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Husband Taking Girls To Lunch

Husband is an employer, sometimes he hits it off with certain girls and has never cheated on me and would not. He spends time with these girls away from the work site. He like taking them to lunch. Am I wrong to get upset over him and that young lady being comfortable enough to spend personal time together.

Moderator - I have stated before that my personal conviction wouldn't allow me to do anything as the above that could set-up a possible situation of intimacy. A group setting seems appropriate, however your husband with one girl at a time seems inappropriate. He may want to consider the possibility of getting sued as an employer if one of the girls says he is hitting on them since he controls the being alone part as the employer.

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I do agree. This man is married and should not be carrying on with the girls at work. Wifey: You have tunnel vision if you think your spouse won't cheat on you. Anyone is capable of cheating if they continue on in a situation that your husband is in now. Does the lunch include bar drinks, drugs etc..these distortions will help this affair come alive real quick. You better wake up and put a stop to this campfire before it becomes an inferno.
---Robyn on 7/18/07


He's treading dangerous waters....He can develop feelings towards these women he takes out to lunch & may share too much information with them. You should be the only women he intimately shares his time with, unless it's with you joining also for lunch.
---Heather on 7/18/07


Married men don't go to lunch with the girls Don't he have men where he works Thats how affairs get started.
---Betty on 9/5/06


Get upset or you are in for a big surprise if you think he's not going to be cheating on you. I can't believe you would think this is just fine. Also, just wait until the time he takes someone elses lady or daughter out for whatever good time. He's going to find himself at the end of a mad mans fist and lawsuits. You would do him a favor to warn him that most men and fathers are rather protective over their gals dating a married man. How about you go with him on his dates?
---john on 1/28/06


Husband is an employer, sometimes he hits it off with certain girls and has never cheated on me and would not. He spends time with these girls away from the work site. He like taking them to lunch. Am I wrong to get upset over him and that young lady being comfortable enough to spend personal time together.

woooo that is a hot one. i don't think that you are wrong at all...put your foot down!
---jennifer on 1/28/06




Been there, seen that behavior with past boyfriend. I Thank God for tearing our relationship apart so I could find a man of good character to marry. Your husband should Not put you/himself in position you are in. A man with good moral character would think twice before taking a woman to lunch alone and not in a group setting. You have every right to be upset and demand that he be respectful to you and to your marriage before something happens, if it hasn't already. Your're in my prayers.
---Eddie_Jo on 12/9/05


What are his feelings if the situation was reversed? And you "hit it off" and took "the guys" out to lunch? If you have to ask this question on a blog, then obvious you have some suspicions. If it looks like a duck, quacks like a duck......?
---Fred_S. on 12/6/05


He could be accussed of sexual harrasment. And it could also start gossip. One time I was out of the office taking care care of some business and had the secretary with me. (With my wife's permission.) At noon I took her to lunch - and we saw a couple from our church. I picked up our plates and sit with them so they wouldn't think I was running around on my wife. You should tell him if it upsets you! If it's only one, he should stop! If he doesn't, you may have problems.
---WIVV on 12/5/05


If he has issues with an employee, that should be handled at work. Even if this is totally innocent its not a good testimony--'stay away even from the appearance of sin. Others do start rumors and his credibility could be doubted. What about the girls he doesn't 'hit it off with?' This could cause many problems. And as Alan said, he may be sending wrong signals to these girls.
---NVBarbara on 12/5/05


He should never be alone with just one girl. This can cause rumors. He should invite guys to go along too if possible, or invitie you to come eat with them (maybe over a dinner meal).
---wes on 12/5/05




He should also consider what effect it is happening on the girls concerned. Do they feel that there may be a future in getting closer to their boss? They could be badly hurt.
---alan8869_of_UK on 12/5/05


The man is in an employer/employeee relationship with the girls. It would only be appropriate for him to go to lunch with one of the girls alone, if it was for a strictly business matter. It seems here it happens when he "hits it off" with particualr girls ... and this indicates a personal interest, rather than business. If that is the case He MUST avoid this.
---alan8869_of_UK on 12/5/05


, people who care about their spouse and want to stay married will not do things that cause their spouse to worry. Ask him how he would feel if you went out with young men. That will help him see the light.
---steve on 12/5/05


He should be busy taking you to lunch! Not those girls. Simply put its inappropriate. It gives room for rumors and bad impression of him, and it does give the devil a chance to sneak in evil thoughts. As it is said, never give him a toe-hold, he will end up grabbing a stronghold.
---pkay on 12/5/05


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