I beg to differ. My mom is beautiful and she married a disabled man with polio who happens to be my late father. By the way, just to let you know, he was the best dad ever and the most loving husband to my mother.
Oh and get this, he built one of the largest real estate companies around. Beat that. |
|
---roy on 9/26/09 |
well as long as its love not pity |
|
---lita on 2/9/09 |
It doesn't matter if he's disabled or not. Every other woman who posts on this blog married someone they hate, why should she be any different? |
|
---cynic on 2/9/09 |
What's there in loving a disabled person.I dont know why this society is looking in a different way while there's marriage happening to disabled persons.Mostly the disabled peoples are genuine and really that girl can have a best life where she can't get from a normal man.How many girls are living happily by marrying a abled persons? Can any one justify this. |
|
---pealking on 2/7/09 |
Yes she should if she loves him.It could be her only chance.LOL
I know as I have been physically disabled most of my life and found it almost impossible to find love.
Best of luck. |
|
---Les on 11/13/08 |
I have worked with disabled people for about 25 years. My thought is that you should never base a decision to marry or not marry a person based upon disability. Sometimes people marry a disabled person out of pitty or rebellion. Marriage is a very serious move and must be entered into for the "right" reasons. If you love a person and want to be with her/him for the rest of your life, then marry. Everyone has disabilities but many disabilities are invisible:). Appearances mean very little:) |
|
---jody on 6/13/08 |
It would be pretty harsh to not marry a disabled man because he couldn't perform his "husbandly duties" as you ladies referred to it.
Taking out the trash is a husbandly duty...if a guy had no arms and couldn't take out the trash, that's no reason not to marry him.
If I'm totally off-base here and "husbandly duties" refers to being able to support and provide for his family, then I guess you have a point. |
|
---Todd1 on 6/12/08 |
I agree with the poster who said that as long as he can perform his husbandly duties, it's all good. They should both be prepared for possible problems, and do alot of praying, but if it's meant to be then it's just meant to be. Following the Spirit may be difficult, but not following the Spirit, when it comes to love, just leads to greater pain. |
|
---Nicole on 6/12/08 |
Read These Insightful Articles About Mortgages
|
well its always good looking men dating woman in wheel chairs and other problems, but not many woman do, and thats god's truth. in the last days the love of many will grow cold , the bible says . my experiance has shown me time and time again that woman only think of them self more in these modern days , as a christian male i realy cant wait till jesus returns and seperates the sheep and the goats . |
|
---trever on 2/5/08 |
I think she can date with a disabled man because God looks at people in the inside not the outside. If the man is a strong Christian and she is prepared to handle and look after a man who is disabled then i don't see why she can't date with him. |
|
---Anna on 1/15/08 |
I am in love with a disabled guy and have had the breaks put on by the group home he lives in. Family had me over which shows there must be some trust. Am at a lost as to what to do. |
|
---James on 1/13/08 |
If the disability does not prevent him from carrying out his husbandly duties I see no reason to discriminate against someone who is disabled. A person who is disabled could have sustained this injury through no fault of their own. Should they be punished for this? That would so wrong and very unkind. If they love each other, why not?
God bless her for having such an open and loving heart. I don't know if I could carry through with something like this. |
|
---Robyn on 7/14/07 |
People can be so hateful these days, especially towards those they feel can do the least in society. If he is saved and she is saved and they love each other. Then so be it. Seems to me that she must be beautiful on the outside and on the inside. |
|
---Marcia on 7/14/07 |
You know God gave us all something called free will and there is no such thing as a perfect marriage or person. But if you can accept and live with the flaws and falts of the other person and you truly love them even if they have a disabilty why let other people have control or make choices for you look at 1Corinthians 13 chp true love is a powerful force Amen .We try to tolorate rather than accept |
|
---Vernon on 7/14/07 |
---nish,
Perhaps you haven't met the right one, or women are not being open minded due to fear of the unknown, and peer pressure could also be an issue. Lack of knowledge causes many people to miss their blessings.
It may get discouraging, stay prayerful and focused. The Lord want's us to live a happy, and fulfilled life.
