Why Do I Attract Liars
I try to be open minded when I answer mails from people who say they want a relationship, but why do I keep attracting liars. Is this God trying to get me to pray about something I'm not tuned into or something?
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---Dianne on 11/18/05
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It is sad, but I quess people today think it is normal even for Christians to lie. Don't disclose too much of information of yourself at first. Let these people do most of the talking and be very careful. Pray for you that you would find the right people to chat to. Blessings.
---Junia on 4/14/07|
Dianne. never trust men. Men are carnal and devilish. Most only want to deceive others, so they benefit through greed, intimate encounters, lies and rebellion against God. For every one God-fearing man, there are a thousand evil men. I hear horror stories all the time. men use women for their own carnal desires and hurt many. They often deceive. Follow the promptings of the spirit. Watch always how they act. Their actions cannot lie. What they say or do tells you whom they serve.
---ashley on 4/14/07|
It is because there are more liars than there are places to go.
God has revealed that to you so act accordingly.
Let God be true and every man a liar.
Don't let your need cloud your wisdom and standards. Thank God that He reveals the liars to you.
---Elder on 4/14/07|
Deceitful people often prey on the honesty of others. Some will tell you whatever it is they "think" you want to hear, just to see how far they can get. BUT, remember, just because this is a christian site, does not mean you won't find an occasional SNAKE slithering among us. As everyone else has pointed out ... hold on to your values, guard your heart, but don't give up your search for a truthful person. They DO exist.
---helen6669 on 11/20/05|
ALL relationships start firstly from FRIENDSHIP..THEN relationship can start, which involves truth and honesty and sincerity ;instant attraction is rare,and harder from emails..Friendships grow and flourish, by complete honesty... you cannot force a relationship, with God's love and intervention,friendship grows with His watering..christian to christian, with God is the best way..wait upon Him.. tune in to Him.
---Karin on 11/20/05|
Thanks Alan, for sharing that thought. It is so easy to get ones hopes up with little or no foundation for any real commitment. It is important that we realize that before commitment, there should be time to get to know the other (and others too) as friends, brothers and sisters in Christ. Commitment can come as we hear God's voice speaking to us, and waiting for Him to fulfill His promises, following where He leads the way.
---Wayne87 on 11/19/05|
Dianne ... I wonder if yuo are expecting too much from what they write in that first email?
I might write to a lady I have seen on a Christian site, saying I am looking for a relationship, but I do not necessarily mean with that lady. After all, there has been no correspondence yet.
---alan8869_of_UK on 11/19/05|
Dianne::There is a great difference between a realationship & a commitment.The magnetic pull of the sexes causes this anomaly.Unfotrunately there are many who want the relationship& not the commitment & hence have to girth themselves in a cloak of deceit which is unacceptable & not healty for a relationship.Thatis why- watch for wolves in sheeps clothing.there are 2 sides to every coin.I wish you well pray
---Emcee on 11/18/05|
Are they saved? God says do not be yoked with unbelievers. Where are you looking for a relationship...maybe in the wrong place???
---wes on 11/18/05|
I have had the same thing. Either they are just not honest with themselves about what they want or are not honest over all. I have also had this problem with those who are abusive. Which is a very scarey thing. I am a very nice, caring & loyal person & I do not believe I have to be who I am not to have a relationship. I am just a good overall person that many take advantage of. Is not an easy thing to overcome at all. Good luck, if you find something that works, let me know. Be blessed!
---colle9488 on 11/18/05|
Don't feel alone. The majority of men I've written to have eventually turned around and contradicted themselves. I was wondering the same type of thing myself. Good Luck
---Sherry on 11/18/05|
The internet is a dangerous place because of the anynomity involved. There are MANY predators out there to be on guard against. Unfortunatly, today even many of those who consider them selves Christian seem to have no concept of right or wrong and are moraly bankrupt. For many the whole thing is just a game.
---Bruce5656 on 11/18/05|
We live in a society of convenience and lying has become a norm, unfortunately. Prayer is the best thing, always. Pray for discernment. Pray for protection from deceit. Most importantly, pray for guidance and guard your heart. There are many honest people out there, don't give up on all people because of the few that have let you down.
---Robin on 11/18/05|