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Must I Let Husband Come Back

Hub left nearly 7 months ago and said he didn't love me and wanted a divorce. Marriage was always rocky and he was cruel/mean. Divorce not filed yet due to $$$ issues. Now he says he wants to come back. As a Christian, must I allow him back? He is not a Christian (didn't know that when we married).

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The Bible tell you to let the unbeliever leave and you aren't in bondage even if your are a Christian.Usually we are bound to our husbands till death but evidently when the unbeliever departs of his own free will it breaks the bond and you are free to go on with your life without him.The answer is no he made his choice and as a Christian you don't have to let him come back.Abusive men should not be taken back anyway.He may eventually kill you.
---Darlene_1 on 6/8/08


Sister in Christ. You do not have to allow this man back whether you are saved or unsaved. Its up to you. If he was mean and cruel to you during this marriage, what makes you think he has changed in 7 short months? He cannot decide to come back when he want to. He left. Not you. You have a right and a say over your life. You make the decision whether to let him come back. He forfeited his rights when he walked out. Remember: You have a right to be happy with someone who loves and respect you.
---Robyn on 5/30/07


If he is cruel and mean why would you want him back. Also if he is not a Christian then it may not last if you do let him back and your faith could suffer because of it.
You need a man who loves and supports you in love and gentleness. Pray and ask Gopd what you should do and help you to do it. If it means not taking him back remember you are not alone because you have God.
---Craig on 5/30/07


Shana, you must talk to him and let him know that you aren't going to take the abusive behavior no more! If you want to go back with him, well, that is your choice, but put all the cards on the table... so he will know that you will not accept his mean and crass attitude.
---Alex on 11/14/05


If cruel and mean is equal to abuse, then don't let him back. He left. It's over for you.
---Madison on 11/14/05




continuation of the verses: 1 Cor.7:15-17
15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches.
---ann on 11/14/05


continuation of the verses (1 Cor.7:13-14)
13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
---ann on 11/14/05


here are verses for u: 1 Cor.7:10-12 (i will also send u verses 13-17)

10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
---ann on 11/14/05


continuation of the verses:
1 Cor. 7:15-17

15But if the unbeliever leaves, let him do so. A believing man or woman is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace. 16How do you know, wife, whether you will save your husband? Or, how do you know, husband, whether you will save your wife?

17Nevertheless, each one should retain the place in life that the Lord assigned to him and to which God has called him. This is the rule I lay down in all the churches
---ann on 11/14/05


continuation of the verses:
1 Cor. 7:13-14:

13And if a woman has a husband who is not a believer and he is willing to live with her, she must not divorce him. 14For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. Otherwise your children would be unclean, but as it is, they are holy.
---ann on 11/14/05




here are some verses for u:

I Cor.7:10-12 (also vv.13-17 which i'll also send after this):

10To the married I give this command (not I, but the Lord): A wife must not separate from her husband. 11But if she does, she must remain unmarried or else be reconciled to her husband. And a husband must not divorce his wife.

12To the rest I say this (I, not the Lord): If any brother has a wife who is not a believer and she is willing to live with him, he must not divorce her.
---ann on 11/14/05


First of all, I want to say you are a woman after God's own heart. You have been faithful through your rocky relationship. I know it is not easy when you are with someone who is not living for the Lord and does not love the Lord as you do. I can not tell you whether to have your husband come back. I can tell you the best answer is always prayer. I know it is important to be around other Christians. I will be praying for you and I do know Nothing is too big for the Lord to see us through. Proverbs 3:5-6
---kella9548 on 11/14/05


A Christian is not bound to a non-Christian IF the non-Christian walks away from the marriage. He did that. I don't know of scripture that says he can walk right back when he chooses. He has said he doesn't love you and you say he was cruel and mean so his only reason for wanting to come back must be financial. Don't fall for it. God might be giving you the 'get-out' that you needed. Pray for strength to hold on.
---M.P. on 11/14/05


I don't think you should let him come back since he is not a christian.He probably
will be mean/cruel again,God don't want you to live in a situation like that If he didn't
love you 7 months ago,how could he love you
now when he don't even love God enough to be saved? I would say no!
---helen_4499 on 11/13/05


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