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Is It Biblical To Get A Divorce

IS IT BIBLICAL TO DIVORCE? My wife and I have been separated for over 3 years. I've provided financial support so she could stay home with the children. She shows no interest in reconcilliation and doesn't love me. Both are Christians. I'm lonely and frustrated. What can I do as a Christian man?

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Have you tried counseling? Praying? My husband and I were arguing all the time and considered ending it a few years ago. I prayed and got the answer counseling. As far as I know God wants us to try everything to stay together, giving up is not for christians, what would Jesus do?
---Crystal on 12/22/07

You say you have been sober for two months? Your past action has hurt this woman and at the time you didn't care so now you will have to win her back.
You cannot blame her for not just taking you back so quick because you say you have quit your sin. Prove yourself. It will take some time. If you love her you will invest the time.
This is a monster you built over time and it will take time to kill it with love for her and your children. Grow your self Spiritually in this time.
---Elder on 8/17/06

wivv - can you please tell me where you cant get remarried after divorcing adulterous spouse. thx
---rw on 8/17/06

Go into google and go online Bible and look up every scripture to do with Divorce,Fornication, Adultery you will learn a lot. Then look at the early translations Tyndale(revised) ect to get a better understanding of the word, no one can give you a better understanding of Divorce and re-marriage you will just be encouraged to do as they do, not as Christ commanded, hope that helps and God bless you in your research, you will find peace,love and contempment with further study!
---Carla5754 on 5/6/06

Please email me at doroth3714. I have a wonderful Christian website to share with you that has helped me with my marriage. I am happily entering into my 20th year of marriage and it is all due to hearing and obeying the word of God, even when my spouse did not. Yes, you can save your marriage even if you have to do it alone (with God, that is!)

God bless.
---Dorothy on 11/22/05

Sounds like a job for Godly Prayer Warriors! Jn.14:12-14, James 5:16-18.
---bob6749_[Elishama] on 11/22/05

You say you both are christians, so work it out. Try councelling from a christain perspective. I'd recommend "Boundaries in Marriage" by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend. We all need boundaries to protect ourselves. I'd also recommend this book to your wife. Shes been hurt by your addiction and needs time to heal. My husband is an alcoholic and will not seek help. I understand that with addictions come lies and deceit. I have empathy for her. Good Luck on your sobriety!
---Cyndi on 11/21/05

Based on the Scripture of Matthew 19:3-9, you CANNOT get a divorce. One exception, if you can prove your wife is an adulter. But, even than, scripture states you can't remarry. But, I've seen Christians who do divorce, later remarry and are very successful in the 2nd marriage. However, I would not suggest divorce.
---WIVV on 11/20/05

She left me due to my drinking problem. I was not abusive and never unemployed, but did have a problem. We had joint counseling with several Christian counselors. I have gone through treatment and am now sober (only 2 months). But, she seems colder than ever before. She has admitted she no longer loves me.
---brad8539 on 11/19/05

Loneliness can make you do things that you will regret later. Give it to God and keep praying. There are Bible grounds for divorce, as someone else mentioned, and I agree - search this out. The Bible also speaks about being unequally yoke - What are both you and your spouse's Christian walk like? I will be praying for you.
---bornagin on 11/18/05

Continue to pray and ask the Lord for direction. Talk to your wife again and be led by the Holy Spirit. God is able to work on her heart better than you ever could. But, God will not force His will on her. She has to be willing and obedient.
---Dedra5875 on 11/18/05

Why are you serparated? There are biblical reasons for divorce. If she is not willing to reconcile (unless she is the one with the grounds), perhaps you are unequally yoked and need to get out.
---Rock on 11/17/05

Keep on praying til light breaks through, this is one of the best solution in this time of crises, God's plan is to save relationship, satan is out there trying to destroy good relationship especially if you are God's child, stay strong in the Lord. Be praying for you.
---MAMRIE on 11/17/05

you have to fully trust and give god time to make it work also as being a women some time we enjoy just chilling out and spending time to our selfs that doest mean that we have forgotten you but it mean that we are thinking of way to get back with you and make our marriage work so please PATIENTS MY BROTHER love your sister in christ
---dorothy on 11/17/05

Kenneth Hagin offers comfort and help from the Word of God concerning marriage, divorce, and remarriage issues. He has a book appropriately titled "Marriage, Divorce, and Remarriage" (published by Harrison House) that is available through the Internet or Christian bookstores. If you can get your hands on a copy of this book, I highly recommend it.
---DoryLory on 11/17/05

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