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Coworkers Are Mad Because I Won't

After 7 years being alone thought "try dating again" coworkers said to a guy "she's single" now comes to work everyday. I have run out of nice things to say and he isn't Christian, don't wish to go out with him. Coworkers are mad cause I won't, they are not christian. Any help?

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adult peer pressure is amusing except it's crossed personal space boundaries ...they either don't get it or don't care

getting mad is an aggressive measure ...using anger in hopes of forcing a date with someone you have zero interest in regardless of religious backgrounds is scary ...nothing worse than having control freaks as coworkers

ask them if they all have invested in a betting pool about this future date ...

or ask them what their agenda is for you dating this guy and why it is so important to them ...maybe they'll begin to act like adults again communicate rather than using teenager games to get you out on a date with this guy

this is so sad pray it's not affecting everyone in your work environment
---Rhonda on 8/27/08


Have you tried witnessing to this man and leading him to Christ? That may (may not) change everything. He may either not want any thing to do with you after you tell him about the Lord or better yet you may lead him to a saving relationship with Christ.
---evangelistjerry on 8/25/08


Tell them that you aren't interested.Tell them you are serious about your work place and there are boundaries that exist among dating co-workers which should strongly be considered.One question, doesn't your job discourage fraternization among
co workers?
---Sun on 8/24/08


God's word says do not be yoked with an unbeliever! Who do you want to please ...your co-workers or God?
---we913 on 4/5/07


thank you, for your answers. I am sticking to my guns. yes you make a point that they were trying to be helpful. I hadn't realized that they didn't know that my standards are so different. they seem to believe that "good" is all I need. I'm of the mind that I will stay single rather then go through the "tension." Jobs I like, close to home, are hard to find, so must do my best to smooth things out.
---Laure5469 on 11/9/05




Madison- Well said.
---Sun on 11/9/05


Laurea, have you announced to your work place that you are out to go dating again? Maybe that is the reason why your coworkers are all out to support you in your quest to find a good date! Now if they are angry with you, then you have to talk to them. Thank them for the help they wanted to give to you. But this time do not forget to state the "qualification" for your would be date.
---Linda6546 on 11/9/05


Tell your coworkers "I am sorry you are hurt> I really wish you would respect my boundaries. "
---Madison on 11/8/05


Bottom line, tell your coworkers you do not choose to date a nonChristian and let that be the end of it. If the man asked you out, politely decline. I don't care if my coworkers get made or not as long as I please God that's all that matters.
---Nellah on 11/8/05


M.P.- We are supposed to share the Gospel but in the right moment.You can't just go explaining things during "work time" but maybe when they are out of work.Understanding?
---Sun on 11/8/05




Sun, since when were we NOT supposed to explain things to a non-Christian simply because they would not understand? When it is likely that they WILL understand if we don't explain. We are told in the bible that we should be able to give a reason for our faith. That isn't referring to chit chat between fellow believers.
---M.P. on 11/8/05


or"maybe you will get some"I said sex without mariage is sin. they are ranging from 15 to 50 and ALL are having sex none are married. sorry question was worded funny I was trying to fit question in space and must have lost important words.
---Laure5469 on 11/7/05


I know that bible IS for me, I know that my coworkers care, I do pray for God choice. I have told them scripture. but non christians don't see it as some thing that aplys for today and there for feel that i am not being reasonable. they just see 2 nice people. "start as friends"
---Laure5469 on 11/7/05


Sorry fo confusion 1]he is not a co worker but customer. coworkers are trying to set us you. I have told all I am not interested. now all say they are hurt/mad.2]coworkers think sex with out marrage is ok they don't beleive bible is for today,that I am not giving him a chance. I have no intention of dating nonchristian. how do I get them off my back?
---Laure5469 on 11/7/05


I agree with those who say don't mix work and social life. Politely decline and don't offer an explanation. Your private life is none of your co-workers business.
That can go for anyone who tries to fix you up. If I can get people to quit dragging their brothers into my path I will be quite satisfied. God will bring His man for you.
---Julie3763 on 11/7/05


Laure5469: I would simply read to them directly from Scripture why you wouldn't ever consider marrying a Non-Believer; and, of course, that there's no point in dating one either! It may lead to other topics about sex, so be prepared to witness to them on that as well. Show them your convictions though! Don't just say I "can't" because of this, but rather: "I LOVE GOD and want to do what God says is best for me!"
---Daniel on 11/7/05


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Just say, "Thank you for your concern, but I am not interested in mixing business with pleasure, I am don't date coworkers." Smile and walk away.
---Madison on 11/7/05


M.P. - How can an unbeliever understand? If she explains,what difference will it make?It might lead to a debate or an argument.Non Christians don't understand Christian's beliefs and doctrines because they have there own set of beliefs.Understanding?
---Sun on 11/7/05


Laure, that Christian man is out there waiting for you! Ask the Lord to bring him around and be patient. that's the key.
---John on 11/7/05


You don't have to date anyone you don't want to date!!God gives us freedom choice, it is time your co workers do the same.
---pat on 11/7/05


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You need to explain to your co-workers that you are a Christian and that Christians do not date non-Christians. This might not make you Miss Popularity but it will probably stop the match-making which you don't want anyway and could lead to other possibilities of witnessing once they realise just how serious you are.
---M.P. on 11/7/05


Tell them that you aren't interested.Tell them you are serious about your work place and there are boundaries that exist among co-workers dating which should strongly be considered.One question, doesn't your job discourage fraternization among
co workers?
---Sun on 11/7/05


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