nothing bad about getting a pierced ear, and I have no idea why anyone would say this is against your faith what so ever. Why is this even posted here? If you don't want your son having a pierced ear, then tell him no. Simple solution.
---Christopher on 3/10/07


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its not a christian thing to do? okay.. alot more do it it seeems.. its a flppin ear hole that will grow over if and whne he decides to take it out.. nothing is harmed... the public does not care. deal with it
---nope on 2/19/07


Since your child is under 18 he has to do what you (parent) ask of him. Whether he likes it or not. But please be gentle with him and let him know this. Above all show him love and understanding. The world needs more love but also be firm. Let him know when he turns 18 he is free to make his own choices. Until then the parent is responsible for the child and will have to answer to God for how they raised their children.
Enuff said
---robyn on 2/19/07


I am sure the matter has been resolved in the 18 months or so since it was first posted
---Observer on 2/19/07


Son wants His ear pierced. Fine, I don't care. If it's a sin, He will know it. If it isn't, Oh well. We all have to stand before God someday.
---catherine on 2/19/07


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Geoff, Leviticus also says I can own slaves (25:44). I'm also not supposed to trim my beard (19:27) or eat shell fish, because that's an abomination (11:10). And since I wear glasses, I cannot approach the Alter of God (21:20).
You need to be very careful about quoting scripture that was meant for the Jewish people and not everyone else.
---NurseRobert on 2/18/07


We all need to stop listening and getting advice from people. What about God? He is standing by, To answer any questians that you may have.
---catherine on 2/17/07


As a Christian I think piercing your ears has to do with what God wants you to do, and trust me...you'll know when God doesn't want you to do something. If you feel in your heart that piercing your ears isn't a problem, I think you should go ahead. If you are a strong christian and have your ears pierced, I'm pretty sure God would have pushed away the ear piercing thing. Also, as long as getting your ear pierced doesnt interfere with your relationship with God, why not?
---aaron on 2/17/07


Dear askdlf.....,

Are you mad at your Mother?

Now, now, don't be like that.
---Rural_Cafe on 1/31/07


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OK, let's get some word up in here?

Ye shall not make any cuttings in your flesh for the dead, nor print any marks upon you: I am the LORD-Leviticus 19:28.

That pretty much rules out ear rings, tattoos & other mutilations.
---Geoff on 1/30/07


That is complete crap.
---askldfj_laksdjf on 1/30/07


I find this entire opposition despicable. I thought that the entire point Jesus attempted to make was to love God and love everyone else. Things like this sentence... "Is he a Christian? If he is, I would appeal to him thats not something a Christian should do."
Honestly, why does it matter? I highly doubt this subject really matters in any way.
---Tony on 1/24/07


Wow, get a life. I have been a Christian my entire life and I have had my ears pierced for almost 2 and a half years now. This type of petty squabbling is the reason that Christianity and organized religion in general is on the decline.I am ALMOST 100% certain that God will allow even those believers with piercings through the pearly gates into heaven. He won't, however, allow those into heaven who judge people for such minuscule and ridiculous things. This type of judgment is straight up hypocrisy.
---Tyler on 12/27/06


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Will: as a legal adult, you can do as you like if you are not living under your parents' roof.
---Madison1101 on 7/31/06


I really want my ears pierced. my parents still REALLY disaprove. I follow God, and attend church quite a few times a year, but not weekly. i pray every evening. When i finally move out, would it be fair to my parents if I did have my ear pierced?
---Will on 7/31/06


Well, lots of boys have it done and often they have both ears done. Can you guarantee that he won't 'experiment' with a dirty needle in front of a mirror? Most parents wouldn't want that at any price. It's your call as a parent but some parents would regard taking him to the mall to have them done hygienically as a sensible and moderate option.
---Mark on 7/10/06


Both my sons asked earlier on whilst growing up and I simply said no, as I thought it was inappropriate and could lead to other things such as tattoo's, both agreed after a long debate, none sport any such piercings so I give God thanks b/cos one is a little leader and his Godly stance on sex and other things that affect the youth has caused his peers to respect him all of which have gone on to Higher Education.
---Carla on 5/28/06