I'm praying for you. |
|
---lynet on 4/25/07 |
I am pleasantly surprized that women here think that love is love and disability does not matter But how many of you give equal chance to a disabled man to see if there would be a deep connection I am a disabled highly educated and successful, able bodied friends take my advise and admire me and I have achieved better than my peer groups during all my life.I am cheerful and have a good sense of humor etc. Then why only attached female friends of mine pay attention to me? Am I not meeting the right people? |
|
---nish on 4/25/07 |
Hello, I have A disability {Spinal Cord Injury} and I can tell you that people can have closed minds concerning people with disabilities. In my 23 yrs since my disability I have struggled with the same issues with relationships, In my struggles I have learned to Love deeper stronger than I have ever done before. So ask yourself is this person able to love, honor, cherish and put you above all others, if so then look beyond the disability you may find what god has been trying to teach us. |
|
---Brick on 9/13/06 |
Your friend should date whomever she loves. Not who others think she looks good with. If I had a choice between an able bodied man and a man in a wheelchair, the obvious answer is...I'd date the one I was in love with. End of story. |
|
---Marie on 7/30/06 |
The answer to your question is yes, tell your friend to go for it. It might be the best relationship she will ever have. I am a disabled man and I have had exactly the same proble. |
|
---marcus on 7/19/06 |
One very important question: Are they equally yoked as far as spiritual things are concerned? If not, perhaps they shouldn't be dating. |
|
---Donna on 2/21/06 |
Disabled people are the same as others...They just have to do some things in their life differently. Why not intoduce him to some of her more easygoing friends so that they can see his good qualities too..but she needs to make her own decisions. She should be aware, however, that if they marry, and if she is to provide a lot of his physical care, she may have trouble separating her role as "caregiver" from her role as "wife". It can cause complications in a relationship. |
|
---Donna on 2/21/06 |
I say go with what is in your heart. I am dating a disabled person...it is beginning to be very serious. He has not been introduced yet to my family (they know about him) because of the hours I work. wont' understand, but I have to tell myself this: I have been in two serious ( no disabilities) relationships over the past
12 yrs and the love that you must have for a healthy relationship did not exist, but with this disabled man....I feel this deep love for him.... |
|
---Linda on 11/22/05 |
firstto Julie's reply..my husband says'"HEYYY!!!"..to the comment of ALL men being(mentally and emotionally disabled)lol //serious reply..if she loves him, he is "all the man she needs" whatever the physical disability may be..beauty and love are in the heart..true love goes deeper than physical limitations.. |
|
---Cathi on 11/13/05 |
Tell your friend that by definition, Men are ALL (emotionally,mentally) disabled and to tell her critics to grow up. |
|
---julie3763 on 11/12/05 |
How sad that we can have friends that are so close minded to tell her not to love this person. She needs to follow her heart, and maybe find some new friends as well. Would she keep friends who are into drugs, alcohol or adultery? From your words, I take that there is no other problem with him other than being disable. Many disable people live very productive lives. |
|
---geraa7578 on 11/12/05 |
Speaking as someone who is disabled and has met with a good bit of that personally, she needs to quit listening to the critics (who are nothing more than ignorant people who have nothing better to do than try to make someone else as miserable as they are)and follow her heart. |
|
---Heather on 11/11/05 |
I would be humbled if God chose me to have a "special" person in my life! It would mean to me that He loved me enough to trust me to love and care for another with needs.
Just about the time my husband and I were setting a wedding date, it was discovered he had Prostate cancer, very advanced. I stuck by him and loved him as he went through treatment, as I should have! It has been 3 years and he has NO cancer, nor any side effects from his treatment. Praise God! |
|
---NVBarbara on 11/11/05 |
She should not worry about what other people think or say. If she loves him and he loves her, that all that matters. Everyone deserves to have a special person in their live, and it sounds like she is that special person for him. |
|
---a_friend on 11/11/05 |
If they love each other, and the love is sincere, not just pity on her part, what does it matter what people think. It takes great strength on the part of a couple to overcome criticism and get on with their lives. God bless'em, I say. |
|
---Ann5758 on 11/10/05 |
Matthew 25:41 "The King will answer and say to them, "Truly I say to you, to the extent that you did it to one of these brothers of Mine, even the least of them, you did it to Me." |
|
---James on 11/10/05 |
Love is LOVE: It conquers all, forgives all, accepts all. Human imperfections vanish. Your love for somebody should be felt in the dark, with no heat, no light, maybe no sound. The touch of the one you love should be everything. Most people after 50 yrs old can't run well. Some can't play sports. So what ! Your love is special to you and he. |
|
---Dale on 11/10/05 |
I'm going through a similar circumstance. I'm interested in a woman who says she doesn't know if she can deal with my blindness. She says it's because of pride issues and selfishness and she says she will pray about it. I don't feel that God will answer her prayers in order to make an exception for her pridefulness. I've dealt with this all of my life. It seems harder to find a Christian to accept me than it is to find an unsaved woman to accept me. That makes me sad. |
|
---rex8683 on 11/10/05 |
| Read These Insightful Articles About Insurance
|
As long as she has honestly looked at what this may mean for her future if she ends up with him ( dpoending on the nature of his disability , will it get worse? will she have to care for him , will they be limited in any way?) then she should tell her friends to grow up and be confident in her decision to follow her heart and God's leading. |
|
---BeckyH on 11/10/05 |
thats crazy.. they should mind their own business! the bible says, take the plank out of your own eye before trying to take the speck out of anothers. who cares what they think? its btw her, her disabled boyfriend and God. Is she dating him becuase she sees a future or out of pity? if its the latter then she will land up hurting him more. |
|
---natasha on 11/10/05 |
well i say if she cares for him more power to her if her frinds care about her they should let her do her thing |
|
---patricia on 11/10/05 |
WHAT IS WRONG WITH A DISABLED PERSON? I get angry when people tell me I shouldn't go out with a disabled person...God created them too and in fact made them even more special! Disabled people have a more caring, loving and sensitive spirit than those who are not handicapped....I am profoundly deaf...does that make me someone who is unworthy of being loved or dated? I think not! Please tell you friend to go for it! Send me a mail if you'd like....I will surely encourage her in any way I can! |
|
---fran6775 on 11/10/05 |
| Read These Insightful Articles About Holidays
|
Is he physically and/or mentally disabled? Is your friend saved?
Generally speaking, sin thru Adam is the one major disability we all have in common.
Specifically, Christians are instructed to not be unequally yoked with unbelievers. (2 Cor. 6:14) The unbelief of the unsaved is a very serious disability. |
|
---Leon on 11/10/05 |
friend needs ignore people who criticise her and follow her heart. I married women who was deaf, am widowed now. I tell you, I will never find another who had so much love in her heart. Disability is not something people choose. is something they have to learn to live with. Many may be angry over disability but those who aren't know how to show and treat others with love and love is what they want in return. People should be proud of your friend for her tender heart not try to put out her light. |
|
---Craig on 11/10/05 |
Disabled persons are human and need love as well. I was recently diagnosed with MS but, I am still same person inside as always was. Used to date man in wheelchair whowas partially paralized. He had biggest heart and was most loving person I have ever met to this day. Tell your friend she has a right to love whomever she pleases. Her looks have nothing to do with it and she needs to listen to her heart NOT to prejidice persons who have it ALL WRONG. |
|
---Marla on 11/10/05 |
|
