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Can A Pastor Have Close Friends

Is it possible for a pastor to have close friends in his own church without offending other members?

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 ---M.A. on 12/9/05
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As a pastor, first I would define who is my friend, as my example to the church of what real friendship is > "nor as being lords over those entrusted to you, but being examples to the flock." (1 Peter 5:3)

My friend keeps me on track, about loving ALL people, not having any favorite. Helps me get more real and personal with God. Is eager to make sure he/she respects what and how much I eat. Among other things.
---Bill_bila5659 on 8/14/07

If I were a pastor in the church I would guard against this. Pastors need friends and confidants as much as anyone else. Within the church I feel he/she should be careful and not play favorites. But there will always be someone or those who are more preferable, than others. Like ice cream and cake. We tend to like some flavors better than others. Even though we know it is wrong to be partial, we are only human and do make mistakes, often.
---Robyn on 8/13/07

There is nothing wrong with a Pastor having close friends in his own church. With that said I left a church a few years ago because the Pastor put his child hood friends in office in his church. All the elders were his close friends. There was no praying about it or voting. It was a "Boy's Club". This was just one of about ten reasons why I left that church.
---John on 8/13/07

Yes, as long as he doesnt desert his flock and let close friendships overtake his responsibility to the church members.. we all need "close" friends but we need each other as well. Pastors need close friends as much as us, but he has a God given responsibility to care for ALL his flock..if he spends all his time with close friends, he is not a good pastor.
---karin on 2/17/06

I am a pastor and I would be at a loss if I didn't have my covenant brother, and my other dear friends and three of those are pastors, as well as my family.
---willow on 12/27/05

I believe it is imperative that pastors have close friends - men whom they know and trust, who can speak into their lives. "Iron sharpeneth iron; so a man sharpeneth the countenance of his friend." (Prov. 27:17) A pastor standing alone with no input or accountability is often a huge problem.
---daphn8897 on 12/9/05

Of course a pastor can have close friends, however there is no guarantee that members of the congregation won't be offended.

Jesus was closer to three of His disciples than the others. That didn't diminish His love for the others.
---Madison1101 on 12/9/05

John that is almost identical with what happened in my former church, which is why I asked the question. My new pastor invites all newcomers to a meal - just once to get to know them personally, but does not accept invitations in return as he feels that could create problems. I know what he means but it's a shame that there cannot be a middle ground where people wouldn't get jealous. It is almost certain that he and his wife will be drawn in friendship towards some more than others, just as we all are.
---M.A. on 12/9/05

I see nothing wrong with it, because pastors are just people as well as the rest of us. Though I think they shouldn't play "favorites".
---Melissa on 12/9/05

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