first off it doesnt matter that he looks at other girls because he isnt doing anything with them and he still is with you,and i think that you also look at guys when your walking on the street or anywhere else |
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---keyblade on 4/28/08 |
I'm pretty sure your boyfriend is just asking to be dumped by lingering his eyes on other women in front of you so frequently. That is a very stupid move on his part and you shouldn't put up with it. If he really cared about you, he would not do that. |
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---Sara on 4/27/08 |
Human nature ...just because you're with somebody doesn't mean all other humans are dead to the radar. Just don't act upon it.If my husband tells me a woman is pretty, i ask him "What about her do you like?" instead of gettnig in a fit, because he looked at a woman I just ask him to define it more. He usually says "look at the way she carries herself.."So it's in the positive. |
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---candice on 4/8/08 |
And men say WOMEN are vain!!!
I can be so vain by being so concerned about what a woman LOOKS like!!!
THAT is s-u-p-e-r-f-i-c-i-a-l.
I STILL may not be able to "help" looking women over; but I understand the Holy Spirit can make me more real in love so I care about women, instead of just using them to look at, "etc". |
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---Bill_bila5659 on 5/28/07 |
Nellah: What traps we set for ourselves to fall back in. Men are going to always look. So do women. Nothing wrong with that but I know who he really loves. When two people truly love each other, there is no place for these type insecurities. Be blessed. |
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---Robyn on 5/28/07 |
A gentleman will look and not rub his wife/girlfriend's face in it. All red-bloodied men will look. Nothing wrong with that. You, lady. Have gotten yourself a sluggard with no class. I would not go any further with this relationship. He will only hurt you with more trifles as time goes on. Get out now. |
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---Robyn on 5/28/07 |
I once answered this: When men look at beautiful women, don't get angry, turn the tables. say hey, that woman is hot over there. I bet they are fake. You both laugh and it difuses the situation. it enables you both to laugh with each other and understand it never hurts to look at men or women. it only hurts when it escalates to touch. men and women are God's creations on earth like flowers, trees, birds, paintings. by keeping things in a proper frame of mind, they are enjoyed but not lusted after. |
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---ashley on 5/28/07 |
Unfortunately, most if not all men are like this. Should it bother you? It depends on if he does it while he is with you. If so, then it's understandable that it would bother you. I suggest reading "For Women Only" by Shaunti Feldhahn. This explains the reasons men act the way they do. The author interviewed over one thousand men of all walks of life. I have read it and it has helped me understand my husband alot more and we even get along better now. |
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---Melissa on 5/28/07 |
Chase and look are two different things. Yet they are attractive people out there but it's not right to act on it, you must be true to god and you partner in life. Pray for guidance |
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---Tonya on 8/2/06 |
I always put myself down ,and he says that I need to be confident about myself. He says look at these others if they can be confident to wear some of these skimpy outfits then you can be confident about yourself. He is always telling me to be postive about myself. We are always honest with each other,and tell each other if another guy or girl hits on us. That is why it doesn't bother me when he says that he looks or looked at other girls. Cause I know he only wants me. |
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---angea on 12/30/05 |
I don't look at other guys, but i see nice looking ones when I am at work. But that is all I see. They don't interest me all. I only want my boyfriend and he is enough for me. But I know of other girls that have boyfriends who look at other guys too. My boyfriend used to say that he looks at other girls even when he tries not to. But I am the one he wants and I am the only girl he wants to be with. |
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---angea on 12/30/05 |
It doesn't bother me when my husband says another woman is pretty. It never has. I know where his heart is and it is with me. Men and woman are going to look, it is human almost like the law of nature to look. But there is a difference between "looking" and "gawking". I see nice looking guys but yet, I don't act upon what I see. |
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---Rebecca_D on 12/29/05 |
Guys can't win in this situation. If he denied that he looks at women so as not to make his lady feel bad, she would still be bothered because he wasn't sincere. He's only a boyfriend, not a husband. He should shop around all he wants. |
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---ralph7477 on 12/29/05 |
Being that I was Miss Insecure 1960, 70, 80, 90 ... I had a hard time with boyfriends looking at other females. Made me feel ugly and not good enough. Jesus takes that away. Now, if my fiance looks, it doesn't bother me anymore. Pray for God to remove those insecurities. |
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---Nellah on 12/29/05 |
My ex used to tell me that.."just because I look at the sleek cars when I pass a car lot doesn't mean I'm going to buy them." Unfortunately that didn't keep him from taking "test drives" whether he intended to 'buy' them or not. Just one reason he's my ex. |
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---NVBarbara on 12/29/05 |
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