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At least earrings can be removed.. as can pierced jewelry elsewhere, when fads change or an employer demands. Tattoos, however, are not temporary. Removal can be done but not easily and not without expense. I'd be much more likely to make an issue out of the latter.
---Donna2277 on 5/28/06


I pierced my ears myself when I was 12 or 13 and wore earrings everyday until I became saved at 29. Then I took them out and havent put them back in since. It is an inner conviction that has told me it is not needed in my life any longer... but I dont see any harm in them as long as they dont lead into some of the more disgusting piercings that are happening now days. -Chris
---tofurabby on 5/27/06


brother u need to get some real word in u and just becouse u read the word does not mean u study it and recieve it the way GOD has intended u to recieve maybe u to busy likeing the ear pieced....
---nick on 5/27/06


I am a college student and a firm believer in Jesus Christ. I work in management for a clothing retail store, and ear piercings for men are appropriate and not frowned upon. As Christians, we are supposed to have a personal relationship with Jesus Christ, and follow rules second. I lead my life by whether Jesus Christ convicts me on an issue. I tithe, I pray, I read the Bible, I tell others about Jesus. I don't have my ears pierced, but many of my fellow brothers in Christ do.
---Chris on 5/24/06


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I go to church I got my ears pierced when I was 15 now i'm 23. It never made me any more immature I own my own condo,car, I have an associates degree, full time good paying job. So the matter wheater he is saved or not should not been an issuse. God gave us the right to free will and what we do with that free will defines us as human beings. Beside a pierceing is not going to make him immature it is up to the paretns that they show him love and undersanding instead of discontentment about the subject.
---David on 4/9/06


I have known Christian guys with earrings. It's a widespread custom. If there's a danger that one's son will 'experiment' anyway with a dirty, unsterile needle then many parents would think the safe and moderate thing to do is take him to the mall and have it done properly. He can always take them out later if he doesn't want to wear them any more.
---Mark on 2/28/06


, if i had a kid, and they wanted to peirce something or get a tattoo, i would say, "when you live on your own, and pay your own bills..."
---steve on 11/29/05


When my 11 year old son wanted to get his ear pierced I told him no and if he didn't want to comply he could get a job and buy a house where he could be he boss. But, as long as he lived under my roof he would not get it done. Sometimes we just need to be the Parent and say because I said so.
---Ronnie on 11/19/05


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Wes you say look at people in church, well I can do that and ya know I see many men with earring in the ears, lips etc. And our church is pretty big and we care about what they have in their heart not in their ears. In todays world its everywhere. I am with Nurse Roberts you have to pick your battles and this one is a small one not worth battling to me. But good luck and God BLESS
---Cryst4728 on 11/10/05


Ask him to look at someone in the church he looks up to and see if they have their ear pierced. More than likely it will be no.
---wes on 11/2/05


NurseRobert: I am 100% in agreement with you about picking your battles. When our kids are living right in the big areas, something like ear piercing seems so trivial in the grand scheme of things.
---Madison on 11/1/05


I can understand why you don't want your son to have pierced ears.You need to have a heart to heart talk with your son about this matter and let him know that he doesn't have your permission to get his ears pierced.I think you and your son need to pray about this matter.
---Nock on 11/1/05


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I have found in dealing with my children (who are now 25 and 18) that there were many things worth fighting for. They dont drink, dont smoke, dont do drugs and were and are great students. They love the Lord and are a wonderful witness. Getting their ears pierced, dying their hair what ever color, was NOT soemthing worth fighting about. You have to pick your battles
---NurseRobert on 10/31/05


Mod: Professional is professional. My income is not that low, even though I am a lowly public school teacher.

Moderator - I esteem teachers and yes they are professionals. I was referring specifically to a certain sub-set of professionals ie the high paid.
---Madison on 10/31/05


Moserator: I wish I could say the same .. "High paid professionals ... Executives, lawyers, doctors, bankers, etc. don't wear ear rings" But in the UK, I have seen well paid people in each of these professions wearing earrings. Not many, but a small but noticeable minority, and in the City of London, the centre of our professions. I have even seen nose studs, which strike me as very unhygienic.
Personally I find it quite off=putting ... but it seems to be the way the world is going.
---alan8869_of_UK on 10/31/05


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